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Greetings, please read the entire profile before contacting me. Thank you.
UPDATED - Oct 2015 Between life, family and business, i seem to not have a lot of time meaning i am not on here for days and weeks at a time. As a result, i removed my profile/about me information. Housekeeping Before Adding Me - i only add people who i have met in person locally (in Ontario). i am not a friend collector nor will i add those clearly looking for a hookup or live out of province. Photos - For safety reasons i do not post face pics of myself nor do i allow face pics to be taken of me therefore, do not ask me to exchange photos with You. The photos i have posted of myself are more than enough and all i am willing to share over the internet. Communication - Cock shot photos are a distasteful introduction, lack of profile information and no real profile picture of Yourself for whatever reasons stated does not interest me. We will not have anything in common. Best, sensualove

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4/23/2013 7:30:48 AM

Sending cock shot pictures to my mailbox is distasteful and too personal for my liking. I do not ask for cock shot pics, do not send to me!!!  Keep your cock in your pants and out of my message box...!

 

It's disappointing but not surprising from this site to receive a message with a cock shot picture attached. Your cock does not impress me at all and is not the first impression i want to have of anyone contacting me. i don't care about your physical features or statistics. If you send me a picture of your cock, i can assure you we have nothing in common.

 

When did sending women messages with attached cock shot pictures become the norm? What happened to respect, manners, higher standards and respectful communication? Where did intelligence, wisdom and maturity disappear to?

 

The BDSM lifestyle is not about hook ups and one night stands. Unfortunately too many people claim to know about the lifestyle and use the BDSM lifestyle as a cover up to get laid and cheat on their partners. Btw, that's not poly!

 

Please use your brain instead of your cock. Read my profile completely. Do not send me a message with an attachment of a picture of your cock. Your message will be ignored and deleted.

 

There's my rant for today.

 

~ sensualove


11/20/2012 5:28:33 AM

About My Sexual Orientation

 

i am straight not bi. A person does not have to be bisexual to be open or poly.

 

i receive a lot of requests from Dominant couples seeking a third to serve them as a couple however, as my profile states, i am not heteroflexible nor bisexual therefore, not into Mff. i do not submit to or serve women nor play sexually with women. All scenes with female Dominants/Tops are of a non-sexual nature.

 

i am poly but straight. i play both privately and publicly and seek Dominant male play partner(s) only. Please read my journal entry dated 10/14/2012 for guidelines for potential play partners.

 

i am not interested in being a submissive to a Dominant poly couple nor serving a Dominant couple therefore, i will not be responding to messages from Dominant couples seeking a third, so please read my profile and journals carefully.

 

~ sensualove



10/14/2012 9:10:57 PM

About Aftercare:

 

Did Y/you know?

 

A place scene (public or private) does not end once the Top has stopped beating the bottom. The scene ends when aftercare has been completed. Ohhhh...wait no it does not? In my pesonal experience, the bottom receives a series of follow up calls/check-ins from the Top/Dominant for the next few days after a play scene has ended.

 

Did Y/you know?

 

Advanced, skilled and old school Dominants provide this level of aftercare :)

 

sensualove


10/14/2012 8:59:45 PM

Part 2 of discusson with my friend.

 

Question:

I am secure enough I don't need to do that unless its part of te girl's evolution (i.e displaying submisison in front of others).

 

my response:

Your analogy of public play is the same to me as people who go to the gym to workout or to choose to work out at home. Some people work out at home because they feel more comfortable in their own home or enviroment. Some people work out at the gym because the enjoy the atmosphere, music, hearing the weights slapp together, grunts, the mirrors and the other people at the gym. They even enjoy socialising while they work out. All these factors create an energetic and motivating environment to workout.

 

However, Yes,  there are some people who work out at a gym for the attention and to show off. Hmmmm... seems like public play parties function the same way at times.

 

It's just a matter of preference to the individual. Luckily for me, i enjoy working out at the gym and at home. Both are equally enjoyable and satifying to me and so is public and private play. :)

 

sensaulove


10/14/2012 8:54:12 PM

i had a very interesting discussion tonight with a friend and thought it would be an interesting topic to share with others.

 

"BUT many doms like public play so they can show off their control. It’s really a form of bragging /showing off"

my response:

 

This is very true of some Dominants who play in public however, certainly not most, at least not in my own pesonal experience. There are some very important points being overlooked by this assumption and generalisation of Dominants. Below, i outline the very positive and safe outcomes that many people do not consider about public play:

 

  • First, as a bottom or ‘s” types, they have the opportunity to observe different play styles, skill level of the Top, check-ins, use of colours/safewords, etc. and including if the Top provides aftercare. You can learn a lot of valuable information just from observing different scenes. Very importantly, to learn to distinguish the safe and skilled Tops from the ones who are not.

 

  • The second reason is when playing in public vs. privately, there is DM’s present (at most public parties) and for example, if a Top does not respect a safeword or does an unsafe play on a bottom, the DM's are there to stop the scenes.

