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| To Live ♦ To Learn ♦ To Grow ♦ To Share
I am...
a work in progress...
perfectly imperfect...
beautiful in an eye that sees it...
awesome, worthy and enough.
Me:
I love to socialize and play inside the minds of the intelligent and imaginative. I am special and unique (just like everyone else winks), generous and giving, multi-faceted, and not easily characterized. I am a victim-turned-thriver of bad things from evil people, and have learned to be strong without being brittle. My heart and mind continue to open.
What's keeping me busy?
☼ The Munch And Local Link (MALL) Directory
The comprehensive collection of links to local lifestyle organizations.
☼ Operation I ♥ It In the Can - A national project with a local focus.
Mission:To involve and encourage people and groups to set aside just one canned good/item a month until a nationwide target delivery on November 19, 2011.
"Never regret.
If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience."
Things that get me hot:
- Imagination, because the mind is a great sex organ!;
- Complex individuals that don't make life complicated;
- Intelligence, especially coupled with creativity in writing;
- Hungering for getting and sharing knowledge, skills, and information;
- Getting to know me, not just quiz or checklist answers, or profile picture.
Things that get me bothered:
- Idiots, illiterates and the insane;
- Text speak (i h8 txt speak! OMG!);
- Getting emails that take longer to load than to read;
- Bugging me for my personal info, cam time or pictures;
- Pix of your nethers are not a turn on for me. I'm not an image or play voyeur;
- Thinking in absolutes, one way-isms, and comparing me to your definition of "true";
"You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist."
Places you might find me:
Buckhead and/or Whimper munches, though neither is closest to me. PTA meetings or in my kids' classrooms. Buried under laundry and dishes. Wasting time here or on Facebook. Perfect World. Lost in reading, writing, games or puzzles.
Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go.
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CAN You make a difference?
Yes you CAN!
I've recently become involved with Operation: I ♥ it in the Can, an international project with a local focus. This program was started by Philadelphia area FL member, _Omerta_. Since then, cities, states, and now groups all over globe have been coming on board!
The premise is simple: To set aside just one canned good/item a month until a target delivery on November 19, 2011. All donations collected stay in your local community; no monetary gifts are solicited or accepted.
Your actions make a difference. What you do is seen and noticed. You CAN - and do - influence others to participate by your involvement. Just think of the impact one can a month collected from even a portion of your friends; the potential is staggering!
I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Please write me - and let's work together to kick hunger in the CAN!
Best regards,
joy, Director
Operation: I ♥ it in the Can
Each one...Feed one! |
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Newcomers to the lifestyle in particular:
Please take the time to read the following two articles in my journal. The advice provided in it is some of the best i have seen, in a consolidated fashion, anywhere on the net. (It reads best if Y/you read my full profile, rather than attempt to do so in this small window.)
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[This reads best if Y/you read my full profile, rather than attempt to do so in this small window.]
DOMINANT’S FIELD GUIDE
The following was provided by members of Dark Connections. (dot) com.Feel free to share this guide unaltered.
Chapter 1 - Finding a Submissive
o Intuition and common sense are your most valuable instincts.
o Look for the same personality/ qualities you would look for in a vanilla partner.
o Be clear and honest about what you are seeking in a relationship.
o Make sure your sub understands whether you are looking for a monogamous or poly situation.
o Before you attempt poly, make sure you can handle that first sub.
o Make a list of mandatory questions to ask prospective subs.
o A sub that refuses to answer basic questions, especially regarding his or her medical history, has something to hide.
o Pass over prospective subs who obviously aren't compatible with your needs.
o Don't rush blindly into relationships because you are so eager to have a sub.
o Collars should not be given out without serious consideration and intent.
o Being a Dominant doesn't give you the right to order around every sub you come in contact with.
o Subs are not obligated to have sex or give tributes to you.
o Be wary of subs who want financial support, or who are frequently collared and released.
o Talk to other subs and Dom/mes before you meet someone new. Get references.
o Expensive fetish clothes/toys or a collection of collars does not make a submissive.
o Some subs exaggerate their lifestyle experience in order to impress Dom/mes.
o A sub with many years of experience may still be a total asshole or mentally unstable.
o A sub has a right to leave you.
Chapter 2 - Being safe
o Make sure you know your sub's medical conditions and HIV status before playing.
o Anything that is not consensual is considered abuse and is prosecutable.
o Consensual play that results in serious injury or death will be investigated by police as reckless endangerment and may get you jail time.
o A Dominant who refuses to honor a safeword is being abusive.
o Your sub is your property and responsibility. Care for him or her properly.
o Know your sub's limits and pain threshold thoroughly before attempting to scene.
o Discuss any traumatic events the sub has had which may be triggered during play.
o Do not drink excessively or use prescription/ recreational drugs that may impair your ability before or during a scene.
o There may be times when your sub zones out and is unable to call their safeword.
o Remember that it only takes a split second to do physical or mental damage during a scene. You must stay focused.
o Learn as much as you can about a new style of play before attempting to try it.
o Clean insertables before and after they are used on a sub.
o Learn CPR and keep a first aid kit with scissors in your toybag.
o Calling a safeword is not a sign of failure. It will help improve future scenes.
o Be wary of subs who say they have no limits.
o Never rush off to another state to meet a sub you just met online.Be patient.
o Use safe calls (phone calls at established times) when meeting for the first time.
o Always meet in public on your first date.
o If you must play on a first date, do it at a public dungeon.
o Pay attention to your sub's physical/mental condition after scenes.
o Some Dominants may need aftercare too.
