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I am a person with feelings first and foremost then I am a sub. Please remember that in any discussions we may have.

I have been out of the scene for a while to please be gentle with me...

I know what I want from a relationship one that works both in the vanilla world and kink. In the vanilla world it would appear we are just that, however, behind closed doors thats our time...

I dislike casual play and adore all the feelings that are gained from a long term relationship based on friendship, communication, love, consideration, respect, trust and caring for one another.

Its all about balance and doing what appeals to you both of you and within agreed limits.

Yes I am a sub and do not switch, I know to the right DomMaster I will be submissive...but that does not mean I will be a doormat ... I am not nor will be a domestic slave!!

I understand what is expected of a sub within a Ds context but that does not mean I have a list of things I want or need...quite the opposite I am open to new ideas. I also understand that each relationship is different it depends on how you both react to each other that will eventually define how the relationship will work.

I believe a good Dom should want his submissive to blossom - he wants to love, nurture and cherish her, so she becomes all she can be. This does not mean he wont discipline her in a manner that may hurt her or in play there may be the use of pain...

Equally, a good submissive wants to love, honour and serve her Dom, so he will be fulfilled by her support of him.

Confidence is appealing - arrogance is not.

I have been told I am intelligent, down to earth, will make my views known and has a sense of humour, I can be cheeky at times but never bratty....

I will not have any part of play that uses drugs.

I am a non smoker and do not want a relationship with a smoker.

If you are in a relationship or married please pass me by, I am not judging you, I do not want a relationship with someone who is. I also do not want messages that are for booty calls only.

I also do not wish a relationship with a switch, before any comments are made I have been there and done that....it does not work for me

I respect myself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves me, grows me, or makes me happy.

The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend........ Henri Bergson

This is very poignant, to me it says of when you have finally accepted yourself for who you are and what you are

The time will come when with elation you will greet yourself,Arriving at your own door, in your own mirror,And each will smile at the other s welcomeAnd saying, sit here. Eat.You will love again the stranger who was yourself.Give wine, give bread, give back your heartTo the stranger who has loved all your life,Whom you abandoned for another, who knows you by heart.Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, thephotographs, the desperate notes.Sit. Feast on your life.

By Derek Wallcott

If you wish to chat please do contact me.

Thank you for reading and take care.

Please note, the pictures depict my feelings and they are not me - they are examples of what I like or enjoy.