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Taken, not interested in anything but online conversation.


No cybersex, no chat programs, no phone, and I'm not interested in meeting.

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1/9/2012 9:20:25 AM

Single and planning to stay that way for the foreseeable future, not interested in entertaining any offers or "who knows what might happen" friendships. Purely platonic, zero chance of getting laid, that is the only thing I'm offering. Seriously, if you have to pretend friendship with someone while you wait for your "chance" you never HAD a chance, you're just a tool who doesn't understand what friendship is.


11/25/2011 12:15:28 PM

I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling all that I am capable of doing but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding

~Anais Nin

 


9/7/2011 11:39:05 PM

I occasionally have the impulse to randomly message strangers and apologetically inform them that we wouldn't be compatible, just to save them the trouble of being interested. Its usually a snarky impulse when encountering profiles that make me laugh, but every so often its a "wow this person seems kind of awesome, shame it could never work out"

On a vanilla site I would probably do it, just for the off chance that they end up having potential to be an online penpal or occasional chat friend... not so sure it'd be a wise impulse to follow as some of the Dom types here get pretty angry at rejection...

Still, the impulse. 

Hmm.

Maybe I'm just feeling puckish.


3/30/2009 7:12:04 PM
Every site that you go on, especially anything that considers itself geared toward 'dating site' they warn you over and over to be aware of the red flags that might mean the person you are talking to is a scam artist. Nigeria, Ghana, anywhere South Africa are suspect by default of the area being so rife with 'love scammers' that there's even a special code for it. 419.

One of the early warning signs is that the scammer will insist on going to IM immediately. Of course, there is some self service in warning people not to do that, as otherwise the site is just a springboard for moving on to IM... However, there is still truth in it. The scammer wants to talk to you in IM where they can establish a more intimate seeming connection, keep you dazed and confused so that you don't see the insanity in a complete internet stranger claiming to be IN love with you in under 6 hours of conversation.

Everyone is at least vaguely aware of these things, yet the majority of the people I talk to on here try to demand I give them an IM immediately... and I've been told a number of times that my preference for staying on site makes me a fake. I'm a waste of their time, etc...

Of course, to me those people are no loss... anyone who considers it a waste of time to take the TIME to get to know someone, isn't worth my time. Heh.

Also... I check my messages on the site at least once a day, often every couple of hours. I'm online a lot, because I write, but when I'm writing I don't turn on any IM programs. With email, you can respond when you have a few minutes. With IM people expect an immediate response.

I would consider it rude and disrespectful to ignore somoen on IM, even if its because I consider my Writing my most important priority while I am at the computer... So I don't turn on IM unless I'm not actively writing, or am taking a break for a while and have a while to spare for just chatting with people.

This makes perfect sense to me, but apparently its offensive.

What I don't get is why they get so damn ANGRY at me, even when I explain my reasons... I offer an alternative, one that will get them more frequent and timely responses, but its not acceptable.

If I were at work at a "real" job and unable to access any IM programs... would it still be unacceptable to communicate through email?

Heh... Ah well, I suppose we default to the idea that they're no loss if they can't deal with it?

3/23/2009 5:08:42 PM
How did you know that you were straight, before you were ever with a woman?  How did you know you were bi before you had a sexual experience with another man? How did you know that you would like sex at all before you tried it?  Did you fall into this lifestyle, or did you seek it out because something about it interested you?

Have you ever fantasized about something or someone you haven't done yet, yet been absolutely certain that you would enjoy it?  Been aroused at just the thought of that thing or person?

I have a preference for Dominant men, or men with dominant personalities.  I've never had a relationship that fell within the realm of BDSM but I do know what excites me when I hear stories, watch, or read about it.  I've been to a number of play parties and had some minor experiences, even though they weren't sexual.

I don't have to have had a Dom to know that I prefer relationships where my partner is the more in control, the more aggressive one... Or to know that I find more assertive, confident, aggressive, Dominant Alpha Male type personalities attractive and that I am turned off by men who are submissive in the way of wanting me to take control in things.  (I can be friends with sub men, but I lose any attraction to them the moment they ask me to satisfy those needs for them.)

