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Are you looking for the one master you can joyfully and passionately devote your life to? Are you looking for some of these characteristics in a master?
  • Sane
  • Intelligent
  • Funny
  • Versatile
  • Creative
  • Solvent
  • Sadistic
  • Willing to Grow and Learn
  • Willing, and Able, to Teach You
  • Willing, and Able, to Communicate Effectively with You
Do you possess some/most of these?
  • A slave's heart - submissive is who you are, not something you do
  • Intelligence
  • A generally upbeat and positive personality
  • A sense of humor
  • Passion
  • A reasonably healthy, attractive body
If so, read on! If this doesn’t tell you a little bit about me, I don’t know what will!!! (Nobody’s sayin’ you have to read it all – only if you’re interested!) Hi. I'm a 59-year-old Scottish-Irish-American hetero Master, divorced for 9 years, looking for my special someone. I’m an average-looking, reasonably intelligent, usually pretty relaxed guy. 5’9”, 160. Until about a year ago, when I tore my back out for the 3rd time, I ran and studied the martial arts to stay in shape. (I'm a whole lot better, thank you, but I'm not ready to go back to class yet...) I grew up in the DC area. Went out west to go to college – majored in Wildlife Biology and Computer Science. Currently live in Raleigh, NC. I’ve done a lot of varied things to make money in my life, including coal mine mechanic, fireman, construction worker, taxi driver, elementary school teacher, technical trainer, tow truck driver, and computer network engineer. (A true Jack-Of-All-Trades.) Currently, I’m trying to sell one of my books (I’ve always preferred to be self-employed - Very independent and willing to take on responsibility.) (Not making much money yet, but I’m optimistic, and I live indoors…) 3 kids, and they are the most important thing in my life. (They do not live with me, but they do visit.) I’ve coached kids’ basketball, baseball, and soccer teams. (I don’t think I had ever played soccer before that, but the kids taught me, and we had a GREAT time.) I’m fairly liberal in most ways and a little conservative in some. Very interested in ecology and biology and alternative power. Also, I have a pretty good sense of humor – I can’t stand to be around people who take themselves, and others, too seriously. I’ve had 2 long-term real-life subs, so I'm pretty familiar with the lifestyle. I’m VERY careful not to do stupid, dangerous things that might seriously hurt someone. I have traveled all over the US, Canada, and Mexico (I lived in Mexico for 4 years. Fluent in Spanish.) I think everyone should be required to live in another country for at least 1 year as part of high school or college, just to understand that your own way of looking at the world is not the only way, and that other people's points of view are equally valid. I guess you could say that I'm a fanatic about not being a fanatic... I love to make stuff out of wood and leather, especially BDSM furniture. I’m not a professional, but they usually turn out sturdy and functional. I'm currently reading "Wisdom of Our Fathers," by Tim Russert, "The Fabric of the Cosmos," by Brian Greene, and "The Nature of Nature," edited by William Shore. I’m looking for a woman, 25 to 45 (could be flexible there, if the chemistry’s right,) healthy and happy and generally content, who lives to serve her man and is VERY picky about who that man is. Someone who knows herself and is content with that knowledge but would also like to grow and expand. Someone who has good instincts and trusts those instincts. Someone who can meet a man and say to herself after 2-3 minutes, "No, not this one." or "Hmmmm... this one has potential." Not more than 20 pounds overweight. Little, if any, drinking and no drugs. Willing, and able, to be completely faithful. Willing to discuss the possibility of eventually being 1 of a group of slaves. Willing to work toward being a 100% owned slave (I know that takes time, but, if you’re willing, I’ll make it worth your while…That means I have to know what’s important to you, and deliver it. See “Responsibility” above.) Willing to relocate to where I live - now, and for one more year, in Raleigh, NC. Submissive, sensual, lives to serve, able to carry on an intelligent conversation. Able to NOT carry on a conversation sometimes and be comfortable with the silence. Someone who wants to learn new things, sometimes do new things, and sometimes sit at home and not do much of anything except be with me. Someone who can dress up and accompany me to a business meeting, dress down and roll in the leaves and play with my kids, and be humble enough to go to someone's house who doesn't have anything and sit on the floor and teach them how to read with their kids. (Yes, I really do that – not as much as when I was teaching elementary school, but it’s one of the ways I try to give back a little to the cosmos...) Race is NOT important - Much more important than that is that you are truly submissive from the heart, completely honest (that includes no “lying by omission,”) totally devoted, and sensual. (Notice I didn’t say “beautiful.” Nobody can predict what another person will be attracted to. Nuff said?) On the other hand, physical attraction/chemistry is a part of what I'm looking for, and if it's just not there, I'll let you know, as I would hope you would do for me. Honest communication goes a long way toward making any human interaction work, for BOTH people...Like most men, I'm not really fond of talking all the time, (even though, if you met me professionally, you'd never believe it - I'm an excellent trainer/teacher and public speaker...) but, unlike most men, I'm willing to do it in order to achieve the goal, which is to get to know you and help you get to know me. (See “Long-Term Thinking” below...) MUST be somewhat of a pain slut, or willing to learn. I like to spank, flog, and whip, among other things. I’m not into gross stuff, like scat play or cutting off nipples with a rusty spoon or fucking with your mind – just your body! (All right - maybe a LITTLE bit with your mind...) ******************************
(Maybe I should make this section a separate “writing,” I don’t know...but there’s a lot about me here, too, so I left it in.) Here are the steps in the process of finding a master/slave: 1) The initial contact and/or expression of interest. Either person can do this, either in person or by email. (Trust me: no Master/Dom in his right mind is going to to someone expressing interest in getting to know him. Even if he’s crazy into protocol, you don’t belong to him, so you are under absolutely no obligation to follow any “rules” at all. Don’t assume that a particular person will magically find you – email him!!! Or, the single most time-tested, successful technique in the world: smile at him. Or trip over his foot. Or SOMETHING!!!) Very important: always remember that most men are NOWHERE NEAR as perceptive as we think we are. It’s NOT against the law to say, “Can we talk for a minute?” or “May I ask you a question?” or even something more aggressive. I’ve been asked out many times, including several significant vanilla relationships and 1 of my subs. Yes, of course it’s a risk – you’re risking rejection. So what????? It’s a far greater risk to do nothing. (23% of people here have a quote about risk like that in their profile...) (67% of all statistics are made up...lol.) 2) The initial screening process.
