I am dismayed to who is real on this site, it becomes a daunting task everyday to see if there is a serious or real sub on this website.

Where is she? Can she not see Me.? Can she feel My presence, My breath? Does she feel My heart beat and the emptiness because she is not there. Where is she? What hinders her when she hears My call? Lost, distracted, confused maybe?

So I say again where is she?

Where is she? Can she not see Me.? Can she feel My presence, My breath? Does she feel My heart beat and the emptiness because she is not there. Where is she? What hinders her when she hears My call? Lost, distracted, confused maybe?

So I say again where is she?

A Way To Please Your Dominant

Ladies let me let you in on a secret, there is nothing more intimate and sexy then giving your man a shave. Let me paint you a mental picture of the intensity of your husband's trust to be comfortable enough with you to take a sharp razor to his face. As he breathe ever so gently you gaze into his eyes reassuring him that your heart beats ever so humbly knowing that it is not just trust but passion. I will leave it at that because I think you get the idea.

Difficulty: Moderately EasyInstructionsThings You'll Need:

Patience

Steady hand

Step 1

  Lay out all of your tools. Make sure you have hot water and a clean hand towel. Get your razor ready. Here you can make a choice to use a Salamander, ivory handle or straight razor blades that you purchase from a beauty supply store. If you choose the straight razor blade you have to purchase the razor handle to hold them. You can get this from the beauty supply store as well.

Step 2Make him feel relaxed. Touch his beard gently while you exam how you are going to shave him. Touch his head gently as you lead his head back until he looks up into your eyes and you into his. Lean forward and give him a passionate kiss to let him know that no harm will come to him. Make him feel your loving hands and that he means the world to you.

Step 3

  Place a hot hand towel over his face and press gently. While he enjoys the warm towel play with his ears and run your fingers across his lips.

Step 4Lather up! This is very important for it will determine a good shave or not. Really mix and add water as needed. Make a nice thick lather covering his beard and not his lips. You will need to repeat the lather at certain intervals because it does dry up.

Step 5

  Shave the sides of his face first. With blade in the hand you write with press your body against his shoulder. Bring your other hand around from behind his head to the side of the face that you are about to shave first. This should be the side of his face further away from you. Press down on his cheek with two fingers and shave (away from the two fingers) in the down position. Gently touch the razor to his face until you get the feel for it. Repeat until the hair is removed. It is very important that you don't tilt the razor too much because you will nick him.

Step 6

  Shave under his chin next. Tilt his head back and hold his chin still while you shave in a downward position. Be careful of his Adams apple.

Step 7Clean up. Once shave is complete. Place another warm towel over his face and let him relax. Now what happens after that is completely up to you.

24/7

It takes time and resolve to actually be a Dominant in a 24/7 D/s or M/s relationship. Take the time to get to know your submissive and be truly sure you are able to provide some of these qualities aside from the different kinks that you and your submissive are fond of.

Secure-----free from fear or distrust:  easy in mind: assured in opinion or expectation: having no doubt

 Free from danger: free from risk of loss: affording safety: trustworthy, dependable, a secure foundation

Patience----manifesting forbearance under provocation or strain: steadfast despite opposition, difficulty, or adversity:

Care------maintenance: charge: attention

Order------, arrange, marshal, organize, systematize, methodize mean to put persons or things into their proper places in relation to each other.

Discipline-----training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character, a rule or system of rules governing conduct or activity

WHO AM I

I am here searching; lurking, My piercing eyes and My soothing voice are My weapons of choice. Some would say I come from an abusive home. My father beat and humiliated My mother, and then he abused Me. I cried but was told to be a Man and learn. Women are no damn good bitches as he forces My mother down. It was terror but I learned he was right. My mother whom I trusted did nothing to protect Me she was just docile, crying all the time catering to him, and just turned away as he beat Me, he was right a no good bitch (but she is My mother) I grew up and learned from My father, I did as he did with the girls that I grew up with. They feared Me ,I could get anything I wanted at anytime, and the other guys all looked up to Me Everyone wanted to be around Me ,all the girls were at My disposal to do My biding but. I hate them they are all no good bitches , they act like my mother weak, soft .I will punished them all .week ,crying , despair asses.Now I have it all they trust Me look up to Me . They are all dumb no one knows ,they come to Me with their tears because they trust My eyes , My smile , My ability to understand them.Hel I been watching you all studying you, right next to you. Where can I learn and prey at the same time and get rewarded for what .I have everyone fooled, silly people.