I have no desire whatsoever to take control over another person, thus I know that I am neither Domme nor Switch.  My desires are to please my partner, and I get the most pleasure out of situations where I know I am doing things to make the people I care for happy.

I have always enjoyed a little bit of pain, I knew even before I ever had sex that I would enjoy it better if it was somewhat rough, wild, intense... My first sexual experience was a disappointment.  It felt good, I liked the guy, he was very experienced and did his best but couldn't get me to orgasm.  He was too gentle, and when I confessed that was the problem, he got angry.  I still have that issue most of the time, I can only truly enjoy loving, tender, lovemaking type sex if I am in that specific kind of mindset.

I've played a little, dabbled in things, had a few partners who could be convinced to play more rough, and it has always been far more satisfying.  Even if its just a bit of hair pulling done in the right way, a bite in the right place, a nipple tweak or pinch at the right moment... even better the occasional word of command, the sharp order, or my partner simply being assertive... aggressive.. taking control.  Even if, in the past, I have had to perhaps taunt and tease some of them to get them to the point of being willing to stop worrying about hurting me and just Take what they need.

How much better that will be, once I have a partner that I don't have to manipulate or taunt into that sort of mindset... that I don't have to beg to take control.. that I don't have to remind over and over "I'm not breakable, be as rough as you want"... How much more intense and delicious that will be...

I don't need to have already Had a Dom to know what I crave.

Certainly, there are specific experiences I haven't had, things I haven't tried, things I don't have any way yet of knowing whether I will enjoy them or not...  I'm aware of that, and the fact that my tastes will change as I experience new things... Which is why I say in my profile that its the Dom himself (or Domme herself, though as I mostly prefer men its less likely) that is more important than any specific type of relationship.

I can say, as to that, where my preferences are.  I prefer men that are at least my height, the taller the better.  Within a decade or so of my age, though I don't automatically discount the potential of someone who is younger or older than that.  I'm not a small girl (not overly large, everything is HWP) so I'm most comfortable with men who are somewhat bigger built.  Dominant is a given, of course... Though my not being treated with love and respect is an instant turn off and will cause me to walk away without regret.  I've been in abusive relationships, I have no interest in going there again.

This... got off track.  My original intent was just to explain why and how I know that I am submissive and that I would like to find a Dom, even though I've never had one before.

3/21/2009 3:20:15 PM
Ever talked to someone who, no matter how clearly or simply you explained yourself, you simply could not communicate on a level that they could understand? Its incredibly confusing and slightly frustrating, especially when you know that you are both speaking clearly... But most of what this guy said it seemed like he was talking to someone else, referencing things I never wrote and though he swore I did say those things, my not being able to find anywhere in my messages where I spoke the words he is quoting. It almost makes me wonder if there was some sort of glitch in CM itself, because it honestly seemed like he was responding to someone else's messages but they were showing up in my box instead. Luckily, we've agreed to just stop trying, so now my head can stop turning itself inside out trying to understand what the hell is going on.

3/11/2009 12:40:32 PM
I'm going to have to give up on being irritated over this topic, but that hasn't happened yet so one more rant and hopefully this time it'll actually be noticed.

This site has a space that lists the 'orientation' of each person on here.  Dominant, Switch, submissive, slave.  If you are looking for a Domme, do not contact a submissive.  She would be listed as Switch or Domme if she were inclined in that direction.  And if you are looking for a slave, do not contact a submissive, if she were willing to go to those extremes she would list herself as a slave.  

Seriously.  Would you contact a Dom and ask them to submit themselves to you even though they show no inclination toward being a switch or anything else? 

Its ridiculous, and I have a hard time keeping myself from thinking that it shows sloppiness or laziness.  The field is Right There for you to read, as is the info each person puts in their profile.  Take the extra few seconds to do more than stare at pictures and make sure you aren't making yourself look foolish.

