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Three things I wish to state up front. 1) I am not here looking to fulfill some masturbation fantasy or find someone to satisfy my kinks. I’m looking for a RELATIONSHIP. I do though remain open to the possibility of short term / temporary arrangements up to and until the right woman for LTR comes along. 2) For that right woman, I am willing to live 24/7/365 pure, absolute and PERMANENT chastity and orgasm denial. 3) The business I own and operate (and therefore me) is 100 percent relocatable. This means for the right person, I could and would be willing to relocate to you, relocate you to me, or relocate us both to wherever your heart desires. The simple truth is I’m just an inadequate male trying to live within my meager (sexual) means. I have a small, 4-inch penis and let’s be honest, no woman looking for an intimate, monogamous relationship in the vanilla world wants to be stuck with that. And who could blame them? Obviously, my options are limited, but at least I have recognized the reality of my shortcomings, and am moving forward in honest acceptance of them. The good news is, I have enough experience in this lifestyle to know I’m pretty good at those few things a small penis male like me can be good for. I believe I would make an excellent cuckold for the right size matters woman, and in fact finding that right size matters woman and moving towards the goal of a cuckold marriage or similar LTR is my number one reason for being here. I am also very well suited for serving those rare sadistic women who enjoy torturing and humiliating small penis males. Other than those two things just mentioned, I am not sure who else might have use for a small penis male, or what that use might be, but I remain open to other possibilities and try always to remain teachable and trainable. There are a few things though that I am very willing and believe I could be useful for, at least until the cuckolding woman of dreams comes along. • Any Dominant Woman or Couple who might need an extra servant, or a party favor for their next lifestyle event. • Dominant Women who do the "Clips4Sale" type thing and need a willing subject. I would be useful for any clips covering; cuckolding, SPH, forced-bi, CBT, ballbusting (I've always had a soft spot in my heart and between my legs for ballbusting women) and electro-torture. Regarding the latter I've recently acquired an extremely sinister and agonizing device for the electrical torture of the male genitals. • I am willing to offer quality single and respectably endowed Alpha males, who may find themselves between subs or otherwise in need, my oral skills. I do this not out of any desire to suck dick, but more out of respect and acknowledgement of my own inferior, beta male status. Other things to know about me? -- I am very obedient and hard working. -- I am a business owner, a home owner, and an all around stable, responsible and mature adult in my day-to-day life. -- I am fit and take care of myself. -- I am bi-obedient, a term I find more accurate than bi-curious. I will submit to Alpha males as duty and propriety require, but it's not something I actively seek out. Anything else, please feel free to ask.

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4/12/2018 7:21:22 AM
Been far, far too long since I?ve been tortured, seriously tortured by a Woman who knows, and loves what She?s doing. There?s just something about a genuinely sadistic Woman, and being the instrument through which she composes her exquisite opus of agony.

3/26/2018 2:59:49 AM
It seems to me that once a woman confines a male in chastity for any real length of time (I?d say two weeks or more, but maybe even as little as a week or ten days) the premise is established that she doesn?t really need his dick. That may be because she prefers his tongue anyway. Or toys. Or maybe because she has other men and their dicks available to her (cuckolding.) Or any combination of these. But bottom line, if she can live without his dick for any real length of time, then she can live without it period. Indefinitely. Forever. Which begs the question, then why let him out of chastity at all? If she doesn?t need his pleasure, his orgasms to have hers, then his pleasure, his orgasms are of no use to her, and he then doesn?t need them either.

2/17/2018 2:43:32 AM

I think it’s the hottest thing in the world. To be going down on a woman while confined in chastity, knowing that no matter how well I perform, that chastity cage is not coming off. Licking, sucking, worshipping a pussy I will never know the pleasure of entering. Forced to accept that no matter how many orgasms she has, or how intense those orgasms may be, the frustrating agony of blue balls will continue on unabated.

I suppose a lot of people would consider the dynamic of cuckolding as resting upon a double standard. She gets to play around all she wants, while he must remain faithful, even if he is not allowed ever to have sex with her.

Yes, there is a double standard. That’s kind of the point! That’s what makes it so special, so appealing. For me, not the double standard itself so much as, being with the type of woman who can be that controlling, callous, even cruel to the point she can completely enjoy a sex life that’s pure, hedonistic heaven, while at the same time seeing to it that mine is as a pure, abject, sexless hell.

It is the double standard. The contrast. And the sharper the contrast, the clearer the picture.


2/16/2018 9:28:45 AM
Talk about totally embarrassing, totally humiliating. I just bought quite literally the smallest chastity cage I could find; the smallest of the small metal ones made in China. Apparently even the smallest size the Chinese make, and I STILL don’t fill it up.
PS: I posted a photo for those curious, it's the last one of my 14 pics.

6/13/2017 5:28:04 AM

Periodically I’ll receive a message asking how can I possibly be serious about the idea of PERMANENT orgasm denial.  The answer is pretty simple really..

• What can I say? I’m a sucker for purity.  And the absolute and pure nature of such a commitment is (to me at least) extremely compelling.  I can think of no other black and white, tangible physical manifestation of an absolute and extreme (and again I’ll say pure) commitment and sacrifice.

• I actually desire and am driven by the same red-blooded lust for the pleasure of release as any other male.  In fact, I am quite certain that if I ever do the meet the Dom of my dreams and orgasm does indeed become forbidden in my life, I will come to regret having ever suggested or agreed to permanent denial.  However, the type of Woman who is strong enough, strict enough, and yes, cruel enough to enforce, and enjoy enforcing, and feels empowered enough and justified enough to completely take my orgasms away forever, will almost certainly possess the other attributes and approach to BDSM that I long to serve.

• As any Dominant Woman who has ever secured a chastity device on a submissive male’s package knows, a chaste male is in most aspects a better male, and I want to be the very best version of subjugated male as I can be.

• The truth is, I have a more or less worthless and inadequate four inch dick.  It’s difficult for me to reconcile my unsatisfactory little wiener receiving pleasures it can’t possible reciprocate.  And think about it.  When a male is allowed to masturbate, his mind is not blank.  Sexual thoughts will course through the synapsis of his brain.  And that means he is either thinking sexually of his Mistress, whom he isn’t worthy of, or thinking of some other Woman, which is even more unacceptable.  Which brings me back to the whole idea of purity.


2/19/2017 6:41:56 AM

I find the term “pain slut” intriguing and maybe a little confusing.  I guess it is hard for me to imagine someone who actually “gets off” on pain per se.  I mean, I’ve never decided to deliberately stub my toe on the bed frame, and when I have done so accidentally, I wouldn’t say I found it an exciting or arousing experience.

 

I had an experience once with a Dominant Woman who made me stroke myself with one hand, while punching myself in the balls with the other, while she watched and laughed.  Truly a unique and remarkable experience, yet not something I ever considered doing again on my own.  Because without the amusement and (in this case) damn near hysterical laughter it provided her, it would just be pain, and pain on its own is really just an all around unpleasant experience.

 

I also awhile back purchased an electro-torture device, an antique telephone magneto (essentially the guts of an old fashioned, hand crank telephone) and while I did do a little “testing” with it to see what it’s really like, I’ve never used it on my testicles since initially testing it out.  And my light testing was to no where near the extent of what it COULD do.  There’s simply no way I could take this thing anywhere near to its (and my) limits, and I have no desire to.  Yet I’d give almost anything to find a Woman who’d love explore it to its full, agonizing potential on me.

 

In my mind, and based on experience, being tortured (and I’d say this applies with humiliation too) for the sadistic pleasures of a Woman who finds true sadistic pleasure in doing so is an honor and privilege.  Plus I suppose in my case, having exited puberty with about what most males enter puberty with, ANYTHING which allows a Woman pleasure from my puny package is better than nothing.  But I digress.  My point is pain itself, by itself, is something to be avoided. For me anyway.  Context matters, really above just about any other consideration.

 

So I guess it all leaves me wondering, what makes someone a pain slut?  Is it a submissive that enjoys pain?  Or a submissive that avoids pain as much as anyone else, but finds being used by others who enjoy inflicting pain something that makes that pain suddenly worth accepting and enduring?


11/16/2016 5:21:25 AM

I’ll be the first to admit that having the dream and ambition of becoming the permanently chaste, pussy whipped husband of an insatiable, hedonistic size queen; cuckholded by and enslaved to a wife and the well hung lovers she brings home to our bed, may not seem like much of a dream or ambition. But it’s my dream and ambition.

I will also be the first to acknowledge there are likely few women who dream of such a relationship or share my ambition to build one. That’s okay. I only need to find one.


10/25/2016 6:19:28 AM

Really the ONLY way to deal with a small penis male is denial.  As in orgasm denial.  As in chastity.  Lock that teenie weenie up.  For good.

Let’s look at what happens when the small penis male is free to be out there in the bars, clubs and on the dating sites, doing what every other guy in the world is doing; trying to get laid.  And just like every other guy, he uses charm, flattery, gifts etc hoping to get into a woman’s good graces and eventually into her pants.  Except in his case, what he’s really doing is tantamount to trying to buy something with a check he knows won’t clear the bank.

Let’s be honest.  No woman would willingly sleep with a guy knowing ahead of time she’ll be frustrated and disappointed.  And whether sex happens on the first date, the second or the third, by the time she realizes he has precious little with which to satisfy her, even though it SHOULD be, it never WILL be easy for her to stop him and say … “sorry, but I’ve changed my mind and I don’t want that tiny little thing of yours inside me.”  So odds are she’ll go through with the sex, not really wanting to, and certainly never wanting to again, which in turn opens up a whole new can of uncomfortable for her as she tries to avoid ever having to see the guy again.  And all of this happens why?  Because the small penis male pursues the selfish desires of his dick just like every other guy, but in his case, he’s chasing pleasures he can’t reciprocate, which in turn equals disrespect.  Disrespect of women.

Now, what does the small penis male who doesn’t have, or can’t get a date do?  He sits home alone, jerking off to porn.  Playing with his puny pecker while watching video of women he could never have having sex with men he could never be.  Quite frankly, that’s disrespectful too.  Both to those well equipped males who are his sexual superiors, but especially to the women he’s watching on his computer or TV.  Leering at and lusting over their bodies just like the creepy guy in the mall or grocery store who ogles women and imagines himself with them.  Did they, or the women in the videos he’s watching give him permission?  Would they let him touch them in real life?  No, of course not.  Again, our small penis male is essentially stealing pleasures he can’t really pay for and doesn’t deserve.  And disrespecting women.

So really, living chaste is the ONLY way the small penis male can live a purposeful and useful life.  By being locked up and denied, and allowing a woman to redirect his useless and selfish sexual desires into other, better and more useful ways.  Ways that are actually useful to, and serve HER needs.


And a word to those women who know what I am saying here is right, but who let their captive and chaste males orgasm periodically.  Maybe as some type of “reward.”  I ask why?  Why let him cum at all?  Ever?  Isn’t living chaste (for the small penis male) better for him as well as all the women out there?  Isn’t what you’re doing by keeping him chaste and repurposing his selfish drives into something useful its own reward?  I say the woman who’s willing to take a sexually inadequate male out of circulation, lock him in chastity and retrain him to be useful to women in ways he actually can be, is doing him a great service.  That should be more than enough, and he’d better damn well learn to be grateful and appreciative for that whether he ever cums again or not.


10/22/2016 5:52:00 AM

I honestly can’t say if it’s because of, or in-spite of the four inches of failure and disappointment dangling between my legs, that I wish nothing more than to become to the chaste, cuckolded and enslaved, humiliated husband of a size matters Woman, who only allows the biggest and best to know the perfect pleasure she keeps between hers.