So who am I, I am powerful, skillful, understanding, intelligent. I know all that you feel, your desires ,weaknesses, your turn ons and what buttons to push .I see them every day when THEY come to Me battered , scared, fearfull,docile ,submissive. See another one just now, relax My dear we are here to help as I put My hand on her shoulder and help her sit. I am her to help tell Me everything that happen start from the beginning.

Who am I?

                              



How do we define this exchange? This the where we all begin when we seek or find a submissive or a Dominant. But do we actually, complete an exchange?

The act of giving or taking one thing in return for another:

Trade

The act or process of substituting one thing for another

Reciprocal giving and receiving

Something offered, given, or received in an exchange

A submissive offers herself to the Dominant in exchange for what?

A Dominant receives her submission and what does He have as an exchange?

This is the basis and a key principal of the dynamics of D/s.  What did you give and what did you receive in exchange?

Let's get back to some simple fundamentals and begin to heal the submissive that has been hurt and dissatisfied.

Be Careful when it comes to playing with with a submissives Brain.Notice I did not not say Mind Fuck.So do tell: Where do you play?

The Cerebellum

The Diacenphalon

Limbic System

Amygdala

Hippocampus

The Cerebral Cortex

Corpus Callosum

When Mind Fucking Hurts

Deflection is a psychological term used to describe a coping mechanism that people use to avoid dealing with troubling feelings or situations.

In Freudian psychoanalytic theory, defence mechanisms or defense mechanisms  are unconscious psychological strategies brought into play by various entities to cope with reality and to maintain self-image. Healthy persons normally use different defences throughout life. An ego defence mechanism becomes pathological only when its persistent use leads to maladaptive behavior such that the physical and/or mental health of the individual is adversely affected. The purpose of the Ego Defence Mechanisms is to protect the mind/self/ego from anxiety, social sanctions or to provide a refuge from a situation with which one cannot currently cope.

They are more accurately referred to as ego defence mechanisms, and can thus be categorized as occurring when the id impulses are in conflict with each other, when the id impulses conflict with super-ego values and beliefs, and when an external threat is posed to the ego.

Defence mechanisms are sometimes confused with coping strategies

Last night I died. A new year came and the darkness engulfed and surrounded Me. As I embraced the darkness. I watched as the life source oozed from the open wound of My heart.

As the nectar of life slowly oozed away, I felt a part of Me that makes Me unique and powerful was escaping and I needed that powerful attracting force of love to stay within. As I cauterized the open wound, I felt a sense of relief, sadness, and joy that I will remain Myself and will continue to love. I felt the hardening of the wound and I know that it will be there until the tears of that sweet one comes and smooth and heal this wound.

SO THE HUNT CONTINUES, THE SCENT IS FRESH, AND MY RESOLVE IS STRONG!

Forgotten Days




Married life - 1950s style

Have dinner ready

1950: Plan ahead to have a delicious meal ready on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal is indeed part of a warm welcome
Now: Plan ahead to have a table booked early. If you're busy, or having a bad day, phone him to let him know where and when you'd like to eat and expect him to deal with it. This lets him know that you've had a bad day and gives him the chance to cheer you up.
Prepare yourself:

1950: Take 15 minutes to rest before he arrives home, so that you will be refreshed for his arrival. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary men, so be gay and little more interesting. His day has been boring and he needs a lift.