3/4/2009 5:56:00 PM
I am fully and officially moved out of the Ex's place.  No more having to put up with parannoia and psychotic behavior, such a relief.  Now I can finally start to find a more sane balance to my life and maybe eventually get things sorted out enough to consider romance/etc again.

2/26/2009 7:23:42 PM
This started out as an email rant,
I decided to post it here instead.




Sex is irrelevant (I like it but don't need it) and I've long since decided that I'm not the husband and family sort, especially since I don't like or want children.  The submissive thing is a craving, but not that I'll be heartbroken if I never find someone thats right for me to fulfill that craving.  It is not something that drives me, just a curiosity that I'd like to explore if the right opportunity comes along.

I doubt that will ever happen though... Its possible that this is a phenomena exclusive to CM, since I have had no trouble or harassment over at .. but every Dom I've spoken to since joining the site has been pushy, inappropriately aggressive, and downright predatory.  If I do decide to start actively looking and considering anyone from the site, I'm considering stating an age range of between 24 and 47 or so... Almost every over 50yr old Dom I've spoken to on this site has been offensively rude and arrogant, disproportionately angry at my polite refusals... and I am always polite, at first. I only get blunt once it becomes clear that they've refused to respect my feelings and intend to pursue something anyway. Then they cross into the realm of creepy, and on one or two memorable occasions behavior that borders on stalking.  Its the reason for my policy against giving out my IM or any contact info. If someone won't talk to me on the site then I've no interest in talking to them at all.

Yes, I'm picky, I have the right to be.  If someone isn't willing to take the time that *I* need in order to get to know them well enough to become comfortable, to earn my trust and faith in them, then the risk of even meeting them offline is more than I am willing to take.  I have friends online that I've talked to for years, in one case over a decade, without meeting in person... Some think this makes me a waste of time as they get no guarantee that they'll ever get anything out of it, and I'm okay with that.  The people that don't want to waste their time getting to know me are people that I consider no loss.  Every day you meet and talk to people who may never end up in your bed, does that make them less relevant?  If you say yes, then I pity you.

Maybe all of this makes me "Fake" as I've been accused on this site, but frankly...  I worry about this perception against girls who want to take their time before making any serious decisions, before making commitments... Are there really girls out there, on this site, that would dive in head first without taking that time?  I worry for them, as they're more likely to become the horror stories you read about.  Me? I'll never be one of those girls, the dive in head first or the horror story.

I have a brain, I use it, I think, I act with caution and wisdom.  If that makes me a fake?  Fine.  Like I said, all of this is mostly just a curiosity, something that I can live without if I never happen to find the right kind of Dom to show me the way.

12/15/2008 1:59:58 AM
WTF is this thing where people start an email acting as if we already know each other and just fell out of contact for a while... Are there people that are actually dumb enough to fall for that?  Seriously, fucking. moron.  Trying to convince me that we used to talk and I wanted to go visit you?  Uh, no.   I assure you, it is rare for me to agree to something like that, so much so that I can count the number of times it has happened on ONE hand.  If it were true, I would remember.  You are a pathetic, lying sack of shit... and I hope that there are no girls on here stupid enough to fall for that trick.

12/10/2008 10:57:04 AM
Right now my world is made of Strep Throat and NyQuil... so its unlikely I'll be spending much time online for the next week or so.

11/27/2008 11:08:41 PM
You know, I find it both disappointing and enlightening the number of people who stopped msg'ing once I said I wasn't going to be looking for sex anytime within the currently foreseeable future.  Most of them said they were interested in continuing conversation and being friends, but only a small handful actually stuck around.

I find that especially odd in the ones that were long distance to begin with, you would think that they would realize that continuing conversation on a purely friend basis would be more successful than disappearing until I might change my mind.

The expectations that some people on this site seem to have... well, it makes me glad that I'm paranoid and picky, they all seem to want a girl to dive into something without taking time to get comfortable or make sure she's safe in doing so.  That, if you ask me, is flat out insane.

