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WARNING: If you sell yourself cheap, I'll assume you aren't worth much. Profile photos and what you allow yourself to be treated like do count! Self respect, along with respect for others, count for much, as well.
As far as the less related to BDSM aspects of life, I need people who are positive, happy, who listen, then act, and, who won't drink out of my bottles or other unthoughtful things.
They need to be the kind of people who don't spend their time on the negative, saying "It can't be done." , but, who do spend their time on the positive, asking "How may it be best accomplished, or what is the suitable alternative that can be done?"
Now, I welcome any and all people that can fit into my life and lifestyle, what it is now and what I wish it to become, to be a part of it and share their life with me. And, I certainly am not going to turn down help, just because it comes from someone who is not a slave, or, who does not want to be owned by me. The key words, however are"that can fit into my life and lifestyle".
Regarding what tips that over from just pleasantness to an actual BDSM relationship, that is harder to define. It is not about what activities are done, but, at what intensity and why.
There is nothing wrong with doing them for fun ,learning experience, friendship, charity or to get the bills paid, so long as everyone is on the same page. Just, for me to actually own someone, want to keep them, same as to fall in love, it would take a very special, deep bond of trust and knowledge.
However, one does not start out with a deep bond. That grows over time. For now, it is enough to be somewhat on the same page and willing to work toward the same goals.
I am mostly about God, spirituality and home life, helping others, and art. If you are mostly about those things, we might suit.
If you are mostly about flesh, partying, or being torn apart by someone stronger than you, it is far less likely we will be in tune with each other; maybe for hanging out, maybe for short term activities, we could sort it out and both be happy, but, for long term, we'd both need more than the other can give, in the direction in which we are travelling.
If you have read this, send me an email that says "travelling gets expensive"; nothing more, nothing less.
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Met a potential slave, of the definite romantic/legal relationship type, a wee tick ago now. I dismissed him from my life, due to there being too "I want to.." and not enough actual action out of him, the way he balked at making public acknowledgement of our intended relationship, etc.
We are in the midst of sorting things out, to see if there will be, or should be, another go made. I gave him a list of 8 tasks, I believe it was, and told him to contact me when they are done, but, not before.
So, now, here I am, waiting to see if he performs.
In the meantime, there is plenty of room in my life for the other sort of slave. |
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Here's a novel concept: Let's act as if I am a dominant and you are either submissive or dominant, too. |
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Alrighty then, listen up and listen tight:
IF I was going to get involved in a total romantic, sexual relationship right now, it would be:
To someone who would attend KH meetings with me
Marriage before penetration
Nothing up your arse and you dressing like a man, all day, every day
Fun
To someone preferably tall, preferably British, and capable of playing the sex toy
Someone capable of being dominant, at least in bed and at least as a protector/provider type.
If you do not qualify, do not ask.
And, yes, darling, I am all for arranged marriages based on mutual attraction, need, and agreement. I don't need a long drawn out courtship, but, I do need it to be real and really romantic, not just now, but, often, and forever.
If we cannot have a fun, intelligent conversation together, or if you only want someone who is a BBW and who will stay fat for your pleasure, you do not qualify. I will be who I am and change however I do. Maybe you'll have a say in it, maybe you'll have a hand in it, but, you won't have total control of it, as I have no desire to be a slave.
And, we'd be living n Tucson, in my house, fixing it up, so don't ask if you are not capable of being gainfully employed here. Because I want to rob you blind? No. Because, I can't pay the bills on me own, and, besides, I like being home and cooking and cleaning and such.
UPDATE (9/27/2011)
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some wait for a bus that has already left; their goals and expectations keep them lonely and waiting while they grow old with nothing but a fading hope that slowly becomes a nightmare. They face the old Shakespeare line "I have wasted time now time wastes me". Without searching for the perfect love and putting it so high above that if you stumbled onto some real you would never know that you could be with someone that is lonely too. Words of an old song I always liked. Some are stubborn and will take allot of pain before they let go of a high ideal that is really a subjective prison keeping them away from love amidst real people. Many when they wake up become desperate and go the otherway and take on garbage. To find the balance is where we find something real. humbly joe
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Humbly? Hmm .. sounded like an unneeded, presumptive, assumptive lecture to me.