8/30/2016 5:24:01 AM

For most of my adult life I have known that, owing to a small (4 inches) penis that I am sexually inadequate for the pleasures of Women, and sexually inferior to better equipped males.  And I guess when you distill it down to its essence, what I have always been looking for is a Woman who has as much disdain and contempt for my puny sex organs as I do.  Someone who might honestly enjoy torturing and humiliating me.  Someone who will delight in denying and cuckolding me. Someone whose kinks and bends mesh with my own and whose darker, sadistic twists find pleasure and release in exploiting mine.  Because reality is, I can’t change the fact of my sexual inadequacies and inferiority.  But I can choose to be inadequate, inferior and USEFUL over being merely inadequate and inferior.


8/4/2016 12:17:16 AM

The true appeal for me of this lifestyle are the powerful contrasts and contradictions which transcend selfish pleasure and deliver rewards far more profound.  A few examples if I may:

• I have had the experience of having my genitals tortured to a level of intense agony by a genuinely sadistic woman.  One who took sincere delight in what she was doing.  It would be ridiculous to say I “enjoyed” it.  It was excruciating hell.  But experiencing Her reactions; seeing and hearing the very real pleasure she was taking from my pain and degradation was exceedingly rewarding.  A Woman deriving honest pleasure from my puny package was something that never happened in my vanilla sex life, and made every agonizing second worth it and then some.

• I have been tasked before with servicing the cock and balls of a superior alpha male.  Did I like it?  Not at all.  Was it totally humiliating?  Absolutely.  However, performing the act of fellatio on a well endowed, sexually superior male proved a tangible, physical acknowledgement of the respect I had for his sexual superiority, and also of my acceptance of my own beta male inferiority.  Which made something I didn’t want to do and didn’t like doing an honor and a privilege nonetheless.  It didn’t feel good, but it sure felt right.

• I have in this life style experienced almost a year chaste.  By the second week I didn’t know how I could keep enduring, but somehow I did.  The never subsiding low level agony of blue balls was barely bearable.  I found myself longing for the next time She would decide to torture me, just so I could feel something different, anything different at all, apart from that horrific itch of desire that I couldn’t scratch.  But I can also say without doubt or hesitation, living chaste made me a better male.  A much better male.  So much so that when the Mistress who’d been my key holder was relocated and I was set free, I waited a few days after being given the key, before I finally broke down and pleasured myself.  And when I did I was instantly filled with shame and regret.  And even though the experience was truly a living hell, every day since my number one hope and dream within this lifestyle has been to meet the Woman who says to me, “326 days is nothing.  How about we aim a little higher and see if we can improve on that number?  Like maybe strive for ….. NEVER again!”


7/30/2016 11:59:06 PM

It seems to me that male chastity and cuckolding are a logical compliment to one another.

The one inherent flaw that arises with male chastity is that, in denying a male orgasm for any length of time, means a woman can end up denying herself.  I mean, what does she do if she finds herself in the mood to get good and royally fucked, but her chaste partner hasn’t “earned” release (if she operates on that type of method) or hasn’t served the requisite time period (if she uses that method)?

Plus, a male locked and denied for even a few days isn’t going to last more than 2-3 minutes anyway.  Yes, of course she can utilize his tongue, but what if she just really wants to get good and laid, but she doesn’t want to unlock him yet for whatever reason?

Cuckolding him not only solves that problem, but managed right can even lay the groundwork for never having to let him cum again, or at least only when SHE feels like it, for however long she feels like it.  Am I wrong?


7/19/2016 4:57:21 AM

• The good husband obeys his wife, without hesitation or question.

• The good husband lives chaste, his selfish desires channeled and repurposed to the exclusive pleasures of his wife.  The permanent ache of unreleased desire is the helpful reminder continually whispering in his hear, “It’s all about Her, not you.  It’s ALL about Her, NOT you.”

• The good husband treats his wife as his Queen, and Her lovers with the deference and respect due honored guests.

• The good husband knows and acts accordingly, that his wife is THE most exalted person in any room, in any group of people.  Anywhere, anytime, and any place. The good husband likewise knows and acts accordingly, that he is the lowest and the least, anywhere, anytime and any place.

• The good husband accepts torture and humiliation with gratitude and grace. For the lessons they teach and the reminders they reinforce serve to keep him grounded and mindful of his place and his purpose.


6/22/2016 1:07:31 AM

Several years ago I had a relationship with a Dominant Woman that can best be described as “friends with kinky benefits.”  She traveled a lot on business, so something more concrete at the time wasn’t a fit for her.  A few times, she did enlist the assistance of a male dominant she also spent time with, and there were several occasions I was required to suck his cock.  This particular relationship ended when she had to move out of State.

 

Fast forward to January of this year.  Out of the blue, this same gentleman contacted me.  In a nutshell, he had just had a parting of the ways with a female sub he was involved with, remembered that I was a “more than adequate little cocksucker,” and suggested that I should be willing to service him orally until he found a new female sub.  But the kicker was, he finished off his Email to me by stating that if I was the submissive I (had previously) claimed to be, I’d would be willing to be “of service” regardless of whether or not it aligned with my particular wants and kinks.

 

He had a point.  I thought about it for 24 hours and replied that yes, duty argues I should in fact be willing to service him.  Though I did stipulate I’d still be searching for the right Dominant Woman, and if that came up it would take priority.  And he agreed.

 

So from January through a couple of weeks ago, while this gentleman has been searching for a more permanent relationship with a submissive woman, he’s been stopping by my place a couple of times a week for a blow job. 

 

It now appears that he has found a submissive woman, and my “services” will no longer be needed.  But here’s what I learned.  The fact that I DO NOT like sucking cock does not mean that I shouldn’t.  And over the dozens of times in the past almost 6 months I have serviced him, it would not at all be accurate to say I liked it or enjoyed it.  But the other side of it all is, I really was being of service, and that aspect of it actually felt good.  Or maybe I should say felt “right.”  Because for a sub, sometimes the feeling we’re supposed to have is the feeling that something is right, and that’s often not the same as it felt good. But in the grand scheme of things, for a true submissive, felt right IS felt good.


6/11/2016 5:56:56 AM

• Cuckolding: A man who’s learned love doesn’t require sex, and a woman who’s learned sex doesn’t require love.
• A man will always worship the pussy he can't have more than any he can.


5/21/2016 6:20:29 AM

I am a cuckold. 

I have come to accept, and genuinely believe that having a small penis makes me a sexually inferior creature; less of a man and without the same sexual rights, privileges and prerogatives of my betters, including and especially any rights to the sexual pleasures of women. 

My duty and obligation is to live in chaste servitude, my sexual desires subordinate to hers and the better males she chooses for her bed. 

I am a not a man. I am a cuckold. 

A servant, a slave, a plaything for your amusement. I am unworthy of respect or consideration. I am an object for use. Deserving only of shame, scorn, ridicule, torture and humiliation. 

Forever chaste, forever denied, forever rejected, yet still and always forever faithful, devoted and true. 

I am a cuckold.


5/17/2016 3:26:41 AM

It’s the conundrum of the small penis male.

The small penis male, and by small I mean significantly below average norms, is that once he accepts the truth of his inadequacy, he has but two options:

The first of course is that he can keep to himself, and find his sexual relief solely through masturbation. Which is basically sitting home alone at his computer jerking off to videos of women he could never hope to be with having sex with men he can never hope to be. That’s a harsh AND pathetic reality.

However, if he is somehow lucky enough to find a woman who’ll take him, well at least he won’t be alone, but he’s still faced with a harsh reality, just a different harsh reality. He can’t very well expect her to spread her legs for the puny little thing between his. So sexual relations with her are out of the question, and sexual relations with anyone else would be cheating. On the other hand, if she allows him relief through masturbation, at some level he’s still (given no one can control the thoughts that go through a male’s mind when he’s jerking off) pleasuring himself to thoughts of a woman he can never have, or of being a man he can never be.

Therefore, chastity and permanent orgasm denial is really the only pure and just answer. Will it be easy? Of course not. Doing the right thing rarely is. And at least all of those inappropriate urges of his can be repurposed for the pleasure of others. While that too may be a harsh reality, it’s at least the least pathetic version of reality he can hope for.

 

3/15/2016 5:51:43 AM

One of the things one learns as a small business owner is, you wear a lot of hats.  Everything from Chief Executive down through accounts payable and receivable, human resources, sales and marketing, and even head janitor.  It occurred to me that this also fits in its own perverse way in describing what I’m looking for as a male submissive searching for Mistress Right.  Because what I am truly seeking will require the wearing of many collars.

• Cuckold husband, serving and subordinate to the pleasures and adventures of an unrepentant, insatiable Size Queen wife and her cadre of well endowed friends with benefits.

• Permanently chaste, virtually neutered, completely subjugated, and totally owned slave property.

• Maid, butler, personal servant, Executrix assistant, houseboy, errand boy and whipping boy.

• Torture and humiliation object.  A toy, a plaything, to be used and abused for the sadistic pleasures of others.

If you happen to be that rare and elusive Woman looking for a male to serve ALL of those needs I have but one question: Where have you been and when can we meet?  Okay that’s two questions.  I should be punished for that. :-)


3/10/2016 2:48:39 AM
A simple way to know if we might be compatible:
All of my post pubescent life I've been ashamed and embarrassed of the puny little things dangling between my legs. If reading that you're saying to yourself, "I can see why, and he SHOULD be," AND that's something you can work with, then you just might be the Woman I'd give up the privilege of orgasm to forever.

2/29/2016 3:33:22 AM

A gay males sucks cock out of desire, duh.

But a straight-submissive, small penis cuckold male sucks cock; as a physical expression of his respect for and deference to the well-endowed Alpha Male (or Bull) and also to show his acceptance and acknowledgment of his own inferior, beta male status.

This begs the question: If the straight-submissive, small penis cuckold beta male is not presently in a cuckold relationship, or collared or under Female authority in any way, does he still have the same obligation of oral submission to well-endowed Alpha Males?

My own belief (although I don't particularly like the idea-but the truth doesn't necessarily care or need for us to like it) is yes, he does. The well-endowed, Alpha Male's superior status, and the inferior beta male's status, exist regardless of the lesser male's relationship status.

I wonder what others think on the matter.


2/24/2016 1:36:30 AM

In High School I learned that my penis was well below average.  By Senior year, I realized there wasn’t going to be any sudden growth spurt that would be catapulting me from pathetic up to just below average.

In College I learned that no matter how may times you read and hear “size doesn’t matter” to women, it inevitably does.  Perhaps size doesn’t matter to many (maybe most) women within average norms, but when the best you can do on a good day is 4 inches, it inevitably becomes a deal breaker.

The good news is, eventually I discovered the BDSM / Alternative lifestyle realm, and learned there are a few things a poorly equipped guy like me can still be good for; primarily as either a cuckold, or torture and humiliation object.  And it turns out as I began to explore this lifestyle, I’m pretty good at what I can be good for.

The bad news I suppose is that, even within this lifestyle, finding a Dominant Women who in fact does have either (or both) of these uses for a small penis male is not that easy.  But I can’t quit quit now, because I just don’t fit in the word of traditional vanilla relationships.


2/10/2016 4:02:06 AM

As they say, we can’t help who we love.”  I would argue, we can’t help whom we worship either.

There are two types of Women I admire, respect, and desire to serve above all others; Sadists and Size Queens.

I know it’s ironic that a guy with a pathetic 4 inch dicklette would be so drawn to size matters women, but I am.  Hopelessly and helplessly.  Perhaps that’s just natural for a natural born cuckold.

I’v always admired sadistic women as well.  Something about a sadistic Woman’s strength, power and love of inflicting agony compels me to obey, and fuels a desire to please them through suffering for them.

I suppose in a perfect world, I’d get found by a Woman with an unbridled lust for well endowed, sexually alpha males, who also holds an equally strong measure of contempt and cruelty for small penis males.


