Usually it’s been about allergies to animals as I am an avid animal lover.  I am guardian to 3 cats and one small dog.  And I can tell when people don’t love my animals.

1. How do expect to interact with your friends as a couple?

When I bought my current house, I was envisioning lots of BDSM dinner parties and play parties with small groups of people (because my house is small).  Or dinner parties and game nights with vanilla friends.  I do not impose my kinky lifestyle on my vanilla friends or family, but most know that I’m kinky.

I regularly get together with my vanilla friends.  That doesn’t you have to participate in every activity.  Actually, I might prefer it if you don’t join all the time.

I have let my friendships with the local community BDSM people slide for the past number of years.  Since a little before Covid.  But Covid wasn’t the reason at the time.  I’d like to re-enter that world.  But prefer to have a partner(s).

2. Do you agree with your partner’s lifestyle choices (health, diet, exercise, use of substances, sleeping habits, activities, hobbies, and professional drive/achievement)

Health – generally I’m in good health or could do better if I engaged more in a healthy lifestyle (nutrition and exercise).  I am trying to transition to vaping from smoking cigarettes.  My aim is to quit altogether.  It’s an active work in progress. I drink on occasion, not an alcoholic.  I also partake in devil's cabbage on occasion.  Not every day or even every week.

Diet – I am not too much of a picky eater and do like a variety of healthy foods.  Omnivore.  Although I think its all really laden with chemicals regardless if its organic or just produce from the grocery store.

Exercise – I used to go to the gym pretty regularly.  I’ve gotten away from that but would like to go regularly again with a partner.  Aging is no joke and the more fit a person is the better fare from an illness or fall!

Activities – I tend to enjoy hikes in nature – any nature from woods, beaches, mountains, or any other nature place.  I also like being on the water – where I can see land! Lol  And if I went on a cruise?  It’d be on a pirate ship!  Not a huge boat.

Sleep – I love my sleep!  At least 8 hours.  Some people have told me I snore.

Professional Drive – good jobs are hard to find these days!  I’m driven, intelligent, and competent.  I’m currently unemployed trying to establish self-employment but not sure where all of it is going to go.  I have a limited time to devote to it Full time until I need to consider other options.

1. How will you include your spouse in making important or personal decisions?

I would prefer input from my partner, but I would have the final say.  If I need direction I’ve typically done the research and ask other supporters in my life for opinions.

2. How will you maintain your personal identity within the marriage? How much time do you expect to spend with each other? How will you spend your free time together and apart?

To be negotiated along the way.

3. How do you feel about spending money?

Due to being self sufficient I have lived on the continuum of being frugal to lavish when finances allowed.  I would never want to financially devastate anyone like some of the other Dommes I’ve heard seem to act like.

4. What are your individual core values?

Generally whole health

5. Who are your positive relationship role models for marriage? Whose marriage do you admire and why?

By now I've seen a lot of different relationships.  And every one of them about 20-25 years in there’s some serious consideration or some big obstacle that either has ended the relationship or someone has yielded and they keep on keeping on. 

The relationships I’ve admired?  In public, you can tell they love each other and enjoy each others company.  I’ve always been of the mind when I partner with someone it will be forever!  Maybe that’s why I’ve been hesitant to anchor down on anyone.  And by now I have fewer years ahead of me than I do behind.  Every day is a gift!  I’ve also lost enough people in my life to know tomorrow isn’t guaranteed no matter what your age is!  I have a lust for life and want to experience as much as I can!

How about YOU!?!

