Found this on a profile...well said:    1. The male must always practice respect, whether in private or public. Stand when she enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is seated. 2. Be totally attentive: open doors, offer her your coat, she sits first, begins to eat first, and always ask permission to leave her presence. 3. The male should never speak unless spoken to, or unless anticipating the needs of his Mistress. 4. The submissive will never sit with legs spread or slouch in a way typical of untrained males. Good posture and decorum is a sign of respect. 5. The male will never stare at a woman without her permission. Unless the woman seeks eye-contact, they submissive will keep his eyes lowered at all times. 6. When walking with his Mistress, or any woman, the submissive will keep his gait in step with hers, which usually means taking smaller steps. The male should always be at least 1-2 steps behind, but not too far because he must open all doors. 7. The submissive must always be pleasant, never argue and never pout. 8. The male surrenders control of how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps, the friends or acquaintances he is allowed to keep. 9. The submissive must remember that his orgasm does not belong to him but to his Mistress. It is Hers to use or deny... however she sees fit. 10. The submissive may never touch his own genitals without the permission of his Mistress. When washing, he must use a wash cloth or brush, never his hands. 11. The submissive should never buy his own clothing without the guidance of his Mistress. He should buy what pleases her, not what he likes. 12. When urinating, the submissive will always sit on the toilet... no exceptions. 13. The submissive must submit to eating only “submissive food” selected by his Mistress whenever she requires it. 14. When a meal is over the submissive must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes. 15. The submissive must always give his Mistress the first choice of everything — She picks the channel on TV to watch, the restaurant to go to, the movie to see, the friends to entertain, etc. 16. The submissive will perform all household chores for his dominate, to include(but not limited to): sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets mop all floors dust and polish all furniture make the beds every day wash and fold all clothing linen scrub bathrooms clean kitchen Cook meals wash dishes set the table shop for groceries take out trash and sort recycled items run all errands Found this on a profile...well said:    1. The male must always practice respect, whether in private or public. Stand when she enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is seated. 2. Be totally attentive: open doors, offer her your coat, she sits first, begins to eat first, and always ask permission to leave her presence. 3. The male should never speak unless spoken to, or unless anticipating the needs of his Mistress. 4. The submissive will never sit with legs spread or slouch in a way typical of untrained males. Good posture and decorum is a sign of respect. 5. The male will never stare at a woman without her permission. Unless the woman seeks eye-contact, they submissive will keep his eyes lowered at all times. 6. When walking with his Mistress, or any woman, the submissive will keep his gait in step with hers, which usually means taking smaller steps. The male should always be at least 1-2 steps behind, but not too far because he must open all doors. 7. The submissive must always be pleasant, never argue and never pout. 8. The male surrenders control of how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps, the friends or acquaintances he is allowed to keep. 9. The submissive must remember that his orgasm does not belong to him but to his Mistress. It is Hers to use or deny... however she sees fit. 10. The submissive may never touch his own genitals without the permission of his Mistress. When washing, he must use a wash cloth or brush, never his hands. 11. The submissive should never buy his own clothing without the guidance of his Mistress. He should buy what pleases her, not what he likes. 12. When urinating, the submissive will always sit on the toilet... no exceptions. 13. The submissive must submit to eating only “submissive food” selected by his Mistress whenever she requires it. 14. When a meal is over the submissive must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes. 15. The submissive must always give his Mistress the first choice of everything — She picks the channel on TV to watch, the restaurant to go to, the movie to see, the friends to entertain, etc. 16. The submissive will perform all household chores for his dominate, to include(but not limited to): sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets mop all floors dust and polish all furniture make the beds every day wash and fold all clothing linen scrub bathrooms clean kitchen Cook meals wash dishes set the table shop for groceries take out trash and sort recycled items run all errands Found this on a profile...well said:    1. The male must always practice respect, whether in private or public. Stand when she enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is seated. 2. Be totally attentive: open doors, offer her your coat, she sits first, begins to eat first, and always ask permission to leave her presence. 3. The male should never speak unless spoken to, or unless anticipating the needs of his Mistress. 4. The submissive will never sit with legs spread or slouch in a way typical of untrained males. Good posture and decorum is a sign of respect. 5. The male will never stare at a woman without her permission. Unless the woman seeks eye-contact, they submissive will keep his eyes lowered at all times. 6. When walking with his Mistress, or any woman, the submissive will keep his gait in step with hers, which usually means taking smaller steps. The male should always be at least 1-2 steps behind, but not too far because he must open all doors. 7. The submissive must always be pleasant, never argue and never pout. 8. The male surrenders control of how he spends his time, how he dresses, what he eats, where he sleeps, the friends or acquaintances he is allowed to keep. 9. The submissive must remember that his orgasm does not belong to him but to his Mistress. It is Hers to use or deny... however she sees fit. 10. The submissive may never touch his own genitals without the permission of his Mistress. When washing, he must use a wash cloth or brush, never his hands. 11. The submissive should never buy his own clothing without the guidance of his Mistress. He should buy what pleases her, not what he likes. 12. When urinating, the submissive will always sit on the toilet... no exceptions. 13. The submissive must submit to eating only “submissive food” selected by his Mistress whenever she requires it. 14. When a meal is over the submissive must be quick to clear the table and wash the dishes. 15. The submissive must always give his Mistress the first choice of everything — She picks the channel on TV to watch, the restaurant to go to, the movie to see, the friends to entertain, etc. 16. The submissive will perform all household chores for his dominate, to include(but not limited to): sweep and vacuum all floors and carpets mop all floors dust and polish all furniture make the beds every day wash and fold all clothing linen scrub bathrooms clean kitchen Cook meals wash dishes set the table shop for groceries take out trash and sort recycled items run all errands Found this on a profile...well said:    1. The male must always practice respect, whether in private or public. Stand when she enters the room. Sit (or kneel) as soon as She is s

