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I was born in the 50s, so I figure something from that era deeply imprinted itself on the way I think because I believe, and have always believed, that the home runs best when the man is in charge and his chosen woman knows her place. This is not intended as a put down, as I truly enjoy the intellectual company of a woman, but I believe women are emotional creatures that need firm structure and guidance to thrive. The man's role is to provide this structure and to create a stable environment in which she can feel safe and secure. In return for this, she surrenders to his authority and does her best to please and obey him. Simple as that.

Of course, I wouldn't be posting on this site if it actually was as simple as that. It's a bit more complex in that I believe a man's authority in the home needs to extend into other areas, too. I'm not a big fan of pointless drama, so I believe that a firm hand can sometimes be needed to keep and maintain order. This means it's the man's job to dispense discipline, when needed. The kind of discipline I'm talking about is not the "simply for kinkiness" kind but, rather, the necessary kind that helps promote a loving, intimate connection by making, and keeping it crystal clear who's in charge and who is not. I suspect that not all women are attracted to this kind of lifestyle, but that's not my issue. I'm simply interested, only interested, in women that are.

Now, about sex. In his home, I believe a man should be in charge of this, too. Unless there are extenuating circumstances, such as illness, a man should expect his woman to be open, ready and available to him whenever it strikes his fancy to use her for his pleasure. No argument. No discussion. More so, in the home, it should be her task to bathe, groom and dress herself in a manner that he finds attractive so that he will be enticed to use her often and well. In fact, it should be the man's prerogative to dictate how, or if she is dressed around the home, depending upon his mood, or desires. And, as his desires evolve, she should expect to be constantly challenged as his desires grow to include all the devious new ways he can dream up to use her.

If vanilla lovemaking was all that I aspired to, then I'd also probably not be looking on a site like this. Vanilla is fine, as an appetizer, but a man like me wants something more. Much, much more. But, before I get into specifics, let me say that I don't really expect a woman to understand the source of my desires, as I believe men and women are aroused by very different things. Men are visual creatures and like to experience women as objects and playthings. This kind of objectification is, again, not something that all women relate to. Some see it as a crass and humiliating way to treat women. Others, the kind that are more my type, enjoy this kind of humiliation because they can see how much it pleases a man when they surrender to being used this way. So, please pass me by without comment if you're in the former category. But, if you're the kind of woman who appreciates a man who would enjoy using her like a plaything, please read on.

Of course, in the beginning, things need to start simply. It takes time to build the trust needed to make a relationship like this work. Her descent into slavery needs to be slow, and deliberate, and consensual. I like to structure this into a series of one way steps where the consequence of taking the next step is clear and well defined. For example, as an early step in the process, I might ask her to accept my authority to define how she dresses when she meets me. She's free to decide when she's ready to take this step but, once taken, I'll expect her to ask how to dress and then follow my instructions. Naturally, with each step would also come a fair, but appropriate punishment for disobedience. For failing to dress as instructed, for example, I might insist she undress in front of me, then redress properly. Of course, if she's an exhibitionist, I'd have to come up with a different punishment.

Once she's comfortable with outwardly dressing for me, the next step is to teach her how to dress properly underneath her clothes. Many women get sloppy with their underwear, electing to wear atrocious things like granny panties and sports bras. Before a woman can even think about pleasing me sexually, she has to please me visually. To this end, I insist that she wear proper lingerie. My visual aesthetic is, of course, taken from the image of the 50s pinup girl, but with a twist toward bondage attire. A corset, or bustier is a good start, as they're a good introduction to the stricter forms of fetish wear she'll be introduced to in later steps. Nylons and high heels are a must, of course, but panty hose is a big no no. In fact, except when she has my explicit permission to wear them, panties are discouraged, as they interfere with my ability to touch, fondle, penetrate and probe.

As things progress, we'll venture deeper into objectification. For me, part of the fun of objectification is being able to render a woman helpless through the creative use of bondage and psychological restraint. Once I've made her helpless, I enjoy being able to tease and torment her in various ways. I like to learn how her body responds to various kinds of stimulation while she's tied down tightly and spread open so I can experiment with different sensations and toys. For example, I might take an interest in observing how she responds to having warm, soapy lather spread between her legs and then being slowly, and methodically shaved. Then, once she's smooth and silky, how easily can she accept various kinds of objects being slid in and out of her openings. How the tender parts of her body react as they are pulled, stretched, pinched or clamped. Or, how aroused, or wet she becomes when when I use a small, powerful vibrator to gently tease and tease and tease her most sensitive spots while we have an intimate conversation about her new life as my sensual, sexual slave.

As she gets familiar with this new life, we'll have many of these intimate conversations about many different things. Some of them will be about getting to know all her naughty desires and secrets. For a relationship like this to work, it's important for her to know that she must not keep secrets from me, so I'll use this process teach her, train her how to open up to me and be completely honest about her most intimate thoughts, no matter how perverted, or shameful. Since I've learned that women can be skillful liars at times, I may need to use various kinds of punishment to teach her that this will not be tolerated. She can expect these punishments to be as intimate as the information she tries to withhold so, hopefully, she will learn not to lie, or omit details when I question her. But, if she's honest, completely open, and learns to share even her darker secrets, she may discover that the humiliation of sharing them with me can bring her a strange, wicked kind of pleasure.

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 Age: 48
 Portland, Oregon