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**Vanilla pictures available on request**
NOTE: The profile below was last updated in Oct 2009 at the start of my scene journey. I can link you to an update (message me or see journal) but don't want to delete all of this just yet. As I don't come on the site loads these days, gonna keep it here to stay at my roots, so for an insight into my earlier musings, please continue...
Summary - For those without the time or have no desire to read the full profile at the moment
I'm looking to meet with a Domme to further my experience and fulfill my submissive kink. I am respectful and kind, enjoy bondage and domination over S & M, although everything goes. I have concerns over privacy and discretion is a must. My experience is limited but I'd consider myself to be well prepared by now.
I'm looking for casual play until I find a long term relationship which could also be you? Where possible, I'll reply to you all.
Vis_a_vis6969 :)
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This bit needs a major update/re-write
Hello!
So here I am, at last! It's taken me quite a while to get here, I'm not so sure why.
History/Experience
I first became interested in BDSM when I was 16/17 (approx 2000) I think. I spent quite a few years browsing the internet, researching and reading about it, honing my interests. During that time, I served a few mistresses on-line with the usual household toys that I'd collected in a box and a webcam whilst being locked in my bedroom with parents in the next room.
It was a good way for me to get used to myself but after about 4 or 5 years I realised that actually it could never be enough for me. Generally I eventually would find out that I was actually talking to men or fakes. I stopped spending every night in a chat room looking for people and went to get a life.
I went looking to find a girlfriend through the usual vanilla ways with a hope of finding someone that would be interested in dominating me in the bedroom. It never happened, it always seemed to end up with me having to try and Dom to get her interested and then after that there was never really much passion or understanding from her. Always seemed to fizzle out. I guess I've been very disappointed by my lack of success to find a real female that shares my joy of fetish.
So here I am, I've decided to sign up as this is a Personals site, my hope is that I will be able to find somebody and meet others who I know to be in the scene. To be honest, I never realised quite how popular the sites were and have been positively surprised and pleased to see that there are plenty of others around, including some local and also of a similar age range (although I'll be honest, this shouldn't surprise me, it's just a case of finding you all!) Hopefully using this site, I'll start to speak with other like minded people, look into attending munches and ultimately maybe meeting a dominant lady for play/relationship. :) I should have got here a long time ago!
Personal Kinks, Limits and Experience
I love the concept of bondage, to be tied/secured tightly and restrictively. Bondage can be an art in itself to be admired but generally I'd be happy with rough and dirty tieing. Once tied, I love to be cruelly teased. To have no control over the outcome, no matter how hard I struggle, to be at the mercy of a mistress and her devilish desires and ideas. Ultimately I guess a full mummification suit/wrap would be good. I'm not so sure how I'd feel about heavy electrics but perhaps to be left in a predicament of a machine just whirring away with nothing to stop it and no clue as to how long I'll remain there before being released. mmmm!
Anyway, I digress, ultimately I'm sure I'd just enjoy being put through my paces by you and the resulting experience would I'm sure be very exhilarating. Pain and punishment is not an issue for me, in fact I welcome it (how could I not?). Knowledge is a powerful thing and knowing of a forthcoming meet could do anything to put me off all day. This, even if as I hope I'll have no idea about whats going to happen. Also knowing that I have to spend a day at work after a night of submission could be very humiliating whilst I sit at my desk all day trying hard to limit my movements.
My limits, I guess I'm not extreme, I wouldn't be keen on blood, scat, permanent markings (tattoos/piercings/branding), children, animals or any illegal activity. As a straight guy, I have no interest of sexual activity with another male, in-fact I specifically seek a mistress not master as I feel it would be of more interest to me. More importantly than all of that though is my requirement of Discretion and Privacy. I have worked hard for many years to build a good life, I had a number of problems as a child and don't get on well with parents so it took quite a bit of effort to rebuild myself and to enjoy life. I absolutely can not afford to put that at any sort of risk. There has to be no element of others being able to find out of my desires and kink. I've stated that I'd like to get to a place of a long term relationship, so of course you'll meet a lot of people close to me and trust has to be crucial. I would be concerned about filming/photos early on and I'm unlikely to open up much about my close friends or even real name and facebook etc initially.