Have no idea what happened to the pics.. sigh

Please read this before you offer "to serve" a Dominant Woman. Watching you self-pleasure on cam is NOT service to anyone but you.

Feel free to share your thoughts about this article.

Serve, Service, Servitude?
By MsLyn
Borrowed with Permission

What do you mean when you offer to serve?
What do you mean when you offer to be of service?
What do mean when you offer yourself in servitude?
Do the answers to these questions bring up visions of you being bound helplessly while being exquisitely tortured, teased to the verge of orgasm?
Do you envision some Amazon Goddess sporting a huge strapon taking you anally?
Do you envision yourself prancing around in some French Maid Costume and being asked to provide oral service to a Mistress?
Do you envision some woman squatting over your helplessly bound body forcing you to serve her orally?
Do you envision being put over her knee and spanked like a naughty little boy?

Yes, nice visions aren't they? However, not one of those visions is the definition of serve, service, or servitude. Oh, I'm sure you consider them to be just that, but if you check your dictionaries you won't find any mention of French Maid Costumes or bondage or strapons or oral sex or any other fetish you may enjoy.
In fact, you won't find any mention of fetishes at all in the definitions.
Serve is defined as
1. to work for, be a servant
2. to act in a specific capacity
3. to place food before, wait on
4. to be of assistance to.
Service is defined as
1. the occupation or duties of a servant
2. the act or means of serving
3. duties pered as an occupation.
Servitude is defined as