This is different for everybody. For me, there first must be some chemistry – some spark that ignites my loins. It can be either mental or physical; but, at some point soon after the initial spark, the other side (mental or physical) must spark, too. For example, here are my “Mental Spark Igniters:"
• A woman who is truly submissive to the core, knows it, and is comfortable with herself in this regard. (“Know thyself!”) (By the way, this is first on the list for a reason...)
• A woman who is intelligent but not conceited and not overbearing.
• A woman who has a sense of humor.
• A woman who is able to clearly communicate the idea that “So far, I’m attracted to you. I like your (fill in the blank.)” (“Oh, she likes me. She must be really smart.” lol)
• A passionate woman. It really doesn’t matter much what you’re passionate about; just that you are able to express your passion to me. (One definition of personal consistency/credibility is whether or not you express your passions non-verbally with the way you live your life – actions speak louder than words...) Remember, I’m not talking about sex here – I’m talking about something in your life that you feel very strongly about. For example, I’m very passionate about being the best father in the world for my children, ecology/biology, working with kids in general, and teaching/coaching/learning. If you talk to me about any of these topics, you will very quickly understand that I am a passionate person. (Or, you will very quickly decide that I’m a lunatic and “Run away.” You would certainly not be alone in that assessment...lol) (You will also learn that, like any reasonably sane person, my time, and my money, go to support my passions.) (Any time my car passes a bookstore, it doesn’t even ask any more, it just automatically turns in...I usually give away more books in a month than most people buy in 5 years.) If you don’t already know YOUR specific filtering process, you need to spend some time with a pen and a piece of paper, thinking about it. (As one of the guys in The Secret says, “Learn to be still.”) One of the great things about FL is all the topics of conversation, and the way they can, IF YOU INVEST THE TIME, make you think. Please notice the word “invest,” not “spend.” This entire process, and, in fact, any relationship, is an investment of your time and energy. (Maybe money, too...) Like almost everything in life, what you get out of this process is directly proportional to what you put into it. It’s not easy to make that extra phone call or email, for example, just to make sure he understands what you were trying to say. It’s an investment. Sometimes, I know, it seems like all you do is invest and invest, and you don’t have squat to show for it. However, if you don’t make the investment, it’s pretty much guaranteed that any relationship won’t be very successful. (Once again, the concept of risk. Investing is a risk. Are you willing to take it?) This phase can take widely varying times, from hours to months, depending on the people. For me, it’s usually just a few hours or less. Now, any woman who exhibits 2 or more of those Mental Spark Igniters is not only a spark but a spark in a gas tank! If you add that to physical attraction, from both people’s point of view, we immediately move to the next phase: 3) The “Getting-To-Know-You-A-Little-Better” phase.
This is the time for serious questions and answers, perhaps over the course of a few dates. (Hint: if both people aren’t at least a little interested in both listening and sharing themselves, there’s probably not much there besides the physical. Now, that may be OK, if that’s what you want.) Where are you from, do you have any kids, do you want kids, etc., etc. This phase can be very indicative of the potential of the relationship, if you pay attention. For example, if you think you’ve been talking for 10 minutes and it’s really been an hour and a half, you might have something there. If your potential master only talks and brags about how great he is and doesn’t seem at all interested in learning about what makes you tick, “Run away!” If you’re a sub, considering this person for a master, you REALLY need to pay attention in this phase, and not just to your hormones! You may be, quite literally, putting your life in his hands. Are his words generally consistent with his actions? Does he do what he says he’s going to do? Is he willing to communicate, especially about things that aren’t so easy for him? Is he ABLE to communicate with you, and you with him? (Willing and able are two very different things...) Do you find yourself constantly justifying him to yourself? (Oh, he’s probably just tired...Oh, he probably didn’t really mean it that way...) Sometimes is OK – as often has been pointed out to me, nobody’s perfect. But be watchful for patterns of behavior. Especially pay attention to that little voice inside you – the one that stands up and screams and waves red flags, but, because we’re human and we want what we want, we sometimes ignore. (I can tell a few stories about THAT one...) (If you’re not very good at recognizing that little voice, in whatever form it takes for you, start cultivating it. TODAY!!!) (That’s a whole ‘nuther class.) A great deal of time and energy on FL is spent saying how important communication is. This phase is where you put up or shut up. (No pun intended...) Again, if he can’t communicate, or won’t communicate, in a way that works for you, “Run away!” Some other vital questions to ask yourself in this phase: is this guy willing, and able, to expand and learn new things? To grow? Is he willing to listen to me, and value my input? Another personal example: I’ve spent 20 years designing computer software and networks and teaching people how to use computers. My second long-term sub, however, taught me a lot. I was smart enough to realize (in about 3 seconds...) that she knew far more about the internet than I did, and I’m secure enough in myself that it didn’t even occur to me to NOT say: “Hey. I don’t know what you just did. Show me how to do that.” Again, true self-confidence is usually very humble. Have you ever noticed that the higher a person’s rank in the martial arts, the more humble they get? They KNOW what they can do, so they don’t need to “prove” themselves to anybody.
This phase’s duration, too, can vary widely from one person to the next. However, in general, it’s usually a matter of weeks to months. (I tend to be on the short end of the spectrum. I know pretty much what I’m looking for, and that’s a big help.) (However, sometimes I surprise myself: my last long-term sub was overweight, even though I always thought I wouldn’t accept that. She hit on all 5 of my “Mental Spark Igniters.”) 4) The Serious Relationship Phase.
At some point, sometimes without noticing it and sometimes in a very overt fashion, you transition to a “serious relationship.” That may be as a mentor/student, “under consideration,” collared/owned, or something else. (For example, with one of my subs, when I met her I was traveling almost every week for work. Our 2nd or 3rd weekend together, she asked me, “You seem pretty tired tonight. Do you want me to go sleep at my house?” I answered, “No. ANY time I’m not traveling, I want you here with me.” She expressed her pleasure at that, and that did it: we were in a relationship.) For you, it may not be as quick, and it may not be as overt. (However, if you’re communicating, it probably will be.) When you get there, congratulations. You did it. You’re on the way.