Houston, TX
This trip has been made possible by support from connections I’ve made over the past 28 years online nurturing relationships and building trust.  I’ve fronted plenty of trips and engagements over the years and nothing has been a waste.  All good stories and memories.
I lost my job the end of last year.  I applied to various jobs that were natural advancements of my vanilla career.  Nothing panned out.  Then I had a strategic planning meeting by myself and asked myself if I could do anything and build a comfortable life doing it with my skills, knowledge and abilities PLUS my passions and life goals?  It would be traveling, being useful to people, and living a Kinky Lifestyle.
You want me to work 70 plus hours a week and still be shiny and bright and have the energy to Dominate you?  GET REAL.  I'm in a position where I'm able to focus Full Time on My future and hopefully that includes finding a potential partner - or partners.  Who's ready? 
In my perspective?  Men are providers, and protectors and support their Domme/FLR partner – however she decides to live her life!  Her existence is your celebration!  You best believe if you’re along for the ride you’d enjoy it too!  This hang up about whether a person is professional or do it for fun?  GET REAL!  Bottom line is support to run it!  You got a hang up about that? DO NOT WASTE MY TIME.
YOU WERE MEANT TO MAKE MY LIFE EASIER!  NOT BE A PAIN IN MY ASS. 

ALL ABOARD!
3/13/24 I leave tomorrow for an almost 8000 mile journey basically living out of my SUV.  Because I can and I'm not stuffy about it.  The last time I was driving long distance all over the United States I was a SEMI truck driver.  That didn't end up working out.  Here I am back nurturing that nomadic spirit that makes ME ME.  Just the rules are a little different these days. 
I"m watching a Woman.  Grab her LIFE BY THE HORNS and live it her way.  Some of you might not agree or looking for a predicatable box.  Routines with only our creations to entertain?  I seem to be a bit more multi level engagement and exposure to diversity that is my passion challenge and I do LOVE people.  I just have relaitonships with every indiviual within our own dynamics.  Until they merge or dont.  When did everyone get so busy that we had no time to move forward until we literally retired?  Then at what level of luxury?  And what determines comfort or who? 
Think about that.  I know I am. 

Traveling plans:

March 2024
16-18 Albuquerque, NM
20-25 Houston, TX
25 New Orleans, LA
28-April 2 Orlando FL

April 2024
3-4 Atlanta GA
5-7 Nashville TN
9-13 Richmond VA
14-15 Washington DC
16_17 Philidelphia PA
17-20 NYC, NY
22-26 Boston, MA
27-? Traveling back to MN.
Toronto Canada
Albany NY
Syracuse NY
Buffalo, NY
Cleveland OH
Chicago IL
Madison WI

I ALWAYS strive to behave RESPECTFULLY and sometimes that's got a Southern flavor.  That doesn't mean I'll chose to change notions that float through my brain - that I dont know that any human being has power to change given the influences and experiences we've had as individuals. 

Beliefs, self truths, and awarenesses to cater to someone elses outright dismissal because a notion differs from their own and that irritates them and makes them grouchy or otherwise a jerk.  There's lots of things in this world to talk about versus focusing on the dozen ideas and values that seperate. 

Everything is about narrative - that we tell ourselves AND what we choose to share with each other.  And that can be different versions of ourselves depending on the connection.  Sometimes the best and respectful thing to me is if I don't have anything nice to say? Don't say anything at all, and let it roll off my back.  Certainly everyone has choice to be around what kind of energy they make the most harmony with?  Takes some effort to sustain seems particularly online. 

And I"m at an age I do choose spending less time to entertain anything less than mutually stimulating.  I'm not so wrapped up in labels.  But, I do have standards whatever spot I am on the contiuum of kink depending on what notes we're hitting with one another - or NOT.  And really, wherever I have landed in play on the continuum most often than not I have always felt and think will always know I am the one driving my boat. 

ISO someone that has a drive to match mine, vast interests with his own colorful life and stories that only reflect his many dealings with many different walks of life or build bridges or learn to speak with being honest and held in high regard. 

RESPECT AND THRIVE

 signed - A Nasty Woman

“At the end of the day people won't remember what you said or did, they will remember how you made them feel.”

I used to have visions of meeting someone and being a power couple.  Of working and living together.  Building an empire of whatever that could have been. I guess there's still time for that. 

But, men in the age bracket I'm talking with these days are already established.  Successful or failed.

