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I was on the phone with a friend a few weeks ago and she said something that really stuck with me. We were talking about dating and she said,"We have big personalities and you have to find s guy who can absorb it with out getting lost." That sums it up. My ideal person does not sweat the small stuff but speaks up when it's important to him.
I was listening to the radio this morning and the question of the day was Are men intimidated by women? Some history: the host of the show kept hearing from successful, strong women who said they thought men were intimidated by their education, pay check, motivation etc. His point was, no the men were not intimidated but the women interpreted the behavior as intimidated. He said a real man will be supportive of his woman but women need to learn how to treat a man. The men called in and said that women need to learn how to treat a man. Many of them said something about having to tell their partners "I'm not your employee" or "I'm not one of the kids." It's not about money or power but respect. The women were executives or bosses at work and carried the attitude home to the husband.
As a single Gal, this hit home. I'm relatively successful, not rich but I live a comfortable life. I'm looking for a MAN who will is a man. I want one who will take care of me and provide for me not because I can't but because he CAN. It's my modern take on the cave man outlook. I want a man who can kill stuff. :) If we are sleeping and some one breaks in, I want you to get the gun and shoot them. Walking down the street and about to get mugged? Step in front of me so I don't get hurt. Kill the spiders. Take out the trash. Cut the lawn. Submissive does not mean doormat. If there is a mouse in the house I don't want you to be up on the chair wailing like a girl. Submissive is not equal to pushover. In my ideal relationship the D/s dynamic will look like devotion to outsiders and only we will know the depth.
Are you a man or a mouse? Men, step up. Turkeys keep flapping.
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