There is a vast difference between waiting for perfection, and, not wishing to settle for garbage. And, if the person themselves is not garbage, often the disparity in lifestyle choices would make the relationship garbage.
If both persons cannot be happy, if one is being forced to accept things into their life that make them absolutely cringe with disgust, it is not just settling for less than perfection. It is the nightmare.
I don't NEED to be with a man, I WANT to be with the right man. And, if you'll kindly notice, on my journal entry, wherein I say what I would settle for right now, there are words like "now" and "preferably".. and most of the things mentioned are the things that people ALWAYS want to fight with me about, when I am in a relationship with them.
I don't want another relationship based on the man getting his way all the time, because he's a whiny, selfish bitch who never thinks about anything but himself, so that I can't even listen to songs that I like, without him destroying the tapes or bitching at me all the way through the song, or talking loudly on the phone or etc.
I am not asking for PERFECTION. I am asking for what would reasonably constitute something that is not thoroughly unpleasant, all day, every day.
So screw you!
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“The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world is to be in reality what we would appear to be; all human virtues increase and strengthen themselves by the practice and experience of them.”
~ Socrates ( 470 BC-399 BC) |
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Why aren't men happy to be men? It seems that the majority of men on this site, no matter how much they claim to be heterosexual males, want to be dressed up like women and treated like gay males. Gay males who are unhappy to be men!
Is there a man who would like not to have his arse used like a peg board? Who might want to see a woman in lingerie, but, doesn't want that to mean she is being seen and he is in the lingerie?
Who believes that one can serve and still be happy being what you were born as?
I'd like to meet that guy! |
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On to the less esoteric bits of profile.
This woman you seek to know, is a mother of four grown children, ex-wife of a madman, former owner of slaves, former slave girl to two wonderful masters and one horrible one; a dire romantic; loud, abrasive; quiet, calm. Eclectic, definitely, weird absolutely.
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "Selah"; nothing more, nothing less.
She loves the things of home life. Cooking, cleaning, decorating, spending time together, family dinners, having friends over to watch movies. People watching is great fun. Shopping is lovely, when there is money, a plan, and a need; or, when it is mainly window shopping, with some possible option to buy in case something wonderful is discovered.
To describe the lifestyle she'd prefer in three words, would be to say "laugh, love, play". There are alternatives which include those elements, which may include "romance, sex" or "owning, controlling", but, it is very unlikely all those words would ever be combined in one relationship. In other words ,you can be a slave, or you can be a husband, but, you cannot be a slave husband.
Spanking, crops, whips, protocols, cages, kneeling, toys of varying sorts, pain, pleasure are all wonderful additions to a relationship, but, a relationship should be two like-minded people who are seeking to share their life together. Even if hey are Owner and owned, they should be enough of similar mind-set that there can be mutual respect and caring, a seeking out of each other's pleasure and best interests. Keeping in mind, of course, that not all pleasure is sexual.
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "not selfish"; nothing more, nothing less.
I am not cruel, though I can be bitchy. I am not greedy, though I can be demanding. I have no desire to tear you down. I want to build you up. Though, that might include tearing down your defenses, first.
Your opinions mean nothing, until I care about you; then, they mean everything. Yes, even if you are a slave. No, this does not mean I would go out of my way to dress to please a slave, but, it does mean I would take their opinion into consideration, as any head of the household should take any member of the household's opinion into consideration, and, then choose what seems to be the best course of action.
So much for avoiding the esoteric, eh? Well, back to trying: I am living in Arizona, and, I hate the summer time here. If I could manage to live a life where the summer could mostly be spent somewhere else, that would be lovely. However, I'd settle for better insulation on the house and a pool. Originally, I am from Alaska, and, I really am Alaskan, as in I was born there and lived all my life, except for the last eight years, there. It is, therefore, home and hearth and what I base most viewpoints on.
