Collarspace

Make me laugh so hard, I have to catch my breath.

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You

You are self-aware. You know you have a controlling nature and you accept that. Maybe youve even been to therapy for it. (Thats actually a plus.) Somewhere along the way, you caught yourself making a bad situation worse because you could, you caught yourself rejecting a good situation because you could, and you realized that it didnt really mean you were in control of it all. You realized you were being an ass, and so pause you stopped. (That parts important.) Perhaps this realization came with maturity orvia a moment of transcendental clarity. Perhaps there was tragedy and it humbled you. In any case, you accept the good that comes to you now. You let it flow, and amplify. Whether its a perfect avocado, or the woman youve been waiting for, you love and cherish every second of the good times.

When the bad times come, you recognize them for the test that are. You understand that they have little to do with what you deserve, beyond being an opportunity to demonstrate your resolve. You double-down. You work harder to stay focused and bring in all the good that you can to actively keep the balance.

Youve heard the saying, if its not easy, its not meant to be and thought it was the dumbest fucking thing youve ever heard. -Ever- (and you once heard someone say their favorite color was clear). Theres a fine line between letting go, and giving up. Not being one of those people who expects that life owes them something, you let go of whats bad, and never quit on whats good. In other words, you dont define good or bad by how hard you have to work for it.

When it comes to us, you make it easy, by letting it be easy.

I make it easy, because Im grateful for the gift that you are.

The self-awareness described above is the prerequisite, and now youre ready to take care of someone else.

If that someone else is me, youre so self-aware that youre even aware that some of your habits and motivations are- well - beyond your awareness. Youre always listening, so I can point it out in my tender way, with barely a whisper. You trust me to fill in the blanks, as I trust you. I trust you because youve never taken advantage. Youve never tried to skew my sense of reality to keep me looking to you for guidance, and youve even read up on the fact that this is something controlling types tend to do. You understand your tendancies. You know your triggers. I rarely have to call you out on them. Thats not the role we want for me.
Youre self-monitoring and consistent,so when you speak, I listen.
There will be the challenges that life will bring, but we will not bring unnecessary pain to each other, emotionally.
Physically, Im the outlet that you need when you crave dominance.You pin me down when you push inside me. You bruise me where no one can see. You crave perfect silence in the wake of your clear instructions, and I give it all to you.
I dont expect that many of you have read this far, and thats by design.
Its not a numbers game. I want few messages, and fewer dates. Ultimately, theres only one I want. The one who has worked so hard to become the man he is today. Your journey started a lifetime ago, and its led you right to me.

Me

I like day to day vanilla-ish with rules and hands-on punishment and being tied up. I like when you hit me because you can, too. I have limits. Tons of them, and I hope theyre things you have no interest in. Im on here to find someone I like, who is into bdsm. Im not on here to find someone who is into bdsm and then try to like them. Strangers who ask endless fetish questions creep me out. If your love life is defined by your need to p!ss on someone, Im not your girl. I dont like to feel like Im holding you back from what you truly desire. I pair best with a man whose desire to nurture is stronger than his desire to cause pain. Afterall, its for my own good. )