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Happily collared.

I am a very complex person, there are many facets to me...as I am sure there are many facets to You! All I ask for is the truth...OK, so let me lay this out one more time...I am BBW, I am submissive, scratch that...I have learned that I have a very sadistic side that must be fed...I also have a mind...do not expect me to roll over and lick your ass just because you say you are dominant. Do not tell me you are OK with my appearance and then demand I change something about me...been there and not going to happen...

I am currently seeking a bi-sexual (preferably) male submissive, or a bi-sexual switch male...drop me a line and we can see where it will go and what might transpire. What follows may offend some, but if it does it is probably because you see yourself in the meanderings of my mind...

I have tried, and will not try again, being with a married Dominant. First off, if you are married you cannot give me what I seek the most, commitment! Secondly, if you are already cheating on one you will eventually cheat on me...If you are married or in any kind of committed relationship, please keep on going...That being sad, I am open to poly but only in a male scenario. I am not bi-sexual, have tried it and it is not my thing as further explained.

I have tried, and will not do it again, being with a woman (with her as the second until she whined to Master that she wouldnt be second, see the journal for just a fraction of the BS she put me through to get her way to be his one and only...) and it is not something I will ever do again, even just for theoccasionalthreesome someone might want. Not going to happen in this lifetime, ever again! I am not, and never really was, bi-curious nor am I bi-sexual. I do not play with women as either sub, slave, or Domme...so do not ask.

I DO NOT play with anyone who is more than 10 years younger than me! I am sorry, you can say that you have a lifetime of experience but I still feel that is too young for me to be comfortable, and all these 20 something and younger? They havent lived life long enough to know what this is really about! To them it seems to be a game, a way to have fun, kinky sex with as many partners as they can...this is anything but a game to me.

What I want out of this...I want a Dominant, switch, or submissive male who can make a real commitment to a life-long relationship that involves both vanilla and BDSM. I want someone who eventually would like to build a real and lasting relationship. That means 247357! I enjoy being able to take care of someone full time and I miss it. I was raised in a 50s type household where the mans word was law and the woman took care of his needs inside the house. I miss the little things...curling up on the couch after dinner and watching TV or talking. Having a person around who enjoys a good, home cooked meal and shows his appreciation. Someone who values honesty in everything he does and says. Say what you mean and mean what you say...words are wind and like the wind they disappear and cannot be called back once loosed upon another persons soul. If we discuss something and you agree with me 100, I feel I have the right to accept that it will be considered a limit that will not be crossed.

Lie to me once, I will be gone. I do not lie and I will not abide a liar in any shape, , or fashion. If you are asked a direct question, answer it honestly. As long as an omission does not affect us or our relationship, I can deal with it when it comes to light as long as you are honest at that juncture.

I do not appreciate being told that you want to start a relationship with me and then you seem to disappear for several days, only to reappear when it is convenient for you (that smacks of you hiding something, maybe a wife, see above). If you have a few minutes to get on-line to check e-mail, you have a few minutes to drop a quick line to say that your day has been busy or whatever and let me know that you are still alive and breathing. The beauty of CM is it tells when you were last on...so do not piss on me repeatedly and tell me it is raining. If you do not want a relationship with me, just say so...simple! I have been rejected before, it is not going to kill me...

As a very dear to me couple who live this lifestyle says, BDSM is based on the THRILL concept. Trust, Honesty, Respect, Integrity, Loyalty, and Love...without any one of these concepts, the relationship is doomed to fail.

I do not want a long-distance relationship, or on-line only relationship. If you are not within the US, do not bother contacting me. If you are not able to come meet, do not bother contacting me. I do not do cyber chat, I do not do phone sex, I do not play on-line games. Either be in a position to be physically present in the same room with me or do not waste my time.

OK, so something else. I am relatively intelligent. I have three degrees in Health Care Management, and was working on my fourth in cyber security when I had issues that made being in class impossible. Please have some intelligence and respect mine. I will not drop on my knees and call you Sir or any other word giving you power over me until after we have met, talked, and seen where the chemistry is. Respect is not something demanded, like trust, it is earned. Because I am submissive does not mean I am, or will ever be, your door mat.

Generated mail will be disregarded...by that, I mean these messages I have gotten in the past that seem to be generic, bulk sending. Ive gotten a few from submissive males, and laughably from 20something Dommes, telling me they will be in my area and either cannot wait to fall at my feet or have me at their feet, conversely...Also, please try to be a little more creative than just hi...what about my profile intrigued you? What do you see that maybe we have in common to build something on?

More to come, this, like me, is a work in process...