2/2/2016 5:37:27 AM

A male who can give pure and absolute devotion to a Woman from whom he receives NO sexual pleasure, and who receives HER own sexual pleasures from others, is well on his way to transcending the boundaries of male ego, and the shackles of selfish male desire.

In time, he will actually come love the Woman who denies him even more deeply.  And he’ll respect, and even feel a certain gratitude towards the lovers She takes in his stead.

When that happens, the cuckold who in many ways we consider the lesser male, in many more ways becomes the better male.


2/2/2016 1:51:12 AM

Because …..

I’d rather live chaste forever bound in service to a promiscuous, unfaithful partner and her well endowed lovers, than keep the pathetic freedom of sitting home alone jerking off to images of women I could never have, having sex with men I could never be.

Because …..

I rather be kicked in the balls, than kicked to the curb one more time by a frustrated woman I’ve disappointed and failed to satisfy.

Because …..

I rather be tortured and humiliated for the sadistic pleasures of others, than pursue selfish, meaningless and fleeting self gratification.

Because …..

I’d rather be good at, and good for the useful pleasures of others, than be good for nothing at all.


1/24/2016 1:28:31 AM

Well there’s bad news, and slightly better but still bad news.  A comprehensive study of penis size in the U.K. looked at and compiled several previous studies ending up with data based on 15,000 penises.  The results (the bad news) is my 4 inches places me in the bottom 5 percent, length-wise.  The slightly better but still bad news: girth-wise I’m only in the bottom 10 percent.

Another recent study used penis models made with a 3D printer and women were asked to handle the various sizes and pick their preference.  The “winner” was 6.5 inches, which is more than half again larger than me.

This may not completely explain WHY I am a cuckold, but it certainly buttresses the case that I SHOULD be.


1/18/2016 7:17:13 AM

“There is but one regret that could possibly cut deeper than my regret over this:  suggesting and then submitting to absolute, pure and permanent orgasm denial.  The agony and anguish of being forever denied is unrelenting -building,mocking and tormenting me by the day, the hour, the minute.  Oh sweet release I desire above all else, yet will never again know.

Yet there is that one thing I could come to regret, even more than this hell I’ve conspired against myself to invite, and that would be the orgasm -yet to come- that I do not deserve, and which would scar the purity of my sacrifice to my Goddess.”

What I would not give to be with the Woman who would inspire me so.


1/12/2016 2:18:18 AM

A recent message suggested I couldn’t possibly be serious about permanent orgasm denial.  Oh, but I assure you I am.

I can think of no other specific, tangible manifestation that both symbolically and in actual practice speaks more loudly or clearly to a pure and absolute commitment and surrender by a male submissive.  It is also a commitment that requires both submissive male and Dominant Female to go all in.

Perhaps castration could be a close second in the minds of some, but the problem with castration vs permanent denial is that, castration once accomplished, removes with the sub’s testicles its drives and desires.  The sub will no longer agonizingly crave what he can never have.  But permanent orgasm denial via chastity requires a fresh renewal of commitment each and every every day, sometimes every minute.  It is the ultimate and infinitely sustaining note in the symphony of Female rule and male submission.


1/9/2016 11:36:45 AM

Spent a little time yesterday experimenting with the electro-torture device I mentioned in my last journal entry.  I’m not at all one for inflicting pain on myself, but I do need to learn the ins and outs of this thing.  It’s somewhat frustrating because I am limited by own natural “protective” instincts.

It’s not too terrible when the crank (which generates the electricity) is turned slowly, but best I could do was about half a crank (half a turn) turning it hard.  I quit after about a half dozen or so of the harder zaps, which as I mentioned in that last journal entry, is like an electrical kick in the balls.

In fact, as someone who has experienced a good old fashioned ballbusting several times, what little I did yesterday has left me with sore, aching balls today, just as the hard core ballbustings I’ve known before have.

I really do need to meet a Woman who’d love to explore this truly sadistic device to its potential.


1/2/2016 6:34:07 AM

I recently acquired an antique telephone magneto ringer.  That’s the part of old fashioned telephones that used a hand crank to generate the electrical charge necessary to ring the phone on the other end of the line.  And they make for a very cruel electro-torture device.  By connecting wires from the device to a subject’s testicles, a slow turning of the hand crank will produce a sensation I can only describe as feeling like a hundred little hot needles pricking the skin of the scrotum.

But crank it hard, and the subject will feel an electrical surge pulse right through his testes.  It is literally an electrical kick in the balls.  Make no mistake, depending on how it’s used, the device has the potential to be a genuine torture implement, capable of producing unbearable agony.  If you’re curious, you can look up “Tucker Telephone,” and learn how similar devices were used in an Arkansas prison several decades ago.

Sadly, I haven’t found anyone to use it on me, and on my own I can only muster about half a turn of the crank before I lose my nerve.


11/9/2014 7:35:16 AM

To know and to live that perpetual, slow burn of desire never quenched. That desperate ache for her body that will never be soothed. That longing for relief that will never come, because you’ll never be worthy. And because the carnal pleasures belong to her alone.

So you live sexless, chaste and denied, yet helplessly bound to her as she openly, even sadisiticly flaunts her complete sexual freedom and many pleasures. You become slave to her pleasures in place of your own.

She delights in your plight, your suffering and denial. She takes joy in brandishing her power above your weakness. She revels in her sexual abandon, and finds pleasure in the permanent denial of your pleasure, while mocking you through the complete indulgence of her own. She is unafraid of convention and taboo, and easily expresses the superiority of her lovers. Men to whom you can not compare. She is cruel, but she is honest.

And that perpetual, slow burn of desire never quenched, and that desperate ache for her body that will never be soothed, remind you that your place and your purpose is her, and only her.


9/16/2014 6:38:00 AM
Once upon a time, there was a novice Domme who was being mentored by an experienced Dominatrix. They had just finished up a session with a male submissive, where the new Domme assisted and observed, and the two were having a discussion about what could be learned from the experience.

The inexperienced Domme noticed that Her mentor had dished out quite a bit of small penis humiliation along with the cock and ball torture she had been subjecting this particular male to, and she felt a little concern and asked her more experienced counterpart about it.

“Aren’t you worried that your words might have a lasting effect and maybe do irreparable psychological harm? Some of those things you said, I wonder if the poor boy will ever be able to even drop his pants in front of a woman ever again.”

The veteran Dominatrix laughed and replied, “Well, that’s the whole point, isn’t it?”

She then shifted to a more serious tone, and went into teaching mode.

“First, let me ask you,” she began, “was anything I said untrue? Did he not have a pretty small willie?”

The novice nodded and stifled her own laugh. It was true, after all. Her mentor then continued, “I didn’t tell him anything he didn’t already know. Guys like that already know they don’t measure up. They already have strong feelings of inadequacy. So it wasn’t really my words that were damning him, it was his own puny little dick and balls condemning him.”

“Also, while everyone knows that males think with the little head, not as many people realize that their egos also live between their legs. And if you want to build a better male, the first thing you have to do is destroy the old male, and that means destroying the old male ego.”

“And here’s something else to think about. The male sex organs are quite sensitive to both pleasure and pain. So when you can train a male to accept that his sex organs are ONLY good for the latter, but NEVER the former, you’ve just laid the foundation for an excellent, totally obedient and totally submissive slave. That’s when you’re really on your way to building a better male.”

“Finally, on a personal note, you asked if I was worried about doing psychological harm? Think about this. A guy like that with a puny little dick, left to his own devices, can easily live in denial about his sexual shortcomings. His selfish male desires can way too easily override his deeper feelings of inadequacy, and then what you’re left with is guys with little dicks trolling the bars, clubs and internet dating websites trying to get laid like every other guy in the world. And when they succeed, and eventually they do sometimes, that’s one more woman who ends up disappointed and frustrated, and sometimes even feeling bad about herself for something that’s totally not her fault. So I look at small penis humiliation as a public service, and you should too.”

“Any more questions?”

9/1/2014 3:22:38 AM
Cuckolding: The best sex you'll never have! :-)

8/30/2014 4:05:10 AM

As sometimes puzzling as I find it that more women don’t embrace male chastity, I also find it puzzling more women don’t embrace cuckoldry.  Cuckolding, if you think about it, is completely geared to the female’s advantage.  Consider a few things:

• A woman in a cuckold relationship gets more devotion, dedication and commitment from a guy she NEVER has sex with, than most women in traditional relationships can hope to get from the guy they ARE having sex with. In fact, they'll get that deeper devotion in spite of the fact that, not only are they NOT giving their partner sex, they're giving the sex he should be getting to other men.  Cuckold males are loyal, devoted, obedient, and dedicated SOLELY to their wife's / girlfriend's / Mistress' pleasure.

•Since a cuckold's own sexual pleasures is never on the table, it never gets in the way.

• A woman in a cuckold relationship has the best of both worlds; the security, comfort and companionship of a stable, committed relationship, AND the freedom, variety and excitement of the single dating life.  Added bonus: You get to be completely in charge.

• A woman in a cuckold relationship can enjoy a lover based solely on his sexual capabilities and attributes, without ever having to worry; “Will he call me?” “Is this going anywhere?” or “Would he make suitable partner for a long term relationship?”  In short, you get to use the men the same way too many men have used too many women for too long …. Strictly as sex objects.

• Besides, having a cuckold means never having to sleep in the wet spot again. :-)

 

8/27/2014 6:12:34 AM
Of course I can only speak for myself, but I suspect I'm not alone in this thinking.

I didn't choose to have an unsatisfactory 4" dick (4-1/4" on a really good day.)  If it were up to me, I'd love nothing more to be one of those well hung studs that can rock a woman's world in bed.  I'd even settle for just being about average.

But reality is what it is, and it's better to accept it than keep on trying to deny it.  It's better to learn to live and love within one's own limitations, and find other ways to become useful, maybe even valuable to a Woman, than whine and moan over what isn't meant to be.

Being a small dick cuckold and sub might be pathetic, but it's not as pathetic as sitting home alone, jerking off to videos of Women I could never have, having sex with men I could never be.

8/23/2014 3:55:09 AM
Only when a male servant is denied orgasm permanently, when he truly knows that no matter what, he will never again feel the sweet release of orgasm, when the only sensations his genitals will ever again experience are the aching frustration of blue balled denial, and the intense agony of mercilessly applied cock and ball torture, then and only then can his submission and devotion become absolutely, purely and solely dedicated to the total pleasure of another.

For only in the crucible of absolute denial and true agony, will self-serving desire and denial melt away, leaving only pure submission and servitude.

I don't expect everyone to agree.  I don't expect most to agree.  But what I wouldn't give to find one Woman who does agree.

4/20/2014 4:47:19 AM

It's a mistake to assume the cuckold male doesn't have the same intense desires for the pleasures of the Female body as any other red-blooded heterosexual male.  The cuck is just someone who's accepted that a Woman's right to sexual pleasure trumps his.


4/20/2014 4:43:56 AM

I recently re-read a captivating piece about chastity, orgasm denial and an alternative to prostate milking and/or allowing the chaste male occasional masturbatorial relief.  In the piece I read, the Mistress would (a few times a month) make Her sub first consume a Viagra, then bind his hands to prevent any errant blue balled behavior, then remove his chastity device, and then proceed to ballbust him until he again became small and limp enough to go back into his chastity cage.  Over time, she discovered two things:

The first was that, before all that long, Her slave started becoming conditioned in such a way that he actually started craving having balls worked over.  Perhaps because, even though it extremely unpleasant, it was none the less a form of temporary relief from the constant agony of blue-balled frustration he lived with 24/7.  So much so in fact that it wasn’t long before the poor sub began to think and feel about having his balls busted, the same way most normal males think about normal orgasms.

The other thing she discovered, almost by accident, is occasionally during one of the more intense ball busting ordeals, a handful of very well placed hard kicks would actually cause the slave to involuntarily ejaculate with no other stimulation.

