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StraightRazorDom

		Back		Interests



	I will no longer settle for anything but the best.

I seem to have more luck finding slaves in real life than I do here. The amount of fakes, liars and, people looking to dip their hands in my pockets seems rampant here. I wonder why I even bother looking for someone on this site. I think the friendships I do have here are what keep me here; and that is about it. So, if someone comes my way here; cool. If not, I'm fine with that as well. I'm not writing to anyone from this point forward unless, I think I have a conversation with someone that asks a question in a journal or writes me asking questions. StraightRazor

I thought I was expecting a lot from someone; apparently I am not that tough on people. Some people here are downright nuts!

Just because I have visited your profile; do not assume I am interested in you...ask!

I guess some people can't stand behind statements they have made. Just goes to show that some people here are above and, beyond fake. I didn't coerce you into doing what you did. I didn't ask you to do what you did. I was appreciative that you went above what was expected of as a friend but yet, not a few hours pass and, you have retracted the statements you have made. Maybe I was too open with you about my past or, maybe you realized that making such statements might damage your reputation in some way. Whatever the case: it bothered me enough to post this about it. I guess being "real" with someone can scare some off.

My opinions on trust, honesty, loyalty and, why they are important in a BDSM setting. If you are new to the lifestyle and, getting a new feel for who you are and, what this lifestyle is about; I'd suggest taking this entry to heart...especially if you are considering involving yourself in this lifestyle. Honesty, loyalty and, trust can NOT exist without one another. They are not interdependent nor, should they ever be without each other; especially within a BDSM relationship. If there is no honesty, the trust is gone and, loyalty suffers. If there is no loyalty to the original idea or person, there is no honesty taking place and, trust suffers. If there is no trust, no honesty or loyalty resides within the context of the relationship. No one thing is more important than the other because they are of equal importance. With that said; think about this...Would you be perfectly loyal to someone you do not trust? Would you push yourself to go further or try something you are not too keen about trying without having trust in that person to not hurt you? Would you allow someone that has not been honest with you; to tie you up and, have their way with you? How about giving yourself to someone that deviates from the original plan or hasn't been loyal to their word? There is no excuse for the lack of any loyalty, trust or, honesty within BDSM; especially when it comes to responsibility for another human being. The more honesty, loyalty and, trust there is between two consenting adults; the further they will go in this lifestyle both in and, out of the bedroom. I myself have pushed many beyond their limits successfully because of the trust that I had with that person. They had that trust because of my honesty and, my loyalty to both them and the plan. How can you get or build yourself the submissive or slave you dream about? How about starting with honesty, building trust and, showing loyalty to both your word and your partner? This lifestyle is about building each other up. It's about finding what you are capable of in a safe and consensual environment. It's about exploring your fantasies and, building the foundation to explore yourselves mentally and physically within reality. It's about shining a light on things you probably didn't know about yourself. In the end, it's about love. The love of each other and, how BDSM has brought two or more people together to share the experience of this wonderful thing we have. After all, what's better than having trust, being honest and, being loyal to the people we do share this with?

I would like to thank a miss sinfulharlot again for the compliment on my previous journal on; what I believe it is to be a Dom. I'm sure when I have the time...I will be posting more. Nick

I was asked recently on what my OPINION of what it takes to be Dominant; here is my response.... (I made the word opinion in bold because I'm am bound to offend someone somewhere and, I don't want to hear it! This is my opinion and, I stand behind it) True Dominance is not forced control over another rather, it is the ability to lead another into a situation without a fear of accepting the responsibility of YOUR actions. It's knowing that you are not perfect and, that you will make mistakes because you are human. A Dominant is not afraid to say no for any reason; nor are they afraid to say yes because of those same reasons. A Dominant is not afraid to show emotion or compassion knowing that it's not weak to do so because, both are essential to having a strong bond with a submissive or slave. A dominant does not accept that submission is a gift; it's not a gift when it essentially takes just as much; if not more work to lead than follow. A Dominant is responsible, reliable and above all, trustworthy in all things. A Dominant tends to be a bit selfish, a touch arrogant and, a whole lot of" I am protector". A Dominant can control themselves both physically and, mentally. Jealousy, envy and, rage are not part of a Dominant's mindset nor, should they ever be. Sex may be at the forefront of BDSM but, a Dominant knows there is more to it than just sex. A Dominant has limits wether they admit to them or not. Being Dominant is not justification for abuse. A Dominant knows the fine line between correction and abuse and, walks it occasionally but, has the self control to never cross it. A Dominant knows that controlling another while under the influence is completely out of the question and, rarely if ever allow themselves to get to that point. A Dominant knows the importance of having another's life in their hands; how easy it is to kill or maim that person and, act accordingly to prevent such circumstances. A Dominant is trained in noticing signs of distress or panic and, act immediately upon those signs at ANY time during a session. A Dominant is trained in aftercare of a submissive or slave which is NOT limited to just physical wounds or bruises. A Dominant is aware of the real world and, a persons limits to act within the framework of the real world. This is just a taste of what I believe it is to be a Dominant. I could go on but, then I would be here till next week and, I have things to do.

One must learn to control themselves before they control others.