I am a pansexual, polyamorous, sensualist, naturist and very gently dominant man, born Mayday 1956, I am able to accommodate. Please read the entire profile and the journal before writing to me.

I live Southsea, Portsmouth, close to The Old Vic, my local, which is a lovely gay and trans friendly pub. I am totally out and proud as a queer and kinky Dom.

Update as at Feb 2011: I am in a long term polyamorous relationship with a beautiful 27 year old transsexual girl called Rachel. She is my dearly loved sub and we are both poly and pansexual.

I am very active in the scene and I run the South Downs Munch and supporting web site and forum on yahoo. See journal for next dates. Held 2nd Friday each month from 1pm to midnight, in The Old Vic, Portsmouth, where I am completey out about who I am, and respected as myself. This is a pansexual munch welcoming all genders and sexualities. The venue is safe for CDs and TVs etc. to come dressed, convincing or not. We run on the Second Friday each month from 1pm to Midnight.

See munch website for venue etc: ://www.southdownsbdsm.co.uk

Or join the yahoo group for more details and to find other members locally:
://www.southdownsbdsm.co.uk/joining.html

One small point: I am getting seriously pissed off with all the wannabies who are too scared to actually come out to play. I am a lifestyle Dom and I do NOT play online. If you write to me you will get my phone number straight away in my first reply unless I sense you are not genuine. I don't want endless email tennis, nor do I want to IM unless it is to arrange a meeting.

If you are real, and genuine, you can expect wonderful experiences. If not, then go away and masturbate.

Nota Benne: This profile is long for good reasons. If you genuinely want to get to know me, you need to be interested enough to take the time and trouble to read it all. If you can't be bothered, bugger off. You should also be aware of my location, since this site seems to have some software bugs that can cause issues with recorded data and may also get hacked. I live on the south coast of England in Southsea.

 I am very imaginative and creative in all media. I run my own business and am master of my time so able to meet easily.

I live in Southsea, Portsmouth.

I am currently single again as at 1st Jan 2010, after previously being married for 3 decades, with four lovely children and then separated a few years ago after we grew apart, having met as teenagers, then I had two relationships with lovely transsexual girls. One, which lasted 4½ years, I had offered to marry, but she was unable to move from her parents due to insecurities. The other was a relationship of about 9 months, with Terri (FreeTerri) which has now sadly ended, as of Xmas 2009, as she doesn't feel I am right for her. She wants someone more sadistic. We have parted amicably and are still close friends. 

I am here to make friends of all genders and orientations in the lifestyle and to find slaves and submissives, who will also be friends first! Real life only, no cyber.

Please note, I don't want online chat unless it is to arrange a meeting.

If you are going to write to me, I ask that you please read ALL of this profile and take a look at the journal too. Please note, all the likes and dislikes etc in the long lists on the left are from a Dom's point of view, i.e. you as subbie do the "likes housework", "lives for serving as maid/butler" etc., not me! I only like it that way!

For those I may write to who are transsexual, I would note that I am not a "trannie chaser" - men who are unable to come to terms with their homosexual tendencies - I am out, proud and very comfortable with my pansexuality, very open about it and I note that my first ever sexual relationship, at age 14, was with a boy in my class at school. Your gender will never be a reason for me to be ashamed to walk out with you or kiss you in public, convincing or not. I am out as queer and kinky in my local pub, everyone knows.

If your gender ID is other than the mythical dichotomy, you should know that I have have a very good understanding of what is involved, having supported a partner through GRS and had other friends go through it. But don't take that to mean I assume GRS is a goal! I will love you for yourself, just as you are.

My desire long term is to create a rainbow kinky pansexual poly family, and am actively seeking slaves and submissives of various gendae for permanent positions, to take care of our needs and be looked after in return. What we seek will be total and absolute. Love will most certainly be an important part of what we seek, in the divine and sacred symbiosis of loving domination and sweet submission. Having recently lost my partner, I am also interested in finding a domme (GG or TS) who might love me and share our subbies with me as their mistress.

My sexual preferences are not defined by gender in any way at all. I have sexually exotic tastes. I like slim or athletic, smooth bodies and have a great love of androgyny, transsexuality and people of uncertain sex or sexuality. Small breasts are good on any sex, I much prefer them to large ones. Tomboy girls are a turn on as are butch lesbians. With males I am only interested if young, smooth and lithe. Effeminate homosexuality is delicious. I am turned off by body hair (hate my own and may require a submissive or slave to wax it for me) and I cannot abide obesity in lovers. Fat friends are fine!