Of course, we can never completely trust the veracity (or authenticity) of anything we read on-line, but I’d sure love to meet a Woman who’d like to find out if the above is true.

 


4/14/2014 8:44:02 AM

There are three stages, or watermarks, in the education and enlightenment of the true cuckold male.  Whether he reaches these stages on his own, or through the discipline and training assistance of a Dominant Woman, the three stages remain the same.

• He first learns to accept his own sexual inadequacy, and understand he simply was not chosen by nature to provide for the sexual satisfaction of Women.  He must also accept, now being aware of his sexual shortcomings, that pursuing sexual pleasures from Women he can’t reciprocate is selfish and wrong.

• He next learns to stop blaming Women for rejecting him sexually, and especially to stop blaming those Women from his past who may have cheated on him.  He comes to understand and accept it was his own inadequacy that placed those Women from his past in the situation where they had to cheat in the first place.  A Woman has every right to pursue sexual satisfaction, and the fact that he couldn’t hold up the man’s side of the bargain doesn’t change that.

• Finally, he reaches the stage where learns to stop resenting, and instead starts properly respecting, those Men who are sexually superior, more capable and better equipped than he is.

Only when he has realized all three of these truths, is he a true cuckold.


1/12/2014 5:01:13 AM

So let me get this straight: You have millions of males ranging from mediocre to downright pathetic between their legs and between the sheets, who in spite of their obvious inadequacy insist on trolling the bars, clubs and on-line dating sights chasing after sexual pleasures from women they have no hope of reciprocating ....... and that's normal and accepted?

But when I guy admits, acknowledges and accepts his own shortcomings and seeks out a cuckold relationship, he's somehow some kind of twisted pervert?


1/1/2014 4:16:35 AM

Here's a handy tip to make sure the sub/slave you are considering is not married or otherwise attached.  Have your first meeting at a nice restaurant, and require him to acquire a chastity device (if he doesn't already own one) before you meet him.  Instruct him to be in it when you meet.

It's only a couple dollars, so go get one of those small padlocks that fit chastity devices.  At some point during dinner, make him go off to the restroom and take off his lock, and replace it with yours.  Order him to use his phone camera to take a photo showing your lock is now securely in place on his chastity device.  Make sure he knows it will remain there until (if) you decide there will be a second meeting.

Because if he's in a relationship or otherwise attached, while he might be able to get himself out of the chastity device to keep her from finding out, there's no way he will be able to get it back on before you see him again.


12/24/2013 4:17:59 AM

Happy Holidays.  Remember, the best things come (but never cum) with small packages. :-)


12/15/2013 4:21:37 AM

There are really only two things that can completely suppress a sub / slave male's ego and smother denial; public humiliation, and cuckolding.  The conniving, rebellious character flaws that reside in all males, even the most submissive, can always find a way to deny the lessons of one teacher.  Humiliation before others, on the other hand, reinforces with consensus.

I can find a way to disbelieve what You tell me, but I can't continue disbelieving when many tell me.


12/14/2013 4:39:11 AM

The true cuckold, in honestly accepting his own inadequacy, has somehow managed to go beyond male ego, selfish desire, and denial.  Unlike his penis, that's no small thing. :-)

In doing so, he has bound himself to live by three inescapable conclusions:

• Being inadequate to provide for Her sexual needs, he has no right to expect She concern herself with his.

• Being inadequate to provide for Her sexual needs, he has every reason to expect, and support, Her getting those sexual needs met elsewhere.

• Being inadequate sexually places a burden and obligation on him to go above and beyond, in every other aspect of the relationship.

The true cuckoldress appreciates and values the partner who has pushed beyond male ego, selfish desire, and denial.  But She also knows these things never completely go away.  That they lay still deep in the cuck's psyche, arguing rebellion at every turn, and constantly wrestle with him to get back on top.  She therefore understands the need to humiliate, to reinforce both the selfless traits Her cuck has found, and keep those selfish traits beaten down and firmly in their place.


12/8/2013 3:59:46 AM

SPH (small penis humiliation) isn't a fetish, it's simply a strong, honest Woman helping a sexually inadequate male to face and accept what he is, and isn't.


12/1/2013 4:54:57 AM

Sometimes the labels applied here baffle me.  For example, the label "cuckold" totally applies to me in every sense of the word.  I've been a cuck in every relationship I've ever been in, even while dating in the vanilla world during my college years and early twenties.  True the openness and honesty part was missing, but I was and always will be a cuckold none the less.

On the other hand, what do you call a submissive male who doesn't like or enjoy pain, not even a little bit, but happens to be able to handle intense amounts of the most agonizing tortures, and is incredibly drawn to mercilessly cruel, sadistic women?  Does that make me a masochist, or something else?


11/9/2013 4:15:23 AM

If a tree falls in the forest, and no one is around to hear it, does it still make a sound?  If a male fantasizes about forever (no orgasm ever) chastity, and becomes enslaved to a Mistress who will enforce forever (no orgasm ever) chastity, does he still "get off" on his fantasy?


11/2/2013 8:23:15 AM

If only more Women understood: You can get a lot more from a man you're NOT fucking that you'll ever get from one you are.


10/28/2013 6:44:13 AM

A Tale of Two Women

Consider two women. We’ll call them Woman “A” and Woman “X.” Both are in long term relationships (husband, boyfriend, significant other.)

“A” lives in the vanilla world. She treats her man like a king. Despite the fact that they both work, “A” ends up doing most of the household chores; cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. “A” also gives her man all the sex he wants. In spite of this, odds are well above 50/50 at some point her man will cheat on her. Even if he doesn’t, it's likely he will probably get bored, and very likely he's already been jerking off to internet porn, and often seems far less interested in sex with her than he used to be.  And even though she busts her ass and is giving him the best years of her life, he all too often takes her for granted.

“X”, on the other hand, lives in the purple world, and has made her partner into a cuckold. She no longer has to go to work, and even though his job supports them both, he takes care of ALL the household chores and errands. “X” never gives her man sex. In fact, not only does she not give him any sex, she openly fucks around on him, as much as she wants and with whomever she wants. She doesn’t have to treat her man like a king, but she still gets treated like a Queen!  In fact can get away with treating her other half like shit. She can mock, humiliate, and totally boss him around.

Ironically, “X” gets more love, admiration, attentiveness, devotion and respect than “A” could ever dream of.

Can someone explain to me why the majority of women choose the life of “A” over “X”?


10/27/2013 4:44:11 AM

Most women think that having it all means finding the right GUY.  A Cuckoldress knows it's about finding the right GUYS.


10/12/2013 4:30:46 AM

It occurs to me that there's a similarity between porn and cuckoldry.  Think about it.  A guy watching porn is seeing women he has no hope of having, having sex with well endowed men he has no hope of being.  And since millions of men use porn, I would argue that this argues, cuckolding is a lot more natural than most people realize.


10/6/2013 4:44:59 AM

I wonder of any else has noticed / thought about this: Nature, in her infallible wisdom, created all males equally in terms of their sexual desire, but not the same in terms of their sexual capability.  There has to be a reason.

My own conclusion is that all men are designed with the desire to please a Woman, but aren't all intended to accomplish that the same way.  I think she intended the well endowed male for pleasing Women sexually, and the poorly endowed to learn to channel that energy towards pleasing Women in other ways.

Just one more reason I concluded long ago that cuckoldry is completely natural.


7/8/2013 8:08:38 AM

A woman once said to me, "well, there may enough between your legs to call yourself male, but definitely not enough there for you to call yourself a man."  That was someone I'd hooked up with out there in the vanilla world, explaining to me why we weren't going to be having sex after all.  I didn't appreciate it one bit at the time, but over the years have come to understand she was just being honest.  Maybe brutally so, but honest none the less.  Still ironic to me, even though I could never find my place in the vanilla world, because I don't have a place in the vanilla world, that the women there were more bold and honest than I've found them here (so far anyway.)


7/5/2013 10:38:39 AM

You'd think there'd be at least one Dominant Woman among all the many Dommes here, that would have some use and know how to treat and what to do with a sexually inadequate, pussy whipped cuckold bitch like me.  Really, I only need to find one.


7/2/2013 2:35:32 PM

A Half Dozen Things Every Dominant Woman Should Know:

•Punishment (torture) isn't just for errant behavior.  It is perfectly acceptable and legitimate solely for the pleasure and entertainment of the Dominant.

•Rewarding a sub/slave male is never a good idea.  A Mistress has the right to expect prompt, obedient and exemplary service from Her sub at all times and in all things.  Rewarding him for doing so merely means at some level he is working for his reward instead of You.

•A sub male or slave does not "need to cum," and You have no obligation to allow him to, EVER.  Unless it in some way benefits You, there really is no point in it.  If You're worried about his prostate health, then have him buy a prostate messager and milk him.  Or better yet, make him learn to do it on himself under Your authority.

•Public humiliation is extremely effective for keeping the slave/sub male in his place.  Like the old saying, "a burden shared is a burden halved," a humiliation shared is a humiliation multiplied.  They also say, "laughter is the best medicine," AND it happens to be one of a Dominant's most potent weapons.  Being laughed at is like a full force kick to the balls of a male's psyche.

•BELIEVE in what you're doing.  Believe he deserves what's being done to him, and believe you're the right one to be doing it.  Believe you're a superior creature and he is an inferior one.  Believe you deserve to be treated like a Queen, and believe he deserves to be treated badly.


6/29/2013 8:02:36 AM
At a minimum a cuckold must accept two things; that his Wife/Mistress will be getting her sexual needs met elsewhere, and that his sexual needs don't matter at all.

6/8/2013 7:51:13 AM
It occurs to me, there's no such thing as a sexually inferior woman. EVERY woman is equipped to sexually satisfy virtually any male. However, not every male is equipped to sexually satisfy Women, so there absolutely is such a thing as a sexually inferior male.

4/11/2013 5:06:04 AM

"Since being a cuckold relieves a male of his sexual responsibilities, then obviously he's also relieved of the sexual rights and privileges that come with those responsibilities. What he is NOT relieved of however, are his other (non-sexual) obligations to the relationship.  In fact, his shortcomings and inadequacy to provide for Her sexually, require even more from him when it comes to providing for her pleasures and happiness in the non-sexual aspects of the relationship."

One of the best and most concise definitions of cuckoldry I've ever seen.  Why aren't there more women who think like this, and if there are, where can I find one?


4/10/2013 2:43:39 AM

A little humor for those of you who've stopped by:

Once upon a time there was a sub, who had been very chaste, for a very long time, and his balls were very blue.  One day his Mistress said that she wanted him to suck a dick, and if he  did a good job, maybe, just maybe he might be rewarded with an orgasm.

Although the sub was put off by the idea, he didn't want to disappoint.  Besides, his balls were very blue, because he'd been very chaste, for a very long time.

And so he sucked.  And sucked.  And sucked.  He sucked well.  He sucked like a pro.

Afterwards, and sensing his puzzlement when she made no move to unlock his chastity device, the Mistress said, "I can tell you have a question.  Go ahead, you may ask."

"Thank you Mistress," he began humbly, "it's just that you said if I did well, I might be rewarded with an orgasm."

To which she replied, "You were.  In fact I can still see a few drops on your chin." :-)

I sometimes see in profiles Dominants describing themselves as, "strict but fair."  I'm not sure what fair has to do with any of this.  Isn't unfair your prerogative as a Dominant?

 


4/6/2013 5:31:30 AM

As sometimes puzzling as I find it that more women don’t embrace male chastity, I also find it puzzling more women don’t embrace cuckoldry.  Cuckolding, if you think about it, is completely geared to the female’s advantage.  Consider a few things:

• A woman in a cuckold relationship gets more devotion, dedication and commitment than most women in traditional relationships can hope to get from the guy they ARE sleeping with, from a guy they NEVER give sex to, and even in spite of the fact that they are giving that sex, sex to which their cuck would otherwise be getting in a vanilla relationship, to other men.