Submission to master slavery.
When you offer to serve a FemDom, what you are offering or should be offering is the surrender of your control. You should know her well enough to trust her with your life. When you offer your servitude to her, you are telling her that you trust her judgment, you trust her to keep you safe from harm, you trust her to know what is best for both of you, you trust her decisions and desire to follow her orders and obey her in all things. Your offer of service is your ability to let go of your ego and your free will control and allow her to control you.
Serving is, first and foremost, the act of making her life easier. It is in compliance with all her desires, wishes, and orders. Yes, BDSM and fetish play more than likely will be included as part of the relationship. But overall, the Ds aspect of the relationship will be where you have turned your control over to her and do as she says. It is about pampering her and catering to her.
Everyday life will be part of this, for most people do have to work, bills do have to be paid, people need to see doctors occasionally, and dentists. Then there are family get-togethers, family emergencies, and social gatherings with vanilla friends and also with Ds friends. For the most part, life will seem pretty vanilla, but there will be one difference. IF you have truly submitted, then your actions will be measured by how your Mistress would feel about it. Your decisions will be based upon what you are allowed or not allowed to decide without her permission. You will treat others with respect, but especially other women. You will consider that your actions would reflect back upon your Mistress and therefore act in a manner that would make her proud of you. There may be other constant reminders she may insist you wear panties under your clothes at work. But you will always remember that you have submitted to her and will honor that commitment.
How can you serve your Mistress what are the ways?
Here are some suggestions
Make sure her home is clean and neat.
Make sure her clothes are clean and neat.
Prepare her favorite foods for her.
Prepare her bath.
Rub her feet after she comes in from working all day.
Offer her a massage if her day was very stressful.
Offer to do her manicure and pedicure.
Have her favorite music playing or find her favorite show or movie on TV.
Surprise her with flowers.
Serve her coffee as soon as she gets up in the morning.
Ask what clothing she wants to be laid out for her.
These are just a few of the ways you can serve her once you have been trained in what she wants and likes. Don't be afraid to use your imagination to surprise her provided of course that she has no problem with you doing this occasionally.
A happy, contented, pleased, relaxed woman is a woman who will then have no problem torturing you, using you, or even indulging you with a fetish or two that are your favorites just to show you how much she really appreciates your service and submission to her.
So, what are you offering?
1 Personal service only oral, massage, bathing?
2 Play sessions only spankings, facesitting, strapon, whippings, cbt?
3 Domestic service only household chores, errands?
4 OR are you offering her the whole package?
These are the things you need to be clear about in your own mind first and foremost before approaching a Mistress and offering to serve her.

I am currently 67 years young. I realized recently that it says 55. I've been here on and off a while and it doesn't change automatically. If I make changes to the profile it will hide it for weeks. I prefer a younger boy and I am very active, as living on 40 acres will do for you, and in good health. It surprises me that I'm this old, lol. However, if I am too old for you, scroll by.

Mst.Rhiannon

Recently, I was contacted by a boy who is out of this country and who NEEDED me to have access to all of his email accounts, banking accounts, to monitor his movements constantly, and really NEEDED a pre-courting collar contract, which I didn't have and don't see a need for one.  I did figure out a long-distance pre-courting collar contract and made a few steps to see where this might go. I also sent him a few lessons that I use to determine if a boy is a possibility at all. He made no attempt to do any of them and when I asked what the hold up was, he said that honestly he wasn't inspired.  I am NOT submissive nor am I interested in being your service Domme. That is for professionals and you pay for the privilege of dictating what you NEED. If a boy requires more effort to keep than he is a help to me, it gets tedious and I am NOT interested. That is just a dominant in submissive's clothing.

I'm so glad the journal is back!!! Thank you CS!

I can't believe it!! The Journal option is working again!! That's great.

Sing once again with me.
Our strange duet.
My power over you.
Grows Stronger yet.
And though you turn from me.
To glance behind
This longing deep and vast is there
within your mind.

You have come here,
In pursuit of your deepest hurt.
In pursuit of that wish
which, until now, has been silent.

Past the point of no return.
no backward glances.
our games of make believe are at an end.

Past all thoughts of if or when,
no use resisting.
Abandon thought and let the dream descend.

Say you'll share with me one love, one lifetime.
lift me, save me, from my solitude.
Say you'll want me with you here beside you.
Anywhere you'll go, let me go too.
beloved, that is all I ask of you.

  - Andrew Lloyd Weber

10 reasons I know you're not right for me.

10. You're more concerned with your body than my mind.

9. u tlk like dis>> I don’t even like that in texting… It certainly does not convey intelligence.

8. All you want to talk about is kinks and what I will do to you… in detail.

7.You want me to watch you jack off on cam, “for my pleasure,” or any other kind online play. Not my thing and stated clearly on my profile.. see #2

6. You refer to yourself in the third person.

5. You seem to think that lifestyle BDSM is one continuous scene, see #3.

4 You think I have some kind of obligation to you despite the fact I'm not your Mistress till I say so.

3. You think that having me beat you three times a day and double on the weekends is at all based in reality.

2. You have failed to read my profile, which would save us both a lot of time.

1. You haven't read my journal at all..great insight to a person if they use their journal at all.

I love that first blush of excitement, when you feel a connection and the first wave of potential is fresh and energizing.. Nice!

