Let's get this out of the way right up front because I don't want to be accused of any deception...I'm married. For some of you, that is a clear deal-breaker. No matter what else follows in this profile (and plenty does follow) you have an image already in your mind of who and what I am and what I am after or you are only here to find a mate/partner (romantic or otherwise) and have made up your mind that married men are off-limits. If so, that's fine. We each have our own set of heuristics when reading profiles and our own set of rules of conduct and we each get to do what works best for us.
So, for those of you still reading at this point......what am I doing here? Damn good question and one for which I don't have a damn good answer. In fact, I'm not sure myself. Back in the day, I gravitated towards the kinkier side of things when dating. I was never 24/7 but I did enjoy a few relationships with some great dommes. Then I met an absolutely wonderful woman, the light of my life and someone I can't imagine being without. The thing is, she is extremely vanilla; a good Catholic girl (and we all know "good girls" don't do
that). So, the cuffs and toys went into a box under the workbench, the ropes are being used to hang the clothes out to dry and the paddle gets used to swat flies now. But, try as I might I can't completely quash the desires. Don't get me wrong, vanilla is a great flavor, but Bressler's had 33 flavors for a reason. So......here I am (again).
I guess what I'm really looking for at this point are some friends. Someone I can occasionally chat with and perhaps even live vicariously through on occasion. (NO, not wank material......if I wanted that, I would just go to one of the many online porn outlets.)
Is this playing with fire? Perhaps. Maybe I'd be better off leaving well enough alone and trying to force myself into a fully vanilla persona. We'll see. For now though, I'm going to go this route and see where it leads.
(Lastly, although I have listed myself as a switch, I am probably 80/20 submissive. It really depends more on my partner. With some in the past, I found myself more naturally falling into the dominant role but it was rare. However, "truth in labeling" laws compelled me to pick as I did so that there are no nasty surprises down the road.)
