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I updated my age when I had a birthday, and have waiting for weeks to get my profile re-approved.
*Pics available on request* NO MEN, Couples OK, but only if both are Women.
Sorry for the strange punctuation, but this site does not allow contractions, quotation marks, slashes, and others.
I am a 58 year old twice-divorced male submissive merinthophiliac. Retired with pension. I own a home in SE Michigan and would like to meet a compatible Woman for fun and friendship, possibly leading to more. I am a life-long musician, as well as being quite the foodie. I love to cook and am very good at it. My house lacks a womans influence.
I am not much of a switch, although I am pretty good with knots, and I will not exclude a switch (or even a submissive) if we click in other ways. Maybe we could seek out a Domme together as a submissive couple? Its time for a partner in crime.
More normal than kinky, I am not a lifestyle BDSM scene fanatic, but as with most here, I have my list of fetishes. Not too big on the club scene. I am rather timid when it comes to the scene in general, but would not be opposed to being helped along in that regard. I dont nurture my kinks and fetishes by making sure everyone knows my secrets. I fully appreciate the rituals and protocol, but I can also see how the protocol has in many cases overtaken the true goal. It seems many lifestylers are so concerned with how others in the lifestyle perceive them that they might sometimes compromise their own desires in an effort to fit someone elses idea of what they should be. (Sounds like life in general, no?)
For me, this is about seeking a friendship with a woman based on understanding, trust, and a genuine need to mutually please each other without the stigma of what society has deemed perverted or abnormal (or what other so-called lifestyle experts have arbitrarily determined to be correct) blocking our path to mutual fulfillment. Thus, I have no interest in professionals. Along those same lines, findoms are quite possibly the biggest turn-off I can imagine. Selling sex is prostitution, regardless what your definition of is is.
I have had an interest in self-bondage since a very young age... 5 or 6 years old. My first O was during a self-bondage session, no doubt linking the two for eternity. I have a fertile, inventive mind and a wide variety of fantasies. I am open to exploring just about anything short of blood play, needles minors, animals, etc. I may be willing to try some more fringe area stuff with the right person. Ultimately, I would like to partner up with someone that accepts and enjoys the fact that I like to be bound and teased, or bound and made to climax (your choice). If youre into that or curious about it, we need to talk. Not everybody wants to take it to the extreme.
I am not ruling out an eventual relationship, but I am not sure if Im interested in anything approaching 24-7 or anything defined as TPE, FLR, etc, other than as it is applied within our unique narrative. Just because I am willing to try things doesnt mean I want to live that way forever. This probably excludes me from ever finding the right person on a site like this, but thats OK, too. I am far from desperate.
I dont care if you dont like what I wrote. I dont care if you are not fond of the pics I posted. I am not asking anyone to change for me, so dont expect me to change either.
Clean, safe, DD free (tested) and sane. Non-smoker. Be sure to check my interests list, and my journal. Feel free to contact me for any reason. I will not Tribute you. I will not communicate by instant messenger or Skype, nor will I visit your website.
Results from bdsmtest.org in percentages
97 Submissive
96 Rope bunny
87 GirlBoy
79 Pet
73 Slave
67 Ageplayer
60 Primal (Prey)
57 Degradee
51 Masochist
45 Brat
44 Experimentalist
32 Vanilla
17 Switch
11 Rigger
10 Exhibitionist
5 DaddyMommy
5 Non-monogamist
5 Primal (Hunter)
4 Dominant
3 Owner
3 Voyeur
2 Brat tamer
2 Degrader
2 MasterMistress
2 Sadist
PRIVACY NOTICE Removed because there is no such thing as privacy once you agree to the ULA when you sign up for this and other such sites on the internet.
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Oh wow the journal is back, I wonder if making this entry will put my profile on hold for several months? |
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Oh, I get it.... let you manage my finances, so I can be broke like you are.
Duh-hoy.... |
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"I deserve...."
Holy crap I am so sick of hearing/reading people (mostly 30 and unders, but not exclusively) say how they "deserve" this or that. Arrrgh!......
Dominant, submissive, rich, poor, black, white, whatever.... you don't "deserve" anything.
You earn it. You don't "deserve" a paycheck, free college, (free anything) respect, etc.
