3/6/2014 4:55:26 PM: The Real Domina   The Real Domina is 36/24/36 or she is not. She is tall, and short. She is fair skinned, in beautiful shades of mocha and olive or not.   Often The Real Domina has small breasts, and big ones, one breast, and no breasts whatsoever.   The Real Domina has short stubby fingers with broken nails or long slender fingers manicured to perfection as she wields a whip, rope or nothing at all. The Real Domina has hair on her head, face, arms, legs, armpits and pubic area. She may have none at all either by birth, preference or by the curves life throws. The Real Domina is rail thin, athletic, chubby or plump. She is solidly mature, middle aged or young.   She smells like honey, musk, sunlight or sweat. Or she may not, and smell like whatever makes her happy from a chain store or a select boutique.   As someone once said, “There is no wrong way to have a body.”   The Real Domina is a widow, married, single, dating, in a common law marriage, has a life partner, has six children, no children, grandchildren, wants children, hates children, has pets or no pets.   The Real Domina dresses in a leather corset, or sweats. She wears six inch heals, flats, or nothing. She likes jeans or prefers a skirt. She loves fetish latex, hates latex or it’s a “sometimes thing”. The Real Domina might change up her look or not, because we just like it.   The Real Domina has a quiet countenance or a commanding demeanor. She relishes a bound submissive in her dungeon, prefers a service submissive at her side, would rather have a masochist or enjoys something else.   The Real Domina would only have a female slave, or a male submissive, or both. The Real Domina loves sex, hates sex, tolerates sex, likes sex with men, prefers women or likes both. She demands it, refuses it or is coy. She hates romance or loves it. The Real Domina enjoys pursuing, or likes to be sought after or neither. The Real Domina is looking for marriage, just an occasional play partner, a live in slave, or several submissives.   If you expect the painted, contorted, Photoshopped, plastic person on the screen, in print, in porn or in your head to be “The Only Real Domina”, “The Only Real Woman” or 'The Only Attractive Woman' you are delusional.

11/17/2013 9:20:09 AM: No luck finding a Domina? Here are a few tips.     1.      If your “must have” is one of her hard limits/dislikes, this should be a clue to you this won’t happen.   2.      “That 21 year old nearly naked “Domme” is hawt, hawt, hawt!” Well there is a 99.99% chance she’s not, not not, a Dominatrix. Why? She’s fake.   3.      Women asking for money are probably scammers. No matter how hot their profile looks.   4.      Almost all Fin Dommes are scammers. There are probably some who aren’t, but the odds that you found that needle in the proverbial haystack is about zip.   5.      Boys, you have to have time. If you are too busy at work, dealing with your children, booked solid with activities, you are not going to have time for this. Establishing mutual trust so that each has enjoyment while scening takes time and a basic relationship at the very least. This takes time.   6.      “I just want to try it out to see if I like it.” Ok, find a reputable pro-domme, they are out there. A lifestyle Dominatrix does this because she finds BDSM enjoyable and likes the submissive she is with. Remember the term “basic relationship” from #5?   7.      Just looking for quick weird/kinky sex? Hire a prostitute. That’s what they do for the right amount of money. There are also some sites just for people who put out. Just because a woman enjoys a D/s does not mean that she has sex more than the vanilla woman. It also does not mean she has questionable morals. You know that there are women who don’t have sex with their submissive, right?   8. If your profile does not impress us as “Here’s a person we can proudly be seen in public with and introduce to our friends” I’m not interested.   9. If you don’t have the balls to show up to an in person meeting and actually talk in person to a real live breathing Dominatirx, Don’t bother to contact us. Please contact your physician to discover why your testicles have not descended yet. There is probably medical help for you.   10. A lifestyle Dominatrix is not your fetish delivery system. With us it’s a partnership, both sides benefit.   11.  You should have your shit together you are an adult.    12. Go to your local or near by fem dom munch and meet real people in person.   13. Women are not men. The vast majority of us don't watch porn. We are not interested in what you think is 'hawt' AND we don't want to see it.   14. Your lead in line or profile says: 'I'm an oral sub, toilet slave, worthless worm, want to be your whore, am a chuckhole, like it in the ass.' This tells me you are creepy as hell. Read number 8 again.   15. 'I want to be your live in slave. I'll cook, clean and to all the housework, while you work and pay all the bills. You can spank my ass and creatively fuck me when you get home.' Yea, you and a whole bunch of other people on the planet want a free ride. Get a life and gainful employment to pay your bills. Re-read number 11.   16. Talk is cheap. Do what you say you are going to do.  If you can't back it up, shut up.17. The 'I'm shy and could never go to a munch and meet people' line, if you have a diagnosed social anxiety, you do have a tough problem. 18% of the general population have it. However it seems that 75% of male submissives claim to suffer from it and are unable to attend a reputable munch. Doing things out of your comfort zone can be a little stressful, but nothing ventured, nothing gained.  

