Flakes   I've heard almost every guy on these kink websites complain about chicks being flakes. You want to know why? Here it is:   Most of the messages females get on the website are by creepy old guys who have no reason to be sending a young lady emails. Find someone that isn't young enough to be your daughter.   Another big chunk of the guys that troll the site just want sex. Some because they want more than vanilla sex and others because they think that a submissive female will do whatever a Dom wants, and they want sex, so they think it's the best way to get layed.    Yes the site is sexually explicit. I think we can all agree that a vanilla relationship or sex is not always enough. Therefore, finding someone into the same lifestyle can be a must. However, that does not mean that females are on the websites just for sex. A lot of us want relationships, but mostly we get guys that just want a kinky booty call. If all you want to talk about is sex or kinky stuff, fine, but I wont keep talking to you. Ask me something about myself other than what I like in the bedroom or like with sex. If you try to get to know me as a person, I will probably keep talking to you.   If by chance you do want a relationship, but your still constantly being flaked on, it's probably because we can't tell that you're like the one percent that actually cares about a female for her personality and who she is. Sometimes, though, it's because there is not a connection or a lack of mutual interests. That's okay. People are different and want different things. Just because you don't have a lot in common doesn't mean she's trying to be a flake, she's probably just trying to find a person she can connect with who has similar interests.   It's always going to be a hit and miss, no need to bitch about it. Just move on and get over the fact that not every girl is desperate to sleep with you.