As to the rest of me. Well, I will tell you that I have some blogs:
http://mmmdecorating.blogspot.com/
http://livingitnotdieting.blogspot.com/
http://buymyartwork.blogspot.com/
http://jehovahandotherthings.blogspot.com/
http://bdsmwithaconscience.blogspot.com/
http://mylovejehovah.blogspot.com/
Most of them are only recently started, and, as I do suffer the effects of Fibromyalgia, I am only using them, sometimes. Especially as I have really been concentrating on cleaning up the clutter and chaos of too much happening in too small of a space, for too long with very few people willing to help but many people willing to add to the problem. That is my priority, right now. But, feel free to follow along on the blogs, if you like.
I will mostly be dealing with them, and, not so much with anything here, directly, as I am tired of the liars, the b.s., the social politics of it all; but, I am interested in meeting like-minded friends, and, if something else occurred, like meeting the right sort of slave or a good man who wants a lovely marriage, sanctified by God, that includes certain elements best described, by modern society, as BDSM, that would be lovely, as well.
I might post journals here, as well, which are descriptive of ideas, ideals, things I'd like to happen in my life, and will give potential slaves an idea of what I am hoping to find. As with anything else I write, I understand it is not necessarily for the majority, but, then, I am not looking to be served by everyone. xx
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "Profile done"; nothing more, nothing less.
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Female supremacy is a lie, as is male supremacy. We are made to be equals, in a loving relationship. If I own a man as a slave, it is not because I am female and a better class of human being than him. It is because I am dominant and wish to own a slave, and, he wishes to be a slave.
Dominant men are lovely. Not the ones who seek to dominate by the learned behavior of a bully or the serial killer types; they, I have no use for. Men who are confident, who are not afraid to listen and share their life with a woman, who can lead her because they know who she is, are lovely. There is no issue with a dominant woman loving a dominant man, or vice-versa, because it is the strength they have, from birth onwards, which allows them to listen and occasionally to yield, to accept, to lead when it is necessary, and to share without fear or anger.
If you do not agree with these things, that is your choice. Do not attempt to dissuade me or alter me. If you understood anything about dominance, you'd know it won't work. So, your attempts only serve to give notice of your ignorance.
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "Dominance is as dominance does"; nothing more, nothing less.
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God is a very big part of my life. I believe in what the Bible teaches, and, I believe that BDSM can be a part of a total lifestyle that reflects and honors those teachings. Therefore I will not "dominate man to his injury", dress men in women's clothing, commit acts of fornication, incite anyone's members to lust, whore myself by sexually dominating you for money, perform acts that are unnatural - which is often more about why and how they are committed than what is actually done, by the way, or engage in a sexual relationship with anyone I am not married to.
I understand not everyone believes this and that it severely limits my options, in the eyes of people who see such things as gross immorality an option. However, I see gross immorality, not as fun, but, as sad, self-harming behavior so I do not consider it an option.
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "Selah"; nothing more, nothing less.
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Be aware that everything I have answered, as to interests, is related to what I myself do, want to do, or want not to do. It is no reflection on what I might put up with in someone else if it did not a, otherwise. So, if you are political, this does not mean I would not accept you as a slave, but, it does mean I would not accept the intrusion of those beliefs to a.
I'm not here to sell myself to you. This is not an advertisement of my wares. This is a profile of a person. If you want to know the person, you will read the profile. If you do not, then, you will not and I will have no interest in you.
In point of fact, I will not respond to you, until I have reason to believe that you have read enough about me to be reasonably sure you are actually interested in me and are compatible with my lifestyle. How will I know that? Well, if you keep reading, you are bound to find out.
If you've read this, send me an email that says "no false advertisement"; nothing more, nothing less.
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An email to someone else, sent somewhere else, but, which you might find helpful in furthering your understanding of some of what I am seeking:
"Ah. Well, that's the sort of thing that sounds good in fantasy, but, never works good in reality. When I was serving someone, myself, I would keep the money I needed and then give him what I did not need, and, he took care of all the entertainment and such. He didn't even want the money, though; it's just, that's always been part of the whole thing, for me. If you are with someone, whatever the relationship, there is some sort of contribution to the household.