Chapter 3 - Protocol
o The most important protocol your sub should follow is your own.
o Basic etiquette and manners are all that is required at most lifestyle events.
o Make sure you know all the rules of a specific event and don't break them.
o Don't try to get sex and/or play under the guise of "mentoring."
o Your sub's behavior in public is a direct reflection upon you.
o Do not touch other people's property (subs, toys) without permission.
o Never interrupt other people's scenes (i.e. touching, talking or laughing loudly)
o Always clean up after your scene.
Chapter 4 - Your Journey
o Choose your scene name carefully. You should earn your title (Sir, Master, etc) through respect and experience.
o Don't expect a submissive to be the solution to all your problems in life.
o Before one can control another they must be in control of themselves.
o Be responsible for your own health, financial independence and happiness.
o Never stop learning about yourself and ways to improve your Dominance.
o Apologizing or admitting when you are wrong does not make you any less of a Dominant. It is an admirable trait.
o A lifestyle aware friend can be just as helpful as a mentor.
o Skills and experience are not a substitute for social graces.
o If you value your reputation, keep your word and respect others.
o The community is not a platform to feed your ego.
o Don't spend more money than you can afford on fetish gear, toys, or events.
o A sub does not have to be a pain slut to be a good submissive.
o A sub can teach you about the lifestyle without topping from the bottom.
o This is your journey. Live it the way that makes you happy and satisfied.
o If you aren't having fun, you are doing it wrong.
o Take time to honestly learn what you need and want out of the lifestyle.
o Your sub deserves to have his or her needs met too.
Special thanks to AD, Bishop, Charmed Blyss, Darque de Sade, Goddess Palia, Jennee', lil one, Macho Mongo, Mr. Worf, Mistress Max Rulz, Ms. Lynn, Pharaoh Khafra & Empress Nahara, pulse, Solamente, sugga, Strange, Tee, Ty and Yummy.
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SUBMISSIVE’S HANDBOOK
This was provided courtesy of Dark Connections (dot) com. Feel free to share this unaltered. We offer this as a starting point for your learning about the Lifestyle. Enjoy your journey!
Chapter 1 - Finding a Dominant
o Always trust your gut. If something feels wrong it probably is.
o Intuition and common sense are your most valuable instincts.
o Look for the same personality/ qualities you would look for in a vanilla partner.
o Be yourself. Never compromise who you are to gain the attention of a Dominant.
o Be clear and honest about what you are seeking in a relationship.
o Some Dominants will never love you.
o Some Dominants have no desire to fuck you.
o Don't be afraid to say "no" to prospective Dom/mes.
o You do not have to take orders or obey every Dominant who approaches you.
o Just because you are sub doesn't mean you should let Dom/mes walk all over you.
o You do not have to spend money on, or give money to, a Dominant.
o You do not have to send naked photos to a Dominant.
o Be careful how much personal info you reveal to strangers.
o Make a list of mandatory questions to ask prospective Dom/mes.
o Ask questions respectfully, then respectfully question answers.
o A Dominant who refuses to answer basic questions has something to hide.
o Talk to other subs and Dom/mes before you meet someone new. Get references.
o Expensive fetish clothes/toys or a booming voice does not make a Dominant.
o Some Dominants exaggerate their lifestyle experience in order to impress subs.
o A Dominant with many years of experience may still be a total asshole or abusive.
Chapter 2 - Being safe
o A good Dominant will make sure you feel safe at all times when meeting.
o Anything that is not consensual is abuse.
o A Dominant who refuses to honor your safeword is abusing you.
o Use common sense if ordered to have unprotected sex with strangers.
o Clean insertables yourself before and after they are used on you.
o Make sure your play partner knows all your medical conditions before scening.
o Drop any Dominant who orders you not to get medical or psychological help.
o Calling your safeword is not a sign of failure. It will help improve future scenes.
o Never tell a Dominant you have no limits.
o Never rush off to another state to meet a Dominant you just met. Be patient.
o Use safe calls (phone calls at established times) when meeting for the first time.
o Always meet in public on your first date.
o If you must play on a first date, do it at a public dungeon.
o Do not allow a Dominant to isolate you from family or loved ones.
o Pay attention to your physical/mental condition after scenes.
o Some subs need more aftercare than others.
Chapter 3 - Protocol
o The most important protocol to learn is your own Dominant's.
o Basic etiquette and manners are all that is required at most lifestyle events.
o Make sure you know all the rules of a specific event and don't break them.
o When collared, your behavior in public is a direct reflection upon your Dominant.
o Learn when to speak and when to be silent.
o Do not touch other people's property (subs, toys) without permission.
o Never interrupt other people's scenes (ie. touching, talking or laughing loudly)
o Always clean up after your scene.
Chapter 4 - Your Journey
o Don't expect a Dominant to solve all your problems in life.
o Be responsible for your own health, financial independence and happiness.
o Never stop learning about yourself and ways to improve your submission.
o Never limit yourself to just one source of information.
o Don't spend more money than you can afford on fetish gear, toys, or events.
o You do not have to be a pain slut to be a good sub.
o This is your journey. Live it the way that makes you happy and satisfied.
o If you aren't having fun, you are doing it wrong.
o It's ok to be alone.
o You can decide for yourself whether to be monogamous or poly.
o Don't rush blindly into relationships because you are so eager to serve.
o Take time to honestly learn what you need and want out of the lifestyle.
o Keeping a private journal can help you get to know yourself better.
o Discover who you are in your submission.. . sub or slave, masochist or no pain, etc.
o Just because you're a sub doesn't mean you shouldn't get your needs met too.
Special thanks to Amirah, Bishop, CW, Christy, Cntrler, Darque de Sade, Goddess Palia, homiet, James, Jennee', lil one, Mistress Max Rulz, Ms. Lynn, Pharaoh & Empress, pulse, Sassy, Solamente, sugga, and Ty.
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| Age: 48 |
| W Fargo,
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