If your gender and / or sexuality are not of the mythical dichotomy, or you are creative with your gender presentation and sexuality, then I am likely to be more interested in you. My tastes are distinctly exotic. I love all races and adore dark coloured skin.

"Nature loves diversity and so do I".

My predilections are intensely sexually based, with gratification being the prime motivator to them. I like to satisfy others, but if their choice is only to satisfy me, that is OK too. Sexually, I have an unusually well developed libido and am able to sustain an erection for many hours in the right circumstances. I am also multi-orgasmic. Nymphomaniacs and sluts take note! ;-)

One of my kinks is to put a sub with someone outside their natural sexuality. That's about as near as I come to actual sadism, though am willing to administer mild correction if required, but not really for my own pleasure. Whilst on the subject of kinks, exposing and displaying slaves or subbies for the pleasure of others is another one I have. Showing off my property! Corrupting innocent young heterosexuals into delicious homosexuality is a delight! As is forcing a gay subbie to copulate with someone of the opposite sex!

Please note: When I use the word "corruption", I do so in a kinky sense rather than a literal one. It has come to my notice that this can be misinterpreted, as was one of my posts on a yahoo group recently. I do not actually corrupt anybody; I just like to help people to experience harmless pleasures that they might not have opened their minds to without the encouragement of others. Nothing is non-consensual; all is done in a caring and loving way.

I have no sympathies whatsoever for political correctness. My thoughts are unconstrained by social conventions. I am a free thinker with a multi-dimensional sexual, moral, political and love ethos. I consider good manners more important than etiquette.

I believe in doing unto others as they would wish me to do unto them. Well I wouldn't want to be whipped! Capiche? I consider my moral integrity to be every bit as perfect as any true saint (myth, I know, but you understand the principle).

Pansexuality and Polyamory are not an excuse for indiscriminate shagging. I am not a swinger nor do I do one night stands, though when single I can be easily seduced by the right person. Sexual safety is paramount. I like being alive and I intend to stay that way indefinitely. I do not have Siberian Knob Rot nor do I have the Wombling Trods and I don't want to catch either. You will be vetted; I love my family, so you must be safe to be fluid bonded with me.

I fought with my inner desires for many years until just a few years ago I finally understood the true meaning and morality of who and what I am and why it is right for me to be me, and why it is right for me to treat those who wish me to do those things in the way that they wish to be treated.

While I am now totally comfortable with my dominant desires and personality, I must emphasise that I am, by nature, a very gentle soul. I am intensely civilised, with a great appreciation of the , music, the arts, the beauty of nature, so many hedonistic pleasures.

Intellectually, I have always identified an androgyny in myself, though if you check the censored nude picture here or uncensored on my web site you will see that I look completely male. On my site, for the amusement of all, I have put a gender identity test (by Bem). In the spirit of openness, my Bem score is about 14, which surprised even me! I am quite happy about it though! I say intellectually, because I am referring to creativity as being a partly feminine ability. I am a designer, inventor, engineer, programmer and several other things. I also play the piano a little and hold a pilots licence. I am creative in all media.

Being dominant for me is not a part time thing nor just sexual. I have run my own affairs and business all my life, never had a boss and was a rebel throughout my education with a hatred of all authority, in fact, I am largely self educated. I am dominant by nature. I like, perhaps even need, to be in control. Yes, I have very occasionally wondered about giving up that control in a sexual environment, but I have found that it just doesn't work for me. I can have sex and love in an equal relationship, and have had for many years, but there was always something missing, the lack of control, that desire that frequently aroused me on hot summer nights to awake and gaze at my lover's beautiful body glistening naked in the warm moonlight, desiring to take her there and then but knowing that she would vociferously object.

And that objection is for me a complete and utter turn off. I am no rapist; I am simply not capable of it. My desire is for lovers of any sex who accept my need and willingly - even eagerly - submit to it. And in return, they will have my loyal love and devotion to giving them the pleasure of their desires and dreams while always taking care of them. In many ways, the master can be said to serve the submissive, in a loving relationship, which is what I seek.

I am hugely aroused turned on by submissive behaviour directed at me. If I collar you (we will both be naked since I do not need clothes to be dominant) you will see at very close hand, since you will be kneeling before me with your face very close to my penis, how that act of placing the collar around your neck and gently locking the padlock and removing the key will greatly arouse me! And I hope it will arouse you too!