I would no more dive into a relationship with someone from here, especially one that involved me having to move to their city/state, than I would play Russian Roulette.  If that makes me a Fake, because I want to know how deep the water is and whether I'll survive the jump... well hell, get me a tshirt made and I'll wear it proudly.  Be sure to spell fake right, its s-a-n-e.


11/17/2008 4:28:04 AM
The home-life drama has gotten to the point that my only thought on men is the following.  "Can't live with 'em, can't stab 'em while they sleep."

In other news... My tattoo obsession caused some minor drama over the weekend, apparently.  I complimented a guy's tattoos and his wife got all pissy.  There is a perverse imp within my brain that immediately made me want to seduce the guy just to show her that insecurity gets you nowhere.  I mean seriously, she can't even handle a stranger making a comment in passing?  The way she reacted you'd think I had said "Nice tattoo, wanna fuck?"

Ah well, maybe if I run into the guy again I will say exactly that.

11/6/2008 11:11:01 AM
I have too much drama and stress in my life right now to deal with anyone who is too stupid to read where it clearly says FRIENDS ONLY in profile, "Actively Seeking", and multiple journal entries.

I may be "Hiding" the profile, or just shutting it down altogether and giving those few people I'd still like to talk to my email address... but possibly not as I do enjoy some of the conversations and have made a few friends.

We'll see.

11/5/2008 11:14:04 AM
Once again, as the profile says, I am *ONLY* seeking Friendship at this time.  If we've already been chatting and I get distant, its nothing personal I just have a lot of... stuff to deal with.

To be more specific.  I am working on getting myself out of a bad situation living with my psycho ex boyfriend who is attempting to continue his abusive behaviors which led to the breakup in the first place.

First I have to get my 2 Basset Hounds to a new home where they will be safe, because he has threatened several times to hurt or kill them to punish me... and it would not be the first time he has done this.  To punish me for going out somewhere that he isn't welcome, he fed several of my Pet rats to his snakes.

No, this was not a Dom relationship... though he claimed to be Dominant he's rather whiny and pathetic and resorts to abuse as a way of asserting himself (when he's not crying about how people don't like him).

11/2/2008 2:31:57 PM
If you are uncomfortable around gay, different colored, or slightly crazy people... don't bother messaging me.  I'm not into small minded bigots, I love my gay friends, I AM Bisexual, I support Gay Marriage (Shit, if they teach religion in schools they can teach about gay marriage and open mindedness as well), I support Gay Rights, I support diversity, tolerance, and an open minded approach to life in general.

I'm also against animal cruelty, child abuse of ANY form, vegetables, domestic abuse, homophobia, obesity, health foods, social expectations, organized religion, espeially the Mormon church of which I was once a member, politics, political correctness, Weird Al, and anyone who thinks they have the right to dictate to me what I can do with my own damn body.

I am deliberately child FREE (not child-less) and intend to stay that way; if it comes to it I am pro CHOICE. 

I also have no interest in being friends much less anything else with anyone who is rude or cruel to the mentally ill, whether its the weird bi-polar guy at work who has trouble dealing with stressful situations or the homeless lady who has conversations with herself on the park bench.

10/25/2008 10:25:22 PM
If all you can talk about is sex, I'm not going to respond to your messages.

10/24/2008 3:45:52 PM
Too much drama in my life right now, and I'm positively sick to death at the idea of sex.


For the forseeable and immediate present and future, I am *only* looking to make friends.  


Maybe when I get my life straightened out, things will go back to normal again but right now I'm not even sure if my head is on right, so I'm going to be smart and not make any Serious and Important decisions... and avoid anything resembling relationships for a while.


FRIENDSHIP ONLY.  If thats not okay, then move along please.  Maybe in a month or two or twelve I'll feel better about things but right now is just not the time.

10/24/2008 4:43:32 AM
Had a traumatic day dealing with the possibly psychotic ex boyfriend... may not be online much over the weekend, hopefully moving out sooner rather than later.

10/22/2008 10:58:36 PM
To those impatient types who would rush me into meeting you offline... 

If its not worth waiting for?  Its not worth having anyway.