Now: Take 15 minutes to look through any sale racks you may encounter on the way home. A new outfit will give you the lift you need after a boring day. He's just spent 8 hours at work ,so he can afford the credit card bills, so make sure you show you're thinking about him by using his.
Clear away the clutter

1950: Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.
Now: Call the Kids and tell them that anything left on the floor in 5 minutes will be posted on Ebay.

Prepare the children

1950: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.
Now: Ensure they've all got friends to visit with, or send them up to their rooms to play on the computer (if necessary). They are little tearaways, he just won't admit it.

Minimize the noise

1950: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise by shutting off the dishwasher, washer, dryer, or vaccum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him and greet him warmly, don't greet him with problems or complaints. If he's late for dinner, consider it trivial compared to what he's been through, during his day.
Now: At the time of his arrival, get the kids to shut up - because you'll be in the bath, tying to enjoy a good book and a glass of wine. If he dains to enter, decide whether you're in the mood or not, and then shoo him out. Don't greet him with problems or complaints - allow him to voice his first, so that yours will be better heard.

Listen to him

1950: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of arrival is not the time, Let him talk first.
Now: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but if you speak too soon, he'll get the last word. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his

1950: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
Now: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, phone your other mates and go with them.

Yin /Yang

How do you define it?

 The yin and yang represent all the opposite principles one finds in the universe. Under yang are the principles of maleness, the sun, creation, heat, light, Heaven, dominance, and so on, and under yin are the principles of femaleness, the moon, completion, cold, darkness, material forms, submission, and so on. Each of these opposites produce the other: Heaven creates the ideas of things under yang, the earth produces their material forms under yin, and vice versa; creation occurs under the principle of yang, the completion of the created thing occurs under yin, and vice versa, and so on. This production of yin from yang and yang from yin occurs cyclically and constantly, so that no one principle continually dominates the other or determines the other. All opposites that one experiences—health and sickness, wealth and poverty, power and submission—can be explained in reference to the temporary dominance of one principle over the other. Since no one principle dominates eternally, that means that all conditions are subject to change into their opposites.

Life.....what can be construed as love and joy can have alternate meaning despair and pain.

Abuse....psychological warfare when used on civilians without a wartime purpose.

Submissive....prey, meat, targets, and victims

The Grail.....a submissive's love, trust, and the ultimate surrender.

Their Reason.....it's a game that's worth dying for.

The how...preys on the fear of the submissive/slave

Conspiracy Theory or Fact You Decide

Let me tell you a story, there is a society of sadists, men of distinction power and influnce.They get together once a year to compare their conquests. Each member has their own brand that is recognized and registered by the society. They place small bets about their conquests. Each conquest is given a score value based on age, race, wealth, time it takes, and outcome. They scour the BDSM websites searching for their prey. They look for hurt, disappointed submissives. The goal is to turn the submissive into a helpless dependent slave and strip her of all that she has until she commits the biggest submissive act and the act that has the highest point value given SUCIDE Every victim is branded with the members brand so that she would forever be recognize as one of their bitches.To the members this is the ultimate humiliation for them to bare and it is too much for the slave to handle, branded and abandon. Each member chooses his prey and will give the final updates at the end of the year on how many slaves he had branded and the final outcome. I speak not put down any member of the society but from the viewpoint of a love one that lost a daughter to the society .Unfortunately they are very powerful and the police will not believe or even consider that this is happening and it is just a fantasy by a delusional trouble girl that killed herself. I feel that some of these members are in some the highest fields in the world and keep their exploits a secret. So I say to the members of the society I will post everywhere to find you and expose you wherever you are.

Was in the chat room watching the topic being discussed about a submissive feeling that her relationship is going nowhere with her Dominant and she wants out and the Dominant feel that He can work it out and will not release her . I  well understand her feelings from My own journey but the room seem to have such condemnation for the Dominant and his struggle over His feelings, was sadden by this.So I just watched ,I hope the submissive and the Dominant do a better job at hearing her cries and communicate their feelings and hopes to help her and Him in this journey and do not follow My path( the one the He is heading ) . That will only lead to darkness and despair.