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Hello,
I am unique. I do not fit into any pre defined role that many have as a fantasy of what is a Domme. I am looking for a sub, perhaps a switch, that understands serving Me is not about a list in your head of what is sub and what is dominate behavior. I will not be forced into what you think I should be...nor force you into a role you do not fit.
I am looking for My other half, not a play partner, but a boy that makes life complete. I am a sensual Domme, not a sadist. I will expect to spend time with My boy at the very least weekly, once W/we get serious, but prefer more often. Not all the time together will be sex. I will stress again that I am looking for a relationship.
My boy to be is Drug and Disease free.
he is not married or have a girl friend already.
he must not be allergic to cats. = no dogs allowed.
he may have children, but I prefer that they be older. I'm past that stage in My life
he is between the age of 35 and 50.
he is local. Farther away then 2 hours is NOT local.
he is self sufficient.
he is not looking for just a bedroom Domme.
he is service orientated.
he understands that permission to call Me "Mistress" is earned. do not call Me that in your first message.
I feel the need to add that he should be liberal to centrist in his politics. If he is a strong conservative, I will try to change his views, or give him up as a lost cause. |
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I'm down to 262. I've had to buy pants 2 sizes smaller. It feels awesome.
Bowling was wonderful, but the season pass is now expired. When I first started, I could hardly do one game without feeling so sore. By the end of the summer, I could easily do two games with no pain. The third game still hurt some, but no where near as bad as the one game at the beginning.
For any O/one out there who is struggling, it Can be done. Small changes that you can live with is the way to go. And find a way to be active, it helps so much.
On the Kink side of things, I've not been looking. If it falls in My lap, sure. But most of My energy is going towards Me. |
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5-13-17 Monthly Update.
Diet is going well. Have added fruit to it.
Loosing one to 4lbs a week.
Still not exercising much. I'm going to sign up for bowling. They have a summer pass thing where you can go all summer at one price. Just have to buy your own shoes or rent them. That will get Me up and out of the house and get My body moving. I got this idea the day after I went to dave and busters. I was sore from playing ski-ball and air hockey. It made Me realize those muscles need to move.
On the dating side. With such large changes in My diet... less caffeine, cutting down sugar.. it affected My emotions. I became a bit reserved. I was talking to a nice boy or two, and poof. they stop without a word just because I was quiet for a few days. Shakes My head.
I am an introvert. I need quiet time.
Tip to the males. don't assume. if you don't know why someone is quiet, ask politely And never just poof. always thank the Female for her time and admit that you do not think it is a good match.
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Smiles a secret smile. At Dave and buster. Out of chips so thought I would post here while daughter uses her chips. Secret naughty Ness is the joy of life |
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4-10-17.
Time for My monthly update.
This past month was rather slow. I did not go out on any dates or meet anyone new.
I've been chatting online with some boy's I've talked to before. nothing much has changed there, but does help Me stay connected to My inner Domme.
I've had some shocks at the doctor's office. Apparently I gained 15 lbs since My surgery in September. I knew My clothes where getting tighter, but to see the round number of 300 come up on the scale was still a shocker. It is past time that I take control of My own health. so, I started a diet. After a week and a half, I had lost 7lb's Mostly cutting back the dr pepper. adding water, and switching to the diet dr pepper when I have to have My caffeine fix. Yes, I'm reducing the caffeine too. I've been a bit grumpy. oh, greatly reduced the chocolate intake!
I've set a long term goal. When I reach 200lbs, I will treat Myself and My daughter to a trip to universal studios.
I still need to add exercise to the new plan. Unfortunately, My favorite type of exercise requires Me to find a boy to help. Since that is going slow, I will just have to dust off My recumbent bike and move it out of the garage.
Looks back over My entry. nods. Yes, this month was about My health. Lets see what next month brings.
For those so called subs who send random messages insulting Me on My weight.
I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN WHAT STRANGERS THINK.
if all you are is negative, then do not waste My time. Even when I do get down to a better weight, FOR MYSELF and My health. I would never have any interest in a boy like you. |
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== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
96% Dominant
96% Master/Mistress
90% Owner
82% Non-monogamist
68% Rigger
64% Voyeur
64% Daddy/Mommy
45% Sadist
38% Experimentalist
33% Brat tamer
25% Vanilla
20% Exhibitionist
19% Primal (Hunter)
18% Degrader
13% Masochist
11% Switch
10% Ageplayer
3% Submissive
2% Rope bunny
2% Brat
2% Pet
1% Slave
1% Girl/Boy
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Degradee |
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Thoughts of the day.
do boys understand that there can be new older Domme? Those who figure out the truth about themselves after a divorce or two? After dating in life and always being unhappy after a while because the males think they should be the one's in charge?
