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Read My whole profile before sending a message. I did not think it was necessary to say so, but I do not give permission to any person or other entity to copy, quote, paraphrase or otherwise use anything I have put on my profile, to include photos and writings.


I welcome potential friends and acquaintances. I am a Pansexual, outwardly traditional, Amazon, a Big, Beautiful, Black woman with sadistic, sensual and strong dominant qualities. I am not interested in submitting.

I am not a psychiatrist. If you need one, search the internet and fork out the co-pay.


I enjoy many aspects of my chosen lifestyle, as long as they include consent. I will consider meeting a service submissive or slave at a local BDSM or Leather related Munch or Meet and Greet. LOCAL means available for local scenes, private and party events, and driving over to take my garbage can to the curb in time for garbage pick up every week (if required.).


If you do not do public meetings, I wish you well in your search.


If you define yourself by your appearance, keep looking. I am not interested. Hygiene and grooming are expected but a big ego is not.


I accept friends and acquaintances who are not local if there is a good chance we will meet, but remember that I do not check this site daily for messages.


If you are brand new to this and unsure what your likes and limits are, be prepared to explain why I should help you sort your kinks out, or please keep searching.


you must be a smart, stable, competent, employed, and open-minded person. Be realistic. Cyber-based or cam relationships are a waste of My time. They do not get your butt spanked, neither does the lawn care get done nor the floors cleaned. Yes, I am serious. I am not interested in anyone who wants a cage to rest in, or worthless, stupid pet types.


Limits will be discussed and negotiated. No poets. No one who is unable to give consent. Those are hard limits. Actions mean more than words with Me, but do choose your words wisely.


I have no interest in those hoping to relocate. While people willing to relocate may have the best of intentions, it makes interacting the ways I like much more difficult.


While I dislike cyber only encounters, cyber can be a good way to determine whether I wish to meet a person.They must still be LOCAL however. Pansexuals, Bisexuals and Transgenders are welcome. Married or attached people, do not waste your time, unless i am able to get the approval of your spouse in person first. Chances are that your significant other is at least as bored as you. Poets are a Hard Limit. I am allergic to them.


Sending a message? Start your first message with Yes Maam, I read your entire profile. Then tell me how and why you think we would be a good fit. Also, do a spell check and send a picture of yourself. If my response to you is I wish you well in your search, I am politely saying Goodbye.


Remember, you are entitled to common courtesy. You are NOT entitled to a reply, which may take about seven days.. If you do not get a response, either I am busy or chose not to respond.

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6/10/2023 9:01:40 AM

The first time I heard the term "oral slave" I thought it referred to a poet doing a live recital on demand. The more time has passed since then, the more I wish that poet was accurate (and I dislike poets). Why do strangers who live outside of my preferred location keep offering what even a vanilla person who lives locally could provide?


4/13/2015 6:15:03 PM
Please read my profile. I'm not required to meet you or "do" you.  Also, I'm not your wife or girlfriend.  If I don't know you, your needs and fantasies aren't my issue. 

I thought the comments I just typed were generally known by all on this site, that no one is required to meet or chat online just because a message was sent. Recent messages I received have proven that assumption to be wrong.

11/23/2014 7:52:03 PM
I'm happy! It occurred to me recently that when I'm happy, I seldom write. I'm too busy enjoying life. I made a point of logging in today, just to type that!

11/9/2014 7:28:18 PM
During and after a lingerie shopping trip with an acquaintance today, I listened to him intently. I looked forward to seeing him in one particular black shaper with lace trim, but I digress.

 A tip: If you know that your bills are overdue, put that higher on your priority list than the lace you plan to wear. You can't see lace when the power is off.

12/4/2013 3:54:17 PM

My previous post was not serious, but this one is. 

If you're local, a submissive or slave and have an Obsessive - Compulsive need to clean without complaining, contact Me!


7/30/2013 9:33:44 PM

I'd love to have an oral slave right now! No, I'm not letting just anyone have access to my lusciousness. I'd like someone to answer my phone for a few days. I'm so sick of talking and texting, I'm tempted to drop the phone in a sink full of water. LOL


8/3/2012 7:41:08 PM

Its so funny when a vanilla guy says he promises to rock my world! Yeah,  its anticlimactic for them when I ask if they plan to landscape my yard...


12/12/2010 11:56:03 PM

Happy Holidays! I haven't written here in a while. I've been physically ill. Actually some of my illness was caused by the medication rather than the illness itself (RA).