This was written by LadyElizabeth in CT, and is so good I had to share:

1. We are both real people and we will both make mistakes.Often the only way to learn is to err. If you do something wrong, admit it. Be prepared to learn from it, accept your punishment, and move proudly forward with the knowledge that you have grown in your submission. If your mistake is the result of direct disobedience, be prepared for a substantial punishment, and take it with dignity. Consider why you disobeyed. Discuss with me whether the mistake was an innocent oversight or part of a larger behavioral pattern. Try not to make the same mistakes twice, in D/s or in the other areas of your life. Be reasonable about whether a particular rule I have set for you is something you can realistically follow. Be aware that some rules are easier for some slaves to follow than others.

Dominants are people too, and we also make mistakes. We break our own rules, we disappoint ourselves, and we disappoint our servants. It is my obligation to acknowledge my mistakes, to apologize for them in an appropriate manner, and to learn from them also. Over the years I have learned from many serious errors: I've said hurtful things to slaves I care about, I have held on to attachments when they weren't ideal for me or for my partners, and I've misplaced my priorities in terms of time/energy/attention. I've learned from my mistakes, yet I will continue to make them, as we all do.

 2. Real life comes first.I hesitate to even use the term “real life”, because for those of us who engage in BDSM in our daily lives, kink IS a huge component of our real lives. To clarify, by real life I mean the other vanilla aspects of our lives that are necessary for our basic functioning and general health. This can mean different things to different people, so the specifics should always be part of your individual negotiation, but there are some basics that apply in most relationships, D/s or otherwise:

   *Health. Your physical health always comes first, as does mine. If I am asking you to do something that might damage your health, either directly or indirectly, we need to reassess.

   *Family. If you have children, elderly parents, pets, or any other living beings that depend on you for care, you are obligated to provide for their needs before concerning yourself with mine. I can feed, bathe, and clothe myself. Your charges may not be capable of the same.

   *Financial stability. I don’t want someone sending me gifts when he can’t buy groceries. If a slave is in financial distress, it is that slave’s responsibility to establish a sustainable budget and be honest with me about his limitations. I’m happy to help and offer guidance, but I can’t give advice if I don’t know there’s a problem.

3. Be transparent about your intentions, your desires as well as your limits.

I am not a mind reader. I can only know what I know. This sounds silly, but it’s actually quite straightforward. I can only know information that I have learned through my own experiences. If you find yourself upset because I haven’t met an expectation you have of me, ask yourself this question: did you ever tell me you had this expectation? If you have a hidden desire you are ashamed to admit, I respect your silence and your privacy, but being upfront about your needs will better help me understand them. The worst thing I can do is say no.

 4. There is no universal D/s handbook, and no “One Size Fits All” form of Dominance.

Dog trainers often say that there are no bad dogs, only bad owners. I think the same can be said about the slaves in my training as well. Granted, there are some genuinely awful human beings on this planet (and I believe there are some lousy dogs too) but most failed relationships come down to a lack of clear communication or a poor partner fit. These two areas of failure are often interrelated.

In the BDSM world, we talk a lot about scene negotiation and discussions of risk and consent. As a community, we are experts at metacommunication (loosely defined as “talk about talking”, and the subject of some of my academic work). When I see a prospective slave, they virtually always can discuss their physical limits, their fetish interests, and their erotic fantasies. Finding those forms of compatibility is fairly easy. I consider this to be the left-brained half of BDSM negotiation. What’s more elusive is finding chemistry, comfort, and personality compatibility. These areas make up the more nebulous right-brained component to Dominant-submissive relationships. Often, the right-brain match is overlooked, thus it is often what fails. We like to joke about the “One true Way” to enlightenment through BDSM. Obviously there’s no such thing.

5. Have a sense of humor.

A sense of humor is crucial in all aspects of this kinky stuff that we do. Humor goes beyond the occasional humiliation scene, latex wardrobe blowout, or party practical joke. Although many slaves are used to being the target of laughter, some Dominants have a difficult time being the of a joke. Authenticity and humor are two of the sexiest characteristics a person can possess. The best Dominants I've known are quite comfortable laughing at themselves. Those Dominants are the ones who are willing to be real, and we expect the same realness from our submissive partners.

I'm often asked, what I enjoy the most when it comes to training.. there are so many variations and possibilities that narrowing it down is difficult.   What I enjoy the most is the connection that develops between a Mistress and her boy. Which makes possible moments when he is gazing into my eyes and the pain /pleasure dichotomy is so intense, it's like  shockwave between us. That takes my breath....

Tried to reformat this, so it doesn't take up so much room. Still not overly impressed with the assessment, lol.

