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Your mind and heart will choose the one to love and follow.


My life is full. Islowly cultivaterelationships and establish compatibility before passion takes over completely. Im looking to build a long term relationship. Casual play does not interest me.

Life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly,kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didnt do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. Mark Twain


So many people on this site and in this lifestyle seem to be one dimensional. A diamond typically has 57 to 58 facets. This is but one facet of me, although it is an admittedly important one. Other facets Cognitively intelligent, emotionally intelligent, self-actualized, scientist, mathematician, self-reliant, well-traveled, educated, well-spoken, accomplished, er private pilot, sailor, SCUBA diver, camper, motorcyclist, father, friend, lover, romantic, poet and sensual Dominant.



Because I am a professional in the community, I do not post my picture. Ill be happy to share one privately.

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3/28/2018 6:39:35 AM
Something I wrote for a potential submissive...

We all want someone to "get us."  For my sweet submissive or slave, my words will speak to her.  What I share is truly based on the nature of things.  Men have testosterone and tens of thousands of years of evolution where we are dominant, loving and protective.  We are not complete without women.  Women can do almost everything a man can.  But, she has tens of thousands of years of evolution where she has been the lover, the nurturer and the helpmate of men.  Unfortunately, we are not perfect and we are not born with wisdom.  It takes so many, many years to learn to be a fully functional, loving dominant.  So, most men are truly assholes or they are simply dominated by their testosterone.  Regardless, the vast majority of women never have the experience of being loved.  They are simply used by out-of-control men.  Of course they become angry, distrustful and bitter.


It takes so many, many years to overcome society's programming.  You are obviously intelligent and aware of the incongruence between what is natural and what is simply a artificial construct of society.  Once you truly experience loving dominance on a deep emotional level, you will want more.

You can already feel it.  It's like I am singing a song that is your song.  It's been in your heart all this time and now you hear it coming from outside your body.

12/31/2017 11:22:07 AM
To me this isn't role PLAY.  These are our roles in life.  I'm personally disappointed in modern relationships.  To me the TiH/DD/Loving Dominant based relationship is the type of relationship two healthy people should share all the time.  The sexual part only comprises a couple of hours a day.   The other twenty-two hours of the day there is touching, kissing, cuddling and work. 

The true essence of the relationship is defined by the way the submissive lets go of her life and gives it over to him.  Out of love, he gladly accepts the inherent responsibilities. When two people live in harmony and lovingly accept their roles, that's what makes this type of relationship exceptional and fulfilling on so many levels. 

Great sex comes from great intimacy and great intimacy comes from great love.  There is no greater love than to gives one's self and to honor ones loving partner.

12/31/2017 11:13:49 AM
I love it when I'm engaged by a smart woman and she asks me a simple insightful question.

I mentioned to a potential partner that I lived and worked in the vanilla world and that the world behind my closed door was very different.  She then ask me to describe the life behind my closed door.

The simple answer is that it is exactly what WE make it.  There is one rule: Daddy is always in-control.  I enjoy everything sensual and mental.  I will evaluate your strengths, weaknesses, needs and wants.  I will learn to play you like a maestro plays a fine instrument.  I enjoy see my submissive/slave wet with desire and softly begging Daddy.  The words "Please Daddy" are music to my ears.  I also love the throaty grunts and her arching body when my Baby surrenders to those last few orgasms.  


The path to love and deep intimacy is never the same.  It's like exploring a new wilderness.  I read the topography of the land.  I observe and look for the best route.  Sometimes I will follow an established game trail.  Sometimes I will walk along the banks of a creek or river.  Sometimes I will slowly, carefully climb to the top of the mountain just to see an amazing view.  Your path is absolutely unique to you.  Some woman want physical stimulation and pain.  Some women just want to check out of life and be Daddy's girl.  By mentally letting go of responsibility, they free themselves of all stress and strife.  All their anger and frustration is forgotten like a bad dream.  It's not age play or a fantasy.  It's just a simpler set of rules.  

Through love, understanding and forgiveness, all things are possible.  If you possess the ability to love, let go and forgive, we can create whatever we choose behind my doors.