 During my illness I have remained marginally social. I've met and come to know some interesting and amazing people, and a few nuts and imps. Its all a part of the life experience. Because of the bad ones I appreciate the good ones more. I'm not trying to change the nature of anyone from bad to good, I leave that to the clergy and psychiatry.

 I have managed to attend some nice public and private social events in the past months, and I refuse to spend time with a submissive, slave, bottom or switch who refuses to be seen by anyone (what is he hiding??) especially if they won't meet any of my trusted friends. (Don't worry guys, someone will meet you, just not Me.) I'm also not hunting down or chasing anyone, or forcing anyone to serve, since its not my style.


12/22/2009 4:35:10 PM

Guidelines for the interested:

1. If you are convinced that every person you ever cared about has cheated on you and none of them cared about you in return (especially if this includes your parents), please do not contact Me.

2.  If you get upset when people do not ask you for money, please do not contact Me.

I am retiring from trying to remove bats from belfries. Please seek help elsewhere.

This was posted rather "tongue in cheek" but seriously, I'm not a mind reader, psychiatrist, or a Master Social Worker. I probably cannot help and I've decided to stop trying.

Now returning to my previously chosen activities...


12/4/2009 2:45:21 PM
I didn't think it was necessary to say so, but I do not give permission to any person or other entity to copy, quote, paraphrase or otherwise use anything I have put on my profile, to include photos and writings.

A friend suggested that I do a search of forty year old dominant women in Virginia Beach, VA. he said there was a Mistress who has copied several sentences from my profile and claimed them as her own.

Of course anyone with a brain will realize in time that the female has plagiarized my profile, so I'll leave the brainless to their folly.

10/23/2009 12:31:01 PM
After viewing the article below, I wanted to share it with others and remind everyone that safe calls (and other precautions) are always a good idea.
 
(To use the link, copy and paste it in your browser.)
 
 
Paterson police seek public's help in search for missing woman Friday, October 16, 2009

Last updated: Friday October 16, 2009, 1:42 PM
The Record

PATERSON-- Police are asking for the public's help in locating a 26-year-old city woman who went missing while possibly acting as a dominatrix for a man she met on a phone chat line.

Lillian Smith, 26, left home at 10 a.m. Oct. 7, saying she was getting on a bus to the Clifton library to meet a 40-year-old New York man. Police do not know the identity of the man, but a relative and a friend of Smith said she had met him on a phone chat line, authorities said.

The pair apparently met twice in person, and Smith may have acted as a dominatrix with the man. Her family said she does not have an arrest record and is not a prostitute, according to police.

Smith is black, 5-foot-6-inches, 140 pounds and has a lip piercing. She was last seen wearing a grey sweater, black jeans, black boots and a pink scarf.

Anyone with information can call Paterson Police at 973-321-1111 or 973-321-1120.

-Marlene Naanes

 Lillian Smith was last seen on Oct. 7.

PHOTO COURTESY OF PATERSON PD
Lillian Smith was last seen on Oct. 7.

9/13/2009 11:28:23 PM
The next event I'm planning to attend is Black Rose '09, held October 30 - November 2 2009, in DC. Hope to meet some of you there!

8/18/2009 12:40:43 PM
Jack McGeorge died today, Aug 18, 2009. He will be missed!! I pasted the following info from Wikipedia:

Harvey John "Jack" McGeorge (born 1949-died August 18, 2009) was a retired Marine and was a munitions analyst for the U.N. Monitoring, Verification and Inspection Commission (UNMOVIC). Over Thanksgiving weekend, 2002, theWashington Post ran an article revealing that McGeorge was also a leader in the Washington, DC BDSM community. He is a founder of Black Rose and an officer of the Leather Leadership Conference.

McGeorge made no attempt to conceal his involvement in the leather lifestyle; his full name appeared prominently on websites, and said as much to the Post and other media. He did, however, offer his resignation to Hans Blix, hoping to preserve the credibility of his organization before the weapons inspections in Iraq. Blix refused to accept McGeorge's resignation.