My real life experience is pretty much non existent to be at the hands of another but at things like nipple clips, pegs, mild CBT tieing, wax, gagging I'm quite experienced. Also back in the day I used to dabble a bit with butt plugs and a dildo (but I don't have them anymore - a casualty of my clean up to grow up phase).
Obviously your next step should be to look at my 'checklist'.
More About Me and vanilla stuff
I'm single and live in a shared house with a group of other friends (although I am looking to buy a house in the Summer 2010). I'm sociable and like going out to the pub for civilised chats and drinks. We have a number of pubs in the area that we like and can usually be found near one. I also enjoy slightly heavier drinking, cocktails, bars and the occasional clubbing with my friends, but generally I'm just in a nice pub.
I'm mature and usually sensible, rarely getting too drunk, I'm respectful and fairly intelligent. I have a good job and a position there. I drive, I enjoy spontaneity and I have few constraints holding me back.
I think of myself as positive and enjoy meeting new people and building on friendships which I then value dearly. I'm polite and well mannered but get called 'nice' quite often which seems boring after a while but it shows that others recognise me as not manipulative or deceiving and without hidden agendas. I used to say I was shy but I've realised I'm not now, I have no issue with meeting you but I do lack a bit of confidence and rarely make a first move. I'm not arrogant either and I guess don't have that masculine air of self belief that most have - certainly not a truly dominant alpha male! Within groups, I can be quiet and not talk much even with people I know very well. I'm also known to be loving, kind and caring especially to those I hold dear to my heart.
I consider myself a good cook, favourite being Italian. I like going out to eat and love little independent restaurants just as much as bigger chains and pubs. I'm not very sporty and don't really follow football, rugby etc but do have an interest in the national team during competitions.
I'm fairly slim, light and flexible.
and Lastly,
I should apologise to you if I've looked at your profile and not sent you a message, maybe I thought we weren't compatible, or maybe I think we are compatible but want to take some time to compose my words - either way, if you think we are, please do drop me a line. I look forward to speaking with you all soon.
Thanks for reading,
Vis_a_Vis6969
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Hi people. I hardly use this site these days but pop in from time to time to say hi, who knows who I might find behind those internet persona's! If you want a chat, do still drop me a line or come and find me on IC, FL or Twitter all under the account of vis_a_vis6969 :) Much loves and hope you're all doing well. Catch you soon! x |
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Off to Pedestal tomorrow night... Should be fun :) |
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Hey! :) OMG I think I'm actually back??? No idea what happened but it looks like my profile shows up again now. Can someone confirm if you see this... Hello to you all again though :)
Damn, now that means this place is well overdue an update, FL is first in the queue for profile rewrites LOL so best check me out on IC for now :) x |
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Getting a bit narked now about my profile :( I want it back!
On another note, I browsed some bondage wear in Camden earlier. Got told I looked too cute and innocent to be corrupted by the BDSM world just yet!... lol little do they know! did they not want the business anyway? |
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IMPORTANT - My Profile seems to have been deleted and isn't showing up properly. If you can read this, could you let me know it's been fixed? Thanks |
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Lifes been busy lately with 4 BDSM events in just 9 days including first visits to Subversion and Pedastal...now looking forward to a vanilla week (/rest!).
Hope you're all doing OK. Drop me a line and say hi :)
x |
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Sorry :( I've been away for a few days. Something big happened :(
Anyway, back now, enjoyed Pedestal and looking forward to LAM, Camb Munch and London midweek kinky drinkies next week :)
x x |
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U35 munch in London on Saturday - then Sweet Torments fet club afterwards :)
Bit nervous for those two as going on own - sure will be fine on the day but come along and say hello! x
Pedastal on Thursday - very excited about it :) |
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London U35 munch was brilliant. I hope to meet more of you soon.
I've had some brilliant news at work :)
I've re-written my profile - please see my IC account -
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/p/vis_a_vis6969/
Have a good week. Oblivion on Friday night :)
x |
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Went to the London munch last night for the first time, spent £2 on a couple of raffle tickets and won the top prize of £25 voucher to spend on anything at August LAM. Now, what to buy....?