12/30/2017 10:55:02 PM
Something from another profile and it rings true based on my experience:
  • She is very sensitive to moods, body language, and tone of voice. She is very sensitive to criticism.
  • She has a child-like presence.
  • She is eager to please and eager to follow suggestions.
  • She is sexually aroused/fascinated by a dominant presence.
  • She longs to turn to an authority/advisor when she has personal questions.
  • She knows something’s been missing in all her previous relationships.
  • She finds herself becoming anxious coping with everyday life on her own.
  • She says she feels as if she’s putting on a mask or role as an adult, an employee, a boss, a parent.
  • She’s a nurturer, often being a caregiver of some kind.
  • She takes on guilt that doesn’t belong to her; she tries to fix everyone’s problems.
  • She feels that often people are able to take advantage of her giving nature.
  • She admits to having put up powerful emotional barriers because people can hurt her so easily.
  • She finds it generally hard to trust people, but paradoxically wants very badly to trust me. Conversely, she may be much too trusting in a child-like way and keeps getting hurt.
  • She has always felt oddly out of place and “different” from others. She may even feel there is something wrong with her.
  • From a young age she has found pleasure in serving others; being a good hostess, doing as she’s told, remembering everyone’s birthdays, being everyone’s shoulder to cry on and everyone’s helpmate.
  • She finds it difficult to resist authority 

12/25/2017 9:32:01 AM
If you have half a brain, the thought of being owned by someone else is frightening at times.  If you reflect on your life, you probably can't think of a single person with whom you would give so very much.  What man would you trust with such a level of power over you?   

Now, let me flip the concept.  Mothers will identify with what I am about to describe.  Would you choose to be put someone's emotional and physical needs before your own?  Would you spend hours each day considering what they need and how you can influence and develop them as a person?  Would you be willing to take them everywhere with you except one or two days each week for work?   Would their happiness and love be more important than your own?  In essence, you would be a parent adopting another human being. 

Imagine a man who would take you into his home and give you the love, guidance and the support of a parent, the intimacy of a partner and the emotional and physical experiences only a dominant partner can.  Who would be the true slave?

What would you give up to get all of that love and devotion?  Would you give up your credit cards and those bills?  Would you give up the night life and the men using you and discarding you?  Would you give up your car payment, insurance and gas bills?  Would you give up paying rent and the electric bill?  Would you give up Facebook, KIK, clubbing and superficial people?  Can you be mindful and loving to the man who gives you a life free of all of that?

I'm not saying that this has to be YOUR endgame.  I'm not saying this has to be a 24x7 lifestyle.  I'm not saying this has to be all or nothing.  I'm just saying that there is a possibility for a blend of life that removes the need for you to compete or argue or stress over life for at least a few hours every night. 

Take one day at a time.  Take one step at a time.  See what works for YOU.  Let yourself enjoy this and see where it takes you.

12/24/2017 10:10:12 AM
My expectation is that the slave will express her interest in me and desire for me.  I will not chase her.  I am the Master.  She must choose me first.  She must pursue me.  She must demonstrate her strong, unwavering desire to spend her life as my property. 
 
The first step is friendship.  If that isn't in the cards, then I will happily be on my way.
 

12/16/2017 2:39:57 PM
Your mind and heart will choose the master to love and follow. 

You can't take money or possessions with you when you die.  Everything can be taken from you at any time.  The greatest treasure is the warmth and love of your master.  Even sex is only a passing pleasure.  When you crawl in bed at night you receive the greatest gift... your master's arms and hands touching you and holding you.  His shoulder or arm will be your pillow and his body will be your warmth and protection. 

12/16/2017 11:30:49 AM
A true submissive always keeps the relationship in perspective.  She values the relationship and places it first and foremost in her heart and in her attitude and in her demeanor and in all her behaviors. 

12/16/2017 10:58:34 AM
A woman with a true, loving, slave heart is rare.  Like vanilla relationships there must also be compatibility.  I live in the mountains on a river.  I don't expect perfection.  I am not perfect.  But, I am a wonderful partner. 

Life is as complex and as stressful as we make it.  Letting go, forgiveness, empathy and mindfulness lead to peace in ones mind and in daily life.  A woman does not necessarily need to come to me as a complete person.  But, she must be willing to evolve, let go and join me on a path to personal growth and harmony.


What would you give up to be with someone like me?

9/21/2014 10:13:56 AM
I believe that D/s relationships have greater potential in terms of realizing the full potential of love and commitment between two people.  Anytime someone loves, a power exchange occurs to some degree.  In true D/s, the couple understands and celebrates a deeper exchange.  I liken it to Maslow's hierarchy in that D/s couples achieve a kind of self-actualized relationship. 