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1/29/2018 9:30:34 PM
Great quote from Steve Jobs.  Circa 2005.  Funny how very successful people can teach us things, if we are willing to listen...

"Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."


1/29/2018 9:27:23 PM
I Have

I have been around the block more than once.

I have traveled enough (all over the US and Mexico, and a great deal in Canada) to learn that other people’s ways of looking at the world are just as valid as mine.

 

I have studied enough to learn a few things.

I have learned enough to know that I really don’t know much of anything.

I have lived enough to know how I want to live the remainder of my life, as well as how I don’t.

I have loved enough to know that love is the expression of life itself.

I have been hurt enough to learn to be sensitive to others.

I have won enough to be confident, and lost enough to learn humility.

I have parented enough, and well enough, to absolutely stun anyone who knew my own father.

I have endured enough to be at peace with the present while still striving to make our future better.

I have made enough wrong turns to learn that some of the best things in life come to us unexpectedly.

I have created enough to know that each of us has, albeit sometimes dormant within us, tremendous creativity.

I have taught and coached enough to know that, for whatever reason, I have been given the gift of teaching.

I have observed enough to learn that each of us has our own, unique beauty.

I have helped uncover and draw out of others that unique beauty enough to have tremendous respect and admiration for those that are in the process.

I have laughed and loved enough to know that there are very few things that laughter and love, and the gentle application of time, will not make better.


7/16/2017 8:41:29 PM
To seriously bastardize William James,...

The hell to be endured hereafter, of which theology tells, is no worse than the hell we make for ourselves in this world by habitually settling for less than we truly want and deserve...We are spinning our own fates, good or evil.

I am still cranking my spinning wheel, looking for the 1 or 2 women that desire, more than anything else, to come home to a place they've never been; to find the master that actually deserves, desires, and delights them; that is actually willing, and able, to invest the time necessary to build the foundation of tremendous trust and communication necessary for this type of relationship; that completes their submission with his ability to master them, as well as himself; that will use and abuse them for his own pleasure while always keeping the watchful eye necessary to insure that their needs, and enough of their wants, are met.

Here's to spinning our own fates!


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Sweetbetty1
 
 Age: 29
 Charlotte, North Carolina