I will be at the London U35 on 7th July :)
x |
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Uploaded a picture of my first rope bondage harness. Felt so good sitting in it for an hour and half whilst watching a DVD.
The last 5 weeks have been very busy but I'm free as a bird now. All of my trips and holidays have been fun and I'm happy to share my hints and tips of Istanbul with you.
Heading to London this weekend for the London munch, should be fun but will be great to start getting to the clubs and meeting all you friendly kinksters.
Please come and say hello :) x |
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I'm home from Istanbul now and had a fantastic time out there. I really would recommend it to anybody, lots of nice memories, things to do and see. It was fun. I'm away again this weekend but I hope to attend the London munch events next weekend 25th/27th...
See you there? x |
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I'm in Turkey at the moment having 29 degree heat fun in Istanbul. Will be back online properly from Tuesday 15th.
I made it to LAM on Sunday and got myself a few bits and pieces :) |
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I'm really keen to start making it down to London to meet some new friends and attend some of your events. I'm in the middle of a busy few weeks at the moment, with job interviews, surfing trip, week in Istanbul and a weekend of camping for me to work through but I'll be free soon enough.
I'd love to get some pointers and directions from any of the London folk. Please get in touch with advice, friendship or for drinks :)
Vis x |
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Back from an awesome surfing weekend in Bournemouth, picked up a couple of wetsuits (and looking for some kinky ways to use them please), look like a Red faced baboon from the wind burn but off to Turkey on the 9th for a week. Have also uploaded a couple photos from the St Andrews cross at Oblivion.
How was your weekend? x |
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Oblivion was great again and got some photos taken by David. :) Next stop is to go outfit shopping for when I get back from Istanbul, camping and surfing trips on the next few weekends....
With a job interview for promotion on 28th, I'll only be on occasionaly to check messages |
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Find me on F3tlife - vis_a_vis6969 :) |
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On Friday night, I went to my third club night, Oblivion in Cambridge. I had put it off for a while, given the locality I realise that seems a little strange but the night was so nice. Everybody there was great, a nice young friendly crowd. I'm feeling really positive now about making a few more kinkster friends in the flesh :) :)
x |
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UPDATE - Bournemouth was fun. Surfing the waves ;)
It seems I'm always on holiday. Off work from Thursday 25th to Tuesday and then in London for Easter weekend.
What to do, hmmm? |
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UPDATE - I'm home now and had a great week - would recommend it to anyone, now looking forward to a weekend of chilling....
On holiday next week (Sun-Fri) to Prague for 3 nights and Frankfurt for 2. Do you know any good places to visit? Then off work till Tues :) x |
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 Happy Valentines Weekend to you all.
I hope it's made very special for you all and one to remember for the good times x |
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Just back from Club Isis in Walthamstow - it was fun :) |
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So it's a new year now (though I realise we're in Feb already! - sorry I was lurking in the shadows for couple of months) How many have actually kept those resolutions or broken them already? My goal this year is to get out and meet you all - in the virtual and physical sense (hopefully!).
I only really started on these sites late Sept 09 and I wish I hadn't waited so long, I've met some great people. By 2011, I'd love to have been out to some club nights, events and make a big network of kinksters that I'm friends with for chatting, talking and socialising (not forgetting a little bit of play). Will you be one of them?
The year didnt start off well as you'll see but I bounce back and will be up to London the minute I'm invited along ;) x |
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WARNING - This is an old rant. I've left it up because I like to think I'm stubborn and because it would defeat the point to delete it, but I don't really want anyone to read it as I'm so far over it now. Lol
Please Skip right down! x
Well I hope you (yes you know who you are) are pretty happy with yourself because you succeeded in pissing me off. I put my trust in you, genuinely thought that you were legit. Yes, you're right, it's easy to tell the timewasters and fakes from the site by their poor grammar, spelling and lack of understanding of BDSM but that no longer means jack shit, you're just as bad as the rest of them, even if you can hold a conversation. In fact, I'm still at a total loss as to why you went to just that much effort to aggrevate me, there's not been anything in it for you or have I missed some saliant fact? Well, on the other hand, my nights not ruined, I'm off into town for a friends birthday so I'm still going to have fun and ultimately I'll just attend another time anyway.
