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TLDR
happy, upbeat, active sub seeks strict, dominant counterpart for something thats meaningful and could actually pass as an amazing vanilla relationship on the outside. LTR material. Please be a local 30-45M, fit, reasonably healthy, single, monogamous, and local.
Vanilla Side
I just moved here in ?august 2021. Im 36, I enjoy my career, and most people would describe me as upbeat and kind. I value health, fitness, and boutique workout classes (well, I used to), as well as balancing healthy home cooking and an active lifestyle with tacos, wine, and binge watching some Netflix. Everything in moderation! In my free time, I also enjoy crafting pretty things, listening to public radioNPRpodcasts, and I really miss hiking every weekend in the LA mountains.
BDSM Side
Im not sure what my label should be, but my main kink is power exchange. Ive been interested in power exchange ever since I can remember and when I found spanking erotica, it all went downhill from there. Pain is fine, and I used to think I was a masochist but Im really just more interested in pushing through the pain to please you, and suffering for your enjoyment, than in pain for its own sake. I like being used sexually with disregard to my needs and pleasure, but Im not in this just for the kinky sex its more mentalemotional than that...
Some things that make me melt
being told, instead of asked a firm hand in my hair and a slap to my face expectations, rules, and structure - and being held to them being talked to sternlycondescendingly being grabbed by the upper arm or wrist (and being manhandled, in general) being discretely toyed with in public being ****ed in the *** solely because you know I dont like it
Although Im open to bedroom only, I would prefer these to be more like roles we never step out of, even when we arent perceptibly engaged in kinky things at all times (a realistic 247).
About you
30-45 years old, reasonably healthy and fit, active, interested in the world, enjoys a meaningful career, educated, naturally able to blend into the mainstream world. You prefer travels over vacations, enjoy all day hikes in the mountains, and smilelaugh easily. Youre decisive, and you dont need external validation. Youre willing to listen, even if we agree you get the final say. You dont expect me to submit right away, but want to make vanilla connections and see if we enjoy each other as people. You can talk about more than kink. You already enjoy most of the things I mentioned, arent just into sexual domination, and additionally may be really into spanking, humiliation, punishment, bondage, gags, etc.
What next?
Send me a message, and lets talk! Im real, and if we connect hopefully well be laughing over drinks sooner rather than later!
Please note that Im not open to long distance, play partners, hook ups, or anyone wildly outside of what Ive described. To the messages Ill most definitely get from men who think Im being too choosey thanks for the input, but you clearly dont understand anything Ive said!
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Thoughts that have really been turning me on lately: condescension, particularly as it pertains to sex and orgasms. Orgasm control, overstimulation, and chastity. Orders that are non-sexual. Inspections that are non-sexual. Being hurt so hard I'm begging for it to stop. Being shared with that mean "uncle" you know I really don't like. And is there a word for the stupid look nose hooks give? |
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I hate the choices for the sidebar "loves," likes," etc. I don't feel like mine adequately capture what I'm looking for. At all. Yet I still find myself judging you by yours.
My tumblr (the-kinky-things-i-love) more closely showcases what I'm into. |
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| Age: 30 |
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Alabama |
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