I understand ambition and drive and effort sustained for decades climbing whatever preverbal ladder we've been on.  And navigating devastation and trauma and rising from ashes to go out and create more life!  It has been quite the ride.  And I don't expect the next chapter of our lives to be anything less than engaging with ups and downs and dashes of peace serenity and unconditional love. 

I refuse to be a statistic that after spending 25 years together making a life?  Then deciding one day just not to do it anymore!  There's a clue why I might not have ever found My ONE primary. 

SKILLS SOUGHT:

• Effective interpersonal communication
• Emotional Intelligence
• Critical Thinking
• Active listening
• Integrity
• Honesty
• Positive solutions to problems
• Financial responsibility
• Humor not at anyone's expense
• Curiosity before judgement
• Motivating or Influence others
• Cooking
• Domestic skills
• Massage

 SOME INTERESTS

• Outdoors – I get recharged in nature.  Do you?  I’m open minded about outdoor activities year round.
• Physical Activities – someone that is inclined to go to the gym regularly with me.
• Travel – the world is our oyster!  I’m well traveled in the United States.  More recently international travel.
• Music – I’m open to a variety of music.  Mostly listen to chill music.
• Health and Wellbeing – strive to be balanced withing the 8 dimensions of wellness.  Those are emotional, physical, occupational, social, spiritual, intellectual, environmental, and financial

 Love Language in order of 1 to 5.  I rank 1 being most important. 

Note.  I have never read the book. 

1 Acts of Service

2 Touch

3 Affirmations

4 Quality Time

5 Gifts

I've  noticed I attract to personalities with common backgrounds in the following:

Information Technology

Law

Handyman

Finance

Health

We should have COMMON LIFE GOALS.  These are just a few that come to mind right now. 

1. FLR and KINK
2. Family and Friends
3. Career
4. Affordable long term stable and comfortable housing
5. Travel
6. Financial stability
7. Nutritionally healthier minded
8. Long term stratagies for growing old and death
9. Last, but certainly not least HAPPINESS. 

Food for thought. 
I am an active participant in manifesting my destiny. 
Please let me speak to others that simularly self aware and able to communicate.  I'm flexible with how that works, but I'm not here for online pen pals. 
You can be whatever you label yourself. 
Everything shakes out and eventually snags. 
Natural process of my life. 
How about learning from hard knocks, but also investing and valuing higher education.  The two college classes that influenced me the most was Philosophy and Critical Thinking.  I soaked them up and they've lived with me ever since.
NEEDED:  increased vigorous physical exercise, laughter yoga, and more bubble baths!
When, in current climate, the perspectives on what those taught educational story narratives are in constant change and has been coming into question?  Basic expectations of common sense?  But these days I think if sense were common we'd have more of it.  Shared sense of sanity and within the realm of vauling human life?  People that are already on this earth and have their own stories.  That would be honoring diversity.  Not valuing everyone thinking like everyone else?

RESPECT.

Hint:  Make an effort to be your own witty self.  I feel like A rock in the river that water just crashes up against and runs around.  You a geologist? 

A whole to be with another whole.  

Meeting in our own space and time.  You’re a rock too.  And I might crash into you and run right around you. 

I’m not a pine tree, yet.  Those seeds need to be planted, nurtured and grown in a organic environment.  

You don’t have the right fertilizer for that?  That’s not my problem.  I’ll still grow with sunlight.

Cleaning with lemon juice still works! 

Happy 4th of July - or "Independence" Day!?  How many people went to a BBQ todday??!!  Fireworks?

Feeling like it used to feel like people/law gave consideration for people that didn't' necessairly think/live like they did - for ALL USA.  As an American Woman, I felt freer somewhere in the rearview.

Today I feel like it's just a Day that celebrates - We came!  We Conqured!  And made quite the mess of things.  Yay!  Values for whoever supports whatever jacked up buisness is this decade!  At the possible suspense of sustainablity of long term life support? holistically considering? 