A word about pain: I have no way to directly experience for myself the pleasure that some people get from pain and humiliation because I am not made that way. I have a rudimentary non-professional understanding of how the biological mechanism of production or release of endorphins and Serotonin in the brain cause elation and pleasure, and from talking with submissives, I have a basic understanding of what makes some of them tick, though I am conscious that we are all different and therefore of how much I have to learn about anybody new who I interact with. Not being a sadist, I don’t relish inflicting pain, but do so as a pure service, though I do enjoy the pleasure it gives! And I am well versed in the use of crops, canes, floggers and various other toys including my famour pizza peel. Makes a lovely clang when I smack a bum with it! Sometimes I also use it for getting pizzas out of the oven. Playing is a sensual act, and enjoyable. I do it with care and love, with the precision and sensitive skill of a world class craftsman, which, when I tell you my true ID, you will be able to google.

For me, experiencing pain myself is a turn off, and I have a very low pain threshold because my body is super-sensitive. I even have around double the normal number of taste buds; I experience life with an intensity that can be almost overwhelming at times. Pain is unbearable for me, but pleasure is intoxicating rapture! My capacity for pleasure is exceptional.

But for me, being dominant is more about control and being trusted with that control; a great honour to be treasured, properly respected and very highly prized! There are many ways that control can be exercised - I won't bother with a salacious list here as I am sure everyone has a perfectly good imagination! But it is that control and submission to it that makes everything work for me. And I am willing to take that to the ultimate level of Master / slave relationships, with the right people.

I am a lifelong naturist, so the photos on my profile and web site (which you can find from my yahoo profile) are nude. If you see me at a fetish party, I will be naked, which is how I feel most comfortable in company or otherwise, unless it is not allowed by the organisers, and I rarely go back if it isn't allowed, since I don't relish being told what to do.

I am always happy to make friends in the lifestyle, whether or not for sexual activity and can often be found in The Old Vic in Portsmouth. The landlady calls me "Kinky David" and any of the staff can point me out and introduce you if you are shy.

Can also be found local munches such as the Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton and Guildford Munches as well as the South Downs Munch which I host in The Old Vic and I am usually at most of the local fetish parties around Portsmouth. Everyone recognises me, I tend to be naked at parties! I don't need to dress up to be a Dom. Email me for details if you want to come along.

I am now actively seeking slaves for permanent engagement. I am in no hurry, and will take my time to select exactly the right people, who can benefit from the kind of family I want to create, as well as bringing the right things to us. I am firmly of the view that a D/s or M/s relationship cannot work unless there is an underlying vanilla one that also works. So although I may be readily willing to meet you, further activity will depend on further interaction. I am not your instant Dom. And when we first meet, I will not come over "all Domly". You will find me polite, kind and respectful of your humanity. Good things may come to those who are patient.

The list to left should be taken as listed from a Dom's point of view. i.e. I don't like housework, for example, but I love having a slave do it for me!

My web page tells more about me and has uncensored nude images and links to all the groups and web sites I am on where you can read my posts over several years.

://www.southdownsbdsm.co.uk/public_profiles/david/

There is also the psychological gender identity test by Bem, mentioned above, for those curious about the truth about themselves - Dare you take the test to discover your true sexual identity? Only do so if the knowledge won't harm you! OK, consider it more fun than serious, but it does seem to be surprisingly accurate!

If you have read this far and are still interested in me, you may be one of those I might invite to walk naked with me into the exotic and steamy forests of erotic love and deep human desire...

With love, David.

Picture Captions:

Photo 0 (Profile Pic): Mug shot taken in my garden when I lived in Surrey Circa 2005

Photo 1: An attempt at waxing me! Terri and I were trying to use Absinthe as an analgaesic! It didn't work! Just hurt like hell! Whimpy Dom! LOL!
Photo 2: My body as it often is if I don't have time to shave it!
Photo 3: Mowing a friend's lawn, 1997
Photo 4: The pleasures of being worshiped
Photo 5: Me taking a stroll on Eastney beach one delightful evening, May 31st 2009, about 7.30pm
Photo 6: Me at home as I usually am, naked of course!
Photo 7: At my old home in Cowplain, testing out a new string flogger, which looks harmless but really hurts! I whipped the string ends and soaked them in beeswax.
Photo 8: Terri, my ex partner, sadistic dominatrix, occasional sub to me, now my very much loved friend!
Photo 9: Me at The Wiremill Pub, Lingfield, Surrey with friends for lunch, Aug 27th 2009
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