Dominant                    86%

Sadist                         79%

Experimental              71%

Bondage                      32%

Exhibitionist / Voyeur  32%

Switch                        21%

Masochist                   14%

Vanilla                        14%

Degradation                7%

Submissive                 0%

HEART OF A SLAVE

~Author: Master Steve of Butchmann's about 1993.

A slave is an individual born with a slave spirit. No one can make an individual have this spirit; nothing can be done to create this state in an individual's being. No one trying hard or wishing for this sense of spirit can develop it within themselves and no Master can cause it to occur.

A slave is an extraordinary human being who is born with this slave spirit - as much as they are born to breathe, or have gifted talents like design or music. A slave is extraordinary, rare and most often confused until they discover their slave spirit heart. Most slave’s wander through life feeling unfulfilled - as if they have a "dark hole" in their spirit - a hole that can be temporarily filled with an abundance of sex, work, addictive behavior or other whole-life-consuming factors.

Slaves often have a sense of the spiritual (some become clergy), but feel this sense of spiritual awareness to be disconnected from their desire for a Mastery/slavery relationship. A slave has a right to feel joy and pride in their slavery and in service to a Master. Slave is often confused seeing Dominance as Mastery; SM as completion; or fetish focus as the fulfillment of this "dark hole" in their spirit. Many can find enough fulfillments in these areas to develop a sense of wholeness (often a quiet longing exists - although for what, the slave doesn't know).

The heart of a slave can be actualized only when the spiritual journey occurs that connects this "dark hole" in the spirit to the whole spirit and then to the universe. It is a process of a painful and trusting leap of faith that causes this connectedness to occur - a truly spiritual journey. The heart of a slave can only be complete in service to a Master and it is within this service that the spiritual journey occurs. Slavery is not about a "hard dick or clit experience", although hard dicks and clits happen and are enjoyed. Slavery is the completion of a spirit in search of "connectedness" in the universe.

A Study of what women want in a FLR, taken from http://www.aboutflr.com/articles/What-women-want-and-dont-want-in-FLR.html

  a Great resource.  As a slave you should be doing all of these.

Positive trends show things women want

Men are advised to lavish these things on their mates. For women to be positive about something over 90% of the time means is can be common place and practiced in almost every relationship.

• 100% positive
• I want him to appreciate me openly
• I want him to ask me what help he can be
• I want him to seek my approval
• I want him to seek my advice
• I want him to be obedient to me
• I want to control our Life Direction -FOOD GROUP
• I want FLR benefits
• 99% positive
• I want him to desire me sexually
• I want him to keep a nice home
• I want him to make himself attractive for me
• I want him to do the housework
• I want him to be a confident gentleman
• I want to control Household Chores - FOOD GROUP
• I want final say in our decisions
• 98% positive
• I want him to comfort me
• I want him to do errands for me
• I want him to reveal his inner fears
• I want to control his Free Time - FOOD GROUP
• I like the thought of leading a man
• I want FLR pampering
• I want him to prove his desire to serve me
• 97% positive
• I want him to be vulnerable to me
• I like the thought of dominating a man
• I like the thought of controlling him
• The thought of commanding him
• 96% positive
• I want him to greet me at the door
• I want him to rub my feet
• I want him to fetch for me
• I want to control Sex - FOOD GROUP
• I want to choose his grooming style
• I like the thought of managing our life
• 95% positive
• I want to control Finances - FOOD GROUP
• I want him to train him
• 94% positive
• I want to choose his clothing style
• I want to punish him

People have been asking me lately about how good this site is. Yes, I’ve been here on an off for a good long while and have had mixed results. I’ve made some good friends, found some good slave/subs… and I’ve wasted my time on several, as well. It’s part and parcel of the experience.I wish people were more honest about whether they just want to talk up the fantasy or are really interested in a real time relationship. That way like minded folks could chat with them and those of us that are reality based could get on with it. If you are serious about this, I’d suggest going over the interests list and make sure they honestly reflect your thoughts. Mistresses judge a lot on those, as without a real match the possibility of success is negligible. Go in to edit profile and then at the top there are tabs. The Interests tab is the one to choose. If you have no strong feelings about something such as “ live for it”, “love it”, “like it”, or “hard limits”, I'd leave it off.. A huge laundry list just doesn’t get read.. of course, this applies to me, your mileage may vary. I’d also like to say that the boys who say they want an extreme whippings twice a day and 3 times on Sunday is just talking and doesn't know anything about a real whipping.. 24/7 can't be all about fetish and I’m not interested in having a boy who” needs” I have to revolve around.. Good grief

