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	Im a lifestyle Domme. You should read my entire profile before contacting me. If you dont read to the end andor dont follow instructions I will not be nice about it! Im looking for the following in a submissive or slave 1) Someone who recognizes that I am a person first and a Domme second. That means you should be able to have a conversation about many topics not just Ds BDSM things. You should also be capable of actual conversation and not one or two word answers. Respect and manners are essential. 2) You should be open, honest and genuine about yourself both in your real life and in your level of submissiveness. If youre looking for bedroom submission or casual play you should say that right up front. You should also understand that means that youre looking for a pro or a whore. Im not a whore and Im not interested in being your kinky side chick. If youre looking for lifestyle Ds you should say that too. Dont just tell me youre service oriented tell me how you would serve me so that I can be honest and tell you if theres room in my life for that. 3) Someone who is obedient and has the ability to follow instructions. If youre interested in someone forcing you to submit were not a good match. You need to be honest with yourself about your submissive style. If you cant obey simple instructions like texting, emailing or calling me at a certain time then youre not for me. SAMs, brats and those who constantly challenge authority are huge turn offs for me. 4) Someone who grasps reality and can separate fantasy from reality. This is especially true with respecting each others time. Clingy, demanding, pushy behavior and an excessive need for attention is not something that goes over well with me. I have a job and other commitments just like you do - so go back to number one Respect and Manners After reading all of this you need to decide if you are interested in some casual arrangement or a more serious committed real time commitment . Depending on youranswer you should pick the below to copy and paste into your introductory email to me . . . . CASUAL SUBMISSIVE APPLICATION 1) Have you served in real time 2) Highest level of education completed 3) Current job 4) Availability to serve (include if you are looking to serve online, via phone or cam or real life and how much time you are looking to serve -- once a week, once a month, etc) SERIOUS REAL TIME SUBMISSIVESLAVE APPLICATION you MUST include a photo of your face when if you are looking to be a real time submissive 1) Have you served in real time 2) Have you served in a 247 capacity 3) Highest level of education completed 4) Current job 5) Availability to serve (include if you are looking to serve online, via phone or cam or real life and how much time you are looking to serve -- once a week, once a month, etc) 6) Able to relocate if more than 50 miles from me 7) Are you in a relationship 8) Do you have children 9) Current responsibilities (job and family commitments) 10) How are you able to Service me (special skills such as domestic service, carpentry, computer skills, etc)

3/28/2018 9:01:46 AM

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1/30/2018 4:14:06 PM

Ancientsea

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Do not dominate a conversation or make it all about you. A monologue is not conversation.
Show interest and curiosity in others.
Strive for a balance of give and take.
Be an active listener by maintaining good eye contact and asking pertinent questions.
Train yourself to relax by using visualization

, meditation, or other relaxation methods. Being relaxed is vital for good conversation.
Do not interrupt and cut in with your own ideas before the other person is finished speaking.
Maintain an open mind; everyone has a right to express themselves even if you don't agree with what they are saying.
Although this is cliché, try to avoid topics such as sex, religion and politics. You would be surprised at how many people get trapped by them and end up in verbal battle, not conversation.
Be prepared by staying on top of the latest news, developments and world events.
Be approachable by staying relaxed, smiling and maintaining a friendly attitude.

1/30/2018 6:10:15 AM

just fucking stop with the google hang outs and skype! Seriously! STOP!!!

1/28/2018 11:43:47 AM

If one more person sends me a message with the expression "serve" I'm going to track them down and beat the shit out of them. I detest the word "serve" because it is so vague - it's like "fun" on vanilla dating sites. My problem with the word is really more because for most this means "sex" just like "fun" is the code word for sex on vanilla sites. If you want to "serve" me and I need my grass cut or my toilet cleaned but you don't know how to do those things - then you cannot "serve" me. If you cannot explain to me how you can serve you are pretty useless

Real Things you can to do actually "serve"

cooking
cleaning
grooming
health
personal trainer
pet care
home repair
car repair
organization
event planning
child care
chauffeur
scheduling
secretarial
intellectual conversationalist

1/20/2018 10:00:43 AM

For all those men out there that want a Domme to "use them sexually" I am not a whore I do not have sex whether it has a kink element or not with anyone. If you're looking to be "used sexually" you're looking for a Pro Domme/Hooker. I am not here to "use you sexually" and then have you go back to your wife or girlfriend or your vanilla life and ignore me until you're horny again. Get a grip - if you have nothing to offer other than "sexual service" I am NOT interested!

1/8/2018 5:26:39 PM

Is reading really that difficult a skill???

12/31/2017 6:58:06 AM

Both good "how to's" on getting to know someone.

http://thoughtcatalog.com/rania-naim/2016/02/40-deep-questions-to-ask-if-you-really-want-to-get-to-know-someone/

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/45-questions-to-ask-to-get-to-know-someone.html

12/31/2017 6:56:26 AM

Interesting Chastity Devices

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12/21/2017 8:22:42 AM

(I've rephrased this again so that it doesn't come across as critical - it's meant to be helpful hint on how to improve your interaction with other people in all aspects of your life)

People notice when you’re interested

One thing that a person notices very quickly is whether someone is self-involved or interested in getting to know them better.

If you don’t ask any questions or seem like you want to hear more about a person, who they are, it makes them feel distant and they’ll quickly be turned off.

It’s easy to fall into a passive mode of answering questions without reciprocating and showing genuine interest in the other person. Watch out for this trap in any interaction.

12/21/2017 8:17:39 AM

So it looks like my last journal entry was deleted. Was it because it was "critical of other users" I never really specifically criticized anyone in particular. I just think that in general people need to work on their conversation skills.

12/17/2017 5:32:50 AM

In place of a Dark Lord, you would have a queen! Not dark, but beautiful and terrible as the dawn! Treacherous as the sea! Stronger than the foundations of the earth! All shall love me, and despair! ~Galadriel (movie)

In place of the Dark Lord you will set up a Queen. And I shall not be dark, but beautiful and terrible as the Morning and the Night! Fair as the Sea and the Sun and the Snow upon the Mountain! Dreadful as the Storm and the Lightning! Stronger than the foundations of the earth. All shall love me and despair! ~Galadriel (book)

12/15/2017 1:51:31 PM

Need to figure out where to advertise the whole nite flirt thing. Also ran across another site talk to me dot com. Not sure if I should register there too.

If you want to talk on the phone - here is where you can get me:

https://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/11481242-Strict-or-Sensual-Submit-Now-

Learn how you can call me on 1-800-TO-FLIRT

1-800-863-5478

ext: 11481242

12/11/2017 2:24:10 PM

12/11/17

So tonight I'm going to try nite flirt for the first time. If you're looking for "sessions" over the phone you can find me there

https://www.niteflirt.com/listings/show/11481242-Strict-or-Sensual-Submit-Now-

1-800-863-5478 ext: 11481242