Later, Hua Jiang, spokeswoman for U.N. Secretary General Kofi Annan, said that being into BDSM was no more likely to be a cross-cultural problem in the Middle East than any number of other issues


7/17/2009 1:09:00 PM
Off Topic: Free Wellness Tests. Since feeling well isn't always a good gauge for good health, I'm sharing this info on free testing done now in Hampton Roads:

Wellness tour buses will be at various Walgreen pharmacies for the next few days. They are offering free wellness tests with a value of $140. No appointments are necessary. They'll be testing:
 
-Total Cholesterol levels
-Blood Pressure
-Bone Density
-Glucose Levels
-Waist Circumference
-Body Mass Index 
 
The scheduled locations and dates/times:
 
July 17, 2009
Walgreens

919 W Mercury Blvd
Hampton, VA 23666

(757) 827-2995 Noon - 6 PM

July 18, 2009
Walgreens

2232 E Little Creek Rd
Norfolk, VA 23518

(757) 480-4116 Noon - 6 PM

July 19, 2009
Walgreens

12750 Jefferson Ave
Newport News, VA 23602

(757) 833-0339 Noon - 6 PM

July 20, 2009

Walgreens

1316 Battlefield Blvd N
Chesapeake, VA 23320

(757) 548-4217 Noon - 6 PM

July 23, 2009

Walgreens

856 S Military Hwy
Virginia Beach, VA 23464

(757) 424-1752 Noon - 6 PM

July 24, 2009
Walgreens

810 W 21st St
Norfolk, VA 23517

(757) 623-7213 Noon - 6 PM

July 25, 2009
Walgreens

3965 Holland Rd
Virginia Beach, VA 23452

(757) 306-9255 Noon - 6 PM

July 26, 2009

Walgreens

13007 Warwick Blvd
Newport News, VA 23602

(757) 882-1074 Noon - 6 PM

July 27, 2009

Walgreens

8609 Tidewater Dr
Norfolk, VA 23503

(757) 583-2274 Noon - 6 PM

7/8/2009 11:15:13 AM
Looking forward to attending BlackBEAT again this year. Seems its been ages since I've attended! http://www.blackbeatinc.org/ 

7/7/2009 9:56:55 PM
As I've said before, I'm not actively seeking anyone. I'm content for now. I am amazed though, by how many submissives and slaves offer to relocate before I've sent a first reply. I thought everyone knew that Dominants and submissives/ slaves are not "one size fits all". If we were, everyone would still be with the first person they interviewed.

7/2/2009 8:56:56 PM
Ok, apparently I have a mild form of ADHD. Emails more than twelve lines long are making me restless or sleepy. No need to be verbose!

6/12/2009 11:07:39 AM
Jack McGeorge is presenting in the local area in a couple of weeks, at a non-profit BDSM group near where I live.  Contact me here for more info.    
   Update, Jun 28th, I enjoyed Jack McGeorge's presentation. I'm glad I went. There are other presenters scheduled for the near future.

4/3/2009 2:57:10 PM
I haven't updated my profile in over a year, so here's the brief version:  I am not actively seeking anyone. I do associate with several people in "real time", and I will consider meeting new friends and associates whom I will meet only at munches.

3/27/2009 1:36:01 PM
Tomorrow morning is the beginning of TIED's Jay Wiseman presentation in Hampton Roads, VA. I've been preoccupied lately, so I'm looking forward to seeing folks I haven't spent time with in a while. Interested in attending? tiedinva dot com is the group's web home. If you haven't heard of Jay Wiseman, google his name along with the term BDSM.


10/14/2008 1:01:09 PM
     To those asking why I took my pic down:  There is a male on this site who has been harassing, threatening and possibly stalking me.  I did win a criminal court case against him on Oct 8, 2008, but in case he has not given up, I'm not putting pics back up.

     he is approximately 5'9", 40 years old (born in 1967), has gray hair, a southern accent, and narrow hips with a "dimple" in his right butt cheek.   If you meet anyone who matches that description, run... and change your phone number!

8/25/2008 12:46:39 PM

Take the time to read before contacting me.  If I say No, DO NOT presume that you are the exception I need in my life. Don't presume that I need you immediately.  It just makes a submissive look  greedy,  selfish and perhaps homeless.  If you have never contacted me before, now is NOT the time to do so. 


8/15/2008 4:57:14 PM
I've decided to let go.  For at least the last sixteen months I've "dominated" a male with a PhD who never fully grasped the theory of Service and he wondered why I didn't want to collar him.           
                                                              What took me so long?? This epiphany has left me impatient and somewhat angry.  I recently met a wonderful submissive whom I can't interact with yet because I know I need to regroup.  I'm glad I realize this and hope the healing process is brief!

7/29/2008 6:09:01 AM
BlackBEAT 08 is almost here! If you haven't registered, don't bother contacting me about this year's conference.    I Am looking for a workout partner or assistant though.  No drill sergeant types and No recent triple bypass patients, just someone to hold my feet for situps or jog beside me.  LOL

7/11/2008 10:29:15 PM

BlackBEAT 2008 is quickly aproaching.  I'm seeking a submissive or slave capable of at least carrying my luggage and submitting to a scene or two.  I've released the one who was to accompany me.   No, I'm not paying your way, I'm paying my own. Limits, etc, will be negotiated.  Contact me.


