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Hetero Male, 51, InHerMind, Washington 
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A Primer for All





So...



After many years (15) in the lifestyle and much of them on this site. I have decided it is time to make a profile that helps my fellow kinksters (Especially new ones) understand better how to interact on this site.



Having been a secretary, administrative assistant, writer of femdom content and marketingpromoter to many successful Dommes on this site, I have had the honor and privilege to see both sides of the lifestyle. Seeing all the crap that Dommes put up with and also seeing from a slaves perspective, have brought me to this point, and I would like to help by putting in writing this SitePrimer for those that are just so frustrated with all the so called time wasters, fakes and flakes.



Below are some of my observations on both sides of the coin



1. Ladies, please understand that the reason most guys are calling you fake is because they are just trying to gain your attention. Most guys lack the intelligence to actually say something that would make you smile, so they go the other route and call you names to gain any attention they can. Think of it like grade school, where the boys would tease you to get your attention. Any attention is better than none in their book.



2. With the above understanding in place, you ladies must also understand that half the women on this site are guys posing as women. That said, a few pictures showing yourself helps, but having one with a sign, showing the date, your profile name and the time proves you are not a fake.



3. Ladies, when taking pictures of yourself please think of the background behind you. There is nothing worse that a truly beautiful Domme having her beauty detracted from, by a ton of trash and nasty looking crap everywhere. A clean background is key to attracting quality slaves.



4, Ladies again when it comes to pictures... Please dont show your vagina right off the bat. This is the holy of holys and just putting it out there for a slave to see without properly earning it, cheapens you. You are a Domme and just showing all you have on your profile is not very Domme like.



5. Boys, you have no idea how many stupid messages these ladies get. As a secretary for many Dommes, my job was to filter their emails. One line messages with Hi Your sexy or for god sakes sending a dick pic is just rude and disrespectful. If you cant say something intelligent or at least nice, dont contact the lady until you can.



6. This one is for everyone on this site. Guys, read the ladies profile! Dont let your dick make you respond just because of her beauty. She has a brain and you disrespect her by not at least learning about her. Conversely ladies, we know you are the Domme, but having the common decency if you are going to respond of reading the profile to whom you are responding to is also fair. We are all people here, even is one is submissive, does not mean that they are not a person. Respect goes both ways!



7. Findoms... This is a tough one for lifestylers to accept because it goes to feeling that this lifestyle has now been monetized. I have written many a contract, application, story, game, assignment and such for my findom owners. That said, each of them clearly stated in their profiles what types of fetishes they enjoyed and were extremely knowledgeable about those fetishes. If your profile just states pay me, with no knowledge clearly stated about your experience and education of the lifestyle. Well... You get as much as you put into this.



8. Ladies, to cut down on all the stupid messages you receive, put a message at the beginning of your profile stating that you have a message somewhere in your profile that must be the first line of a prospective subs message to you. If that message or code word is not there, just delete the message. If the send a second time without, block and forget. As a secretary this was a great way of keeping my Dommes inbox spic and )



9. To the ladies here. I cannot stress enough how important it is to actually know something about the fetishes you say you are an expert on. So many of you feel that just looking hot will get you by. As an MBA and having worked with some very successful Dommes in my life, you would be amazed at how hard these women work to learn the ins and out of the fetishes. Knowing the pros and cons of a metal chastity device Versus a plastic device will go a long way in showing you have done your homework. Trust me us subs even being so far beneath you chat and a Domme that is clueless about the fetish she is trying to use gets talked about. For many Dommes this is a business, they work 247 over multiple sites with multiple profiles per site. You can bet they are very educated and this is no casual thing for them. If you are new, read, read read. Also study the successful ladies as you can learn something!



10. Respect is the key here folks. If you have no respect for yourself then you have no reason to expect other with have some for you. It really is a two way street as a sub needs the Domme and without a sub you cant be a Domme. Respect respect respect...



That is all for now folks, but I will update my journal if I can think of more to add.



Peace Booty Grease!








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