Now, I have read what you said, and I understand your limitations. But, I will send you this, that I wrote in explanation to someone else, to further the understanding between us as to what I am looking for. Your limitations, if you were serving me, would always be taken into consideration. I will have no starving slaves, who can't take care of themselves or their families, in order to serve me anymore than I will have ones who are drinking Starbucks every day and begrudging me the price of a water bill. You know?
This is what I wrote to them:
Okay, now, pardon me for sounding repetitive, but, I get a LOT of messages from people who have no idea what I am asking for. In fact, most of them haven't even read the advertisement past scanning for key words. So ..
Do you understand that it will be a non-sexual relationship?
Do you understand that it is not about abuse or degradation?
Do you understand that financial service, to some extent, will be involved?
And, do you understand that this in no way means I want control of your bank account?
I will give you a "for instance". Yesterday, I saw a beautiful couch set for sale at a thrift store. They do a 90-day layaway and I would love to have them. It's $350, though, and even in 90 days, I am extremely unlikely to be able to save up that much money.
I have a Captain's bed I would like to sell, as it is taking up too much room in my tiny house, anyway. But, the door is hanging funny and two of the drawers fell apart. If I could sell it, I could use the money from it to help pay for the couches. So, I would tell my slave to fix the drawers. I might also tell him, if he had a truck, to deliver the bed to the purchaser, which would make it more likely to sell.
I might also tell the slave to go put a down payment on the couches, making it more likely that I could have them paid off in 90 days, or, I might even tell him to pay for the couches, using the 90 day lay away or not, as he chooses. In the meantime, he would be ordered to help prepare the back room for their arrival. Which would involve, possibly, painting; hanging curtain rods, putting up the curtains. It would definitely involve shifting stuff around, helping me sort out what can be sold, what will be given away or thrown away, and, what will be kept - then getting it to the room it should be kept in.
That could involve buying paint and curtain rods and such.
The end result would be a nice living room, where we could spend time together, sometimes in bdsm play, sometimes with the slave relaxing at my feet as we watch a movie together.
Tell me your thoughts."
If you've read this, send me an email that says "couches ahoy"; nothing more and nothing less.
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So, here is some interesting news. Basically, my son brought me home a slave, last night. lol
Well, he's not a slave in the sense of making a formal agreement, contract, me setting out specific rules for him, him calling me Mistress, etc.
Yet, he is a young man who showed up, slept on the couch outside (as there was nowhere inside for him to be), offered to help in the process of cleaning up, noticed a few other needs and made suggestions on ways he could address them, and, basically, wants to be allowed to pay $10 per day to be allowed to come over, have a meal, sleep somewhere besides on the streets and have a shower, with the understanding that he will be helping cook and clean.
So, he is far more slave-like than anyone I have met on any of the BDSM sites or through any advertisements I have placed, anywhere, ever, in decades. That's all I want out of a slave is a mutually beneficial arrangement, agreeable to us both, that comes with respect and trust.
If I told him he was a slave, he probably wouldn't enjoy it. Or, he might turn sexual. So, I won't tell him. I'll just enjoy him in the relationship he offered and I accepted.
Now, are there any slaves who would do as much?
If you've read this journal entry, send me an email that says "this is how a slave should be"; nothing more, nothing less. |
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Oh, very nice. Someone was definitely messing with my profile, again. I said straight, female dominant, Arizona, 43, 5'6 and what I just saw on my profile, before I changed it was bisexual, female submissive trans, Arkansas, 5'7", 44 years old.
Very mature! |
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The entire point of BDSM is to learn who you are, to discover what you need in life, to figure out how to incorporate that into your life in a safe, sane and consensual manner, and, to seek out relationships which are advantageous.
At first glance, it seems to be about stark immorality and selfishness. However, that is because immorality is splashier and more easily noticed and because people fail to note the other side of the coin, when it comes to selfishness. It is not "I want" but "I want .. do you want it, too?"
In other words, it is not "taking advantage" of people, but, seeking mutual advantageous relationships.
If you have read this far, send me an email that says "advantage is given, as well as taken"; nothing more, nothing less. |
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| Age: 24 |
| Houston,
Texas |
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