7/9/2008 1:12:26 PM
I'm still recovering from the most recent event I attended. I did scenes with two separate submissives during the event, but its not the drop of endorphin level I'm referring to.  I tripped on their stairs.  The good news I have no broken bones, just bruised bones, etc.  The cute shoe's heel cap wedged in on the carpet nails on the stairs, and the rest is recorded in the hospital record.  As much as I hate the idea of wearing "sensible" shoes to events, I might have to do just that.  I'm very thankful though... it could have been much worse!

6/21/2008 3:16:41 PM
I'm still getting questioned about why I won't consider submissives or slaves who aren't local.  I'm not actively seeking anyway, but I have no interest in either phone or online domination. What would be the point?  It would only waste my time. 

Of course there is the question that would linger in the back of my mind if I made an exception:  "What is he running from?"  Of course he could sincerely be interested enough to relocate, but the chance is equally good that he's trying to escape child support or other financial obligations,  running from an arrest warrant, etc.

Regardless I'm entitled to use whatever "filters" I choose, and No Relocation is one of them. 

12/17/2007 9:53:38 AM
I suggest that anyone seriously interested in BDSM try to attend a local munch.  In My local area I can give a good yahoo group link for various local munch dates, times and locations.  I realize that some feel public socializing may risk their jobs.  Regardless, I wish all a fun search and Happy Holidays.

11/26/2007 2:11:31 PM
I'm not seeking submissives at this time.  I chat with friends here occasionally, but do not assume that my visiting the site means I'm seeking.

11/2/2007 12:00:27 PM
I got a CollarMe message recently saying, "I know who you are... Your bullshit will be revealed."  Apparently he thinks "the psychopath entry" is about him.  I hope he has a breakthrough soon.  They say acknowledging there is a problem is the first step.    On a different topic, I'm pleased with life and those I choose to associate with. 

10/4/2007 11:57:29 AM
OFF TOPIC:  Not long ago, family members spent the night.  I entered a room where a toddler was crying.  Her mother said she cried because a catepillar sang about becoming a butterfly.  I comforted the toddler, assuring her the catepillar would not die or feel pain, just change as she had from when she wore diapers and crawled.  She stopped crying, jumped in my lap and hugged me, and I asked if she wanted ham with her breakfast.  She said yes.  I said, "Good!"  Then I whispered toward her mother, "Next time I'll tell you how pigs change!" 

10/4/2007 11:41:58 AM

Compliments of Sir Scourge:   Things to understand when meeting a Dom (or Domme) for the first time...
   A REAL DOM (or Domme) will not ask for money.
   Will not expect you to pay for dinner
   Will not try to Dom you without getting to know you in the most vanilla sense.
   Will be a perfect Gentleman, thereby putting you at ease.
   Will be consistent in thought and action...I stress consistent
   Will be attentive and patient when addressing your concerns about (medical issues as well as) limits and experience.
   Will not be upset when asked for references
   Will not be overly concerned with how soon you will suck His dick (or lick Her)
   Will drop you like a hot potato should you demonstrate you have ulterior motives
   Will not have a problem driving to meet you half way, or payng for your airline ticket AND hotel reservation SINGLE occupancy.
   I don't know if Sir Scourge is on CollarMe, but kudos for sharing!


9/27/2007 4:49:42 PM

In response to an inquiry on my Sep 10th journal entry:  I do value friends and friendships.  I didn't intend to imply that we should not trust others.               I find it difficult to watch a friend destroy him or herself, either actively or through neglect.  I reluctantly distance  myself sometimes from friends who consistently reject help and ignore warnings from others when continuing on a downward spiral.  The information I submitted on Sept 10th was an effort to recap a conversation I had with a friend, hoping she'd be able to understand what I meant if she saw it in writing.  I couldn't force her to change or to seek help to rid herself of the parasitic person who attached himself to her.  I pray that she finds the strength to remove him from her home and her life.


