from NastySlaveTori   Dated  4/16/16 2:44 PM
This is 2016 if you get scammed on CM then you just a fool
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no, if someone is seeking to deceive, harm and hurt others, that person is a failed, toxic and horrible person. 

Wanting to trust others, to expect people to be truthful and sincere is not sinful or wrong. 

Maybe you like a cynical, distrustful world full of negativity and despair.  The devil certainly seeks that and influences many people to further that goal.

why do you prefer such negative energy?

If you use deceit and scam to further yourself, you are the fool
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the deceitful person who blames the scammed victim for being scammed fled before he could read, or receive, my response.  A coward using the same logic that Hitler, drug-dealers, politicians and other white-collar criminals use to justify their evils and the horrible use of others.  Sociopaths think similarly, that whatever they do it is justified.  Our entire society seems to be sliding that way. 
The vanilla world generally judges us, those with different natures and who think in other directions.  But whatever we do, our interactions are based on consensual non-consent, SSC and Rack.  We choose to live this way.  Whereas those mentioned above do things to others without honesty or consent.

 To those who prefer to play and pose and prance around in the Spice Galaxy as if it were just a trip to a different mall of Complacency 

     "I am so bored and I heard about this and it seems so fun and exciting, shake my booty and the boys all want me and its kinky and I'm cute and everything.  But I am not a slave, I mean in this day?  really, me and the cool chicks could never accept that word, nooo     ..." 

Each couple choose their own meanings of the terms.
I prefer slave probably for the same reason you dislike it. I like the forceful feel of the terms Master and slave, how they make it plain there is a definite and intense, true Total Power Exchange.  Most of our politically correct society stumbles over the deepest natures within humans, pretending, living in denial, that everyone is the same, that there is no difference between men and women other than some tiny biological variance.

I know some submissives who live in dog kennels; I know slaves and human-property who actually are doctors, lawyers, run businesses, make major financal decisions. So the Terms are not etched in stone.
But for those who prefer to play, not engage their souls and deep natures, dom and sub seem so much more acceptable and placid-flaccid-complacent.

In fact, you aren't seeking because you have become in touch with your inner nature, begun to recognize and accept, close to acknowledging some new realization of your essence. No, you are here because you want to play at something new and different, not be bored, like changing style of shoe or club you frequent.  your emphasis is on the activity, the play. Collaring as a scene element versus collaring as an expression of the soul's truth and the connection between two people.

Wake up and get real--- living on the easy surface is more boring than vanilla....
Live Reality, girl.  Changing Malls is not making a change in your wonderful life.  Still a Mall rat, no matter which mall you're at.   

Likewise, still shallow if you aren't getting in touch with your inner nature, but making choices based on superficialities and others' opinions, definitions and approval.  Society has told you who you are and you seem to believe it.   

Yep, it is your right to play at anything, how you drive, how you love, how you live in the Spice Galaxy.  But what is the point if it is all pretend, part-time, convenient, no deeper than what is comfortable and easy?   

Life is not a fetish club. 

Never mind, go play.  you will find some "Dom" to play with you, I am sure.

Prejudice against slaves and property 

The "sub" said this:

"   I do have a sense of pride.  I am intelligent and can fit in anywhere.  I want to be in a monogamous D/s relationship.  I am not a slave; I am submissive.  Slavery implies that I have no free will, and though I relinquish control, I do not relinquish who I am." 

and
"If you're looking for someone with low self esteem and no intelligence who will agree with you at every turn and be willing to be abused, I am not the one for you. If you're looking for a confident, educated woman who will follow you and be led by you, we should talk." 

I just wish to say those of us who seek slaves and property are not seeking low self-esteem, broken, no sense-of-self cunts.  Slavery does not imply you have no free will, just that you are willing to surrender it to your Master whom you  trust.   Which requires more strength and depth than living independently in charge of  your own life does.    Each couple uses the terminology as they see fit; there is no universal agreement on where the lines are between each term. 