10/22/2008 6:04:11 PM
Ever triee typing with a foot long ball pytoh wrappe aroun onw hand? vy difficult, but is mine!!!

10/21/2008 2:30:47 PM
OH OH OH!  I've been informed that as I've been on the site for a few weeks now and not yet found a Dom... I must be a worthless and useless sub!  My "claims" of looking for Friendship first and taking my time, being in no hurry to dive into a Dom relationship? Are apparently just claims to cover my sadly wounded pride because nobody wants me...  I'm glad that someone told me this, because otherwise I'd have continued believing that I'm enjoying chatting with people on the site, making friends, and talking to people of various interests and lifestyles...


Yes, I do *eventually* plan to find a Dom, but I really am in no hurry.  If it takes a month or a year, makes no difference to me so long as its the RIGHT One.

10/19/2008 5:05:39 AM
After browzing several profiles and such, I feel compelled to explain something that, when I run across it, makes it likely I won't contact the person.

A Woman (womAn) is one female
Women (womEn) are multiple females

If you are looking to build a harem, you want women.  If you are looking for one female, you want a woman.

So if your profile says you want to find a women to serve and obey you, I will giggle and move onward, as will many others.

Also, on the topic of dissapointing mistakes in basic grammar.  "And then" is referencing something that happens after something that came before.  "Than" is for comparisons.  Better than, different than... 

You would address a gift as being "to" someone, "Too" means also.

10/18/2008 4:37:11 PM
Dear (name omitted to protect the guilty) I have no fears of getting to be *your* age and still being alone, searching a site like this for some foolish young hopeful... I thought I'd already blocked you, but ah well... Your final msg calling me a smart assed bitch for rejecting you, really gave me the giggle I needed to start my night out with friends. Thank you!

10/18/2008 4:09:24 PM
May have said this already but it bears repeating based the attitude of a "dom" I just blocked. 

I do not care if you have been at this longer than I've been alive.  I was raised (by my grandparents) on the belief that respect is given to those who earn it, nobody gets it by default. 

Your decades of experience
do not Entitle you to privelidges
involving my body. 


I will not kneel and bow and scrape and beg to orally service a complete stranger, I am not the whore that you so desperately need to help you pull your head out of your ass.

Good luck finding some poor hapless inexperienced sub foolish enough to throw herself into your lot without thinking first. I pity her.

10/18/2008 1:37:05 PM
I'm the kind of girl who sometimes finishes the last page of a good book and immediately turns back to the beginning to start over again. If it was worth reading the first time, its worth doing twice...

The first time, you are in a rush, you want to know the details, the grit, the story, you want to move forward to the next exciting thing, and the next after that... You rush through the experience because you can't wait to know how it ends...

On the second run, you take your time. You already know the big things, now you're looking for the little quirks and details you missed the first time. Its like becoming better acquainted with a familiar friend... Each page is mingled rediscovery and new adventure you hadn't captured in your first run... Its an experience to take slowly, to be savored...

I suppose, as with the obvious not-quite-hidden metaphor, it explains a bit about my approach to certain things in life. Anything worth doing once is worth doing at least twice (ever heard the Tony C and the Truth song Little Bit More? look it up on myspace, you'll understand then).


10/18/2008 2:31:50 AM
WTF? How is it possible to be "Too unique?"

10/16/2008 10:25:02 AM
Updated Profile before going to bed, already got one response saying that it is far too "strong" for a submissive, ordering me to be less demanding.  Um... no?

10/16/2008 1:08:01 AM
BTW because it was asked earlier, I'm not angry when I write these posts... More often than not, I'm laughing my ass off :)  I'll write more positive posts when I have something to say that is relevant to the site... Unless y'all really want to hear about how my pet rat was making faces at me today...

10/15/2008 9:18:01 PM
Wow.  Some idiot "dom" just told me that I'm a waste of a woman because when he asked me what I was wearing I told him it was jeans and a tshirt.  Wow...  some people here just... have no class whatsoever, how pathetic.