8/21/2013 7:10:18 PM: Myths About Dominas:   1. We like sex more and have sex more than vanilla women.  False   2. We LOVE dick picks as your lead in photo. False.   3. We are genuinely interested in your genitals. Probably not   4. We love the porn avatar you have about what you like to look at. Nope   5. We are all after you money. Nope, there are lifestyle Dominas on this site. There are many females claiming to be doms who are idiots and make the rest of us look bad. The same could be said of submissive males, some legit and some idiots.   6. There are legitimate pro doms. Yep, there are some.   7. There are legitimate fin doms. Maybe so, but they are a rare creature and the odds are that one you found probably isn't that unicorn. You do know that the pouty faced  18-26 year old and scantily clad princess you 'found' claiming  to be a Domme is probably some 70 year old guy in India cat-fishing. She's not a Domme she's a dummy, dummy.   8. Every Domina  on this site is looking for LTR. Nope   9. This is a fetish site so it's ok to discuss sex/your penis on the first e-mail. Nope   10. The 'S' in BDSM stands for sex! Nope. The bulk of BDSM has nothing to do with anyone having an orgasm.  

2/24/2013 10:25:50 AM: It's hard to go wrong with a lovely slave boy for the weekend. A very fun weekend.  

1/5/2013 8:39:50 AM: Is there a Modern Southern Gentleman (MSG)?   In a word, 'Yes' and they are sometimes hard to find. The modern Southern Gentleman is always an estimable work in progress. Daniel Hindley was a Harvard-trained lawyer from Alabama who wrote on the subject in 1860. He described the Southern Gentleman as having “a natural dignity of manner” and “the utmost self-possession – that much coveted savoir faire, which causes a man to appear perfectly at home, whether it be in a hut or a palace.” He is “remarkably easy and natural, never haughty in appearance, or loud of voice – even when angry rarely raising his voice above the ordinary tone of gentlemanly conversation.” The Southern Gentleman is a man of honor who exudes charm, polished manners, a variety of interests, reverence for women and empathy to the plight of others. The Modern Southern Gentleman cultivates: Reverence for faith and women, Strength of Character, including Integrity, Magnanimity, Chivalry, Respect for family, heritage and traditions Becoming an excellent provider and protector Being Responsible, Ethical, and Just Impeccable manners, Exuding warmth, kindness, and charm, And most of all, possessing a servant's heart. Does this matter? Yes, you are known by your deeds. So conduct yourself with honor, and do the right thing. Sounds pretty simple, but it isn't, and it isn't easy to live by, either. In short the MSG has GAME. G.A.M.E Grooming, Attitude, Manners and Education all of which he tries to improve.   Additional links:  http://www.ehow.com/video_4984491_tips-become-perfect-gentleman.html      http://www.bourbonbraintrust.com/2014/08/20/what-is-a-southern-gentleman/ http://modernsoutherngentleman.com/