I am a submissive man who loves daily servitude and protocol. I find a dominant with a sadistic streak quite attractive: I have a bit of a love-hate relationship with pain.

As for play, I do like a risky element, but I have the utmost respect for those who don’t. The most important thing for me is to be aware of the risks and know how you want to deal with them (on both sides). There are definitely things that don’t rock my boat, but as a sub I can usually cope with it, and I’m quite proud of my submissiveness. Obviously, we should be on the same wavelength.

Service has always been the most important aspect of bdsm for me. To me, an FLR is not defined by play, but rather by a deep power exchange and that is not necessarily something sexual.

I enjoy learning new things, whether in a relationship, professionally or in my spare time. How you prefer to drink your coffee in the morning, how to organise a business process, what you prefer to eat, how you like to be touched: challenge me. I promise to give it my best.

A few character traits: naturally submissive (duh), INTP, gentle, caring, intelligent, confident, down to earth, service-oriented and a staunch supporter of LGBTQ+ rights. As an introvert, I tend to be shy around people I don’t know yet, but over time I feel more and more at ease.

I am 1m86 tall, 87kg and a fairly active person: I exercise regularly (at least 3x a week) and I love backpacking. I try to do a 1-2 week solo mountain hike every year to re-energise.

Important: I am ethically non-monogamous. I date a French lady and we see each other regularly, but neither of us blocks the other from entering into another relationship. What does matter to me is her consent (she is not my D, but I am under her protection). Contacting her (FR/EN) via email / in person or otherwise is of course possible.

About you:

I am looking for a dominant woman who wants a servant who is not just submissive during play. Presumably, you are a confident lady who loves culture, good food, a city trip now and then, but you’re also a domme who wants a submissive to make your life easy, on whom you can impose behavioral rules, but with whom you can also joke and joke or have a conversation about everyday life. And whom you can push you back into his submissive role with a fingertip. You love to exert control and power, but at the same time you might love watching a film together, cuddling on the couch or with your slave at your feet.

In me, you’ll find a confident man who knows his place in the relationship. Who will support you and submit to your authority. You’ll get a (qualified) amateur cook who takes care of household chores, can give you a good massage after a hard day, and fills up your bath and serves you a glass of wine.

If you feel like playing or want to give your sadistic side free rein, I will willingly undergo whatever you feel like (within agreed limits, of course). Or maybe we can go on a playdate together at some public event?

I want to confidently step into a D/s with you and surrender to you. Whether you have multiple partners yourself or not is not an issue for me, but openness about this between us is obviously important.