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FinalVortex
Hetero Male, 59, Tampa bay, Florida 
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FinalVortex

Listen. (Let's do this quietly and try to limit the Internet-inspired bombast.)

There is something about cherish. Not the soft, fluffy kind, but a kind of cherish that is seared into your heart—our hearts—and that wraps around your soul in a way that is fiercely protective. It is something that seeks to find, to demand, a place where you can be cherished, loved…enslaved. We’re not talking about the fantasy-fueled veneer of bdsm, the fashionable accessory that people put on or take off like an outfit, and we’re certainly not talking about the cleaned-up, jingoistic, language-inspired, country club version of bdsm that has become so popular of late. I’m unapologetically dominant, but yet i don’t subscribe to, or have much time for, the bluster or posturing that sometimes goes with the territory.  Maybe that works for some—and it’s perfectly fine if it does—but life, as it is, has so many possibilities that it seems a shame to reduce it to a parlor game. My modality sometimes bleeds over and will often subsume the nurturing daddy role. We’re talking about something that truly aspires to harness the paradox that finds slavery and control to be an arc of freedom. Instead of limiting possibilities, I believe that submitting and giving up control extends possibilities, brings out new possibilities and direcetions in a relationship. In the end, it’d be nice if we found a life that transcends a lifestyle, a way of life that can be felt on every level, from the interior terrain we take into our public lives, to the external physical expression of our bond that powers the rest of it. Yeah, I know. Those are just words. Believe me, i know fallibility of words. The dimensions of a way of life that can not be adequately described by words. They are just a starting point.

And besides, this is just a mere overview, and I’m not all that big on empty platitudes. Life is meant to be lived, not talked about. So how might we live it?

I’m unashamedly dominant, yes, and consequently like being cared for, to be adored even. I like firm control and I think humiliation can be used to plumb depths. It is a life that might be steeped in our own personal protocol wrapped around an amalgamation of these things, and in return, I would cherish the one who would give her body, mind and soul to me. I don’t do a lot of things to constantly prove I’m a dominant, like put on the dom-uniform or snarl in a dom-ly voice, but I like the subtleties of dominance, like when you wish to obey merely because of a look sent across a crowded room. Sweet-beatings can happen—old-time thrashings—because sometimes the subtleties of our relationship may give way to the raw animalistic passion that binds us, as well as to the exploration of creative bondage and elaborate scenes. So too, can sensuality. Yes, there are many dimensions of my dominance, and perhaps of your submission, but the exact shape, the fit that’ll work for you, will be designed by the two of us as our relationship grows organically.

Interested? Read on.

I’ve never seen dominance or bdsm as a pathway to cheap and easy sex, because although I hope this doesn’t sound too deflating, sex is a rather pedestrian pursuit and woefully easy when compared to something much deeper, much more fulfilling. Quite frankly, anyone can fuck you, but can they pull you into the depths, can the sex be more than a diversion, can it become a true counterbalance to your life beyond the bed? Did I mention animalistic passion? How about the ability to have fun, to laugh? Humor and smiles are an important component. I want someone who gets me as I get her. Combine these things with our deeper lifestyle-inspired aspirations, and then we have a sexual landscape that is neither cheap nor easy. And at that point, anything’s possible.

Commitment and promises and the accouterments of someone’s One-and-Only have their place. But do you think about these things when you’re being dragged away, pushed down? And when you’re awash with shame and humiliation—the confusion of love—do you think about the window boxes and picket fences, and of waving goodbye to some guy carrying a briefcase as he heads off to work? But it could happen, this love thing. In fact, I want it to. If it turns out that we collide with great force and we are unable to extricate our hearts and limbs and souls from each other, then I am not adverse to pulling out the chains and claiming you for life, my one-and-only. In the depths of your slavery, you might well find the romance you crave. Yeah, it could even include the collar that comes with a ring. If it turns out that our time together is more of an adjunct that gives a sharper edge to the rest of our life, that’s ok too. But that's getting a bit ahead of ourselves. I'd rather see what we have to start and where it might go.