So here I am, 42 years old for another month. I have had 3 subs real time. And NONE that I have felt a full connection to where I can totally relax and explore Myself. 2 of those it didn't help I only got to see them every month or two, due to distance.
NO, I don't have protocols. This isn't a game to Me. Each sub is different. I like to get in the subs head and use THAT. 1 sub had a foot fetish. So I always had him kiss My feet when we went inside our homes. I didn't do that with the other two, because that was not their thing. I did different things with them. Other buttons to push.
When you brag about your training and what other Domme did, do you realize that with a new Domme like Myself, it makes Me question if you are right for Me?
I need someone who is willing to explore WITH Me. That won't be saying I am doing it wrong because I don't match what so and so did so much better. I don't care if she did it the way you like. I AM ME and I do it My way. My way is still improving all the time. I don't want a teacher. I want a submissive lab partner. This doesn't mean I am not open to learning better ways. Just don't compare. When you compare, you are not Mine, but someone else's.
I do it MY way. My way is slow. I get to know a person. I need to trust a sub just as much as I need his trust in Me. If I don't trust you....No trust = NO play. Doesn't matter if it's the 3rd meeting and you expect to be further along.
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Some times being so picky, not settling for random play or boys you know there is no long term potential for, leaves One feeling lonely.
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A month has gone by. Time to review and reflect. I've learned a lot about Myself.
I am sharing this, here, in hopes that someone will read it and grow.
I went on 2 dates with one boy. Turned out he was a very religious with strong conservative politics. On the first date, he used the world "infidel" in casual conversation. I was so stunned. Couldn't believe that a sub was so ..judgmental. I gave him a second date due to compatibility in other areas. On date two, he proved to be judgmental again, with a woman's rights issue that I won't go into. I was shocked. Here is a male, supposedly sub, telling Me that I have "room to grow" and that I am not closed minded. I am proving him wrong. I am closed minded about this. I will not have a sub of Mine disagree on My basic principles. I am a centrist leaning liberal and no way will I become more conservative.
Next issue. I was talking with a sub. I sent him My pictures. When he said I turned him on, i ignored it. I do NOT care about your dick in our second conversation. When he did not get the response he wanted, he disappeared without another word.
I see so many sub profiles that are all negative. They don't want just the FinDomme. They don't want fakers. But they put nothing in their profile about what they do want. What they are looking for or who they are. Why should I message someone who is so negative?? That is not the type of person I want in My life.
In conclusion. Yes, there are real Domme on here. We are just as buried under chaff as you subs are. I encourage you not to give up. But to take a look at your own profile. Is it clear? Is it positive? Does it give enough information about what you truly want? Do you know what you really want?
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If you are a submissive male and not just a male looking for greedy sex (which won't bother to read this), if a Domme takes the time to write what she is looking for in her profile, then you need to take the time to read it. Don't waste our time by sending messages.
I received 9 new messages in the last 24 hours. The perk of being back after a long break.
3 where from males old enough to be My father.
Double checks my profile, yes, age max ...no does not include 60 year old's..
2 had dick pics. instant blocked. If I want to see it, I will ask you. do Not shove it in my view just because you want to show off/be humiliated.
1 was from someone under My age limit.
2 were from out of the country. Checks profile again, yep. says Local.
1 Was from a boy that made Me smile, though I have no experience in his main need. it was a reply to a message I sent him.
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added that My sub will need to be service orientated. |
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Today's quote.
"Btw. Your lame as fuck. Your loss."
what part of My profile is not clear boys?? I do NOT CARE ABOUT YOUR DICK. you are a total stranger. unless we can hold a conversation that does not include your dick, then no, I do not want to talk to you.
If that is all you are, then move on and do not waist My time.
I am looking for a boy to build trust with. to know on more then the superficial level of the skin. one that I can relax with and explore and have fun. AFTER the trust is built. and no, it will not happen in the first week of 4 or less messages a day. |
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Distance is a strange thing. |
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another that is not a match for Me. I've let the close one go.
If we cannot have a normal vanilla conversation then I will never control you sexually.
Period. |
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Hello, I am currently talking with a boy, or two, that has potential.
Feel free to message Me for conversation/friendship, but not more at this time. |
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