Some subs I have met live in cages 12 hours a day.  "sub" does not equal brilliant; "slave" does not equal idiot.  How offensive; learn something about the Life and the people who live it... A slave is a more intense, committed, comprehensive and complete  submissive woman. Some are doctors, lawyers, college professors, run businesses, manage finances and heavy household organization. Who the hell are you to disparage them?  Just what we need, more elitists stuffed full of their own importance and un-informed judgments looking down on others in our own "community".

One can Own a property that manages businesses, home,etc as an extension of her Owner. 

I only mention all this as there could be a Perfect person out there for someone who isn't considered because of how the terms he uses to describe himself are understood and judged.  

I would like to believe your opinions are not personal, but it is offensive that someone  assumes I might want a low-intelligence, 'broken' or weak woman because I see myself as Owner or Master and seek a slave; how insulting to all the high-quality slaves.  

I seek an intelligent, strong, deep, spiritual, sensual, compassionate, trustworthy woman who knows her worth and whose nature finds fulfillment in entrusting her life to me.  It isn't about less-than; it is about being vulnerable, living trust, surrender, responsibility and Power Exchange.  

And that is true whether we are discussing Dom/sub, Master/slave or  Owner/property.  It is a matter of understanding what is at work without judgment.
Sense of self worth can be quiet, loud, obvious or reserved....  The Best subs, slaves, and property all share the same sparkling traits, the same essential aspects of character that I listed above.  

Peace, and increased wisdom, to all of you with similar divisive judgments and opinions.

Please God, what the Hell is Wrong with people?  Aren't the vanillas not getting it bad enough?

a few of the things I expect and/or especially like:

 Power Exchange in all aspects of life

Bondage and Discipline

Restraints

silk

leather

metal

chain

rope

wire

Collars

dungeon, cage, a specially made cell, maybe?

sensual domination and torment

the tides of pleasure and pain

heels, stockings, garter belts, lingerie

beauty

a provocative aura

submissiveness

curiosity

compassion and care for others

love of God's Creation, animals and nature

a need to serve and be appreciated in that service

 Service

"does it always need to be sexual or kinky?"

nope

Includes getting me a drink, cleaning house, calling the dry cleaner to see if my coat is ready, a massage, slave positions, kneeling by my side, caring about my desires without thought of yourself, dressing for my tastes.

It comes naturally to those who have slave-natures.  And to some extent to most women, vanilla and spice.

 here's the deal.

 come be an older man's servant, girl, pet, toy = slave.  a slave belongs to her master.

 A true TPE ife, Master ruling slave, slave serving master in all .

 I don't believe in slave's serious injury or neglect.

After the initial training--remolding process you would be subject to daily discipline, regular more 'strenuous' sessions in dungeon, work of all kinds. a slave.

you wil be collared at all times, cuffed much of the time.

 naked sometimes, partially clothed at other times.  I am into the sensual delights- sight, scent, sound, touch and taste... I love them all...  Sex and kink are wonderful, but are not 24/7.  The basic Power relationship can be 24/7, no matter where we are, together or apart.  And sensual expression can also be 24/7.  One aspect of a female is to be beautfiul, sensual, appealing, provocative.    How she moves, kisses, touches a man, her scent and clothing, how she moves, the rippling of muscles,  how her hair flips...  all little things, but the expression of your sensual self should be 24/7, according to your Sir's Will and to his pleasure.

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 I offer shelter from your past, family, judgments, critics.  I expect alot, but if you truly have a slave's nature, this canbe a fulfilling and wonderful, life, experience.   Affection and Love come from shared experience and only over time.  As does the deepest trust, intimacy and revelations.

 There are many acres of these woods, creeks, wildlife; you could explore with me, enjoying simplicity of nature. Nice place to become centered and balanced, when I permit you free time.

A slave is meant to serve. 

It is her nature.  Whether she is super intelligent and accomplished, hard working and creative or other than all that, her Nature is to serve, be ruled, have another making decisions.  She may be capable of running her own life but Knows without thought that she will be most complete in another's control, answering to his Will, command, desire, pleasure.   

She may struggle with this- she may understand this as being less than; she may see it as choice.  At any rate, she needs to kneel for her Sir, offering neck, hair, head, life to him, trusting him to use her wisely. 

