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Gentle Dom
If submission is a gift, domination is making a safe warm place to put that gift

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I haven't updated my profile in a while so here goes. I am married in an open or poly relationship. My wife is an assertive woman but comparatively vanilla. We are equals between each. Any woman I play with she would know about, but not necessarily ever meet let alone play with. We have done vanila swinging and while that is nice I want to an a little more kink to my life.? and ideally something ongoing.

???? Open minded yet sane white male, 6'0, John Goodman big teddy bear build, 49, dominant, seeking a woman of any race of legal age, who can be passionate but not a drama queen. I am poly and can share my heart finding different joys with different persons. I cannot promise the world but I promise to my best in either play or hopefully something more on going. I'm attached but my significant other is fully aware of my activities but just doesn't share them. In my case it is actually true and can prove it with a phone call. Not into blood, knife play, fire play, breath control, body waste, permanent marks In my dominant mode I know how to take control and put someone in there place without them truly down.? For me d/s is to sex like a rich sauce is to a meal it enhances but does not replace the food. So for me d/s doesn't exist without sex.
I enjoy kissing, oral, anal and vaginal sex, spanking, sexual servitude, bondage, prolonged teasing, toys. Pain is something to alternate with pleasure like a complex sweet and sour sauce (gee you cannot tell I'm big guy :) put I try to have a full appetite for all life.
I like to write read mysteries, science fiction, love movies and exploring new neighborhoods.
I like to laugh. I am serious but do not take life too seriously. I look more for pleasure and joy. I like to talk and I like to listen to more than the sound of my own voice. I hope to share.
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11/20/2017 1:06:08 AM
How can one border collie be more valuable to society than the highest paid ceo, the President of the United States, the Dear Leader of North Korea and five super models. A border collie knows how to herd sheep with out a degree from the Wharton School of Business or polling. The border collie helps protect the flock from wolves, guides the flock to greener pastures, keeps the flock together and the shepard warm at night night without asking for stock options for doing a job he is already getting paid for millions. A border collie never asks "does this tail make my ass look fat?" The border collie keeps the flock together rather than pitting the white supremacist sheep against the black activist sheep. The border collie does not go on Fox to complain about the previous sheep dog. Could you be my border collie and keep this shepard warm at night and the flock safe and growing? I need someone positive and joyful that while the shepard is looking for answers, he does not them have

11/25/2013 1:14:50 AM

I'm sore from finding needles in haystacks I'm looking for a complete, but not perfect, woman to share parts of the lifestyle and the lifestyle. I'm in an open or poly marriage so I don't lie or hide things from her. BDSM has been everything from an erotic vacation to the start of a profound, loving relationship with everything from poems, to spanking, long, slow kisses, anal sex and afternoon lunches that went of for four years. 

 

I'm told a good teacher, good listener, and a loyal friend along with being a competent dom that is creative without being compulsive about it.


2/20/2009 1:14:09 PM
Here is a portion of a note I sent that captures where I am right now.

I dominant to bend another to my will, those few times I submit it is not to damage or degrade myself but to feel controlled, suprised and desired. I'm an overworked, underpaid man that has survived and aches to grow as a total person, artist, poly husband, dog owner, writer and yes kinkster. I

3/24/2008 11:59:13 AM
Hello, everyone.
What am I looking for? A woman who is submissive? I don't want to control everything your family, your career, your money are all your business. And while I will respect limits, I don't want to have my sub chaniging the rules constantly. I want this to work for you as well as me, to create a special space for us to put aside the everyday.
Talk to me.

9/6/2006 1:52:30 PM
Hello, bright blessings to all.
It is a sunny day and I'm in a sunny mood. I'm at a crossroads again and looking to move forward. Life has been good to me in many ways and I want to reach my full potential. Novices are welcome but please be serious. Experienced women are welcome but don't be too serious. :)
A long term (would have been four years this November) relationship with a fine woman ended as she is leaving the state for family reasons that our beyond our control. It was never exclusive but it was sincere, loving and she is still a friend and ally. It was very sexual but never just sexual.
I mention this because though I will miss her
I was very lucky to have the chance to know her. While I don't rule out a casual relationship I prefer something ongoing at a sexual friendship.
In the interest of full disclosure I am in a poly marriage with a wonderful woman who is open minded but comparatively vanilla. She would not have to be involved with a submissive sexually (she wasn't intimate with my last companion thought they were on friendly terms) but she would be aware.

10/17/2005 10:40:11 AM

AND NOW FOR SOMETHING
 ENTIRELY DIFFERENT

After ten years together finally got married to my my loving lady who is vanilla at least when compared to me. I am married but not the cliche husband seaking around. My wife is well aware what I do and can join in with the right woman but not required. I am discreet but always honest.


9/5/2005 2:25:57 AM

Almost sane man desiring almost sane woman.  Please be a survivor of past abuse, not a victim of the past, I'm not responsible if you Dad was cold, your first three husbands beat you: I'll own my own mistakes and slay my own demons. If you want to start a new future instead of reliving a dead past come to me.
I am poly and my partner is well aware of what I do and with whom. Looking for fun and passion, not drama for drama's sake.
Franco


8/2/2005 3:44:46 PM

Free in the Republic of Desire,

The madness of summer kisses

I want to share a bed with you

And make a separate country

Running over whose unguarded borders are the four corners of this bed.

