Have been thinking about this one for awhile... The interesting mixture of dispassionate action mixed with the need for people to connect.
Beginning with someone new (to you, anyway) is necessarily impersonal. Oh, the two know of each other, have emailed, chatted, texted.. But they don't know each other yet. They DO know their desires.. One to Dominate, the other to submit.
And the first "meeting" is impersonal. The Dominant evaluating, the submissive scared. And that "personal" connection isn't made. Even if they go back and have full on kinky sex, it's impersonal. The Dominant testing, probing, evaluating, judging. The submissive scared but wanting so much more. And the Dominant not going full out because "the connection", although growing, isn't complete yet. And forward movement without perfect knowledge is foolhardy.
What does a "new" submissive/slave need to know? That the first several, and maybe many, meetings will be impersonal at first. Even clinical at times. The Dominant evaluating and teaching, experimenting, testing. And the submissive yearning for a closer connection that just isn't instantaneous.
So submissives run away thinking they've been used... The Dominant yearning for more and more but refuses to go farther at any single time than what they feel safe with.
A role reversal that leaves many... lonely.
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