Slaves do vary in their intentions, needs, understandings; and as time progresses our understanding of our own natures increases, changes, morphs, deepens.  But ultimately a master rules, a slave serves.  It is their natures.  And that should be a constant awareness shared by them, as she becomes more his slave and he more her master.

Again: 

I am interested in a full life, complete, D/s-M/s. Reality.  A relationship of equals with different natures which compel us to different roles which have different prerogatives, rights and expectations.  There is nothing more wonderful or impressive than an intelligent, soulful woman who transforms her strength from worldly accomplishment and capability to serving and submitting to her Dom or Master. This is not weakness, but an even greater strength.  The vanilla world interprets this as weakness, failure, a person who is overwhelmed by life. In reality it represents a person in touch with her nature, willing to live intuition and instinct, make a change in her life, courageous and open to discoveries which conflict with her life's conditioning and indoctrination. More courageous to trust and submit than to be tough and in charge, sometimes.

Although a slave can be just a thing in one's house, the deepest intimacy and most intense sharing comes when she is one's most precious treasure, appreciated and cherished a part of your soul.  This reality makes possible experiences and power unknown by any other means.  slave as an object or tool is wonderful, adds much to life.  slave as an extension of my breath and soul is another dimension.  And the connection has nothing to do with sex, although sexual energy and sensuality are present in every moment, movement and interaction, wherever and of whatever type.  

I think that those who seek only the material benefit of a slave miss the greater part of a slave's potential.  It isn't sex, nor housekeeping, nor giving the master a canvas to express himself on sometimes.  When the energies entwine, when you allow her in she becomes part of you with the material benefits exponentially increased and  the non-tangible, immeasureable  realities enhanced, refreshing showers to end a drought, a trickling creek swelled and chattering as it sustains countless forms of life and soothes the weary human's mind.

I can rule a slave as property; I prefer her also connected to me, utilizing all of our combined potential.  It is the only way MY thirst can be fully quenched.

I've been told that I think too much and also that I am too Intense.    Among my other imperfections these seem small.  I will say that people who think too much and are too intense do not plan to be either.  It is just how it is.   The sun rises in the East.  Maybe rising int he West would seem better to some people, but the sun Rises in the East. 

If anyone reads my journals she or he may understand why dictators typically want to kill philosophers; no way to know where the thoughts will go.

 I use the terms Master and slave and also write to women who label themselves as "submissive".  Slave does Not imply stupid or without strength:  sublisa111 wrote "Slave = Serve + Satisfy"     a very wise and simple equation.... one might also say the same of submissive. 

I prefer the terms master and slave as they carry an additional density, a feeling of substance and weight and enduring structure that submissive and dominant do not in the same way  to me.  There are slaves who have more freedom and less structure than other subs, so the terms are largely defined individually within couples and groups.   

For me the relationship is the primary focus- power exchange, a life created to allow both our natures to live freely flowing and fulfilled.  

This is followed by the sensual, the continual expression and sharing of her self, presented to her master whether in dress or nudity, posture and position, words she speaks and tones she uses, all for her master's approval and pleasure.  

And the sexual while important, even essential,  comes after the foundation and the sensuality as a priority.   The sexual and other interactions. 

This galaxy of possibilities is energized by the Power Exchanges within it. Energies entwined, roles defined and chosen by our natures, life lived to fulfill those natures, to discover the innermost aspects of our beings, to release the intense presence within our dark natures. To ride the tide and survive the surf together.

Funny how thoughts come without being sought, while writing to strangers.

A slave is a precious and rare treasure, to be appreciated and valued, not spoiled or coddled or given too much space, but neither damaged nor neglected.  This will seem too "soft" for some; sometimes one meets a slave who requires more strenuous treatment, but God made us all, we are Equals, with different natures that compel us to different roles, responsibilities, rights and expectations.  I can respect, appreciate and assume responsibility for the newbie sub,  the experienced slave and the lost as I understand them, though we are very different. 

That is life.  Reality.  Whether on the vanilla world or out in our Spice galaxy.  We have differences that lead to different perspectives and lives.

Alex...  I am sorry.  I am not sure where you went or why.  I hope all is well with you and those you love. 

