3/26/2024 2:22:55 PM: The point of asking these questions is to facilitate a deeper conversation. What do you appreciate most about your partner? My partner would prioritize our happiness and have similar life goals.  He’d have a sense of humor and there’d be laughter in our lives.  Slow to anger and approach things more out of curiosity.  Most always positive and gives possible solutions for life’s challenges. The focus is on living a good life.  He’s accomplished or knows how to make an acorn grow into a tree and has good financial intelligence.  We’re in it for the long haul – until death do us part. Are you on the same page about children? How many children do you want to have? I decided not to have children for a myriad of reasons.  I’m open if you have kids, I prefer they’re out of the house, older and self-sufficient with lives of their own.  I don’t want any drama and I need to be the priority. How do you relate to your family? How do you relate to your partner’s family? Primarily I only have one older brother left.  He knows who I am and generally that I’m kinky.  Otherwise?  I have a small number of extended family and we’re not close-knit. I have family values, but again I am alert of any drama.  I am not one to create drama.  But I spent the first half of my life keeping my kinky side private only sharing it with friends and others in the kink community.  Now that certain family members have passed away I feel free to be my whole self.  I’m not interested in outing anyone and respectful of those boundaries.  But in behavior, someone might get an inkling if you follow me. How will you manage your money and household finances (joint or separate)? Honestly?  This is something I can work on.  For the majority of my life I’ve been keeping my head above water and a caregiver.  When I did make money I indulged myself to excess.  Moving forward I need to work on balance – a comfortable life that affords a certain level of lifestyle and includes savings and investing.

3/26/2024 2:22:16 PM: How important is your sexual relationship? What are your expectations around intimacy and sex? My sex drive ranges depending on mental stimulation and energy.  Sexual relationships are certainly of high importance.  I don’t know how aging will affect this, but I’ve always wanted more sex than my life provided or I chose to have.  I’ve been focused on finding a regular partner to build and explore sex with.  But due to my circumstances – or the person I was interested in circumstances it has literally been a barrier to building anything worth noting.  One thing I can say?  I have found toys that satisfy me more than any person I’ve sexually been with and I’m confident I can satisfy my needs solo.  Every woman should have a Njoy and a vibrator! (in my humble opinion)   Otherwise?  I expect that you love sex as much as I do!  My aim is to be sexually involved with my partner(s) and that they are sexually confident or willing to learn how to satisfy me.    At the moment, I’m not a huge fan of strap-ons.  I see it being used on occasion, if it’s not a limit, but not a regular frequent occurrence.   How do you want your spouse to express love and affection? I’m good with any of the 5 love languages.    What are your ideas around the division of household chores? I have no interest in being the lazy Domme who expaspects all household chores to be completed by the submissive.  And I don’t want to do everything by myself.  How will you prioritize your careers in relation to about your family bonds and marriage? Can everyone be retired now?

3/26/2024 2:20:27 PM: How do you deal with conflict that can not be resolved? Usually?  I cut bait if there’s an impasse.  It depends on the conflict and what it’s about. What are your expectations or boundaries around relationships outside of the marriage such as friendships or co-worker relationships? Our relationship is the priority.  I have no interest in isolating someone from outside connections.  But I also am not looking for problems.   What does betrayal and infidelity mean to you? Well?  I learned from a previous relationship that did betray and was infidelity that what hurt most was not getting the invite to participate on any level.  It was in total secret.  And, in my opinion, when that happens?  It’s irreconcilable differences. I pride myself on being approachable and navigating through real-life challenges.  When it’s done successfully it can bring deeper bonds and build trust.  Ride or die, if you may.   Where do you for see yourselves living and creating your life? It wasn’t so long ago that I was set on living the rest of my life in Minnesota.  I do own a house with an affordable mortgage and have good close friends who live there.  And I do like the political climate there compared to other states.  Minnesota takes care of its residents, unlike other states I’ve lived in.  Yes, the brutal winters suck!  But now we have climate change and this past winter was a breeze! At this time?  I am open to discussing other options.  Even though my appetite for travel is strong, I have learned the value of having a home base.  Not sure I’m looking to purge and liquidate everything and solely live out of a van. How do you feel about religion? How important are your religious beliefs or spiritual beliefs to you?
3/26/2024 2:19:40 PM: Usually it’s been about allergies to animals as I am an avid animal lover.  I am guardian to 3 cats and one small dog.  And I can tell when people don’t love my animals. How do expect to interact with your friends as a couple? When I bought my current house, I was envisioning lots of BDSM dinner parties and play parties with small groups of people (because my house is small).  Or dinner parties and game nights with vanilla friends.  I do not impose my kinky lifestyle on my vanilla friends or family, but most know that I’m kinky. I regularly get together with my vanilla friends.  That doesn’t you have to participate in every activity.  Actually, I might prefer it if you don’t join all the time. I have let my friendships with the local community BDSM people slide for the past number of years.  Since a little before Covid.  But Covid wasn’t the reason at the time.  I’d like to re-enter that world.  But prefer to have a partner(s). Do you agree with your partner’s lifestyle choices (health, diet, exercise, use of substances, sleeping habits, activities, hobbies, and professional drive/achievement) Health – generally I’m in good health or could do better if I engaged more in a healthy lifestyle (nutrition and exercise).  I am trying to transition to vaping from smoking cigarettes.  My aim is to quit altogether.  It’s an active work in progress. I drink on occasion, not an alcoholic.  I also partake in devil's cabbage on occasion.  Not every day or even every week. Diet – I am not too much of a picky eater and do like a variety of healthy foods.  Omnivore.  Although I think its all really laden with chemicals regardless if its organic or just produce from the grocery store. Exercise – I used to go to the gym pretty regularly.  I’ve gotten away from that but would like to go regularly again with a partner.  Aging is no joke and the more fit a person is the better fare from an illness or fall! Activities – I tend to enjoy hikes in nature – any nature from woods, beaches, mountains, or any other nature place.  I also like being on the water – where I can see land! Lol  And if I went on a cruise?  It’d be on a pirate ship!  Not a huge boat.

3/26/2024 2:19:05 PM: Sleep – I love my sleep!  At least 8 hours.  Some people have told me I snore. Professional Drive – good jobs are hard to find these days!  I’m driven, intelligent, and competent.  I’m currently unemployed trying to establish self-employment but not sure where all of it is going to go.  I have a limited time to devote to it Full time until I need to consider other options. How will you include your spouse in making important or personal decisions? I would prefer input from my partner, but I would have the final say.  If I need direction I’ve typically done the research and ask other supporters in my life for opinions. How will you maintain your personal identity within the marriage? How much time do you expect to spend with each other? How will you spend your free time together and apart? To be negotiated along the way. How do you feel about spending money? Due to being self sufficient I have lived on the continuum of being frugal to lavish when finances allowed.  I would never want to financially devastate anyone like some of the other Dommes I’ve heard seem to act like. What are your individual core values? Generally whole health Who are your positive relationship role models for marriage? Whose marriage do you admire and why? By now I've seen a lot of different relationships.  And every one of them about 20-25 years in there’s some serious consideration or some big obstacle that either has ended the relationship or someone has yielded and they keep on keeping on.  The relationships I’ve admired?  In public, you can tell they love each other and enjoy each others company.  I’ve always been of the mind when I partner with someone it will be forever!  Maybe that’s why I’ve been hesitant to anchor down on anyone.  And by now I have fewer years ahead of me than I do behind.  Every day is a gift!  I’ve also lost enough people in my life to know tomorrow isn’t guaranteed no matter what your age is!  I have a lust for life and want to experience as much as I can! How about YOU!?!