In a profile a few years ago I clearly defined the true submissive and firmly discouraged anyone looking to explore kink to keep moving along.  I enjoy the flavors and fun.  But, I want a deeper commitment  The greatest challenge I experience has more to do with the inability to find quality partners.  I guess it's the same in vanilla dating.  Our desire for a D/s partner adds yet another degree of complexity.

8/5/2014 6:18:46 PM
Druid Vow of Friendship

I honor your path.
I drink from your well.
I bring an unprotected heart to our meeting place.
I hold no cherished outcome.
I will not negotiate by witholding.
I am not subject to disappointment.


7/25/2014 9:34:41 AM

Trust is earned and built over time through open communication.  An intelligent and worthy submissive will only surrender herself to an intelligent and worthy Dom with whom she has developed an appropriate level of trust. 

The potential exists to develop a deeper and more meaningful D/s relationship than anything you will find in the vanilla world.  We explore boundaries and reveal our inner selves through open communication.  We probe the psyche of our mate and push buttons which do not exist in the vanilla world.  We give all and desire all and ask, "Is that all you have to give."   

Submissives with the emotional and cognitive intelligence to recognize a worthy Dominant will be drawn to a wise and patient Dom.  Others will be like children playing with fire.  


7/11/2014 10:43:52 PM
I read this posting at another website.  It reflects my own view.

"There seems to be a pervasive misunderstanding that to be Dominant one must appear overtly authoritarian, gruff, emotionally impenetrable, and fortress like. Nothing could be further from the truth. The respect and trust that must necessarily be earned in order for a submissive to bare and surrender their heart, mind, body and soul comes from a combination of emotional accessibility on the part of a Dominant, combined with a level of power, balance, and control."

I personally think a dominant's power and control comes from the trust and love he fosters in his submissive.

2/2/2014 12:00:05 PM

This is not my first time on CM.  I have a decent level of patience, but we all have our limits.  This lifestyle tends to have broad appeal to a section of society with whom I would never associate.  Half the women have been convicted of a felony.  Almost all have a false sense of their own intelligence (see Dunning-Kruger on Wiki).  Any truly intelligent woman reading this will realize that I'm only stating the obvious and not simply some egomaniac. 

 

If you're still reading, I'd like to share my vision of D/s nirvana.  I wish we could separate those pretending to be Dom or sub for erotic entertainment or to add spice to a clearly boring sex life versus those of us who comprehend and desire the personal and emotional harmony of a D/s relationship.  For one, love and commitment finds a more solid foundation when each person understands their role and what they bring to the relationship.  Most people say they want an equal partner.  But, I doubt that they truly have an equal relationship.  Someone ends up shouldering more of the responsibilities.  Who plans the trips and outtings and who goes along for the ride? Most people end up negotiating everything and keeping score until their relationship is impossibly complex and the level of resentment is immeasurable.

 

Do you remeber Gift of the Maji by O. Henry?  Who would not want such a loving relationship? it can be the same with D/s.  The sub gives herself and the Dom accepts the responsibility for her.  It's a huge responsibility for which most men lack the emotional maturity, wisdom and unselfish nature to keep the submissives best interest at heart.  For the submissive, it takes faith and personal strength in ones self and the ability to let go of things that really aren't important in the end.  Everyone can pretend to be happy for some period of time, even for years.  But, eventually the lowest animal knows when it is treated with considertaion and love.  For a loving heart, what battles are worth fighting?  For an unselfish leader, what else does he need than the love of a good woman?


1/5/2014 8:23:07 PM

My instrumernt produces the sweetest sounds.  Sometimes I play soft, sensuous ballad, a soulful blues riff, a sultry latin beat or a rock number that makes every part of your body move.  I eat different cuisines: Thai, Indian, soul food, American, Mexican and Italian. 

 

I am decidely dominant.  But I definitely enjoy a variety of styles and pleasures.  Sometimes, I can whisper soft commands and hold you teetering on the edge.  Other times I will devour you and together we will wake the dead.  Sometimes I will control you with just my words.  Other times I will use the power of my body or various toys.  I take great pleasure in expanding my submissives horizon and giving her even more reasons to stay with me.