So as far as those activities we consider to be bdsm in orientation, I can say that over the years I've done most of the things there are to do that are associated with the kink-strata of bdsm, with varying skills, talents and interests, but I'm always willing to learn new things and explore new areas. Like other aspects of this profile, that means the particulars of how these things will be configured for us will be determined by how our relationship develops. Yes, like you, I have some things I like more than others, but that will give us some things to discuss in the early going. Yeah, I like exploring together.

So who am I looking for in this too-long profile…yeah, maybe not those with short attention spans. If you are a person who is quietly waiting for someone to see through the sweet purity of your pristine world and will rip you away and force you into a place you have henceforth only visited in your darkest dreams, then you might understand the call. It is also likely these words won’t mean much to the crowd who seeks out the new-age Dom-types who have come begging for a woman—any woman—to bestow upon them their gift of submission. Yes, I’m certainly not looking for just any woman, and I’m pretty sure the woman who might be interested in these words, is not just seeking any man.

I have a lot of interests that might be fused and mashed up with other elements of this profile to make a nice blend. I suppose some of these interests might be from what we call our vanilla life, but I don’t like rigidly defined edges—and these things would wind through and around what might be our relationship. I like nature, and outdoors things—this includes a collection of pursuits like walking/hiking and looking at the stars or just taking the notice of the beauty that is all around us…beauty that can fuel our passion, and we…um…know where that leads. I like to cook and have a pretty strong repertoire of cuisines, but I’m always trying to improve and learn/explore new areas. I've generally done most or all of the cooking for most of the women I have been with, because a) I don't care about supposed roles; and b) I was usually better at it than them. That doesn't mean I wouldn't switch or share this pursuit in a future relationship, if it worked out that way for us, but it does mean I don't have a rigid notion of what a dom looks like and what a sub is supposed to look like. I think we can go beyond the well-known rote markers. I write and I’d welcome you as in inspiration. I’m currently publishing romances—yeah, you read that right. I do crafts and build things when I’m in the mood. I’m currently alternately making some nice implements--paddles, straps, leather work, etc.-- (testers needed) and making some useful household items and carving figurines. I used to dance a bit, but haven’t had a suitable partner in a while. Although I don’t proselytize about anything and I’m open-minded to most things, I’m somewhat spiritual…hey, we both know there’s a certain spirituality in putting someone on her knees and reaching for a whip. I am fairly well read and well-informed but I prefer looking for joy or finding peace rather than overly-worrying about societal issues, or acting out our lives like something that was read from a book. True, I'm not a great follower, I'll admit that. But I am a very good listener, and I endeavor to learn something every single day.

I don’t drink, smoke or do any drugs. Full disclosure might say that I once did all those things—but many years ago—so I won’t claim to be a life-long choir boy. So besides the fact I like to beat and/or humiliate women for fun, and that I prefer to own them, I subscribe to clean living. I don’t mind drink in moderation. I’d prefer you not to smoke, but if you do, and quitting is in your short or long-term plans, then I’d be open to help you further that goal (as well as other lifestyle altering goals you may hope for)…I mean it’s one of many good uses of a dom. I am fairly healthy and physically active.

If you’re interested and want to talk, send me a note. There is a lot in this thing, I know, and I assure you that I won’t see dropping me a line or beginning a discussion as anything more than it is. I don’t expect either of us to be won over in a letter or two. Besides, I’ve been burned and I know you have…so I may be a little cautious and I expect you to be as well.

 

Again…we’re not going for the easy here, we’re going for the spectacular.

 

It is not likely that I will make initial contact as there’s a better chance I’d connect with someone who self-identifies interest based on all the information I have provided. My early communication usually begins as rather low key and conversational, to see if we might have some connections on a basic level, but from there, it can be a step-wise progression as I learn about you and you learn about me.


If you made it this far, then I already admire your perseverance. I assume you are either amused, interested or revolted. (Or perhaps just an ambitious reader.) Feel free to let me know-on any count. But if you were just passing by on the way to other things, then feel free to have a great life and I sincerely hope you find what you’re looking for….

 

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[A note on the pictures: The pumpkin picture was something I carved last Halloween -- the rumor that it represents the end of some of my relationships...is not true. [The three P's]--And yes, I made the pie, the pasta and the paddle(s).

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