Outside it I’m fat and middle aged

But with you I am golden

I am driven to have to more lovers

Than the Federal Amorous Administration regulations allow

I refuse to make excuses

I can give you explanations, but when I am with you I am free in the Republic of Desire,

Living in the tent that the blanket makes over our tangled legs.


7/29/2005 9:20:50 AM

The Republic of Desire

I am a prisoner in the Republic of Desire

Bound by twisted chains of DNA

I don’t know what I fear most

That I’m a slave to longing

or a master of games.

Aching to ride the roller coasters of sensation

And perhaps ending up alone in dark tunnels

With plywood cutouts of cupid

Or chose the long dull

train ride of monogamy and to work towards a destination you may not even want

To end up alone and brokenhearted surrounded by strangers

counting your suffering in billable hours

Or left alone by a grave…

Again

Wondering why thy never make room for you.

I want to kiss my lovers and tell them to run

And then I beg for them to stay.

I give my emotions to thoughtless companions like a puppy in a box with a ribbon

And then they let it die alone tied to a tree in the rain

Sometimes giving my feelings

is like giving candles to the blind at best just leaves them with a warm feeling

but serves no point they can see.

Are you a fallen angel if you tear off your own wings

Rather than rise in sullen rows

To sing happy songs not of my own choosing

That don’t make me happy.

Feeling better to be used

Than feel useless.

If these chains rust away from my tears

Would I only forge stronger ones

Is it freedom I fear or love

The madness of being cut by the dull knifes

Of boredom and thwarted desire

versus the joy of biting kisses .

But I have climbed different heights in different ways

I have burned with brightness heat and light

If I could chose again would I say more, more

Or it better to lay in predictable shadow

And yet there is a rumor that there is a liberator

Coming and some say he is already here

And I look in a broken mirror and wonder

Where is he and I dare to be unplanned and hope

and fill in my escape tunnel

And walk to the door

Perhaps to be free in lands I do not yet have the names for..


7/29/2005 9:18:44 AM
Hi, everyone.
Is there such a thing as fun without drama? I prefer to keep my games to being in bed, not my head. A woman once said to me she liked that she could be both submissive and herself. I'm not looking to crush someone, I want the opposisite to give my partner a chance to let go to feel controlled and able to turn of her head and be able to respond in her limits. I have a fairly vanilla bi friendly lady as a life  partner who is never sub who can join in. We are poly and she knows about what I do. Looking for honesty, passion, friendship, a possible female long term female partner or friendship with a couple.

7/2/2005 11:10:12 PM
Looking for passionate kisses and more from an emotional available woman. I don't expect perfection as life goes on  we pick up skid marks. We all have baggage but bring something fun along with the past. I don't offer progress not perfection.

5/16/2005 11:23:58 AM

cAN YOU COME OUT TO PLAY
Isn't this supposed to be FUN. Why all the long faces. I want a sexual friend with someone that has a sense of PLAY and JOY.  I want someone that can accept I have an open continuing relationship with a permanent vanilla partner but I don't expect you to put your life on hold for me. Share what you can with me on an ongoing partner and if you find that life partner for the one on one relationship so many in BDSM seek great.  I can be a good friend in and out of the bedroom and ideally that is what I seek. Talk to me.


3/13/2005 8:36:36 PM
I think it is best when keep the choices we can in our hands I know contrary to a lot of bdsm thought. I think in a community if you want to call it that there are lot of wounded people. Hard to have happy endings with so many unhappy beginnings. How do we get healthy and feed our desires. I have no answers but hope to start asking the right questions. I wish you every luck.
I think the most important choices a sub has is what freedoms to surrender. I try to keep BDSM mostly in the bed room. I find it makes it more intense. But just of many ways.

3/10/2005 11:41:36 AM
Hello ,
Do you struggle with the idea of expressing your inner drives through BDSM and be healthy happy person.  I like to think I can but you don't always see many examples but also true in vanilla. For me BDSM is an important aspect to my sexuallity but not all of my sexuality there is a tenderness a playfullness that serious rigid BDSM doesn't always give me. I'm looking for partners for whom sex is a joyous release and ideally part of an emotional relationship. BDSM does have a clarity in it's roles I find attractive as I do the energy and passion. I'm not trying to have the right kind of sex vanilla or BDSM just what is right for me and my partner. I'm poly, I'm curious and I'm looking friends platonic or intimate. I'm not trying to criticize what works for others just trying to advance my journey.
 An energetic peace to all,
Franco

2/17/2005 10:01:25 PM

Lighten UP

Does anyone smile in bdsm photos. It is suppose to be fun. Why do so many photos look like they taken from a wanted poster? :)


2/16/2005 8:50:01 PM

Coming up with more than one answer for meeting my needs doesn't mean I'm indecisive. I enjoy being a doom but I don't feel I have to pretend I have all the answers.....yet.  I agree that bdsm is just part of the spectrum of people that interact. Honesty is important to me. In the spirit of honesty I have to tell you of a health condition I have,
CBA
Chronic Bad Attitude:
but I don't suffer from it. :)


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