     


1/4/2014 11:20:22 PM

Any man can grab a woman by her hair. throw her onto the bed and rip her clothing off. Sure, he can tie her up, call her a bitch, whore or a slut, and have rough sex with her. But that’s not dominance...that’s rough sex, maybe even violent sex. And if she’s into it, it can even be fun. But that’s still not true dominance.True dominance is the ability to whisper softly into her ear and observe as she obediently removes her clothing, methodically... one piece at a time. Watching as she kneels before you offering her entire self to you. willingly, without hesitation or reservation. She will show you her most vulnerable self without embarrassment or shame and you will know that nothing makes her happier, than making you happy.


11/6/2013 7:56:12 PM

Longing
 
If you could sit with me beside the sea to-day,
And whisper with me sweetest dreamings o'er and o'er;
I think I should not find the clouds so dim and gray,
And not so loud the waves complaining at the shore.
If you could sit with me upon the shore to-day,
And hold my hand in yours as in the days of old,
I think I should not mind the chill baptismal spray,
Nor find my hand and heart and all the world so cold.
If you could walk with me upon the strand to-day,
And tell me that my longing love had won your own,
I think all my sad thoughts would then be put away,
And I could give back laughter for the Ocean's moan!

~ Paul Dunbar

 


11/3/2013 6:20:55 PM

Mind, heart and body; I want you in that order.  Yes, I am Dominant; but I am not like most other dominants.  I am not a singleminded, obssessed, narcisscistic neanderthal.  My dominance comes from my desire to lead and my confort with my dominant role in this world.  I do not need to beat, own or humiliate a woman to prove my worth or dominance.

 

Mind: My partner will be sapiosexual.  She desires to be with someone worldly and intelligent.  She will be nearly my equal in intelligenc and find comfort in not having to all the thinking for once in her life. 

 

Heart: So many people want to love and be loved. Unfortunately, love is not like fast food. Love is an artform and a lifelong journey. It takes commitment, practice and some sacrifice and often results in heartache and temporary setbacks. I am looking for one soul to make the journey of discovery with me. Are you ready and willing?

Over the past two years I've been reflecting, reading and asking questions of various "professionals." I believe that I have a good strategy.

I am looking for the "right" soul. I do not want to just fall in lust with a beautiful face. I want to know the texture of my beloved's heart. I want to explore, through words, all of her desires and fears. I want her to know every fiber of my heart and soul. People used to really communicate via the written word and lasting relationships were tempered by the long slow process of deep, meaningful communication.

 

Body: She will know that I love her body not because it's perfect.  I love her body because it is HER body.  She will offer herself to me because she knows I will be a magnanimous Dominant.  Yes, I will take her and use her for my pleasure.  I will also take my time and enjoy the gift she has given me.  I will play her body much as a maestro palys a fine instrument.  Her body will sing and dance and make magical sounds.



On a lighter side, I do have some personal preferences... :-)

You do not have to look like Angelina.... but be comfortable in your own skin.

You do not need to have a million dollars... but do not be a million in debt either.

You do not need to have or want children.... but you must love them.

You do not have to be religious... but you must be tolerant of all beliefs and appreciate the wisdom imparted by the world's great religions.

You do not have to be vice free... but no heavy smokers or drug users please.

You do not have to have to be a genius... but must be capable of independent thought.
You do not have to be a comedienne... but you have to be willing to laugh at yourself and me.

You do not have to be overly demonstrative in public... but you have to enjoy physical touch when we are eventually together and alone.

In short, you do not have to be perfect... but you must be willing to embrace the imperfection of others and the diversity in the world. You must be passionate... but not to the point of dashing the hopes and dreams of others. We are all God's children. None of us is omniscient or more or less beautiful or perfect than anyone else. We will be learning and growing together please be patient with me as I will also be so with you.

I am willing to answer any and all questions. Please a) tell me about your current situation, e.g. married, single or living together, b) share your desire(s) with regards to love, c) tell me about your thoughts on building a loving relationship, d) tell me your approximate height and weight (I promise I do not have an absolute preference in this area) and e) provide a picture if you don't mind. You can block out your eyes if you want. Either way, I will certainly keep this confidential.

 

Share your sexual needs and desires with me.   As I have said, I will use you.  But, in consuming you, I will bring you pleasure and life.  Your needs and desires will be fulfilled along with mine.  A truly intelligent Dominant, understands that his submissive willingly gives her greatest gift, herself.  If he does not give her what she needs, she will leave him.   

 

 


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 Age: 23
 Lumberton, New Jersey