1/14/2018 6:57:48 AM: Slavery à la Carte? It's amusing how many men claim that they want to be 'true' slaves-- actual property-- and then proceed to describe exactly what that slavery needs to look like. If you want to truly be a slave, then the shape that slavery takes really isn't your call. Just admit that you have a fetish to be treated a certain way and be done with it -- but stop pretending it's 'slavery' if it comes with a list of expectations. (I'm not implying a slave shouldn't be able to choose an owner who's right for them... But the actual service itself should come without a list of demands as long as my arm).

11/17/2017 6:13:21 AM: What Does it Mean to be a Domme? [or Domina, or Mistress, etc.] ~Being a Domme means I am the leader.  In charge.  It means I call the shots.  It means I take responsibility for my sub while s/he is in my care.  It means I can relax into who I really am and encourage my sub to do the same.   ~It does NOT mean that I have to -Be angry all the time-Use a strap-on, whip, or handcuffs-Be a lesbian, bi-sexual, heterosexual, or asexual-Wear leather, lace, thongs, latex, high heels or any other damn thing I don’t feel like wearing.-Avoid blowjobs or give blowjobs-Think all men are worthless worms -Have sex, love sex, hate sex, only like certain positions in sex-Want monogamy, polyamory, or to swing-Be emotionless, unfeeling, or cold ~I’m sure some of those will be true or will happen at one time or another…but they are not requirements or rules.  And for some women, being a Domme (or Mistress or Domina) might mean some of those things, or none of them. Because being a Domme means I can fully and joyfully embrace who I really am, what I really enjoy, who and how I really love.  No one gets to tell me that I’m not a Domme unless I do this or if I don’t do that. ~Being a Domme means I can express love and affection if that’s what I feel.  It means I can have what I want.  For me, it means that I care about my sub and like to enjoy non-D/s time together, too.  It means that being a Domme means different things to different women – and there should be only one SHOULD when it comes to how a Domme (or Dom) makes that role their own:  the sub’s safety and well-being. ~As a Domme, the single biggest responsibility and thrill is the absolute trust that a sub gives me when I bind him or take away his decisions.  To fail in that trust would be a betrayal of my sub and of myself.  That means that I research, I read, I try new ‘toys’ on myself first, I test, I train, and I make sure that I am worthy of the confidence I have in myself and in the trust my sub has in me. ~Ultimately, I want unconditional everything.  Trust. Obedience. Vulnerability. Emotion.  Certainly that takes time.  But in return, I will give my sub my absolute focus and pleasure and joy and appreciation.  I want that for both of us.~Ms Kay

9/29/2017 10:58:25 AM: Kiss My AssI dedicate this journal entry to ass worship, ass licking, ass loving.  That delicious feeling of having my sub defy all the rules he learned growing up - that it’s dirty, nasty, wrong – feeling him defy all that to worship my ass with his mouth, tongue, nose, face.   It’s so good.  It’s a feeling of decadence, of power, of pleasure. Mmmm. So yeah...kiss my ass ;-)~Ms Kay

7/31/2015 8:21:31 AM:    .    Small Moments  #10   .    I spent the weekend with my sub-in-training. I tied a rope around his balls and used it as a leash to pull him to me and ordered him to lick my pussy.  He’s an exceptional pussy licker…but I enjoy taunting him verbally and by tugging on the ball leash as his mouth works at me.He sucks, licks, feeds at my pussy.  He takes his time.  Bit by bit I forget the leash in my hand as the tension builds in me, as the suspense of orgasm builds in me.  Finally, I go over, and in my spasm, I clutch and yank at the leash…and my orgasm is made all the more pleasurable as I hear his cries of pain....And he never stops licking. ~Ms Kay

3/26/2015 4:38:32 PM: ....Yes.  The 'Pegged to Orgasm' story is a real story.  It really happened -- with someone I met on here, no less.  ~Ms Kay