 

  • Ask yourself these questions: Why should i trust you with my life? To restrain me, tie me and do things to me both physically and mentally? What experience and skill level do you have? Do you have references, people that can vouch for your ability? Do you know the Top’s style, skill level, experience, safety procedures, etc.? Are you willing to play privately with a Dominant who could potentially endanger your safety?

 

 

  • Also, belonging to or being a part of the bdsm community has its benefits including keeping a submissives safe from predators, fakes and wannabe's. Knowing kinky people, hanging out with them, making friends and being accompanied by your friends to events in the bdsm community ensures safety to the individual and safety in numbers.

 

  • Get to know the Dominant's style, skill level and saftey practices in a public play setting before deciding to play privately. Privately play should be a secondary choice only once you have all the checks above in place. Please do your homework and fact find first.

Too many submissives make poor choices and mostly due to lack of experience which takes time to acquire they then get hurt emotionally and or physically. Public play is a positive way to get to know which Tops are safe or unsafe to play with and are the factors to consider which make it a safer environment for the bottom.

 

As a result of the way i was taught and my own positive experiences in lifestyle and public play, i encourage bottoms, especially newbie bottoms to consider playing at public parties instead of playing privately with a stranger, someone you don’t know well or just met in CM. You have nothing to lose, only to gain and is a win win situation to keep the bottom safe.

 

Be patient, keep safe.

 

sensualove


10/14/2012 2:21:37 PM

For me, being poly does not mean playing with strangers. i am very selective and cautious about whom i choose to play with on me. This means, if we have never met in person and do not have an estabished friendship followed by a mutual connection = No Play, No Way. 

 

Guidelines for Potential Play Partner(s) are:

  • References and negotiation in advance of a play scene
  • Advance knowledge, skill and use of toys
  • Established safety practices and procedures
  • Experience required not a newbie Dominant/Top
  • And higher standards

Bonus:

  • i've previously observed Your play scenes with a bottoms.
  • Old Guard, old school ways. 

The above guidelines may seem complicated and unappealing to You but it's not really, it's just common sense and safety practices. Based on what i have been taught and my own personal experiences in the lifestyle, this is how it works best for me.

 

sensualove


7/6/2012 9:39:43 AM

About Geisha

A geisha IS NOT a prostitute. Prositutes are called Yujo or Oiron NOT Geisha. A Yujo or Oiron, wears her obi tied in the front of her kimono which visually idenitifies her as a prostitute.

 

Geishas were their obi tied in the back of her kimono. They are well trained perfomers in traditional music, dance, the art of conversation and entertainment. They are highly respected and hold a high position in japanese culture because they are experts in traditional music and manners. Entertainment is one of the biggest industry of Japan and geisha preserves the traditional entertainment. They say, geisha is the highest and most noble profession a woman can have. Not everyone can be a geisha, they undergo severe and strict training to be one. Before you become a geisha you must become a maiko (geisha apprentice) for at least 5 years. Sadly, the western world confuses geisha with prostitution due to lack of knowledge and understanding of the Japnese history and culture.

As a submissive, geishas resonates with my personality and alternative lifestyle. i love to role play as a geisha mimicking and copying as much as the geisha traditions, service and protocol as often as possible. i study and follow the geisha and japanese culture as a hobby because of my respect, passion, fascination and interest with geisha women and of the geisha lifestyle.


8/8/2011 6:47:22 PM

The Egalitarian Master

Controls by Teaching, Guiding and Leading. The True genetic "Alpha" Male usually falls into this category and His counterpart attends to Him because she truly loves Him and wishes to please. Master and submissive frequently enjoy exploring the philosophical concepts and psychological mechanisms of the D/s lifestyle and the bonding of minds may be as important as the physical pleasures that are evoked.

 

An egalitarian Master knows that when he finds an appropriate submissive, things will happen as a natural progression of their interaction. It will not be necessary to constantly repeat instructions or force a particular behavior or submission to occur.

 

An Egalitarian submissive understands the concept of respect and she adores her Master and submits sweetly, with little instruction. The desires instilled by His knowledge, skills, and emotional connection, let her embrace submission gratefully and lovingly and her Master's pleasure arises from her willing and enthusiastic submission.

Both partners "get it", and very little, "training" is required. Creative and enthusiastic initiatives are an integral part of the relationship and communication or a short lesson is all that is needed to assure a proper response as both partners intuitively know what the other needs during and after interaction.

 

Egalitarian partners usually do not engage in heavy S&M activities and any pain that is given and received is a form of sensual stimulation and these partners can form the most intimate relationships and often enjoy many years together. The fact that these things come forth naturally and without the need for orders or rules is affirmation and a source of pride, satisfaction and loving. Usually the egalitarian, D/s relationship is not readily apparent to their "vanilla" peers as egalitarian partners can subtly integrate the concepts and interactions of D/s into real life and do not need many "rules" like the Authoritarian or Democratic types.