• A woman in a cuckold relationship has the best of both worlds; the security, comfort and companionship of a stable, committed relationship, AND the freedom, variety and excitement of the single dating life.  Added bonus: You get to be completely in charge.

• A woman in a cuckold relationship can enjoy a lover based solely on his sexual capabilities and attributes, without ever having to worry; “Will he call me?” “Is this going anywhere?” or “Would he make suitable partner for a long term relationship?”  In short, you get to use the men the same way too many men have used too many women for too long …. Strictly as sex objects.

• Having a cuckold means never having to sleep in the wet spot again. :-)


4/5/2013 1:29:12 PM

I find it interesting that there are far more males interested in (even craving) male chastity than there are females interested in keeping males in chastity. Given that male infidelity seems to be one of women's biggest complaints about men, followed closely by women's annoyance that males think with and are obsessed with their penises, I'm surprised its men, not women who seem to be the chief proponents of locking 'em up and throwing away the key.


3/30/2013 2:31:11 PM

5 tips for guys under 5 (inches)

•1) STOP chasing after women for sex. It's disrespectful and insulting to women, and embarrassing for you.

•2) If your penis is too small to GIVE sexual pleasure, it's too small to RECEIVE sexual pleasure. Accept living chaste.

•3) Find other (non-sexual) ways to become useful to women. Start with obedience to Female Authority.

•4) Just because you can't satisfy a woman's sexual wants/needs doesn't mean she doesn't have them. It just means she will be getting them met elsewhere. You're a cuckold. It's completely natural. Get used to it.

•5) Although you can't provide a woman with sexual pleasures, she can indulge her sadistic pleasures with you. Accept torture and humiliation gratefully. She's giving your otherwise good for nothing genitals the chance to finally be good for something for a change.


3/28/2013 6:00:46 AM

Wouldn’t it be nice if the small penis males of this world knew better than to chase after women, trying (and sometimes succeeding) at taking sexual pleasures they have no hope of reciprocating?

I’ll let you in on something; we do know better.  All too well.  The problem is that, as you know with ALL males, the little head (in this case, the really little head) too easily overrides the big head.  A little dick thinks (and wants) exactly the same as a big dick.  While the guy attached to it might know he’s sexually inadequate, his penis simply doesn’t care, and whispers rebellion and denial at every turn.

Let’s face it, the small penis male only has three options:

• Sit home alone jerking off, which is a truly sad, pathetic and lonely option.

• Continue trolling the clubs, bars and on-line dating sites, in hopes of getting laid, occasionally succeeding, only to disappoint and frustrate the unfortunate woman who said, “yes.”  In the long run, that road only leads to his own disappointment as well, as the brief pleasure of the sex yields to the realization that one more time, he’s failed to satisfy.

• Or he can just accept what he is, and isn’t, and conduct himself accordingly.  But the odds aren’t very good that he will, unless he has a strong, Dominant Women ruling over him, to keep him chaste, and focused on what he was truly meant for, serving others.

I simply don’t think it’s a battle any small penis male can win, without the help of a Dominant Woman, though I believe for the sake of women everywhere, it’s a battle worth fighting. 

Sadly, there are too many of us (small penis males) and too few of you (Dominant Females.)  So unfortunately, I guess the there’s no relief insight for the women out there, when it should be the small penis males who aren’t getting any relief.


3/26/2013 6:01:51 AM

Here's another reason why chastity and orgasm denial should be pure and permanent for male slaves / collared subs.  Obviously, a Mistress or owner isn't going to allow her servant to have sex with her.  And were he to have sex with anyone else, that would simply be cheating, which is absolutely unacceptable.

That leaves masturbation, which is also inappropriate, and here's why:  You simply can not control the thoughts that go through a masturbating male's mind.  Trust me on this.  I have had more sex, especially when I was younger, with; super models, centerfolds, or even just some attractive woman I stood in line behind at the grocery store for 5 minutes.  Sex with them in my head.  Sex to which they did not consent.  And to be 100% honest, sex they never would consent to having, in the real world, with a guy who has a tiny little inadequate dick.

Of course, I realize now how selfish, wrong, rude and downright disrespectful that was.  But my point is, since you can't control WHAT inappropriate thoughts might race through the mind of a sub or slave you've rewarded with a brief relief from chastity, the safest bet is to just not allow it.

Besides, you allow him to dishonor his commitment to ONLY YOU when you do.


3/23/2013 6:38:23 AM

I am amazed so many Dominant Women feel a need to place the caveat in their profiles: NO SEX.  I guess because I can't believe that there are submissive males who would ever approach a Dominant Women thinking they might get sex.  Why would any Dominant ever condescend to having sex with a lowly sub male?  She wouldn't.  No true Domme, anyway.

So why the hell would some sub or potential slave think he would find sex searching the profiles of Dominant Women?

Ladies, I am genuinely sorry You have to put up with that.  Of course, You could always take it out on me. :-)

But seriously, as a sub male who knows his place and accepts that NO Woman would ever want to indulge his puny little dick, I am baffled there are those lurking here who think She might.


3/23/2013 6:36:24 AM

I am amazed so many Dominant Women feel a need to place the caveat in their profiles: NO SEX.  I guess because I can't believe that there are submissive males who would ever approach a Dominant Women thinking they might get sex.  Why would any Dominant ever condescend to having sex with a lowly sub male?  She wouldn't.  No true Domme, anyway.

So why the hell would some sub or potential slave think he would find sex searching the profiles of Dominant Women.

Ladies, I am genuinely sorry You have to put up with that.  Of course, You could always take it out on me. :-)

But seriously, as a sub male who knows his place and accepts that NO Woman would ever want to indulge his puny little dick, I am baffled there are those lurking here who think She might.


3/15/2013 5:00:37 AM

What a silly notion! A submissive guy, going to a BDSM personals website, logging in and creating a profile, in hopes of meeting a Dominant Woman who shares his bends, kinks and BDSM proclivities.

Here's an equally silly notion: A Woman goes to BDSM personals website, logs in and creates a profile, and is looking for someone to do Her chores, run Her errands and shower Her with gifts, even though She has little or no interest in the bends, kinks and proclivities of the BDSM lifestyle.

BDSM stands for Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism.  If You aren't into that, You are just as much a fake and phony as those annoying male subs who keep pestering You.

I am not saying this applies to all of You, Ladies.  Not at all.  But if I read one more time in a profile, words to the effect of, "If you're just looking to have someone fulfill your fantasies, try a Pro Domme," I think I will throw up.  It's just as valid to suggest (to some of You) that if You just want a little free labor and stuff, go hire somebody to clean Your house and run Your errands, and go buy Your own stuff.


3/11/2013 8:14:51 AM

Just so those of You on the Dominant side don't feel like You're the only ones who have to put up with other people's shit on this site ...............

Something I doubt I will ever understand:

My profile is pretty clear about who and what I am and what I hope to find here on CM.  And yet once again I begin a conversation with someone, it looks like there's potential, and then suddenly, "I'm not really looking for a cuckold."  Then why begin exploring the possibilities of a D/s relationship with one?


3/3/2013 9:27:41 AM

In viewing the profiles of Dominants, and looking over to the left where all our perversions ..... I mean interests are listed and prioritized, I have noticed some Dommes have items listed as "Tolerates."  That seems odd to me.  If You're in charge, You shouldn't have to tolerate anything.  Am I wrong about this?


2/4/2013 5:28:14 AM

I sometimes wonder if some males are born cuckolds, or if gravitating towards cuckoldry is just something sexually inadequate males do as a way of adapting to live with their shortcomings.  That whole nature vs nurture thing.

I'm not sure if anyone is actually born a cuck, but one thing I do know: The very first time I was ever cheated on (which also happened to be my first real girlfriend) I instinctively blamed myself and my own sexual inadequacy over blaming Her.  As time went by dating in the vanilla world, I found myself more and more oaky, with each passing unfaithful partner, with being cheated on.  

Unfortunately, Women out there in the vanilla world just don't seem to be okay with a male being okay with them cheating.


1/22/2013 9:11:04 AM

The attributes of a sub / slave that serve a Dominant's needs may not always be obvious at first glance.  For example, a Sadist might instinctively seek out a masochist, when what She really needs is a slave / sub with a high pain tolerance.  You see the former, by definition will get something out of being tortured.  The masochist wants to be tormented.

The latter, on the other hand, might in fact hate what gets done to him, but endures none the less, because all he needs to get out of it is the pleasure his suffering will bring to his Mistress.


1/14/2013 4:56:47 AM

It's often said the way to man's heart is through his stomach, but I think we all know that isn't true.  The way to man's heart, his ego, and indeed is very soul is through his genitals.  Fortunately, for those Women who wish to control and dominate the male, his sex organs are as vulnerable and sensitive to pain as they are to pleasure.

A well prepared Dominant Woman always keeps a swift kick in the balls in Her arsenal.  There is simply no more effective way to bust the male ego than by busting his balls.  And when You bust a male's ego by busting his balls, the heart and soul will follow, and You will truly own him.


1/3/2013 5:13:09 AM

I once read cuckoldress described this way: A Woman with a natural, healthy lust for large penises, and an equivalent contempt and disdain for little ones, who none the less understands that She can readily get somethings useful from each, that She can not so easily get from the other.

If I could meet a Woman like that, who also had a sadistic side .... well I don't think there's a more concise way to describe Dominant Female perfection.


12/31/2012 6:34:29 AM

While I have yet to find what I’m looking for here, I also have yet to find anyone who can unravel the logic and dispel the truth of something I was taught and accepted several years ago.  Basically that:

A male with a tiny little dick, too small to satisfy a Woman’s sexual pleasure, doesn't have ANY business expecting sexual pleasure from ANY Woman either.  That it’s selfish and wrong to pursue getting what You can’t give in return, and that the small penis male therefore, has an obligation to make himself useful in other ways, to be determined by what a Woman’s needs and use might be for someone sexually inadequate, as he undeniably is.  As I undeniably am.

I would LOVE to be wrong about this.  I would love to be that well equipped stud, who can rock Your world in bed.  But although we can deny reality, we can’t avoid the consequences of denying reality.  If I am wrong about this, I would love to have someone explain to me where and how my thinking is flawed with regard to this.


12/24/2012 4:45:40 AM

A proper slave is one that You can torture and humiliate to Your limits, not his.


12/21/2012 6:50:32 AM

Ever come across a profile that sounded too good to be true?  And of course it turns out it was too good to be true, just another fake, fraud or phony.  But you find yourself wishing it was true?

I tripped over one of those recently, that stuck in my mind because I so wanted it to be true.  The part that stuck in my mind read, "Sometimes I can't decide what I enjoy more; the pleasures of an exceptionally well endowed man, or tormenting and humiliating an exceptionally pathetically endowed one.  Both in the same evening is just about as good as it gets."

I have to believe a Woman like that exists, though I still haven't found Her.  But I thought, for just a brief moment, that perhaps I had, and was reminded of why I keep looking.


12/20/2012 2:58:21 PM
This Holiday Season, remember a chastity cage is still the best way to wrap a small package.

12/20/2012 8:19:40 AM

It seems to me that if more Women (including, maybe especially, those in the vanilla world) were honest with small penis males about their shortcomings, then maybe there’d be a few more of them that would figure out, as I have, just how wrong, selfish and unfair it is for them to keep chasing after Women, and trying to get laid, when they really have nothing to offer in return.  Maybe a few more little dick guys, if they heard the truth, would accept their place is serving, and maybe a few less Women would have to put up with being disappointed by shrinky-dink males. 

Not telling a sexually inadequate male he is too small might seem kind, but the truth is, You’re just allowing him to remain in denial, and to think maybe it’s the Women he’s meeting that are the problem.  In which case, he’ll just keep on trying to get something he really doesn’t deserve and isn’t entitled to: sex.


