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Im divorced, no baggage, ddf, light social drinker, non smoker, youthful and lighthearted. If you can make me laugh you may go to the head of the line. If youre a spanker you will definitely bypass some of the interview process. Im a sapiosexual and demisexual. Not looking for a hook up but not looking for serious either, at this time.

Im interested in finding someone LOCAL who is smart, funny, articulate, intelligent, a good communicator who is an experienced Dom or, at the very least, sexually dominant and likes kink. I enjoy someone who is confident (not cocky), competent, successful, perceptive, kind and gentle when the time arises but strong and in control other times and knows when to be which. You are unmarried, unattached, honest, youthful,trustworthy, light social drinker and would only use a maga hat to wipe your ass.

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5/29/2015 7:07:28 PM
Wasn't going to do this but after several days to think about it i've decided i must. Not so much to exact vengeance but to let this person (should he read this) know that what he did to me was not ok.  He seduced me and then he raped me.  Even tho I did not say "red" or "yellow" or scream or shout and i actually consented it felt like the closest thing i'll ever experience to rape. He seduced me on line for quite a while before we actually met and then on our third date after gaining my trust and respect he raped me. i made him a lovely dinner and waited on him hand and foot. My first red flag should have been that he took little to no interest in me that night or any other time. Foreplay was at least twenty minutes, ad nauseum, of telling me how much he loves and adores his poly wife.  He then hopped on me, plowed onto me (NO foreplay), did not slow down when i said he was hurting me and then he jumped off me  never once touching me the entire time. And in my silly sub mind i was thinking that this was what i had to endure to prove my submission! We laid along side each other for a few minutes and he never said one word to me or touched me and before i could figure out what had just happened he got dressed and left again without saying a word and without so much as a friendly hug. The next day he texted me with a brief message about a munch i might want to go to happening that night. And that's been it which, for obvious reasons, is fine with me. I never wanted an explanation because there was never going to be a good one.  On our first 2 dates (whereby nothing happened) he kept telling me how there was plenty of time and that he would move slowly so as to gain my trust and respect. He kept telling me how beautiful i am and what a beautiful person i am and how much he really really likes me.  he was going to take me to places i've only dreamed  of he said (I'm a newbie). It all happened so fast that it took me a whole day of trying to figure out what i could have done to possibly deserve this kind of treatment.  Funny how i figured it was something i did wrong. Now that I've had time to process what happened i have decided that other women in the Atlanta metro area need to beware of this man purporting himself to be an experienced, kind and caring dom.  He also professes to be very imaginative...didn't show much imagination with me that night.  Just a very smooth talking and slick asshole that preys on naive subs.  If you're reading this you  know who you are and to you I say SHAME ON YOU!!!!  you took advantage of an inexperienced and vulnerable woman and i'm sure i'm not the first and won't be your last. I'm going to be fine but I'm afraid the really nice guys are going to have to work a lot harder at gaining my trust because of this sorry piece of shit. If anyone wants to know more about this poor excuse of a human being message me.  And btw, to those men out there that don't think this was rape (or sexual abuse) think about how you'd feel if someone you love or care about was treated this way. It was an angry sexual encounter and it was pretty traumatic. Shame on me for trusting him on only our third date.

5/28/2015 7:34:11 AM
Have discovered poly is not for me unless i'm the one He comes home to.  Couldn't have known til i tried it.  Nothing ventured nothing gained...

3/6/2015 11:55:31 AM
Wonder when i am finally going to meet someone who is not a fake or a liar. Wish i could tell quicker when someone isn't real!!!! But i'm getting better...it only took me three days (this time) of online chatting to figure out i was being had. i'm reminded of something i already knew but apparently got too involved to remember: If someone sounds too good to be true they AREN'T!!!!! NEXT...!!!! sigh

3/3/2015 8:26:37 AM
Back to wondering why this trip is so arduous.  Especially since i'm ready and willing and have been for some time.  Maybe i'm just afraid of it actually happening!  Maybe my expectations are unrealistic.  Is kind and sincere and local asking too much????  I know you're out there and i will continue to search optimistically!

2/19/2015 10:52:09 AM
It's freezing cold, i'm sick and have been sick and i'm tired of being sick and could use a major attitude adjustment!!!!! (:

Addendum:  i just want to say a big "thank you" to everyone who sent me get well wishes and also offered to bring me soup and "adjust my attitude".  Some of the sweetest men are on this site....that is until they get something leather in their hands!!!!! (:  Seriously tho, thanks! XO

2/13/2015 4:11:04 PM
Happy Vday everyone!

1/27/2015 6:49:33 AM
i'm disappointed in myself for allowing myself to be rushed into an arrangement that didn't feel right.  There were red flags immediately that i chose to ignore.  Fortunately, it was over quickly and will be added to my list of learning experiences.  But i acted really dumb! Shame on me!!!!!!
addendum: he has threatened me in a vm and text and also reminded me that we did this once before tho i did not remember him. I remember him now and he was an asshole then, too. Thankfully, I've now dodged a second bullet! His name is supposedly master scott and he is supposedly in Tn (tho i suspect these are lies) and his username is musicman6312 and musicman631 tho he has removed his profile  i'm sure he will change his information upon his return.  Ladies beware!!!!!! NEVER let anyone force you into something until you're comfortable/ready!!!!!And beware of this man.  There is something seriously wrong with him. CS has been alerted.