 

Unfortunately I cannot credit it as Author is Unknown. If anyone knows who - let me know please so I can give credit where it is due.


1/8/2011 10:21:14 PM

Workshops 2010/11:

 

Bootblacking 101

by McG

Saturday, March 26, 2011

Toronto, Ontario 

 

I'm Ok, Your OK - Conflict Resolution & Empowered Sharing

for Power Exchange Relationships

by Sara Sloane

Saturday, March 5, 2011

 

Leather Care

by McG

Saturday, Feburary 19, 2011

 
MAsT: Kitchener-Waterloo 

Nov.  29  -  Contracts & Negotiation
Nov.  14  -  Knifeplay, from sensation play to blood sports
Oct.  17  -  Canes
Sept. 26  -  D/s M/s Transition

More Service Please (MSP) Workshop Series:

Nov. 28 - Leathercare/Bootblacking

Nov 14 - Selfcare & Aftercare

Oct 17 - Sevice Resume (Part 2)
Sept 26 - Service Resume (Part 1)

The Empowered Submissive Workshop:

The 10 Commandments of Healthy Sexual Submission
by Shahrazad
October 27, 2010


Service Development:
Making Yourself Ready to be Useful
by Laura Antouniou
August 2, 2010

  
TNG: Protocols and Rituals
by trixie_in_pink
May 28, 2010

 

Events:

 

Toronto Sexapalooza Community (Dungeon)

Friday, February 25, 2011 - Sunday, February 27, 2011

Volunteered 8 1/2 hours of my time in the Dungeon

 

Reading List: 

  

Memoirs Of A Geisha

by Aurthor Golden

 
SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude, principles, skills and tools

by a grateful slave with Guy Baldwin, M.S. 

 

The Story of O

by Pauline Reage

 

The Loving Dominant

by John and Libby Warren 

SM101: A Realistic Introduction

by Jay Wiseman

 

The Art of Sensual Massage

by Marc Salnicki 

Massage: The Healing Power of Touch

by Karen Smith

Blow Him Away: How To Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex

by Marcel Michaels


1/8/2011 10:17:59 PM

So, why the nick sensualove?

 

Every so often, i am asked why i chose "sensual_love" as my nickname?

 

Here is a bit of an explanation.

 

For clarification, the term "sensual" in my nick has nothing to do with the lighter aspect of BDSM, as an alternative to pain or low pain tolerance at all.

 

my name has everything to do with my persona as being sensual in many forms. Spiritually enhanced by being sensual by energy applied to most aspects of my BDSM life (submission, service, sexuality and D/s).

 

Plus, i think it sounds good :D

 

So in that spirit,

 

i chose my name as it should be sensual_love


11/13/2010 9:01:41 PM

Simply The Reason: Insite to bottom power

 

“We bottom in order to go to places within ourselves and with our partners that we cannot get to without a top. To explore these spaces, we need someone to push us over the edge in the right ways, and to keep us safe while we are out there flying.

 

The games we play have the power to bypass our customary psychological defences, giving us access to amazing experiences and awarenesses. For emotional safety, we establish ways to take care of each other while we are defenceless.

 

Bottom power comes from the gut level realization that you deserve respect for your vulnerability, and care and support from those who take you down. And thus get to ride along with you on your journey.”

 

The Bottoming Book, Hardy and Easton.


11/13/2010 8:31:52 PM

Quotes i Like

 

"Appearances are important to me... so is personality. i want a man who see's the whole package, not just one part of it."

 

"Unless we replace yesterday's feelings with today's experiences, we will remain bound by the past when we could be free in the present."

 

“When it comes to fear, the best way out is in."

 

"No matter your sexual fantasy, true love is the ultimate fantasy."

 

"Its not just about the pain its about the way it releases your soul."

 


9/10/2010 11:41:39 AM



Bases on a recent bdsm quiz, i scored the following: 

You Scored as Submissive:

It feels good to serve. A lack of control in the bedroom can be fun and relaxing. Being with a dominant person wouldn't be a bad idea. 

Submissive                        100%
Masochist                           86%

Experimental                 86%
Exibitionist / Voyuer       71%
Bondage                      61%
Degradation Lover         64%
Switch                        43%
Sadist                         29%
Vanilla                         21%
Dominant                     14%

i'm satisfied with all the results over 60% however, some of the results (Switch 43%, Sadist 29%, Dominant 14%) do not reflect me at all.

Masochist 86% - in my own opinion, is too high a score for me at this stage of my journey but i do love play! ~grinz~

Of course this is not a scientifically sound test, and therefore the results should not be accepted as fact. i just found it entertaining.

Link to the quizz http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/Sex/poeticthinker/do-you-have-an-inclination-for-bdsm/



Have fun,

sensualove


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