If you think I'm being unfair/would like to challenge this, then I look forward to hearing a plausable excuse because I'm not one that allows myself to get screwed over very often so I'm pretty narked right now and it will take a bit of effort on your point to win me over. It's a shame, I don't put my trust in most and stand up for them. I've allowed you enough time to have gotten in touch with me to explain and I know you been online a few times since.
You've not done very much for the reputation of this site.
To everybody else that's reading this, I'm sorry you had to and I'm sorry if that makes me a little bit wary when talking to someone new (current friends excluded of course) x
Rant Over |
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I'd like to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Hope you all have some good time off work for the holiday like I do :)
Don't forget to leave those stockings out for a nice surprise.... |
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I totally get why women get fed up of messages from guys - it's cos they want one thing and never ever do the research. Desperate times cause desperate measures clearly! This one just started talking to me (with a status message of YAS BRO LONG TIME NO SEEN DO U STIL AROUND):
ABD_185: hi
vis_a_vis6969: hello
ABD_185: how r ya
vis_a_vis6969: not bad thanks
ABD_185: so where u from????
ABD_185: ...
vis_a_vis6969: i'm in East Anglia
ABD_185: where about
vis_a_vis6969: nowhere specific
ABD_185: how old r u??
vis_a_vis6969: not look at profile?
vis_a_vis6969: i'm 25
ABD_185: im lookin now
vis_a_vis6969: what exactly are you lookin for on here?
ABD_185: lookin 4 fun
vis_a_vis6969: right
ABD_185: so u up for it
vis_a_vis6969: for what?
ABD_185: 4good time
vis_a_vis6969: do you understand BDSM?
vis_a_vis6969: i thought you looked at my profile, would know what i'm looking for then
ABD_185: so
ABD_185: do you wanna fcuk or not?
ABD_185: ????
vis_a_vis6969: lol, no, i'm a guy and not gay
ABD_185: loooooool
ABD_185: so hav a good time
vis_a_vis6969: ok
ABD_185: can u link me with sum gurls
ABD_185: plz
vis_a_vis6969: haha, no, goodbye
ABD_185 has left the chatroom |
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For the sadistic amongst you:
You may or may not find this funny, but I got a weird feeling you probably will. Popped into town today and slipped on the ice a total of 3 times, worst thing was that all 3 times were at once and I just couldn't get up.
Result - Totally soaked jeans, a sore red arse and a bit of a shiver.
...Now if only there had been a few candles, would have been a great location for some sensation play ;) |
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Those on FetL1f3, I recommend you enter the giveaway, loads of prizes will be given away just after Christmas. What did you choose as your 3 preferred prizes?
x |
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I cannot wait for some time off work this weekend Fri - Tues. Looking forward to finding plans to fill the time and some relaxing. Would like to thank Mistress Bond for taking me to my first fetish club -Arousal aswell. |
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Starting to get the hang of this site now and had a GREAT week ;) .... Looking forward to going to my first clubnight at Arousal on Friday. I have a rough idea on what it might be like, but in reality I'm sure it'll blow my mind!
Also on FETl1f3 now so come and say hello :) I am vis_a_vis6969 on all the other sites and messengers.
Be well,
Vis x
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I think that I should probably re-write my profile, its abit of a rambling mess isnt it! lol
You might find me in the video chatroom :) |
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So I'd like to thank a very special friend of mine for tieing me up for the first time on my birthday - 7 years of waiting was far too long! Now I have confirmed how much I loved the feeling I cant wait to explore further into even stricter bondage and submission :) |
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Today I'm 25 and I think that should call for a celebration, of course I'll make myself available immediately to permit you to have that celebration ;)
Still looking for someone to tak a photo of me in strict bondage/humiliation for my profile pic :) x
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It's my birthday coming up and I can't wait, loads planned but nothing can quite satisfy more than being put in place by a mistress and given a special birthday spank. ;) |
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My name is Vis_a_Vis6969 :)
I'm new and I'd like to thank you for looking, sorry no picture at the moment. I do have a webcam and will happily show myself to you on a one on one basis and send picture but not until I've spoken to you as discretion is important to me. Hope you understand! |
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| Age: 22 |
| Jax,
Florida |
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