Before I get started I wanted to let you all know that I feel very blessed at the friendships I’ve made here and the people I have touched (not THAT way, silly) either by my writings in the discussions or in personal conversations. That I have had these opportunities and the feedback I have gotten means so much to me.
Cheers, all. I’m a dominant male who is looking for a permanent, in-person relationship. I know unless you’re my next door neighbor this would necessarily means starting with online correspondence and chatting, but it is just a means to an end. I’m certainly willing to let things flow at your pace until you are comfortable, trusting, safe. That will always be my first priority before getting too deep into things. Once we get comfortable enough and feel the connection, I would be more than willing to voice verify or on cam. I hope you would be willing to do the same.
If this were a job interview, I would point out my intelligence and attention to detail, which would be good for short- and long-range planning. You would hopefully notice my leadership skills and see that I’m unafraid of taking the reins and making you comfortable, yet simultaneously vulnerable. I utilize a healthy dose of logic, which enables me to understand and get you to agree to the path we’re following. I have a lot of fun with psychological methods in order to get inside and stay inside your head while not doing irreparable harm. Unless you want to, them I’m fine with that, too. As you might have noticed, I wrap the package with humor which ‘can’ be a constant undercurrent of the adventures we might have. Humor is but one of the methods that I use for effective communication. I try to convey myself accurately through honesty, transparency, sharing. The stakes are too high for anything less, and I hope you feel the same.
As indicated just above, I try and let my honesty and what charm I muster shine through as quickly as possible. Back in the day, when dinosaurs still roamed the earth, men were chastised for being unemotional, lacking the desire or will to commit, being insensitive. Other than the fact that being insensitive might be a good trait to have in certain types of BDSM relationships, I have never seen myself having such male traits. I’m very desirous of a committed relationship and I have become far more in touch with feelings and emotions than perhaps I used to be.
I’ve been very active in BDSM relationships and activities since the early 1990’s and know that I won’t ever cross the line back over to the vanilla side. I enjoy many kinks and would most appreciate a partner who is open-minded, potentially uninhibited and willing to experiment. I don’t have a set style per se: I like to start with what makes my partner interested in this world and expand from there.
I’m not perfect. I don’t expect you to be. I’m fortunate in that I don’t have past baggage to deal with, and I don’t have any psychological issues that you need to be concerned about. I’m not a narcissist, nor a psychopath, nor disabled in any way. I’m older than I would like to be, and weigh more than I wish to, but this isn’t about me; it’s about what I can bring to your life in ways you haven’t experienced.
About the wolf stereotypes, the most important thing one needs to know is this: I don’t see myself Alpha enough to TAKE what I want, and I’m quite sure I wouldn’t want to be. That’s not who I am. But I AM plenty good enough to HAVE and to KEEP what I want. I do, however, qualify as a Sigma male, if that is meaningful to you.
If I don’t find you, please don’t hesitate to come find me. I know you could very well be shy. If you show a little courage, I’ll help with the rest.
Hey, I’ve got statistics, too:
== Results from bdsmtest.org == Taken September, 2023
100% Rigger
98% Dominant
97% Owner
94% Sadist
94% Master/Mistress
92% Rope bunny
92% Experimentalist
89% Degrader
83% Masochist
76% Degradee
67% Voyeur
66% Brat tamer
60% Switch
59% Submissive
44% Non-monogamist
31% Exhibitionist
19% Slave
18% Primal (Prey)
13% Daddy/Mommy
11% Pet
9% Primal (Hunter)
6% Brat
4% Vanilla
0% Boy/Girl
0% Ageplayer