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Profile Updated Oct 2020





I am a dominant top seeking compatible submissives for play. My hosting option is limited, so that makes scheduling a meeting a bit challenging. I am willing to travel within reason (up to 2 hrs drive each way is my limit).



Me 511, 180 pounds, athletic build, smooth body, Asian descent. Have experience as a Dom for 10+ years, and used over twenty subs to different extents. Currently I have 3 slaves that I see regularly. I am more the strict teacher, stern mentor type Master and less the rough-handling, barking-insults-at-you type.



Also, you should know that I am in an open relationship with a vanilla partner who does not participate in the BDSM scene (hence the open relationship). What I am seeking here are playmates, preferably repeat playmates if the chemistry clicks, and not full-time 247 slaves. You will be mine to use and control when we meet, but you will otherwise have your own life.



Not interested in camera andor remote plays.



HIV Test negative and on PrEP since 2016.






For submissives


age - 25 to 55+
gender presentation - male (ftm welcome)
sexuality - gaybi
physical type - full body to large, no slim or skinny bodies. Hairy a bonus but not required.
no hard drugs.
experience and cock size - do not matter
must agree to - bondage (rope), impact play, cbt, orgasm control, piss
other interests fisting, estim, toilet, breath control, needles, feet worship
will not do - age regression, adult baby, animals, children, permanent body mods, drugs, forced feminization (anything not on this list can be negotiated), verbal degradation humiliation



If you are interested in applying to be used, contact me. But know that I take the time to get to know applicant subs before agreeing to meet, so there is not going to be a quick hookup. I also have videos and pictures to show you what my sessions are like, if you pass the initial screening.


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3/30/2014 3:11:47 PM

Read this intro and I had to practice "if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything":

 

"I believe only true submissives will give up something that is so commonly and highly treasured amongst all other things- their money. 
If you are not willing to give up something so important for me then are you really as submissive as you think? 
Just food for thought ;) "



 


3/27/2014 9:22:29 PM

Introspection of an Asian Dom, part 2

Someone on (RedKev) asked me about my experience and my journey as a Dom. I started to write a reply and discovered that I have more to say than I thought. So I am putting it up as journal entries.

 

Part 2: What does pain on the submissive mean to this Dom

 

So in part 1 I covered the very beginning of my journey in BDSM and the roles that rope bondage and CBT played in that awakening.

Following my discovery that I got a rock hard erection when I pull and slap a guy’s balls until he cringes and yelps, I moved on to try other things. Spanking seems like a natural extension and I was not surprised that I like it just as much as the introductory CBTs that I had tried. Through different opportunities, I have learned that I enjoy quite a few of the methods of giving pain.

That made me really have to figure out why I do.

I suppose I could have just gone on and enjoyed it, but that’s not my nature. I needed some answers, and so I started questioning my motives and analyzing why certain actions and certain play styles excite me more than others.

In the end, I believe it is about submission – the surrendering of one’s own comfort for the pleasure of others. I love being the receiving end of that.

So what does pain have to do with it?

Well, I see pain as a sort of ruler: an easy-to-use yardstick to externalize and quantify the sincerity and depth of submission. The more pain the submissive takes on for me, the stronger the indication is of their will to serve. When the submissive endures the pain, it shows me that his desire to please me exceeds his self-preservation instinct. That’s a pretty powerful source for erotic energy. So giving pain, in different ways, became a core part of my BDSM identity.

Still, I hesitate to call myself a sadist, because the reward for me is not in giving as much pain as I can, per se, but in witnessing the sub’s limit. I do not do plays where it’s 100% hitting, 100% of the time. I also do not go to the extremes like broken bones or concussions. The ideal amount of pain to give varies for me, because I strive to take the slave to the place between wanting to bail and craving more. If he is not at least thinking about bailing, then I am just not pushing him hard enough. If he does bail, then I have pushed too hard. The finding of that headspace for the sub is both an exciting exercise and an entertaining endeavor for me.

My attitude towards pain also ends up extending to other BDSM activities where the submissive has a stated dislike. For instance, if a slave is just a big pain whore and cannot get enough blistering, but who gags on piss play, then piss play will become the yardstick that I use. This offers me a lot of flexibility in activities, and keeps things variable and fresh. But it also puts a stronger demand on knowing the submissives better so I can craft the play sessions appropriately.

The thing in BDSM that makes it exhilarating for me is that strong trust level. Typically, people go through a long period of courtship and dating and living together to get that level of trust. In BDSM, some still do. Plenty of people take a very long, personal approach to BDSM and they will only play kinky with people they’re already in a committed relationship with. For me, that is neither desirable nor possible, so I stick to what I like and what I can offer – short-term play with possibility of repeats. It intensifies the trust needed for play, though I always insist on safe words for first few encounters.