Note: READ the Mistress' profile BEFORE you contact them. You might get the information you need to make the decision NOT to contact them at all. Recently I got a long and very involved note from a boy who called himself a slave, who was so very helpful to point out in detail just exactly how a slave is to be treated....as if... a true slave would consider doing anything like that at all. Not even a true sub gives a detailed set of " this is how you will treat me." that was a bit off putting, and then when I brought up, as is stated in my profile, that due to the proximity to my parents there would be times when a vanilla facade would be necessary. He, sanctimoniously wrote back that "no slave should be involved in any vanilla context, at all." I am so very appreciative of him schooling me on that..... NOT.     Just because he would not have been kept naked, or been openly a slave around my 80 year old parents does not mean that his role would change in any way. We live in a vanilla society and while there may be indeed be dominants who never have a slave in any vanilla context, I daresay they are not in the majority. If you need constant trappings to make clear to you or reinforce your role, you have not accepted who you are.. or are not who you think you are. As always, my journal, my opinion...

I was contacted recently by a very intelligent boy who expressed the frustration of getting the pat responses about being "to young" and/or "too far away" and was also mentioning that it's not about his fetishes and fantasies by the Domme's that matter.

I see this a lot and have used the first two many time, but it's not to be flip nor to imply that I am not seriously looking. So thought to post it here perhaps it will help explain the reasons  some of us use to determine a good candidate and why. This is approximately what I told him, with a few changes.

I appreciate that you stated it's not about your fetishes but about the Domme's needs and wants. While that is partially true, and certainly the Domme's need should be foremost in the boy's mind as his reason for being, it is still very important to find someone who also shares your fetishes.  If you are drawn to cross dressing, diapers and cuckolding and your Domme is not.... you will not be happy long term and it will cause the disintegration of the relationship. I have had many years in the life style and don't mind taken on newbies, however, as I said there still has to be a good match.

Age may indeed just be a number but in a real life, 24/7 situation there has to a passable "cover story." I certainly can't pass off a 20 something as a "partner" to vanilla folks and a "boarder" only works for a short time. Flattering as it may be to have that attention it just isn't practical long term.

Distance can be a problem because training and getting to know where the matches are, and are not, require quite a bit of face to face time way before the decision is made to move someone into my home, so the ability to relocate doesn't entirely solve that issue. Though if you can't relocate don't pretend like you can with a Mistress who has expressly said that you'd have too.

I had a very good boy for a while,  some of his very early training was to be a cuckold to bbc and that was not something I was not into.  He knew that going in but thought he could learn focus on my needs. I think he tried, but pretty shortly it broke down. Another, wasn't sure anal training was something he could tolerate.. he was willing to try it but as it turned out he really couldn't stand any attention at all to that area, and was so repulsed by it that he couldn't consider anything else going forward.

During training you may find there are areas that just don't work for you or ones that you are very drawn to. Take that knowledge and use it to find your place.

I will also say that you should not  call yourself a "slave" if you have a long list of "don't"  and a longer list of "what I need" that might fit in the  "sub" category," but even then it comes across as "do me."

As always, this is my journal and my opinion, your mileage may vary. All Dommes/Doms are unique and have their own requirements. 

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To be chastised is NOT the same as being kept in Chastity....

Top Ten List of Irritants..
10. Rude and crude language or remarks.
9. Assuming a casual attitude when we've just met, I am not your "Babe."
8. Asking me what I'm wearing, lololol
7. Being more interested in your fetishes than mine.
6. Telling me how your last Mistress did everything, over and over...
5. Telling me how strict and severe your introduction was over and over...... ad nauseam.
4. Thinking that kinky sex is the same as a M/s relationship..
3. Setting a time to chat or talk on the phone and not being there. That gets a pass just once.

2. Talking and talking and talking and then disappearing when RT comes up, or, at that point, give an excuse that a long distance relationship won't work. Know where I am when we start talking. If you're not willing to make an effort I'm certainly not.

1. Assuming because I'm not crude or rude that I'm not strong, strict, etc.