10/15/2008 8:26:18 PM
Yes, I have IM. No, I don't give it out. I've had some really horrible experiences with going directly to IM. So if you aren't willing to use the email on the site so that we can get to know each other, then I wish you luck in your search.

10/14/2008 3:25:57 PM
Topic of the day, limits, hard limits, and Dom's who email saying they will "allow" me to have some of the, but that I'll "just have to get over" others. What?

Sorry, but thats not how it works for me. I have no interest in anyone who is going to try to FORCE me to do things that I don't want. Its one thing, if I'm involved with someone and they want me to try once to see if I might change my mind...

I've also gotten a few "What do you *think* your limits are?" emails, to which I respond that I *know* my hard limits.

For the curious... These are non negotiable, absolute I will get up out of bed and walk away completely HARD Limits. No anal, no ass play of any sort, no animals, no kids, no scat, no watersports, no impregnation. Or putting it simply? None of the "Gross" or non-consent type things (plus my not wanting to have children).

If you think you can "allow" me to refuse to do any of those things, then you can save us both some wasted time by just not messaging me in the first place.

Buh-bye!

10/13/2008 1:07:04 AM
Two things I hate.

Trying to find the balance between showing interest in a person and seeing where things might go beyond frinedship... and being afraid of seeming clingy or annoying or pestering them because I'm not sure if they realize that I'm interested.  It turns into such a game, far too complicated, why can't it go back to "Hey, I like you, do you like me? Check Yes or No please."

Also.  Trying to be polite about letting someone know that I enjoy talking to them and would like to be friends but nothing more, without being passive/aggressive or accidentally letting them think I'm interested when I'm not.

Both would be easier if people could just be up front and honest about things.  If you aren't interested, or if you just want to be friends, or if you never want to hear from someone again... say so.  Don't be "kind" and let them think they have a chance when you already know they don't.

As for me, specifically...  I'm a bit oblivious to the subtle "avoid and fade away" tactic.  If I think that I have a chance then I'll keep poking from time to time and waiting for a clear (check Yes or No) answer.

People need to be blunt, forget about hurt feelings... Telling someone to fuck off because you don't want them is a lot nicer than letting them linger and pine and hope that you'll find time for them again.

Just sayin'.  Its always been a huge pet peeve, I've known a lot of guys who tried to be "nice" by letting girls down easy and couldn't understand why she wouldn't go away... had to explain to them that by not telling her outright that they weren't interested, they were letting her think they were...

Ugh.

10/11/2008 8:45:33 PM
If you ask a question and I tell you that its not something that I want to talk about, or am not willing to discuss, and you keep pushing?  Yes, I will tell you its none of your fucking business.  If you continue to push past that point, you will be blocked.

How hard is it to understand?

10/11/2008 4:13:16 PM
Every new Dom I talk to describes himself as "Strict, but Fair." 

What does that even mean?  Is there some depth of meaning behind that and I'm just too newb to get still?

They give me that description as if it explains everything and I'm just thinking "Okay... and?" waiting for the rest, then have no idea what to think whey thats all they'll give me.

10/10/2008 1:11:18 AM
You're standing on my imaginary friend!

10/9/2008 11:55:23 AM
I don't know enough to know what makes a person "real" or "fake" around here, but I'll tell you what I have met so far.

A lot of jackasses, assholes, and bastards, many of whom were excessively rude, offensive, and immature. I cannot accept that those are traits of a "real" or good Dom.

A lot of people who claimed to have read my profile, then immediately started asking questions that, if they'd actually read the words, they'd know the answers to. Seriously, people, it says even in the short version, that I am Submissive... Why do you ask whether I am or not?

I've lost count of the people who msg'd me saying that I was wise to want to take my time, advising me not to settle, then getting angry because I wouldn't immediately agree to meet them, or refused to follow orders they tried to give me out of nowhere. Really "So how was your day, mine was great, shove a vibrator into your pussy and leave it on until I email you telling you to stop again." WTF?