12/17/2012 5:25:12 AM

Seems to me there is a serious shortage of Dominant Women, at least here, who truly enjoy the activities associated with the BDSM lifestyle.  If there are, it isn't something they reveal in the profiles, the vast majority of which seemed to be filled with stating what they don't want.

To some extent, I get that, but in my humble opinion, what You ARE looking for, and especially what You enjoy, might get You a few more real replies that match Your needs, and maybe even a few less that don't.


12/11/2012 6:29:58 AM

There’s a difference between taking away a male slave’s orgasms through chastity, for the obvious attitude adjustment benefits, and the fact that his pleasure would serve his owner no useful purpose, and taking away a male slave’s orgasm through chastity because it’s fun, and pleasurable for You to do so.


12/3/2012 5:36:15 AM

You can't follow the recipe without first having the right ingredients.  It seems to me that the right recipe for a successful Dom/sub relationship requires a key ingredient that I think gets too often overlooked by those on both ends of the leash.  That key ingredient; a genuine belief in what they do and why they are doing it.

I'll use the BDSM activity of CBT as an example, since it is a fairly common kink checked off as "Like" or higher on most of the profiles I see here.

For a Dominant Woman to really get the maximum benefit from torturing Her slave/sub's genitals, she must first believe that his genitals deserve to be tortured (or that Her sub/slave deserves to be tortured through them.)  Likewise, the male slave/sub should believe that his genitals deserve to be tortured (or that he deserves to be tortured, punished, etc) through them.

If I may, I'll further explain from my own experience.  The Woman who lead me to this lifestyle had a fairly simple philosophy: That since a little dick can't provide a Woman with sexual pleasure, it (and me) didn't deserve to enjoy sexual pleasure, and that only left my undersized sex organs as being useful to satisfy Her sadistic pleasures.  (As an aside, I have yet to come up with a valid counter-argument to Her thinking, and if You have one, I'd love to hear it.)  

Therefore, when She practiced CBT on me, in Her mind, it was appropriate as well as enjoyable.  In an odd way, it was almost as if She was doing me a service in allowing my little dick and balls to be good for something besides sitting at home alone jerking off.  And on my end of things, because I bought in to her point of view, I therefore also believed that what was being done to me was appropriate and right.  The agony I endured for her amusement seemed justified, and it sure seemed to me She felt justified in doing the things She did.

I don't know if this will even make sense to those who wander down into this portion of my PF to read this. But it does to me, and I'd love to hear from any Woman here for whom it does also.


12/1/2012 5:20:34 AM

If You are sincerely interested in finding a male slave / servant / submissive who is completely and genuinely devoted to You and Your wants, wishes and whims; then You need to start with a submissive male willing to accept permanent chastity.  And by permanent, I mean no orgasm ever!  Not once a week, once a month, or once a year, but never.

The “why” is simple really: First, a male servant’s orgasm serves his Mistress / owner no useful purpose whatsoever, and everything should serve Your purpose. 

But an even bigger reason is that, any type of pleasure or reward that a sub male can earn or work towards, means that at some inner level, he will be focused on that reward instead of You.  In other words, he still (again at some level) is working for himself and not You.  He will be pursuing his own pleasure, instead of what matters … Your pleasure.  Even if that pleasure is six months or a year away, the thought of it will never leave his mind.

The result may be the same, and his performance and obedience may be exemplary, but his underlying motives won’t be.  They can’t be.

Therefore, the place to start, if You truly want a completely devoted servant, devoted completely to You, is to insist upfront that his orgasms are forever off the table, and find a submissive male who will accept that.

 

(Like me, maybe.) :-)


11/23/2012 6:10:58 AM

Are You genuinely tired of the flakes, phonies, liars and chronic masturbators that You find here?  Judging by the profiles of Dominant Women I read here, a LOT of You are, and I don’t blame you.  It has to be annoying to deal with males who are only here to jerk off to profiles like Yours, and who message You with NO intention of following through, and instead are just hoping to get a little more titillating masturbation material out of You.

I can’t offer a solution, but I believe I can provide You with an outlet for Your frustration.

Imagine what You’d like to do to one of these wankers if You could get Your hands on him.  Picture having one of these worthless, little dick bitches confined in a fully equipped dungeon, in a remote cabin in the woods, where no one could here him scream.  What would You do?  How might You take out Your frustrations, punish him for his selfish perversions, and beat into him an understanding of what REAL RESPECT for a Superior Woman is?  In short, imagine teaching him a lesson he would NEVER, EVER forget!

Just know I am willing to take his place, and be Your substitute outlet for the anger and frustration You’ve had to endure dealing with these jerk offs.  I can be that poor bastard who takes on the punishment all these other wanna be sub males deserve. 

The difference between them and me?  I am real, and I am ready to kneel before You and accept the wrath and consequences of their crimes against You.


11/18/2012 5:39:01 AM

Which is preferable?

A male slave / sub who spoils and pampers You, takes care of your chores and runs your errands, and who caters to Your wants and whims because you inflict agonizing torments and heap abject humiliation upon him?

Or .........

A male slave / sub who spoils and pampers You, takes care of your chores and runs your errands, and who caters to Your wants and whims in spite of the fact you inflict agonizing torments and heap abject humiliation upon him?

 


11/1/2012 8:43:43 AM

I was taught that a little dick (like mine) is completely useless to provide for a Woman's sexual pleasure, but can be useful in providing for a Dominant Woman's sadistic pleasure.  That torture and humiliation in fact, are the only things really that puny sex organs are good for.


10/31/2012 3:23:06 AM

“Frequent, consistent and regular application of pain to the testicles through impact (ballbusting) is THE most effective method of teaching and reinforcing lessons on the submissive or slave male.  Sore, aching balls are truly a girl’s bestfriend.” -Author Unknown


9/3/2012 4:34:36 AM

What's more a symbol of a male's devotion to his wife:  A wedding band that he can slip off at anytime and any place?  Or a locked chastity cage that only his wife can slip off?


8/25/2012 6:41:15 AM

I have been thinking about the many ways in which this lifestyle is laced with irony; maybe that's part of its appeal.  But something I have found ironic is our societal taboo against commenting on the shortcomings of the poorly endowed male.  In some ways, it almost seems forbidden.

Oddly, I've had more Women in the vanilla dating world comment "unfavorably" about my equipment than I have ever found here in the purple world.  There are Women who will bust a guy's balls, and yet not want to cross over the line and mock him for having a little dick.

I think it's because there's this underlying notion that ridiculing or making fun of the small penis male will leave deep and lasting psychological scars.  What those of You who won't cross that line don't realize is that, the guy with a little dick ALREADY knows.  He is already aware that he doesn't measure up, and can't compete in bed with the well endowed. In fact, even if a Woman went the other direction and told him what a magnificent member he has, he will KNOW it isn't true.

Ultimately, You do the small penis male no kindness in shying away from the obvious.  Both he and You will, in the long run, be better served by honesty.  Brutal honesty.  Then, he can get on with what he was destined for all along; cuckoldry and servitude.


8/21/2012 5:16:29 AM

A wise Woman knows that when You attack a male's genitals (physically, verbally or both) that You are attacking the male ego.  Every male thinks with what's between his legs, and the male ego resides almost exclusively there.  This is why ball busting is so effective, because it delivers a powerful message to the slave psyche wrapped in unbearable agony.


8/17/2012 5:26:08 AM

Given the fact that sub males probably outnumber Dominant Women 100 to 1, maybe 1000 to 1, you're probably frustrated that you still end up finding nothing but flakes, phonies and chronic masturbators.  I could be flippant and say it's because you haven't contacted me, but I'd like to be more helpful than that.

The first mistake most Dommes make is, because of the huge disparity in numbers, they think they can wait for the subs and slaves to petition them.  A Domme's mailbox fills quickly with crap, and there is simply no way to know if the sender is real or not.

So the first ting to do, is become the Huntress.  Screw the inbox, and set up your search parameters and find those subs who fit the bill.  YOUR bill.

The other big mistake is (with all due respect) the stupidity I've read over and over in Dominant Women's profiles, "it's not about sex."  Please allow me to explain.  I am not suggesting a Mistress should give Her sub or slave sex, or even let him have any sexual pleasure of any kind.  Personally, I think sub and slave males should be kept chaste, permanently.

But the desire of a sub male to serve, even something as simple as no strings housework, IS tied to his sexuality.  If his motives were purely the altruistic desire to serve others, there are an awful lot of elderly, shut-ins and disabled people in all of our communities.  People who need their lawns mowed, their homes cleaned, and their errands run a lot more than you do.  This IS a sexual lifestyle.

The trick is, again being the Huntress, to find a sub / slave whose buttons and triggers are the ones YOU like to push and pull.  That way, his twisted desires get met, but not because he wants them to be, but because YOURS are being met the way You want them to be.

 

Happy hunting, Mistress.


8/5/2012 4:08:17 AM

"Cuckoldry, and the subjugation of the inadequate male is simply the Darwinian process of natural selection carried across the threshold and into the bedroom.  The sexual rejection and accompanying humiliation of the inferior male by both Female and superior male is quite common across the animal kingdom in other species.  As for torturing the poor bitch?  Well pain IS a marvelous teacher, but mostly, that's just for fun."

 

The above is from a Dominant Woman I sometimes communicate with and used with permission.  Sadly (for me) She already has Her cuckold / slave.


7/31/2012 6:12:53 AM

I don't really know if it's ironic, oxymoronic, or simply some sort of ying-yang, opposite sides of the same coin kind of thing.  I don't know if it's me, or the way most subs and slaves are wired and view the journey.

I was thinking about the "check list" on the left hand side of our profiles here.  For a sub or slave, what does "lives for," "loves," or "likes" really mean?  For example:

I don't like pain, or enjoy CBT.  I can promise you, I don't walk around my house at night smacking myself in the balls. It hurts.  A lot.  All in all, a shot in the nuts is an unpleasant experience to say the least!

But put me on my knees in front of a Dominant Women who loves making a male writhe in agony, who loves to hear his moans, gasps and pleas for mercy, and who gets off on his suffering and knowing She caused it, and that knowledge and power makes only makes Her want to do even more .........

Well, that is a Woman whom I would do just about anything to please.


6/23/2012 5:09:52 AM

We all have our place and our purpose in this world.  It doesn't matter if we want to go where it leads, or enjoy the journey.  Knowing one's place and purpose simply requires obedience; following where purpose leads, to the place we are meant to be, and doing our very best along the way.

I was put in this Earth to be tortured and humiliated for the sadistic pleasures of others.  That's my place and purpose.

Ironically, or maybe not so ironically, I do not want or like being used, abused, tortured, mocked, ridiculed and humiliated.  Not one little bit.  But I am helplessly drawn to Women who do like to use, abuse, torture, mock, ridicule and humiliate.  So while I don't like or want these things, I love and need the Woman who does.  And Her love of these things then becomes my joy and honor to give.


6/13/2012 6:31:05 AM

Here's what life is like for a guy with a little dick in the vanilla dating world.  Something I have a great deal of experience dealing with.  It starts out like any other basic vanilla relationship.  Boy meets girl, asks girl out, and there's a first date.

Whether sex happens on the first date or after a few dates, once it does, it's all down hill.  She starts making excuses and avoiding sex.  Pretty much right away.  Sometimes She dumps you right away.  Other Women linger, and take what they can from the relationship, and some cheat, but in the end the result is always the same.  She leaves for a man that's more of a man.  A few are strong enough and honest enough to tell you to you face that you're too small.  I always respected those Women the most.  A few times, that "little" fact has found its way back to me through back channels, but it isn't like I didn't know anyway.