9/10/2007 8:31:20 PM

I've been doing some reading online lately and saw an interesting list of characteristics:     
1.  Conning for pleasure or profit, repeated lying, or the use of aliases.    
2.  Failure to plan ahead or being impulsive.   
3.  Repeated (non-consensual) assaults on others.   
4.   Reckless when it comes to their or others safety.    
5.   Poor work behavior or failure to honor financial obligations.   THAT LIST LARGELY DEFINES  A SOCIOPATH.   ITS ALSO CALLED ANTISOCIAL BEHAVIOR.               
On the other hand, PSYCHOPATHS:   
1.  Often see themselves as victims.    
2.   Play on the fact that most of us are trusting and forgiving people. The warning signs are always there,  it's just difficult to see them because once we trust someone, the friendship becomes a blinder.   Even lovers get taken for a ride by psychopaths. For a psychopath, a romantic relationship is just another opportunity to find a trusting partner who will buy into the lies. It's primarily why a psychopath rarely stays in a relationship for the long term, and often is involved with three or four partners at once. To a psychopath, everything about a relationship is a game.

Please do not confuse it with BDSM or Polyamory.  If there is no honesty, responsibility or accountability... its a psychiatric issue.  (IMO)


8/20/2007 9:33:54 AM

I just returned from the fifth anniversary of BlackBEAT 2007. "Thank you" to all fellow attendees. I felt at home! The cohesiveness and willingness of the icons in the Lifestyle community (Dominas, Doms, switches, slaves, submissives, bottoms, gay, bi, straight, trans, leather... whatever other labels you can think of) to share their thoughts/ knowledge and the positive energy throughout the event were even more impressive than list of attendees.
This was my first year attending BlackBEAT. I chose to attend based on positive feedback about the last four events. I can assure you that I will attend their events in the future "God willing and the creek don't rise!" For one thing, I'm determined to have another appointment with the Southeast's 2006 Bootblack of the Year!
I strongly suggest anyone over twenty-one years old who knows they are interested in bdsm attend the next scheduled conference. Between the workshops/ seminars, the round table discussions, plus the chance to watch key people in the lifestyle at work, you will be enriched. Unless you isolate yourself, you'll embark on a spiritual, intellectual and sensual journey whose path you may travel for many years!

Here is a link to BlackBEAT's page:   blackbeatinc.org


7/1/2007 5:44:44 AM
I'm rather pleased at the moment. I just needed to type that first, since I usually don't take the time to do a journal entry unless some sot sends a stupid email. I'm not actively seeking a subbie right now, but if I find time I may respond to emails infrequently. I do prioritize them: a male who is submissive, local, single and bi is more likely to get a reply. A male who is none of the above is least likely to get a reply.

6/22/2007 7:11:08 PM
To katie, My friend:  Always know that you are special to Me.  Our relationship includes the best characteristics of friend and family... as long as neither of U/us needs an organ. LOL   Be well, katie, and say "Hello" to your Master for Me. 

4/10/2007 11:07:17 AM
In addition to what is typed elsewhere in this profile, I'm seeking people who are attending BlackBEAT 07 this year. I have My plans made already, but want to get to know a few more people before hand.

10/8/2006 6:42:24 PM
I received an email from a male who hoped to be kept collared and caged while I go to work. After I told him that to Me, it would be a form of him pimping Me, he replied:

"of course it is...u are like so many others here.....lazy and no good job to support them so they take advantage of this scene....just another lowly lazt bitch is all u r and all u will ever be".

That male is so sad. (Some just don't know how to handle rejection.)  he is too lazy to work and too lazy to do a spell check.  If you are also, please contact someone else.


7/4/2006 11:32:15 AM
I took out most of my non-bdsm related checklist responses. Apparently too much info confuses some males.  I have read some interesting emails though, and there are a few males from this site that I may meet in the future.

5/8/2006 9:27:21 AM

I am not interested in an ongoing cyber-based experience. I use cyber as one way of meeting and getting to know a male, but I seek a local male for real-time.


1/22/2006 10:53:13 AM
While I do appreciate respectful messages, do take the time to edit your message.  We are all human and subject to mistakes, but the following bother Me: 

THEIR indicates possession by a group.  THERE indicates location. 

YOUR does not mean You are, YOU'RE does. 

Dominate (verb) does not mean Dominant (adjective). 

2 used to mean TO or TOO, UR and RU are just lazy, and a lazy male is of no use to Me.

12/27/2005 5:39:18 PM
With My work schedule I currently have little time to meet potential submissives/slaves.  While I do visit areas from Richmond to Virginia Beach regularly to spend time with friends and family, I prefer a male who can easily travel during the winter freeze on short notice.

7/13/2005 5:39:30 PM

I've had interesting chats with submissive men through Collarme, and have met a few for coffee.  My search continues.  I also check my alt account on occasion where I use a similar ID. 


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