Collarspace

Greetings all and welcome to my profile. (Yes, the pic is of me).

A few things right off the bat.....I dont relate as much to the role of slave. I relate much more to submissive, service oriented, and bottom. It has taken me a lot of years to figure this out (okay, I may be a bit bullheaded as well).

I was raised by a single mom from the age of four. This was back in a time when divorce wasnt so common nor accepted. I act as I was raised.....respectful and responsive to women. I hold women in high regard. My mom put me in my place many times and I learned to stay there. While she was strict she was a wonderful educator. I learned to cook, clean, be attentive, I even learned to sew!

As I grew older I sensed I was now in a more dominant position and for years I explored and played in that role. Those were interesting times but not fulfilling ones. I chatted a lot, played some, and explored as often as I could but never really felt satisfied. This started to change when I had chatted one evening with a wonderful woman about various things in our kinky world. It was one of those feel each other out type of chats. After a short time she had me figured out. Suddenly the conversation was under her control and she wasnt chatting as much as telling, controlling, and being very direct. This really opened my eyes!! This felt so comfortable and familiar. I fell into place during that conversation and it felt RIGHT! That got me thinking, a lot. Was I was on the wrong side of this? Was I a switch?

So I tried switching a little I wasnt good at that at all. So I began learning more about my new path. As I thought about it I realized it wasnt a new path as much as a resurrection of an old one.

In the fetish world discipline is very intriguing to me. It wasnt so much growing up. Later it was something I thought more about much and actually started to miss. Discipline can be powerful, creative, varied, and cathartic. Throughout all the time I was figuring what my role was, discipline was always there. What can I say, honestly it fascinates me. There is so much to explore and so many variables to play with! I can remember from in my youth the cleansing power of discipline. My professions have always been high stress, fast paced, and laden with responsibility....It is so refreshing to be able to purge that stress.

I am a curious person so experimenting with discipline ranks very high with me. I am also very aware that discipline is and can be much more than spanking (though I admit an affinity towards spanking). While I can be sarcastic, overflowing with humor, and cheeky at times the one thing I am not good at, nor try to be good at, is being a brat...I am just not the brat type.

I love the outdoors. Hiking and camping allow for quiet relaxation and enjoying the natural beauty of world. I enjoy helping people and I do a lot of volunteering (that is a carryover from my youth). I enjoy tinkering with things in and out of the home. I love Science Fiction both in printed and movies. I enjoy computers, technology, and do casual programming for fun. It is fascinating to learn. I spend a lot of time sitting back watching...taking as much in as I can. I greatly enjoy chats and discussions that are two sided. It should always be enjoyable to both sides and I also have a goal of making my chat partner happy! This is how we learn and become aware of our compatibility.

I have been to a couple of munches to feel them out. I do recommend anyone attending them if you get a chance. They were very casual and inviting. Everyone I saw was engaged in light discussion. It is easy to see that connections can be made. Being able to talk openly with like minded individuals was so refreshing. My ONE mistake was of inaction. I was enjoying the meet and greet conversation when I made eye contact with a woman at the end of the table. She also in a conversation but I saw that she was watching me. I finished up the discussions I was involved in and noticed that she was gone. I still think about that and for those that are hesitant I offer this, dont be. At a munch you are among friends.

Lets chat and see if we mesh! Exploring these wonderful fetishes is great fun!

I am a patient person usually. Many of these fetishes are the type you dont want to just rush into without thinking things through and considering your partner. It is wonderful to follow the conversations and learn....I learn something almost every day!!

Results from bdsmtest.org from a few years ago....
96 GirlBoy
96 Submissive
93 Ageplayer
87 Degradee
81 Slave
80 Masochist
77 Pet
72 Rope Bunny
71 Brat
59 Experimentalist
59 Primal (Prey)
58 Non-monogamist
51 Exhibitionist
32 Voyeur
28 Switch
20 Vanilla
10 DaddyMommy
9 Dominant
8 Degrader
7 Sadist
6 Brat Tamer
5 Owner
5 Rigger
4 MasterMistress
2 Primal (Hunter)

I will be sure to to update my profile once it has been approved.