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This is what being a Dominant means to me:
"What does any sub seek? Someone who is both Powerful and Compassionate in the balance right for their personal need. That balance varies from individual to individual. And yes, there are many other more personal factors also. But in essence, that is what a submissive needs. Someone powerful enough to control them to the core of their soul, and someone compassionate enough to apply that control with discretion.
Someone who is extremely trustworthy & gentle in their absolute firmness makes an excellent Dominant. Someone who is there to guide through control, but who would never abuse via domination. Someone who accepts the sub’s limits (including a safe word, or gesture if gagged), yet brings his sub right to the edge of their capacities.
Loving D/s is never about the Dom taking control, it is about the sub constantly yielding control to her Dom. An effective Dom knows his sub well enough to always insist with gentleness, never asking for more than she will give. A sub does not say “no” to her loving Dom because she never needs to — not due to fear of him.
A submissive should feel enriched by her Dominants’s loving attention; her focus should not ever need be on pain which he has caused, or the Dom has done wrong upon her and upon himself.Control does not mean abuse, control does not require pain — it requires a sub’s respect and dedication to her Dom. A good Dom is deeply respected and trusted absolutely because of the unconditional love and acceptance he gives to her. A Dominant does not abuse a submissive or disrespect a submissive’s desires, rather he guides them to fulfillment by his will."
I am experienced, having been involved in BDSM for over 30 years. I enjoy administering bondage, especially rope bondage,and mild to medium SM. I is a Dominant and am not interested in switching.
Although I recognise the sexual element of BDSM, for me the ultimate thrill is in the exchange of power, TPE is what I live for, where a sub is willing to submit to me completely, knowing she is ultimately safe, no matter what is about to happen.
I am an intelligent and highly motivated man who wants to enjoy his downtime with his submissive. I am patient and empathetic, knowing that it takes time to gain my subs full trust.
I need to control my subs mental side before taking control physically...I enjoy exerting this dominance wherever possible, I firmly believe that I need to know and understand as much about my sub as possible in order for us both to extract the maximum fulfilment from our relationship.
I get most pleasure from pushing my sub into that zone where she loses all control, all of her inhibitions and gives herself completely to my control.
Sirs Ideal Person: Sir is looking for a sub who is willing to explore her innermost carnal desires within the BDSM context.
She must be interested in bondage and be prepared to seek the boundaries of her limits in a safe and consensual relationship. She would need to be prepared to make a connection....mentally, without the mental connection the physical has little or no meaning.
Size and looks are not important, the need to explore and to submit is.
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