I am Dominant with my lovers who appreciate such things, but this is not a 'mindset' I inhabit 24/7 (read: it is exhausting to completely control someone at all times and, to be honest, not terribly fun - it does take some of the humanity and spontenaiety of out what is ultimately the most human and spontaneous of all types of intimacy).
I seek a play-friend (someone I can seduce - intellectually at first, through sharing of fantasies and a (hopefully) enlightened exploration of what attracts one another to their sexual/lifestyle choices, before becoming true (physical) lovers.
This person must want to explore and expand her submissive persona, and truly understand the pleasure (and freedom) that comes from submitting to a trusted lover. I enjoy very physical sex, and situations of total control.