That deserves its own paragraph, actually. It may be that there are some subs who enjoy random strangers giving them orders with no segue, but I'm not one of them. If you start trying to give me orders out of nowhere, chances are I'll simply stop responding. Same if you keep trying to tell me what I feel and think. Things like that would be awesome within an established relationship, but from a stranger? Its fuckin' creepy!

A number of messages have been from people commenting on my being submissive, then immediatly trying to talk me into playing Domme for them. Apparently there's something about my pictures that makes them think that I'm in denial about what turns me on (How the hell does that work?). Or they argue with me about my user name, saying that succubus can't be a name for a sub, and somehow that makes me fake??

Also, I've lost count of the ones that want IM/Phone/Webcam/Mic. I don't have a mic or a webcam, I may get those at some point. I tell them "I prefer to msg through the site for a bit before moving further" they say thats great, then in their next message again try demanding some other form of contact. I tell them again that I'd like to continue using the site, they agree, then demand that I give them my IM... What?

The worst so far have been the ones that get angry and vicious when I politely tell them that I'm not interested. I'm sorry if it hurts your ego to have a girl say no, but being mean isn't going to change her mind!

I've gotten a lot of couples telling me to move in with them, then getting pissy when I say no thank you.

People telling me that what I really want is to be their slave, telling me that they're going to have me and I have no choice in the matter...

I could come up with dozens of examples, but... Too much dwelling on the negative.

Don't get me wrong, I have met several fantastic people, some that I'd love to have friends... A few that I'd love to have as far more than just friends... a couple that I'd do quite a bit for just to try and prove that I'm worthy for them to consider taking as their own...

But those are far outnumbered by the other type, and I've lost a few of those options because of my caution.

Ah well, its an ongoing process.. figuring out how things work as well as trying to make friends who might develop into more. Bit frustrating though.


10/8/2008 10:14:11 PM
FREEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!

Yes, I do appear to finally be single again, and this time I'm going to stay that way until I find the kind of thing I'm looking for...  Aka, not going to settle for someone who seems nice and sweet, and holding out for something interesting.  No more boring, tame, lame, vanilla relationships please!

Which means that I'm even MORE determined to take my time about getting involved in something serious... though I may be more willing to consider play.

Still NOT rushing, thankyouverymuch.



10/6/2008 6:59:46 PM
*checks profile*  Yup, says I'm submissive... so why the hell do I keep getting messages from other subs wanting me to dominate them?  If I was interested or willing don't you think I'd list as switch? 

10/5/2008 3:22:00 AM
Here's my newest momentary curiosity...  People getting angry because I won't immediately volunter my name or personal info in response to the first message.

I will give my name and some basic info once we've talked a little, but really... This is still the internet, where they tell you over and over to not do that sort of thing... Why would anyone be offended by my caution and care for my own self and safety?

Obviously we wouldn't suit anyway, if they believe that's me having a bad attitude, so I consider it no loss whatsoever... but really?  Why?

10/3/2008 7:33:50 AM
I'll tell you a secret... I do know some of the things that I'm into, but they're... well I sort of skipped the basics, went straight to things like mild breathplay, knifeplay, fireplay, violet wands... I'm a bit of a masochist.

But its the mindgames that get me the most...  I suspect my perfect Dom (or Domme) would be a delicious blend of Hannibal Lectre, Sebastian from Cruel Intentions, the Vicomte de Valmont from Dangerous Liasons, Edmond from the count of Monte Cristo, and the ever charming Ted Bundy.  I'd love to mix in a bit of American Psycho's Patrick Bateman but... compelling as I find socipaths, it may not be the smartest idea...

10/2/2008 3:41:46 PM
I may not always have a great deal of common sense, but I do have a healthy (in my opinion) bit of paranoia going on, so that substitutes nicely when common sense fails.

Common sense might say "Some guy you just met online is offering to drive you around the city sight seeing, which is a nice gesture but probably not the best plan to agree to with a complete stranger"

but if that fails then paranoia speaks up and says "AAAAA he's going to bury your body in the desert! You might even be dead first!"

