Ta Da! It's been awhile but this new profile represents my triumphant return to the world of collarme!!!.... Er... I mean.... collarspace???. (When did that change happen?) I was on collarme several years ago, but stopped frequenting when I met my former submissive/partner/LTR/girlfriend. That relationship ended last year so I'm single now and I am back and ready for my next life adventure. I do have pictures but I am a private person and thus won't post them publicly. So if anyone is interested send me a message, start a conversation, and I'll be happy to send a slew of vanilla pics upon request. In the meantime I'm mid 30s, 6'2" with fairly broad shoulders, a full head of hair, a little scruff, and blue eyes. ABOUT ME: I moved to Los Angeles at the age of 18 when I was accepted to USC on full scholarship. Prior to that I grew up in a working class family in a rough neighborhood on the wrong side of the tracks. I was the Mensa kid who was well liked but didn't fit in. But even as a kid I was often the one even adults would look to for guidance and direction (already taking on that leadership/dominance role). Much like Stewy Griifin I could shift from playing with my Star Wars figures on the living room floor one second to having a mature conversation and taking on major family decisions and responsibilities the next. So in some ways I had to grow up quickly, but in other ways I continue to this day to have a child's playfulness and imagination. Some of those aspects of youthful joy are worth holding onto so don't expect it to be all serious all the time (although it can get frighteningly, deadly serious... Mooowwwaaahahaha :) I still value playtime--although with age the "nature" of play may have changed a bit and involve a whole different set of toys ;) (although this play too could potentially happen on the living room floor). Nothing has ever been handed to me. I've always had to make my own way, build my own success, and earn the respect and the opportunities that have come my way. So earning that trust and respect here is a challenge I am happy to rise to. I work full time on the creative side of the entertainment industry, pursuing my creative and professional ambitions. The passion, creativity and artistry that are part of my profession play very much into my role as a Dominant/Master. There is plenty more to learn about me but I'll save that until our "next" conversation. ABOUT YOU: You... Well frankly you just need to be you and be willing to put your best foot forward. If who you are meshes well with who I am then that can be a wonderful thing. If not, then there are more fish in the sea for both of us. There are tons of opportunities to grow and evolve as a submissive, but the first step starts with you being true to who you are in the beginning. You are the canvas on which I will apply my paint so it's important to know what material that canvas is made of. So let me know about who you are as a person, a woman, and a submissive and then we'll see what that inspires. WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR: I'm here looking for someone to explore and try to develop that very powerful psychological/emotional connection that arises from a D/s or M/s dynamic. I enjoy being the teacher and trainer and creating a dynamic that is birthed out of respect and a bondage that is just as much mental as it is physical. It should be noted upfront that I'm not much of a sadist. There may be some pain and punishment and some force applied when taking you over my knee or throwing you down on the bed or holding you firmly in position the way that I want you, but all in all it's more about the power dynamic and the obedience/discipline for me than what it is about the pain. So if you are a hardcore masochist I may not be the right choice for you.... Although I will play rough when the situation calls for it. ;) But just to be clear there are absolute limits I have no interest in going beyond. I'm not interested in anything that causes serious pain, injury, scars, or legitimate danger for any party. Part of being a good Dom is being a good caretaker and that is a role I take very seriously. Some submissives I notice tend to be self conscious about "being new" and inexperienced. Don't be. For the right Dom that is an opportunity. They get the pleasure of teaching you and training you and guiding you through doors you have never opened before. On the other hand other submissives may not be new, but have years of experience and knowledge they can bring to the table. Again this is a gift, where you can bring forth all that you know to the table and use that experience for the pleasure of your Dom. Either case can be a great thing, and an opportunity when the right person holds the leash. So again whatever your age or knowledge level be honest and don't shy away from what experiences you may or may not have. The saying goes "knowledge is power" so with that in mind let your first act of submission be a surrender to being honest and being real.