You are either a productive person or you are a parasite. |
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I just spent the last hour going through a 250-mile search of dominant women looking for sub men. I blocked and or hid:
All the obvious scammers (profiles with one sentence and a link or phone number)
All profiles that were clearly not within 250 miles of me (Alaska, California, Florida)
All that claim to be first and foremost a fin-dom,
All professionals sucking up the free advertising,
All married dommes and all couples that didn't create a couples profile,
All the profiles with such absurd demands as needing a human to replace a toilet,
All the tranny dominants that ticked the female box,
All the profiles that share duplicate wording or pictures,
All profiles with a link to an Amazon wish list (that's the ONLY thing on some profiles!)
and all the profiles that have been up for at least a few weeks but are blank.
Sadly, not much left...
I met more legit prospects on an E-Harmony free weekend. |
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You're probably a scammer if:
Your zip code and city don't match.
You say you're in California or Florida, but come up in a local Detroit area search.
You create a new profile every few days with the same old links.
You use a profile photo that's obviously scanned from an 80s porn magazine.
Your profile text is loaded with copy and pasted catch phrases.
Your profile text is loaded with english that's been destroyed by an online translator.
You insist on total anonymity on what amounts to a dating site.
You truly believe that most submissive males are into financial domination. |
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If you're going to claim to be a "Pro-Domme", at least get somebody to take your picture. Holding a camera/phone in the mirror doesn't look very "Pro". Just sayin'.
Also, real professionals PAY for their advertising, regardless of the industry. |
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Ever notice when people use the word "myself" because they are not sure whether to use "I" or "me"? Seems especially frequent in the world of pro sports.
I always get a good laugh when a 20 year old is hell-bent on convincing the planet how intelligent and worldly they are... or maybe they're just trying to convince themself? Apparently some of these 20 year old "Dommes" have been in the lifestyle since they were in 2nd grade. |
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Don't message me from California or the Philippines asking me if I want to serve you. That's just stupid. I'm in Michigan. |
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I've got an idea... I was searching through the profiles based on distance to me, and found a ton of profiles that have not been active in 3, 4, even 5 years!!! Some have written extended dissertations about how serious they are, yet have not been active since the day they registered. Let's clean up this mess and report those dead accounts. |
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Still want to know why all the hate for birdwatching? LOL, it'll be like: My hard limits are knife play, blood, needles, scat, children, animals, oh, and of course birdwatching. (Or is it possible birdwatching has a different meaning here?) |
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Your, you're, UR. There, their, they're. To, two, too. Are, our, hour. Learn the language or stop bragging about your college degree, mmm-Kay? |
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I/i T/think S/sometimes W/we T/take T/things T/too S/seriously... L/lol. |
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So, I just spent a week harvesting bluegill in the Great North Woods. Other than holiday weekends, there's nobody up there, especially mid-week. Thursday evening, I was enjoying the solitude as I sat in my small row boat and watched as the winds died to a dead calm and the lake surface turned to glass. I was the only one on the lake, and the few cabins around the perimeter were vacant except for one. A couple in their early 40's were sitting in chairs on their dock, and about every 3 minutes his cell phone would ring loudly and he would yell through his phone like it was two tin cans and a string. Relaxing.<P>
Just a quick note about instant messages. Since instant messaging clients are very unsecure, I do not use any of them. Not Yahoo, not ICQ, not MSN, none of them. I have unlimited phone service, or regular e-mail if anyone would like me to chat with them.
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Why are all the women that claim to be "switches" looking for Dominant men? That's funny to me. |
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Hey, I have an idea...
I think Collar Me should not allow a profile to go active until it's completed. Interests lists and all. What do you say, Collar Me admin? |
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I have to chuckle sometimes when a Dominant Woman puts up a profile with NOTHING in their profile text, no interests listed, etc, and then complains that they are getting messages from incompatible people. (No particular person being referenced here)
Then there's the many people who take the time to fill out a very detailed profile and NEVER bother to revisit the site! What's up with that? |
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Just thinking to myself: It's alarming how many members here don't know the difference between the verb "dominate" and the adjective "dominant"... (which of course has also become a noun in the scene)...
My brain hurts. That's what I get for thinking. |
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