10/1/2008 7:37:06 PM
That which yields...
Is not always weak.
(points if you know the reference). 

Just because I'm a sub and just because You are a Dom, doesn't mean I have to put up with bullshit and rude behavior.  Unless we have agreed to be in a D/s relationship, you have no say over me, no right to command me, and no control. 

I was raised by my grandparents, taught that Respect is *earned*, not given by default.  The fact that You are a Dom and are in my inbox behaving like a petulant child does not earn my respect, it paints your entire generation with your colors. 

I don't care if You have been a Dom for umpteen years, most of my life, or since the dawn of time.  All that means to me is that by Now?  You should know how to behave, how to treat a girl, and how NOT to speak to a sub that you don't own

The Dom's who earn my respect, I would crawl on my knees through broken glass, if that was what They required of me.  But for a petulant, argumentative, rude, arrogant ASS who behaves like a child? 

Yes, for You, I am a foul mouthed skunk of a pretender, or whatever the stupidity was that you typed.  Go suck on on the business end of an exhaust pipe, if You are an example of what a Dom is like, I'll happily stay a pretender until someone less offensive comes around. 

Some people outright disgust me.

10/1/2008 5:49:30 AM
Yes, thank you, I know what a Succubus is.  I've been fascinated by them for many years now, you don't need to cut and paste or send me the wiki links telling me what a succubus is.

Perhaps it is, traditionally, something you might consider an aggressive, dominant figure...

Now, for a moment, put that idea aside.  Consider the potential... the fantasy realized in owning a creature such as this.  A being which, even to its very essence, embodies sexuality, sensuality.  An insatiable, hungry creature which craves pleasure, satisfaction...

Now imagine being the one to tame that creature, the one to Master it... the way that it would serve its Master, living only to please, to satisfy...  Even once tamed, the creature lives for pleasure and satisfaction, but once Owned, it lives also for that which would please and satisfy its Master...

If you haven't enough imagination into you to comprehend the allure of such a fantasy realized, don't bother contacting me.

You are not the one who can tame me.

9/30/2008 5:36:54 PM
With me there's a fine line between Dominant and pushy... pushy is what you are if you try too hard before I've come to respect and know you... Dominant is what turns me on once I do respect and know and like you... pushy is a turn off.

I'm not looking for just any Dom who might be interested, I'm looking for the right Dom.  If you tell me to choose or make a commitment right away, my answer is going to be no even if I'm interested.

9/30/2008 3:05:58 AM
I realized something today... Part of what scares me away from the overbearing/overeager Dom's who want to rush into things without taking the time I feel that I need... 

They don't flirt.  Its like breathing for me, flirting, its a way to show interest, express attraction... its an exchange, wordplay, light hearted banter... without it everything is... boring. Dry. Bland. 

I don't expect or plan to make a choice immediately, not within the first couple of weeks if not months... I want to talk to various Dom's and Domme's, get to know them, become comfortable, see if there's potential.

Friendship before anything else can be possible.

I understand that some feel this makes me a risk they aren't willing to take, they are worried about wasting their time when they may not get anything out of it.  I understand if they want to pass me over because of that.

But I don't believe that conversation is ever a waste of time.

9/29/2008 5:56:23 AM
I'm not looking to become a slave, I'm just a submissive.  I'm not saying that down the line, once I have a little more experience, I won't be interested or willing to take things that extra step further... but right now the idea is a little scary to a girl who has NO experience in the lifestyle yet, and is looking to make the first steps.

Some of the offers sound delicious, and definately are worth considering when I am ready to take things to that level... I just know myself well enough to know that I'm not ready for yet.

There are things that still worry me a bit about just being a sub, giving myself to a Dom or Domme, learning the path that lies ahead of me... I Know that I'm not ready for absolute slavery or 24/7, not yet.  It appeals to me, but if I tried to go straight into that from the vanilla life, chances are I'd balk, I'd run away, and I'd ruin the experience both for You and for myself...

Please don't take it personally if I reject your offer...

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chevygurlie86
 
 Age: 33
 Uk, United Kingdom