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 Boise

 Idaho

 6' 1"

 220 lbs

 51

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 03/27/24

At this time I am actively looking, fakes and flakes however need not apply. Also, when we first start talking, allow for a fair amount of time for communication, talking, chatting, exchanging ideas, thoughts, wants, needs, likes, dislikes, limits.


I will also be asking you why/how you got here, i.e. what brought your here. I believe it is important to establish motivation, before inquiring about intent.


Anyway, on to the show.


RL Dominant Male,


And I mention RL (Real Life) as this is not just an online adventure for Me, it is also My Lifestyle of choice, a Lifestyle I have been actively living for the last 10 or so years. I have been aware and dabbling in and out of the Lifestyle for the last 20 or so years.

I am interested in making more friends first and foremost. I also engage in training, mentoring, teaching, and in general discussing the Lifestyle. Be that into specifics, or more general or even philosophical concepts. Locally I have been organizing events, as well as teaching (Bondage) classes for many years now.


To Me, the mental aspects of BDSM and especially D/s are very important. The rest is nice yes, but w/o the mind(s) engaged, the rest is just a loosely connected set of parlor tricks. With the mind engaged, something as simple as getting a cup of coffee or tea can be very exciting.


I am fine with online only interactions, with the caveat that I am not always available, and that RL still is a preference to Me.


While by far and large most of My interactions are with submissives and slaves, I do not mind mentoring or discussing topics with Dominants and S/switches. Some of My very best Friends are Dominants.


The other thing that rubs Me the wrong way at times, is how some people have this false sense of purity where it comes to BDSM. As if BDSM somehow is more pure than other kinks. To Me I am into kink first and foremost. I love kink. And YKINMK, and that is OK. It is not needed for Me to approve your kink, nor vice verse. If it is somewhat legal, and you can find a consensual partner, all the more power to you. Also, I believe BDSM and especially D/s can be very very sexual, and that is OK. That with certain partners it is about hard cocks and wet pussy. It may not be with all partners/interactions, and it may not be for everybody, but I have had it with the BDSM purity movement. Humans are sexual creatures, Freud was on the right track.


Anyway, if you made it this far down and liked what you read, contact Me, and let's go from there.


XO,


p.s. Given this seems to confuse people at times, while to me it is crystal clear in all my writings; here are a couple of disclaimers (especially geared towards people who might have an interest beyond friendship):

  • Monogamy is not my thing
  • While not monogamous, I do enjoy meaningful relationships, rather than those that resemble revolving doors or merry-go-rounds where people get on and off at will w/o consideration.
  • Exclusive agreements are not my thing nor do I expect exclusivity from the people I engage with.
  • It is safe to assume that at any given time I have involvements with multiple people
  • none of this should stand in the way of us being friends or in contact with each other
6/28/2017 9:34:55 AM: What you want, vs what motivates you   This will be totally biased, no scientific explanation, personal opinion, etc. Caveat emptor I have found that in talking with people, lifestyle or not, there is a poor correlation between what they say they want, and what they are ultimately want. especially when they have little experience in what it is they believe they want.. The correlation gets stronger as experience increases, until the two intersecting lines meet. //no this is not an excuse for anyone to talk someone else into doing something they do not want// What I have found to be a much better indicator is to ask people what motivates them. What brought you here? What sparked your interests? How interested are you in 'this'? How actively are you pursuing this? Answers to the above, combined with my experience gives me a much better idea of the other persons interests. After all, they might not even know they are interested in... (let's say sushi) as they have no reference frame to start from. YMMV, Thoughts? XO,

7/27/2012 5:24:32 AM: Power Exchange   Reading and writing a bit more as of late I realized that YKINMK and v.v. Shocker right?  So I figured I'd write a small note of what some would consider a minor issue, but what to me is a major deal breaker.  I am into power exchange !  I am NOT into power struggle!  If you require major coercion, or are big into struggle, brattiness, disobedience, or even desire to be taken by force (be hat physical or mental/emotional), we will be a poor match.  This does not mean that I mind the occasional take down scene, or a firm talking to when it is needed, but if that is the mainstay, then 'no thank you' and we both move on, perhaps as friends.   XO,

12/3/2008 8:23:17 AM: What am I looking for?[disclaimer: this was a message I send someone as an answer to that question. I liked it so much, I wanted to 'keep' it]I am looking for friends first and foremost.I am not looking for a LTR, however I am not interested at all in one-ups. I have in the past engaged in mentorships that lasted years. I have engaged in D/s relationships that lasted months to years. I do not believe in monogamy, however I am not a monkey thats swings from one tree to the next.I am all for teaching and mentoring, currently I am mentoring a younger D/s couple in real life.It is hard to pin me down, as I am quite adaptable, and in general easy going. Almost like a Yin/Yang thing, I balance the other side.XO,

11/25/2008 3:09:50 PM: Studs vs sluts.I am getting a little tired of the forever double standard of studs vs sluts.Why is it that sexually independent women get labeled sluts for behavior that earns guys the label stud. Why is the general connotation slut bad, but stud good?I like sluts? Both the good and the bad ones, but that is a different story. I enjoy women who OWN their sexuality, and are not afraid to be sexually active and in control of their sex life. Be it committed or promiscuous.The double standard has to die.XO,

11/12/2008 5:08:17 PM: It has been  brought to My attention that My profile might be perceived as the profile of someone who doesn't want to or is not interested in some casual fun, or who would not be interested in some more 'wild' forms of play. Let Me assure you that that is certainly not the case ;-)Contact Me for more details on this.XO,

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