I also discovered, through the years, that I am a sexual BDSM Dom. I’ve had straight men and women approach me asking for non-sexual play, like predicament bondage or severe spanking. I found that I was generally not excited by the prospect. Even though my sessions are not predominantly sexual, it is always erotic throughout, and there is always a sexual component, no matter how small relative to the other activities. I also lack the inspiration to dominate someone if I don’t want to fuck them. So physical attraction is important to me in selecting play partners. I know some Doms and subs can do their kink with anyone, provided that the activities are right. More power to them, but that doesn’t work for me. Without that sexual spark I just cannot be bothered to dominate someone.

Taken together, physical components of BDSM are required, but they alone are not sufficient for a satisfying session for me. There must be a good component of psychological interaction going on to make it worth my time.

 

 

 

 


3/24/2014 8:30:55 PM

Introspection of an Asian Dom

Someone on (@RedKev) asked me about my experience and my journey as a Dom. I started to write a reply and discovered that I have more to say than I thought. So I am putting it up as journal entries.

Part 1: How I started and why all my subs need to love ropes and CBT

My journey to BDSM started with an aesthetic fascination of rope bondage and ended up leading me to places I did not know that I have in my erotic psyche. I am still discovering new things, 5+ years later. I hope the discovery never ends.

But back to the start.

My appreciation of rope bondage stems from the erotic imagery of the ropes biting into the male flesh, restraining him. At the beginning I only perceived the eroticism of the bound naked body, and it was not until I have had some experience with bondage that I started to learn that I respond just as much to the state of holding someone powerless to resist. But ropes is a key part to my erotic response, as I have a less intense reaction to other types of bondage, like straight-jackets or duct tapes. The very first rope play I had was with a regular fuckbuddy who had some experience, and he bound my cock and balls with a string. I was rock hard instantly. He then showed me how to do it and let me practice on him. The first couple times were quite messy, but then I started getting better. From there, I started to learn about other rope bindings, using books and YouTubes.

As a result of my introduction to rope bondage, one of the first acts as a kink top I did was to tie up a sub’s balls and cock. And then, once he was bent over the bed, it just came natural to me to play with his balls. By playing, I mean, batting it around, tugging it, squeezing it, so that he was yelping and screaming. That was another revelation – I get off from giving pain.

That realization was a troubling and shocking one. While I was in the moment I did not feel the weight of that revelation and simply enjoyed it, though I was quite timid in how much pain to give - I was yet uncertain in my role as a Dom. But afterwards, after he had left and the bedsheets were in the laundry, I started to panic, because that revelation was at odds with my perception of myself as a nice guy who does not actively hurt people. Intellectually I understand that the hurt being given in a BDSM session is categorically different from the hurt in the normal situation because in the BDSM scene, there is consent. Emotionally, realizing that I do enjoy that sadistic part was still difficult to absorb.

Obviously, you know the ending of that story, since I am now self-identifying as a Dom. With introspection and experience, I have come to embrace that part of my erotic psyche. I cannot tell you what specifically helped me make the transition, except that having the feedback from the submissives I have met was invaluably helpful. Another part of the acceptance process was the satisfaction I felt after a good BDSM session involving pain. Something that felt that good, that primal, cannot be wrong. So yeah, I am a hedonist, for the most part. My superego still has a tight rein on my id, to borrow outdated psychiatric terms from Freud, but the cognitive dissonance dissipated over time and I have since then moved from questioning whether I should enjoy it to exploring how much and what type of pain I enjoy giving.

For those who are sharp-eyed and who have read my profile, this will also clue you in as to why CBT is an important part of my play. I think the placement of the testicles makes a sort of cosmic mockery of the machismo scheme of men being tough and unbreakable, because hey, our junks are hanging out, easy for the kicking and punching. The male genital is at once the originating point of erotic fulfillment and potential target for severe pain. That duality appeals to me, because I enjoy the juxtaposition of pain and pleasure. I also think that the balls being the externalized symbolic seat of power for a man makes the submissive’s surrender of their balls more poetic. Romantic, even, if one dares to use such a deor in BDSM (and I do dare!). To this date, rope bondage and CBT remain two of my most erotic stimuli in a BDSM session. I have tried sessions with submissives who are not into CBT, and I have discovered that I noticed a decrease in satisfaction from the session for me.

And here ends part 1.

I don't know how many parts there will be yet for the series, but 2

This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivatives 4.0 International License

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 Age: 32
  Washington D.C.