One time I even dated a Woman from my gym, and our couple of months of dating followed this same pattern.  Shortly after dumping me, She started dating another guy at the same gym.  One evening I overheard two of her girlfriends talking about how "hot and heavy" my recent ex and Her new stud were.  That they barely came up for air, etc.  Later that very same evening, I walked into the locker room to get something out of my gym bag, and Her new stud just happened to come walking out of the shower area.  Well, as you might guess, it wasn't hard for me to see what She saw in him.  This guy soft was bigger than me on my best day.  If that was the Universe sending me a message, it could not have been any louder or clearer.


6/10/2012 4:20:29 AM

Recently I came across an account of a Cuckoldress Who generally kept between two and four well endowed males on her "short list" of bulls, that way She could pretty much always have one of them available when she needed.

 

One particular afternoon She called one of them, but he was doubtful he would be available that evening, so She called another, and made plans with him.  Shortly after these plans were made, as Her cuck was hard at work preparing their home for his Mistress' guest (making sure Bull #2's favorite beverages were in the house, that the bed had fresh sheets, etc) the first bull called back.  It turned out he would be available after all.

 

Because She now already had made plans with another, this particular Cuckoldress solved Her "scheduling conflict" by offering to send Her cuck / slave over to Bull #1 to give him a blow job, while She stayed at home enjoying a night of a real man's pleasure with Bull #2.

 

That's a Woman who understands what cuckoldry is all about.


4/14/2012 5:55:18 AM

Here's irony for you.  Because I played in a band in college, getting a Women in to bed wasn't hard.  But because I have a little dick, getting the same Woman in to bed more than once, was. :-)

 

I believe I owe a rather sizable debt to Woman-kind, for all the frustration I've caused.  Anyone care to collect?


4/8/2012 5:46:33 AM

Imagine if you will, a typical vanilla couple.  They've just returned home from a trip to the mall, where she caught him royally checking out another woman.  But instead of being angry, back home, she says something like this to her husband:

 

"Honey, I know men want more variety in their sex lives.  I know sometimes you'd enjoy being with a woman who is younger, prettier, with bigger boobs and a tighter ass than me.  I want you to know I'm okay with that. From now on, feel free to hit on, pick up, and sleep with other women.  Anytime you want, as many as you want.

 

"I fact, you can even bring them home and I'll make sure there are fresh sheets on the bed, and I'll serve the two of you breakfast in bed.  If needed, I'll lick her and get her all nice and wet for you, and I'll even lick your semen out of her pussy so neither of you has to sleep  the wet spot.

 

"I'll even go so far as to go out with you and be your wingman when you need to pick up another woman.  I'll help you get ready and make sure you are dressed right.  If you need to spend extra out of our bank account to get other women, I'm okay with that.  And on those nights you don't meet someone, I'm always happy to give you a no strings, no reciprocation blow job when we get home."

 

What guy would not be thanking his lucky stars to have a wife like that?

 

Yet reverse the gender roles, and see how very few women seem to think it's a good idea.  Most unfortunate for those of us of the cuckold persuasion.


3/31/2012 7:01:50 AM

The other day I received a message (regarding my endowment, or lack there of) more or less saying, "it doesn't look that small."

 

Perhaps it's a camera / perspective thing, I don't know.  But I do know this:

 

In my vanilla dating life, I have in fact been dumped, cheated on and flat out told (a couple of times to my face) that I was too small.

 

I have had condoms slip off (more than once) during sex, and it's not like I buy magnums.

 

I have been in more than a few "adult" stores and noticed that even the smaller dildos are noticeably bigger than me.  They're often labeled; 6", 7" and 8" and even the 6inchers seem to be mocking me.

 

If one travels enough, as I used to do for business, and stays in enough hotel rooms, one will hear other people having sex from time to time.  It has to be more than coincidence that the Women I have heard through hotel room walls are far more "vocally appreciative" than any of the Women I've been in the same room with.

 

I have also spent enough time in; the gym, other locker rooms back in high school and college, plus military service, that I have seen an awful lot of naked males.  Almost all are larger than me, though I have seen a few smaller guys .... poor bastards. :-)

 

Let me be honest.  I would love to be one of those well hung studs that can rock a Woman's world in bed.  I love the feeling of being inside of a woman, more than just about anything.  I didn't choose to be a cuckold bitch, cuckoldry chose me.  The truth has a way of catching up wit all of us like that, eventually.  It's all a matter of acceptence.


2/29/2012 5:34:46 AM

Where oh where are the Dominant Women who know how to have fun with their subs / slaves?  Those who enjoy a good laugh at a submissive male's expense?  Those for whom terms like schadenfreude and sardonic aren't just big words that start with an "S" but are definitive?

 

This lifestyle not only tells us it's okay to color outside the lines, it is also supposed to be a safe environment to explore all manner of things society and our own human decency otherwise tell us are bad.  

 

So ....

You go to the movies and see a guy take a shot in the nuts and laugh.  But have You ever wanted to do it yourself, kick a guy in the balls just to see him double over and howl in pain?  Wouldn't it be ever funnier (and more fun) to do it yourself?

 

Or ....

You have a disappointing date with a little dick male, and You tell Your closest Female friends about it and You all snicker.  Have You ever thought it might be even more fun to tell them about Your sub's little dick right in front of him?  Wouldn't it be fun to see him turn beet red in embarrassment right before Your eyes, right in front of them?

 

Of Course ....

You lock your sub in a chastity cage to control and shape his behavior and teach him his place.  But do You also enjoy his building frustration? Seeing him squirm, watching him when he thinks he might catch a break, only to find out You've instead decided on another month?

 

They say laughter is the best medicine, but it's also one of the most effective tools in a Domme's arsenal.  I can tell You for me as a submissive male, the acts, kinks and roles mean nothing if the Domme isn't getting genuine pleasure and amusement from it.  So lighten up, it's supposed to be fun ....... at least for You.  :-)


8/24/2011 5:21:52 AM

Imagine a sub so in tune with Your wishes and so aware of his own place that the following is possible.  Not only possible, but assured beyond any doubt.

 

You have had him confined in chastity and without orgasm for an exceptionally long period of time; a month, maybe two.  He is in a perpetual state of blue balled agony and desperate for relief.  You call him before you and offer him a simple and unconditional choice.  Choice A: you will allow him to stroke himself right then and there.  Or ..... Choice B: He must accept five hard kicks to his balls, after which he will be locked away in chastity again for another month (or two.)

 

Without hesitation your sub "assumes the position," forearms and forehead on the floor, ass high in the air, his pitifully blue balls dangling to offer you a target.

 

because he knows it's not about his want or even need, and he knows, although you've not said it aloud, That accepting the ball busting and double the denial is what he SHOULD do.

 

That is me ...... is it you?


8/18/2011 3:36:03 AM

Cuckoldry is totally honest, eminently practical, and completely natural.  It takes from each male (the small penis cuck and the well endowed bull) according to his abilities, and gives each to the Female according to Her needs.  Cuckolding harnesses and channels the sexual energy of both Bull and cuck as nature intended; for the Female's pleasure and benefit, while liberating Her own sexuality to its fullest potential.  Besides .... cuckolding means never having to sleep in the wet spot again. :-)


6/18/2011 3:29:00 AM

Females are superior to males.  Therefore the only true measure of a man is in what he has to offer a Woman.


5/10/2011 3:14:16 AM

   I have read through a number of profiles here and there is something too many Dommes get wrong when it comes to the concept of making male slaves suck cock.  It is often seen as giving in to some secretive slave desire; the slave secretly wants to suck cock, but needs the forceful hand of a Dominant Women to "make him" do it.  A sort of excuse to indulge some secret fantasy.

   While I have no doubt there are male slaves out there for whom that is true, for many slaves and submissives it is not.

   I can only speak for myself, but having experienced being commanded to suck cock before, I can say with certainty I did not like it one bit.  But the humiliation that came with it; being faced with a far superior Man's genitals, and being forced to please them when I hadn't cum myself in an excruciatingly long time, and having to do it in front of a Woman who ridiculed me for doing something SHE made me do in the first place, was a powerful way of reminding me who and what I am.

   I didn't like it at all, but at the same time it felt right doing something so unmanly and submissive for the pleasure of a Woman and her male lover.  It isn't the act, it's the message it sends.


4/28/2011 2:38:01 AM

Maybe I'm missing something, but I have never understood the reason for a Dominant offering / allowing their slave to earn a reward for "good" behavior.  Isn't prompt, obedient and exemplary service a slave's duty?  Rewarding a slave is kind of like rewarding the grass for growing.

 

Conversely, it seems to me a Mistress or Master never needs a reason to discipline or inflict pain and discomfort.  While it's true that pain can be a great teacher and should be employed for corrections, I believe a slave's owner can and probably should also inflict pain often; simply as a reminder to the slave of its place, as a way of releasing the owner's daily frustrations, for the amusement and entertainment of the slave's owner and Her friends, or even for no reason at all.


10/12/2010 3:39:12 AM
"Referring to a male with a small penis as a Man is like referring to a few drops of rain as a thunder storm." So began the words of a wise Woman, who some time ago started me out on the road to learning and accepting my place. She continued, "That pathetic little package you were blessed with, is Nature's Goddess telling you, in an unmistakeable and undeniable way, exactly what you are: cuckold, slave, whipping boy, maid servant, fluffer and clean up bitch for your sexual betters." She concluded with, "A little dick is really only good for torture and humiliation, and the amusement that may provide your superiors. And since a little dick can not really provide pleasure and satisfaction, it deserves none. None whatsoever. Instead, it should be locked away in a cage, in a perpetual state of blue balled agony, that is punctuated only by intense and excruciating torture."

6/16/2010 3:40:46 AM
Have you ever locked a chastity cage on a male slave for so long that he is literally begging you to kick him in the balls, just so he can feel something for a few minutes other than the intense, burning frustration a masterfully induced set of blue balls can bring? When you torture a helpless male's genitals, does his squirming and writhing bring a smile to your face? Do his moans and pleas for mercy only serve to make you want to go further? Are they music to your ears? You might have made a slave suck cock before. But have you ever made him first confess his inferiority to the other male, made him beg for it and thank the other man for it, taped the whole thing with a camcorder and then invited a few friends over to watch the video while that same slave serves everyone refreshments? If you came across a male sub who was ashamed of his tiny little dick, would you want to make him feel better? Or would your instinct be to laugh, ridicule and demean him, and totally exploit his shame for your own sadistic gratification? If any of the above sounds like you, then I am quite literally begging you to get in touch with me.

6/11/2010 9:19:47 PM
A wise Woman once wrote: "Mother Nature took charge, and gave us men endowed large, So Women would enjoy intercourse too. And small penis men, so we'd need never again, sleep in the wet spot when we do." I'd love to meet a Woman who thinks like that.

6/6/2010 3:59:22 AM
It is ironic to me, that as a society our humor is laced with jokes, innuendos, etc on the sorry nature of little dicks, and the superior nature of big ones. Things like the infamous "shrinkage" episode of Seinfeld. Or in the reverse, that guy "living large" in the Enzyte commercials. And didn't Young Frankenstein have a running gag about the size of the Monster's tool? Collectively we laugh at the inadequacy of small penises, and acknowledge the desirability of big ones. But try to find a Dominant Woman who will actually exploit these truths in person, face to face, and use them against Her submissive is next to impossible. The same Domme who will torture a male's genitals, shove a big fat dildo up his ass, call him a piece of shit and make him suck and swallow another man's cock, can't bring herself to ridicule a male sub with a little dick to his face about it. The idea that size doesn't matter is simply incorrect. Intuitively we know it. Our humor, advertising and pop culture all admit the lie. And yet saying it out loud individually remains one of the strongest taboos of all time.