Unbridled.  And not looking for a life for myself where I feel bridled, full disclosure.  And feeling more like shared sanity is utmost important with the people I chose to surround myself with.  Safe Sane Consentual and Risk Aware Consensual Kink. 

Pretty bored. ISO Aliens, weirdos, comics, muses, artists, nerds, rocket scientists, inventors, muscians, or any myriad of self-actualized, brilliant and wanting to expand horizons?  No drama Mama's.

Now I'm just writing  to Cosmic Gods.  Or, here's to being comprehensive!  Cheers.

Bedtime.

REFUSE to be less than transparant.  Random thoughts

Dealing with AI? though - that might change things.  Can people that have some inkling what they want/looking for but might not have the dynamic resolution to get them through the door for that interview with their own volition.  That's so tempting to test out.  

I prefer in the moment truths inspired by engagement and communication - some may call it chemistry.  Meeting of the minds.  Because the body isn't forever, but always could strive for strength, flexibility and endurance?  Will - direction of life, that's serious business.  Giving someone phycological real estate someone lets "you" have. People expect that's given away without depth of connection?  Is that just a Woman Brain Woke? Oh, for the love of Pete.  Just a Female brain - practicing Vulnerable Leadership as I experience it and value for it - Self Worthy. Exhibit A. Testing... 1, 2, 3.... 

Ground Control to Major Tom!  However long it takes - I'll be here.  Damn, might just leave to page as a Tribute to myself for others to enjoy.  What the hell?  

Looking for my Ride or Die.  But, gotta pass by the trolls and enchantments tha make up Me.  I tame my own Dragons and I"m a given it a thought explorer of environments.  I'm a Creator.  Looking for a Co-Creator - I will respect his brain and thought process and awareness and ability to express that. Hey may or may not reap the benefits of my soul spaces.  Winner Winner Chicken Dinner for that Soul.  On that level I meet all levels of intimacy and frienship to lovers. The Collar Me and now Collar Space community has more positively impacted my life than most any other site I've experienced.  And, I do have gratitude for that.  Last living Free space to find like minded, supposedly - people looking for a relaitonship that involes kink on whatever that level is. Side Note - My interests are also outdated, everything is more of a conversation to be had - over time and mutual interest. 

No body writes much that is meaningful anymore - I'm a dianasour!  Just recognizing some dealing with human beings vs. going down rabbit holes and ending up being asked to "invest" in some online business or jewelry company or some pharmasist working on an oil rig with a talking head, or countless other stories I've heard. 

BE REAL.  I am.

I practice Vulnerable Leadership as a Surfer in Life.  If you aren't creative enough to carry your weight in conversation, interest and dancing with artists, musicians, lovers of diversity and champions of life, please click to someone else's profile.  Only elite minded - but not in a I only hear my version of whatever it is I need you to be to grow sanctuaries and expand each others horizons.  Might want to talk to your kind of brain.  There - how about that as a thought to comment on???

My photos by now are pretty outdated, although my physique is still pretty much the same.  I'd update but I hear that might be critical to having an exsisting profile out here. 

Currently seeking a FLR.  Looking for a man that respects that and has some flexibility in acceptance with what kinks are explored.  Must have confidence to do a myriad of different things or be ok with involving others getting needs met. 

At this time I live in southern MN and have no plans to relocate due to building experience in my chosen career.  Would be possible in the future. 

I own pets - please no allergies to cats or dogs.

I am self-sufficent and make a decent living - not looking for your pockets, but someone similar that is responsible and willing to contribute to home life. 

I am not perfect, but willing to work on things.  Healthy minded - being active and enjoying life, healthy balanced variety of food.  I do have a unhealthy habit of smoking, working on quitting soon.  I work in Mental Health, I'm well aware of healthy relationships vs. abuse. 

I've been told I have a sound core, which I agree with.  I'm easy to talk with - I take my time with building trust and sharing.  With the right person I'd be an open book.  I've been single for many years and would rather stay single vs. being in the wrong relationship.