 Perhaps it is true: there is no fool like an old fool.  Sometimes isolation makes a person react or respond in ways he or she does not really intend; as others do when nervous or tired or stressed.

 Peace to you....  you deserve Peace, Strength, Joy, Laughter and Love.  

 I am still here.  Whatever benefit that may be to you.

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People, what percentage of the "doms" or "subs" on this site, any site, are genuine?  Those who are deceivers, the pathetic players and stoopids and such, what do they acheive from their evil games?  Sometimes they get some money out of someone; mostly they just confuse someone or hurt someone's feelings, discourage travelers in our galaxy into thinking that most of us are phony or demonic. 

 If all these losers would put their energies to something useful, loving, positive, think what might be achieved!

 I suppose that  kind isn't really much interested in love or making the world a better place, their bitterness and poison prevents that.

 What a shame.

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 The making of a true relationship, in which both souls are fulfilled, inspired, liberated from their pasts and the world's judgments, this is a dance, fire and light spinning into dark places.  And the hope we have is that we find the right one to dance with and then do not get lost or distracted by the challenges while building the relationship.

 It is always so strange to me when I meet sparkling, intelligent, deeply submissive women who are unclaimed-- if they cannot find a fitting companion-owner-tormentor, who can expect to find the one we each seek?  Some are incredibly beautiful in face or shape; others not so much; but the glow of their spirits is so bright, their desire to serve, be accepted and put to positive use, to be needed and appreciated and belong to another is so incredible and yet they find no one and complain the dominants are full of crap or phony or losers or...  and I am amazed.   For that is how it often feels when it seems every "sub" and "slave" is a player, superfical, a scammer, insane or whatever. 

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It must be an odd balance, being a slave-hearted woman seeking to be owned, controlled, led, directed and yet having to run her life, make choices, plan for the future, answer questions about her likes and dislikes, when once she belongs to someone it may not matter at all what she likes or doesn't.  Some owners, masters, etc ignore whatever their slaves might request or prefer; others almost treat them as wives or partners.  Must be weird, the transition, expectations of the world versus the realities of this galaxy of ours.  AND often very difficult to articulate what it is we feel, mean, need exactly.   And to understand if the other person is genuine and sincere, or playing some game.  Such a simple thing I seek.

Traveling a great distance to your master:  

 Consider this: a slave having to travel great distance, depart the familiar, comfortable safe-feeling environs she is used to is a great benefit to master in creating the new life for them both.  she arrives unusually dependant on him, with no "normal" distractions like family and friends and existing expectations to intrude in the transition from free woman to belonging to someone else.   It provides a time for her to become accustomed to her new home, allows her to settle in, let go the past assumptions and expectations and perspective and immerse herself into her new life, role, relationship, life, reality. 

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I heartily recommend UniqueRaven 's off-site blog.... a true, deep, well thought-out and insightful fountain of wisdom of submissive perspective and slave life.

Master, Sir, Dom, are not identifiers of a perfect person, just a man who recognizes and acknowledges certain qualities within his innermost nature.  Still human, same basic traits as other people; there are group generalizations that are different, true, but we make mistakes, have flaws, idiosyncrasies. 

In this galaxy of choices we have there are some truly incredible paths people take; some terrifying, some  loving.  And people--- yes lots of losers, liars, loonies.  "Master I want to serve you all my life" after a single email, or posting a picture of a different race than they claim to be in their profile. 

But there are also some very special people, people of dazzling character, deep beliefs, caring hearts, clear and subtle minds. 

For all the frustrating insincere, evil hearted people, there are some truly wonderful submissive women who awe me.  Thank God!

If your purpose is to serve, then wouldn't replying promptly and being open and clear be a realistic part of correspondence with a "master" "dom" or "Sir"?  Isn't the point to be known, to find one you can offer yourself to?

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 I do not get it; apparently I do not understand the basis for the games and pretending that goes on this site, or what others mean by their choice of words.  I write what I mean and expect sensible, insightful responses with the intention to see if we might have what is necessary to share an intense and meaningful life together.

That isn't insane or delusional, but it seems unrealistic with most people here.

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