Subonico

I am reading these threads, in order to learn something that I don't know (which is almost everything) and, this one quote in another thread finally hit home hard:
[quote]You aren't likely to find a Mistress by expecting Her to be your fetish delivery service. Willing 'sex slaves' are a dime a dozen so you aren't offering anything new or even interesting.[/quote]

What hit harder was this subsequent quote:
[quote]What worthwhile and useful things do you have to offer said Mistress? Are you willing to do house or yard work? Do you have any skills such as mechanic to keep her car in good running order or perhaps you work in construction and can do home repairs?
[/quote]

I, like many other so-called submissive men, am really not looking for what the Mistress seems to be seeking. What I actually want is a fetish delivery service! Someone to play with my cock and, while playing with it incessantly, enjoying it all the same time. Yet, the reality is that it's not gonna happen, no matter how good looking my cock is.

I want to have a women open her legs and tell me to lick her pussy to orgasm. Again, it's just not gonna happen. Sure, I'd LOVE it if it happened, and I live for it - but it's just not gonna happen. At least not in this lifetime.

So, no wonder I have trouble finding what I want.
Either it doesn't exist, or, everyone else in my situation wants the same thing, so that it's ubiquitous!

How do you just order a man to eat you out? Simple, but sometimes hard to get out in the heat of the moment: “Get your head between my legs,” “Eat me out until I come,” “Go down on me, right now, I can't wait.” Can't figure out a way to say anything like that without becoming embarrassed? Put on some sexy music and say it to your mirror. Yes, I'm serious. Close your eyes and imagine a situation where a man is so desperately enthralled with you that you are utterly confident, completely sure in his desire for you, and SAY IT.

-So his head has found its way between your thighs, right? Take some more control, woman! Instead of leaning back and closing your eyes, throw a wrench in things by grabbing his hair. Keep your eyes open and look down. If he's focused on the task at hand and isn't looking at you, order him to: “Look up at me” or “let me see your eyes.” If he stops his tongue while he looks up at you (hey, sometimes it's hard to multitask!), say “Don't stop what you're doing.” Maybe prime him before all this, back in the makeout time, by saying something like “and when you're tasting me, I want to watch you while you do it.”

-What if he keeps hitting the wrong spot? You're in charge, remember? You get to be honest. You don't have to be embarrassed and he doesn't have to be embarrassed. His job is to make you feel good, to serve you. Don't be cruel or mean, don't cut down his ego out of spite – just gently redirect him by tugging his hair, or saying a direction (“a little higher, that's it”), or just being extra enthusiastic when he hits the right spot. I've gone down on girls, and we really are sometimes hard to figure out, so don't skip straight to punishing the crap out of him for doing something wrong yet. See if he enjoys this milder form of you dominating before all that.

I am to you: submission loyalty obedience respect discipline devotion

HorseyRide:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?list=PLKzJv-jOB3_dZ3gldJmHWOWpqNV4R1g6s&feature=player_detailpage&v=0z_m1o1P-M4

I love these femdom short films

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLKzJv-jOB3_dZ3gldJmHWOWpqNV4R1g6s

This is hilarious as it shows what most supposed subs are after:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drcTRzO2wMk

This man feels a deep NEED to serve and please a Dominant female partner.

This man is happiest kneeling at your feet, or waiting on you - serving you drinks, preparing your food, etc.

This man looks forward to the times when you direct your attention to him, controlling him and teaching him how you want him to behave.

But this many has no experience, and that is why this man created this profile to find a female Dominant willing to train me to serve you.

From Wikipedia, on what is female domination......

Generally, activities consist of anything from role reversal to more extreme acts of BDSM such as torture.

As with other BDSM orientations, there is no predefined set of activities that necessarily fall exclusively within the sphere of female dominance. Typically, the female dominant determines the activity within the context of a consensual encounter.

Activities can include strap-on dildo

penetration (pegging

) in which the dominant partner performs anal sex

on the submissive partner, if male, or if the partner is female, either vaginal sex

or anal sex, facesitting

or smothering

, which both tend to focus on the submissive partner performing cunnilingus

on the dominant partner, or in some instances "forced" feminization

of a male partner. The dominant female may have a submissive partner perform acts of fellatio

on her strap-on dildo or engage in intercourse with other individuals and force the submissive partner to watch.

Practices of domination common to many BDSM

and other various sexual relationships are also prsexual practice)" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cock_and_ball_torture_%28sexual_practice%29">cock and ball torture

, tease and denial

and tie and tease

, as well as ageplay

, erotic spanking

, cunnilingus

, felching

, body worship

, verbal humiliation

, foot worship

, ass worship

, face slapping

, hair pulling

, caning

, dripping hot wax on the genitals

, heavy whipping

, spitting

, golden showers

, forced chastity

and forced bisexuality.

A 1985 study suggests that about 30% of participants in BDSM activities are females.<sup>[1]

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A 1995 study indicates that 89% of heterosexual

females who are active in BDSM expressed a preference for a submissive-recipient role in sexual bondage

, suggesting also a preference for a dominant male

, and 71% of heterosexual males preferred a dominant-initiator role.

There's something so very sexy about pleasing a dispassionate woman!