1/21/2015 1:44:04 PM
I love my life.  It's a great life.  I'm in a good place emotionally but I've also worked very hard to get to this point.  The only thing missing is the Dom of my dreams to love, cherish, adore and serve. I've learned a lot about myself this past year and now have the confidence to say I know I could be a great sub for the right man.  I know this site is a crap shoot but I still believe in the process as I do not have the time to search elsewhere.  Maybe when I least expect it he will appear. That's why I will continue to lay low and not try too hard.  

1/17/2015 2:15:52 PM
Some more disappointments.  Nothing traumatic...will lay low for now. I still believe you're out there!

12/25/2014 1:27:51 PM
i've decided i would really like to find  a Dom who can be firm and strict and is able to effectively push my limits.  i'm anxious to see what i'm made of. i think....(:
It would be a dream come true if you are local!

12/4/2014 2:00:02 PM
It's been a year since i began my search.  i've had to reevaluate and redefine/reinvent myself over the year. my latest revelation is that i really don't, in fact, want a kinky bf. i need a very strong, confident, intelligent, funny, playful, caring Dom who is also interested in an emotional relationship. i've learned i can be very obedient with the right person and i enjoy being under their control.  

11/11/2014 3:41:03 PM
Not powerless anymore....The search continues....

10/28/2014 10:36:28 AM
He's back and i'm powerless. And probably stupid. Only time will tell...but he seems genuinely contrite. Hopefully I won't get my heart broken again  because i've fallen for him all over again.  Hard.

10/20/2014 3:31:03 PM
I'm generally not one to ask for help but I must say "thanks" to all the people who have offered their support.  It's really helping me to move on!

10/18/2014 7:20:54 PM
Note to self:  Never fall for a Dom again and if you do don't let them know. Reminder:  People let you know who they are pretty quickly if you pay attention!!!! Another  note to self:  PAY FUCKING ATTENTION!!!!!!!!

10/17/2014 1:05:14 PM
i obeyed you because You made me want to obey you.  Not because You demanded my obedience. 

10/15/2014 5:46:01 PM
My heart is broken.  Better to have lost in love than never to have loved at all. Maybe. It's painful but I miss you none the less.

8/28/2014 10:15:37 AM
PS I want a relationship with someone who is not already in a relationship.  For those of you who are not sure what this means:  it means you can't be married or already in a relationship. Can't make this any clearer.  I'm extremely selfish-if I like you I want you all to myself.  Nuff said...

8/22/2014 3:09:16 PM
I spent the better part of four months in search of "the one" to no avail.  It was a wild ride and def not the Disney World kind. I know most would say that's way too short a time to expect to find a match but I say it really downed me out very badly and wasn't worth continuing the insanity (everyone knows what the definition of insanity is!). So after taking a hiatus for several months to regain my composure (: I've come to the conclusion that I really just want a kinky bf. I'm not looking for a relationship that strictly revolves around D/s and bdsm. So for those of you who have taken the time to read this, I want to say that I'm currently taking applications (: and the main requirements are LOCAL and minimal/no drama. It would also help if you are a patient person.

3/10/2014 8:33:22 PM

The search continues...thought i might have found someone of real substance but I was wrong.  Probably won't be the last time. Still hopeful.  I know you're out there and, hopefully, in Ga. Oh and by the way, the length and circumference of your cock does not impress me.  Your intelligence, wit, and grasp of D/s however does.  Just sayin....


3/4/2014 8:40:46 AM

When I say I'm a newbie it doesn't mean I'm stupid.  Maybe just naive and trusting. It doesn't give you license to take advantage of and use me.  Shame on you!  You know who you are! In fact, several of you know who you are. Now, thanks to you, I'm less trusting and more fearful.


3/1/2014 2:32:10 PM

I find the psychological aspects of a D/s relationship very fascinating though I enjoy the emotional and physical, as well.  I think there is nothing more special than being so tuned into someone in this way. There can be such great intimacy. It breaks down so many barriers and enables  such a deep and meaningful relationship. I wish i had discovered this sooner.  


2/26/2014 9:20:57 PM

The search is starting to wear me down...i seem to be attracting selfish and insensitive men.  Wish i knew what I am doing wrong...many online Doms have been very supportive and nurturing so I know you're out there!!!!!


2/24/2014 12:45:12 PM

The road is still rather bumpy but continuing to learn on my journey.  Just need one special Dom to click with.  Is that too much to ask???!!!!! (:   (Apparently so...)


2/17/2014 9:20:52 PM

I can only hope that the not so good experiences are bringing me closer to the really good one. The one that will make my heart sing and make life more joyful.


2/13/2014 6:24:53 AM

Continuing to experience new things.  Definitely learning what i DON'T like. 


2/4/2014 12:59:16 PM

Things are def looking up! I have to keep reminding myself not to let all the newness overtake me.  Still hoping to find my "forever" Dom but more willing to let things unfold as they're supposed to.    


2/3/2014 9:33:01 AM

Getting a little easier.....not looking for my "forever" Dom anymore.  Still picky but search is less intense.


1/25/2014 2:31:10 PM

Why is the search for my forever Dom so arduous?????


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hotkryistine
 
 Age: 36
 Kissimmee, Florida