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I updated my age when I had a birthday, and have waiting for weeks to get my profile re-approved.

*Pics available on request* NO MEN, Couples OK, but only if both are Women.

Sorry for the strange punctuation, but this site does not allow contractions, quotation marks, slashes, and others.

I am a 58 year old twice-divorced male submissive merinthophiliac. Retired with pension. I own a home in SE Michigan and would like to meet a compatible Woman for fun and friendship, possibly leading to more. I am a life-long musician, as well as being quite the foodie. I love to cook and am very good at it. My house lacks a womans influence.

I am not much of a switch, although I am pretty good with knots, and I will not exclude a switch (or even a submissive) if we click in other ways. Maybe we could seek out a Domme together as a submissive couple? Its time for a partner in crime.

More normal than kinky, I am not a lifestyle BDSM scene fanatic, but as with most here, I have my list of fetishes. Not too big on the club scene. I am rather timid when it comes to the scene in general, but would not be opposed to being helped along in that regard. I dont nurture my kinks and fetishes by making sure everyone knows my secrets. I fully appreciate the rituals and protocol, but I can also see how the protocol has in many cases overtaken the true goal. It seems many lifestylers are so concerned with how others in the lifestyle perceive them that they might sometimes compromise their own desires in an effort to fit someone elses idea of what they should be. (Sounds like life in general, no?)

For me, this is about seeking a friendship with a woman based on understanding, trust, and a genuine need to mutually please each other without the stigma of what society has deemed perverted or abnormal (or what other so-called lifestyle experts have arbitrarily determined to be correct) blocking our path to mutual fulfillment. Thus, I have no interest in professionals. Along those same lines, findoms are quite possibly the biggest turn-off I can imagine. Selling sex is prostitution, regardless what your definition of is is.

I have had an interest in self-bondage since a very young age... 5 or 6 years old. My first O was during a self-bondage session, no doubt linking the two for eternity. I have a fertile, inventive mind and a wide variety of fantasies. I am open to exploring just about anything short of blood play, needles minors, animals, etc. I may be willing to try some more fringe area stuff with the right person. Ultimately, I would like to partner up with someone that accepts and enjoys the fact that I like to be bound and teased, or bound and made to climax (your choice). If youre into that or curious about it, we need to talk. Not everybody wants to take it to the extreme.

I am not ruling out an eventual relationship, but I am not sure if Im interested in anything approaching 24-7 or anything defined as TPE, FLR, etc, other than as it is applied within our unique narrative. Just because I am willing to try things doesnt mean I want to live that way forever. This probably excludes me from ever finding the right person on a site like this, but thats OK, too. I am far from desperate.

I dont care if you dont like what I wrote. I dont care if you are not fond of the pics I posted. I am not asking anyone to change for me, so dont expect me to change either.

Clean, safe, DD free (tested) and sane. Non-smoker. Be sure to check my interests list, and my journal. Feel free to contact me for any reason. I will not Tribute you. I will not communicate by instant messenger or Skype, nor will I visit your website.

Results from bdsmtest.org in percentages
97 Submissive
96 Rope bunny
87 GirlBoy
79 Pet
73 Slave
67 Ageplayer
60 Primal (Prey)
57 Degradee
51 Masochist
45 Brat
44 Experimentalist
32 Vanilla
17 Switch
11 Rigger
10 Exhibitionist
5 DaddyMommy
5 Non-monogamist
5 Primal (Hunter)
4 Dominant
3 Owner
3 Voyeur
2 Brat tamer
2 Degrader
2 MasterMistress
2 Sadist

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