5/17/2010 3:25:16 AM
A few random thoughts: If size doesn't matter, how come I never get spam Emails offering to make my penis smaller? ..... It's not that easy to find people who are truly kinky, that aren't also bat shit crazy as well. ..... Where are the Dominants who know how to have fun with a slave? It doesn't have to be some dark ritual all the time. Beating a submissive, or humiliating him, should be something You enjoy doing for its own sake. I take this lifestyle seriously, and I hope you do too. But we should never take ourselves to seriously. IMO, anyway. ..... I read an awful lot of profiles stating what Dominant Women don't want and aren't looking for. I understand that there are way more submissive males than there are Dominant Women, so I kind of understand why. Still, it's helpful to know as much about the qualities You do require, and the things You do enjoy, as it is to be reminded not to send cock shots. ..... At last there is a male chastity device, the CB6000S, made for us "smaller" guys. ..... Speaking of smaller guys. And bigger ones. :-) I have always been helplessly drawn to and attracted to Women who have a thing for men with large penises. Size Queens. The irony of course being that I have a little dick, so couldn't possibly give a Woman like that what She wants. Maybe that's some perversion of the "wanting is better than the having" or something. I don't really know. By why fight it?..... Does anyone else think that it's bullshit for someone whose profile has no photo to insist on your photo before they will talk to you? I respect that Dominants have the prerogatives in this lifestyle, but hypocrisy doesn't look good on anyone.

3/13/2010 4:40:21 AM
One of the first BDSM pieces of fiction I read years ago had a short story involving chastity, along with teasing and denial. It remains to this day on of the most compelling fantasies I ever read, and does a great job of showing the mindset of a Mistress I would crawl over broken glass to meet. This is the gist of it: So a Mistress has a slave whom she keeps in chastity, and under the best circumstances, she allows him one orgasm say, every two weeks. That's if he has performed his slave duties well during that period, and his relief always comes (cums) at his own hand only. So his Mistress tells him that if can make it 3 times as long (6 weeks) that there's a blow job in it for him. If he can't make the 6 weeks, but is otherwise behaving well in a way that would earn him his regular orgasm, he can opt to "wimp out" and get himself off. Over the next few weeks, she teases him mercilessly, makes him watch porn, makes him watch her and her lovers, performs sexy strip teases for him, and occasionally forces a Viagra on him. Of course he goes completely nuts and wimps out well before the 6 weeks is up. Then his Mistress starts the offer again anew. After a few unsuccessful attempts to survive 6 weeks of no relief, his Mistress decides this time she will "help him out" by forcing him to endure the full 6 weeks, no wimp out clause, but at least this way he will for sure earn his blow job. With no choice in the matter, the slave endures 6 weeks of cruel teasing. His balls are as blue as can be. But he has endured, and so that night, the blow job promised will be delivered. So in the evening, the Mistress teases the slave, asking him if he is ready for the reward. Then, there is a knock at the door. The slave answers, and it is some beefy stud. By now you may have guessed correctly that the Mistress is going to order her slave to his knees. Hey, she told him his reward would be a blow job! She just neglected to mention that he would be the one giving the blow job, not getting one. Of course, after the poor slave sucks the other male off, he will have to be punished for being a cock sucker, meaning two more weeks (at least) of chastity.

3/13/2010 4:39:50 AM
I recently had the most incredible fantasy pop into my head, if only I were lucky enough to find the Mistress Who would make it a reality: It starts with Her and I going to dinner at a nice, hotel restaurant, and as we are seated we tell our Hostess a third party will be joining us. There is a small group of women seated near the bar, they look as if they have all stopped there after work from the same office for a few drinks. My Mistress and have only been seated and talking for a few minutes when She gets up and walks over to the bar for something. While waiting at the bar, she has a brief conversation with the small group of women, who look over in my direction. There is some giggling. Not long after my Mistress has returned, She gets up again, (ostensibly to check on the whereabouts of our missing dinner companion) and heads to the lobby as if to make a phone call. In reality, one of Her studs is already waiting to meet her, and they head to the room we have booked, for a quickie, while I wait in the dining room. I have not been sitting there alone for too long, when the server shows up at my table with a small plate of cocktail weenies. She tells me that they are compliments of the ladies sitting at the bar. I look up to see them looking back at me and laughing. I am sure my face has turned beet red, but try to maintain my composure as the server walks away. A few minutes later, the girls come over to my table and sit down for a minute. They tell me that my Mistress has told them of my ?unfortunate? condition, and make a few comments about how weird it must be for me to know that right at this very moment my Mistress is upstairs in a room at the hotel getting satisfied by a real man. As they get up to leave, one of them hands me one of the cocktail weenies from the plate and says, ?enjoy your little weenie.? Eventually My Mistress and her lover return, I am introduced and they are seated. They hand me a cell phone, to show me some pictures. I am then forced to comment as I view the photos, in terms that could be innocent and mean something else if over heard in a public place, but that are laced and loaded with innuendo. "Wow, that's really magnificent." "I wish I had one like that." "Definitely better than mine," etc. Of course they are pictures of his equipment, followed by a few of him inside her perhaps. I can only hope the other diners around us are oblivious as I view this impromptu cell phone slide show. Then, my Mistress produces a man's pocket handkerchief that she has very slyly removed from inside her panties. She had placed it there right after she and her stud finished having sex, like a pad, and it is now soaked with his semen. "You have something on your lip," She tells me as she hands it to me. I am expected to wipe it across my lips, and when no one is looking even suck on it. Sometimes in this fantasy, I am also required to comment on how it tastes, and / or to express my gratitude towards her and her well hung companion for getting my "dessert" early Of course when dinner is over, I am left with the check and the now drying handkerchief, as Mistress and Her Stud head back to the hotel suite. I am paying for that too

12/6/2009 4:17:03 AM
Lately I have been thinking how cool it would be if I could find a Dominant male who would be willing to train me to become a better cock sucker. To be honest, I have never really considered delving deeply into BDSM as a male slave to a Male Master. I'm just not wired that way. But I am sure I could use some practice and improvement to my oral skills, and as a submissive who someday hopes to be collared by the kind of Mistress who would expect me to be good at sucking cock ... well some practice and training couldn't hurt, right?

3/22/2009 4:31:35 AM
Pain by itself is of little value, I believe.  Otherwise, I could simply drop a brick on my toe and be catapulted to a state of bliss.  It's one thing for a slave to have his ass beaten to a bright shade of red my his Mistress, and quite another when she then forces him to sit tied to a chair, the seat of which has been covered in coarse sand paper, and proceeds to torture his puny dick and balls, making his sore, red ass squirm itself into additional suffering, all the while taking true delight in his suffering.

12/30/2008 3:49:30 AM
Happy New Year! Well, almost!

Few things, i find, are as compelling and reinforcing of my submissive nature as witnessing a real man, with a real cock and full, masculine balls pleasure a woman.  Having the stark contrast of my inadequate little member and his magnificent equipment in the same room, where his advantage is undeniable.  To see him pleasuring a Woman in ways i could never dream of.  Living her condemnation of my inadequacy not only in thought and word, but in deed, in real time, where she has voted .... chosen with the core of her sexuality, another male over me.  And knowing too that my only participation in my own shame will be from my own lips; first confessing my inferiority and his superiority, and then cleaning them both after they are satisfied.  And though no lash could sting as sharply and no torment could produce such exquisite agony, there is comfort and peace in knowing my place and having been led there in such simple and inescapable terms.  Where are you, my Cuckoldress?

12/22/2008 3:52:06 AM
I have had for the longest time, since I began exploring my submissive nature, somewhat of an alter ego known as Suckie Butler.  Suckie Butler is a servant available for orgies big and small as well as play parties.  He comes dressed in one of those dorky tuxedo T-shirts above the waist, and only a chastity cage and knee pads below the waist.  Suckie Butler's job is to serve all of the party guests drinks and hors duerve's, fold clothes, fetch the lube and whatever else is needed as the party heats up, and of course provide oral stimulation and oral clean up as the evening really gets into gear.  Sadly, like too many people these days, Suickie Butler is unemployed.  Even sadder still, that he works for free and is still unemployed.

12/14/2008 3:59:32 AM
As I have read through other's profiles here, I have found myself wondering what other people mean when they list humiliation as something they like and use, as well as those who do not like employing it in their D/s relationships and play.  In other words, what does humiliation mean and what activities does it encompass?

Suppose, for an example, there is a submissive like me, who has a proclivity for others making fun of my small penis, and in general, having my anatomical deficiencies  used against me.  Or maybe a situation where a Dominant Woman makes her slave perform oral sex on another male.  In my mind, this is very different from things like human toilet or ashtray play, which personally are things that have less than zero appeal to my submissive psyche.

Yet all of these fall under the broad category of humiliation.  I guess it's all just part and parcel of the limits of check box forms being used to search for human relationships.

The moral of the story:  There's no substitute for actually reading through someone's profile.

12/13/2008 5:00:32 AM
I have, every once in awhile, wondered if there is a Mistress somewhere so compelling, so captivating, that a male slave would willingly give up orgasms forever in order to prove his devotion and to belong to Her.  I don't mean orgasm denial for a week or even a month.  I mean, "you are never going to know the pleasure of coming ever again!"

I doubt in real life that it is workable, but who knows?  But imagine the devotion and what it would say about a slave's commitment to his Mistress and his Mistress' power over him.

12/8/2008 4:06:31 AM
Well, it hasn't taken too long to become disillusioned and frustrated with this site.  Like Charlie Brown and Lucy with the football, I thought I'd stumbled across a great site to meet like minded souls, only to find that by and large, the same old flaky behavior.  I have been on other adult and BDSM sites, and even tried the conventional sites, same old shit.

Something I will never understand:  Someone finds my profile, they seem to like what they see and read, and they write.  I answer, we begin what seems like a good conversation, and then they vanish.  I can certainly understand rejection, and it's even harder in the realm of kink to find a good match.  But when it all seems to line up well and then they just stop the conversation....that I don't get.

Plus, I certainly know now why so many Mistresses put in their profiles, "Read My Entire Profile First."

12/5/2008 2:02:39 PM
If you think about all the couples, kinky or otherwise, who will engage in sex on any given night across the country, I'm sure the number is in the millions, even on a slow night.  Specifically thinking about only the M-F couples, I wonder in how many of those encounters will the Woman end up going to sleep unsatisfied.  Is it one in ten?  33%? Half maybe?

I really don't know, but I do that the percentage of men who will have sex on a given night (or morning, or afternoon) and be left unsatisfied is almost none.  It really doesn't seem fair when you look at it that way, does it?  I mean, why should the male orgasm be the end all / be all of sexual expression?

I am surprised then, that more Women don't insist on the use of male chastity devices, even Women in otherwise totally vanilla relationships.  Imagine if it was woven in to the fabric of our society that all men in relationships were required to be in chastity cages, an their partner had the say over when and where pleasure was theirs.  Suppose it was common that Women only allowed their men to orgasm when they did.

I know it's not totally workable.  Women who achieve orgasm more easily through oral sex could just always make their guy "come in second" so to speak, but women who achieve orgasm more easily during penetration would need to get some of their sexual needs met by other males outside of their relationship. 

Come to think of it....what's wrong with that?

12/2/2008 1:44:57 PM
If there is one Woman, somewhere out there in the world, who would glance down at my package and then look me in the eye and tell me in a way I know she means it, "Since your little dicklette can not give pleasure, it doesn't deserve pleasure" and then lock me away in a chastity cage.....that is a Woman i would do ANYTHING for just to be near Her.  I often dream of being in an extreme, long term chastity situation and only being allowed to orgasm on holidays.  Let's see; New Year's Day, Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's Day, Memorial Day, July 4th, Labor Day, Halloween and Thanksgiving.

12/2/2008 1:39:24 PM
It sometimes seems that the hardest thing in the world is to find a Woman who genuinely enjoys and has the natural ability to make fun of a small penis.  And yet the thought of it makes my own little penis, quite possibly the second hardest thing in the world.

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Zenai
 
 Age: 38
 Ontario, Canada