1/3/2022 9:45:18 PM: Maybe it will be fun to finally allow myself to write that 'must not be' list I've been avoiding at great personal cost all these years. I have tried to stay positive, to not sound like a complainer like so many on here do, but I'm going to give in to the temptation to let loose with a laundry list of hate.  Ready? I AM NOT INTERESTED IN... 'Daddy doms'. If you describe yourself as a daddy ANYWHERE in your profile, and especially in your user name, I don't want to know you.  And stop with your rationalizing about how seeking a 'daughter' is not really about incest and just represents a caring and nurturing relationship. Bull. You can use all sorts of words to indicate an interest in love and cuddles and whatnot. The fact that you refer to 'daddy-daughter' or 'seeking little' or whatever means you are the gross kind of perv instead of the hot kind. Anybody who calls himself an Alpha male. Only the omega-iest omegas self-label. A real Alpha is comfortable with himself and others, and doesn't need to go around beating on his chest to prove his superiority. Alphas usually but not always are dripping in women so don't need a site like this. I knew an exception once who was physically deformed and thus not drowning in pussy. But he was still confident, humorous (unlike all the deadly serious pseudo-Alphas), and very, very successful at what he did.  Alphaness speaks for itself, it doesn't wear a label.  Anybody who expects to be addressed as Sir or Master right off the bat. You earn those words. Or more likely, you won't.   Gorean or Shades aficionados. If you need a set of books to tell you how to conduct your sex life, you shouldn't even be in charge of yourself, let alone anyone else. Men who send impersonal cut and paste messages.  If you can't be bothered to read and digest someone's profile and then send them a customized note, you are also someone who wouldn't put much effort into being someone's partner. You're one of those guys who spends a 2 hour dinner talking about himself nonstop. No interest in the person sitting across from you at the table... or on the other side of the computer screen.  I don't want to hear the excuses about how you don't get many replies so you don't want to spend time sending out customized messages. You don't get many replies in part *because* you write impersonal, boring messages.  If you are old and fat and balding and not particularly bright and not particularly successful and not particularly charming, why in the world would you expect to find an outgoing, socially adept 20-year-old bisexual Barbie doll to come suck your cock?  Do you have no theory of mind whatsoever? Yeah, you've made clear what you want.  What do YOU have to offer? Why should Barbie want YOU? Focus on women roughly your own age/attractiveness level/intelligence level etc., unless you have major cash or star power to balance out your deficiencies. So tired of men old enough to be my father and looking like Jabba the Hutt, if Jabba took poorly lit bathroom selfies, writing to cut me down for being fat. NO MARRIED MEN. No men whose partners believe they are monogamous. Either find someone else who wants to cheat on their mate, get a divorce, or open up your relationship HONESTLY by talking to your partner. You all have so many rationalizations about your behavior, but late at night, do you ever lie in bed sleepless, having an attack of conscience where you can no longer supress the knowledge of what a turd you are? I dearly, dearly hope so. No liars. Ok, yeah, everyone lies at times. But have the basic grounding in reality that allows you to understand that if you meet someone in person, they ARE going to see that you are 5'8' and not 6' as listed in your profile, for example. To be clear, I don't care about height, but I do care about honesty and decent judgement. Don't be mean, surly, cutting, or demeaning in your messages. Domliness does not equate to abusiveness. Why should a submissive entrust themselves to you when you show that you aren't going to be caring or careful of their welfare? Well, that's not long or hyperbolic enough to belong in the ranting hall of fame, but it will have to do for now.

12/31/2021 6:27:20 AM: The journal is back?? Wow. And it also seems that at least one programmer figured out that they can avoid SQL injection attacks by using prepared statements rather than stripping out a list of words and most punctuation.   These are clearly signs of the apocalypse. We don't have much time. I don't really expect anything anymore from this site or elsewhere. Men were shit even when I was young and not fat. I guess I just keep this profile as a way of staying in touch with the idea of the possibility of hope.

8/14/2017 4:24:30 PM: I see a ton of people seeking 'clean' partners. Is this a euphemism for STI-free? Or is it really so difficult to find partners with good hygiene? For those who are using the word 'clean' euphemistically, you might want to consider what you're actually implying: that anyone with an STI is dirty. Most adults have one or more STIs. That so many people use the hackneyed phrase 'Drug and Disease free' to describe themselves makes me wonder what proportion of people are terribly ignorant and uneducated, and what proportion are liars. Most adults have some form of the Herpes virus, with something like 1 in 6 having genital herpes and something like 80% having oral herpes (cold sores are every bit as much Herpes as sores anywhere else!). Most adults have HPV some time in their lives, with a 45% chance at any given time according to the CDC. Have you had a full panel STI test that includes both of those as well as HIV, syphillis, chlamydia, gonorrhea, hepatitis B and C? If not, you really have no business waving the DDF flag. If so, you are a rare unicorn and you will be severely limiting your choice of partner if you categorically insist on DDF. Maybe next time I'll write about how ridiculous it is for most people to claim to be drug-free when they drink alcohol, drink caffeine, take prescribed drugs, and/or smoke...

6/28/2017 3:29:30 PM: I'm curious whether there is even a single 'Switch' male in the world who is not really, clearly, overwhelmingly a sub.

5/16/2017 6:26:07 PM: “Mine is a most peaceable disposition. My wishes are: a humble cottage with a thatched roof, but a good bed, good food, the freshest milk and butter, flowers before my window, and a few fine trees before my door; and if God wants to make my happiness complete, he will grant me the joy of seeing some six or seven of my enemies hanging from those trees. Before death I shall, moved in my heart, forgive them all the wrong they did me in their lifetime. One must, it is true, forgive one's enemies-- but not before they have been hanged.” ― Heinrich Heine