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I am looking for a relationship with a woman who enjoys enticing the mind and body alike. I have many different hobbies and interests, including those on the checklists here, with primary avocations being photography, computers, technology, and audio+video.

In all, I am a thinker, observer and dreamer, with much hope for the future. I am single, no kids, never married. I endeavor to change all these with the woman who chooses me, and is in a similar place in her life. I welcome words from those who look for this and more. I look forward to replying to your thoughts, especially if you *are* in my part of Minnesnowta, are *not* looking for tribute.

If this is a social experiment or research project for you -- you do not belong here and are not welcome to any of my content or time.

I will happily share better pix once we establish rapport.

I look forward to hearing from you!

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1/1/2011 10:48:45 AM

Yikes, it's been that long since I updated this?  You'd think I've been busy or something...

I am increasingly reflective of time and what I'm doing with it.  I want to be moving towards a permanent, lasting, lashing, loving, family relationship and have not had much luck in recent years finding someone that I blend with on all levels who wants to go there with me.  I know as we get older and more established, it can be more challenging to dive in, but at the same time, I hope that she is out there, thinking and feeling these same things.

My gratitude to those exquisite minds who have sent encouraging, thoughtful messages, and my hope is that open exchange will continue to grow and lead us all to that O/one we seek.  In the meantime, please continue to grace us with your delicious pictures!


9/9/2006 11:15:57 AM
Wow, I read my previous entry again... and realize how over the top it may seem -- and may come across as an exclusive set of criteria.  Hopefully, in reading, a person would understand that to be my ideal; I am realistic in nature, and know that life changes as time goes on.

That said, I am respecting the entry by not making any changes.  I believe integrity and honesty are valuable.

What I was hoping to offer in this entry was encouragement to women to respond in some way (interested or not) when written a "real" message.

I surmise you are often deluged with messages -- some (perhaps many or most?) deplorable, some boring, some offensive, and obviously, these must tarnish the experience for you.  However, there have to be a number of messages, somewhere in the midst of all that, that you might enjoy reading, or at the very least are genuine attempts at introduction.

I write from the heart.  I try to write creatively, and always maintain a level of respect and politeness.  In turn, I have rarely heard back from anyone -- 20+ outgoing messages on this site have elicited all of just a couple replies.
  I'm not asking for anything unrealistic -- if you're not interested that is perfectly understandable, and it would be perfectly understandable to receive a message back that simply said "not interested". 
Naturally, I would hope that someone sees potential in me and chooses to take a few moments to write back... I'd be happy to have a new friend or two even if it were strictly for corresponding, just building a new connection.

This is one of so many sites where I am looking, just as you likely are as well.  I am, to a degree, flying blind here, because I do not know if a woman has read a message in many cases, and even if a site (such as this one) indicates such, I do not know if it was blazed through in the course of a bunch of crap, or actually taken in for a moment.

I know, these thoughts might be better served in a forum, and I may start going that route.  I am genuinely curious about these points --

How many messages do women receive?  How best might I write someone with the hope of at least a brief reply?

7/29/2006 6:13:00 PM

How submission works for me.

 

In all, I am looking for a woman to be my equal in most ways, my superior in certain ways, and to look up to me in other ways.  I want us to challenge each other intellectually, spiritually, financially, politically and physically.  In each others' eyes, we will see respect, adoration, admiration and love.  In each others' hearts, we will know trust, devotion, caring and love.  In each others' souls, we will find kindred spirits, unending introspection, a desire to help others and love.

 

Entwined throughout, I need a woman who will seize the submissive spirit within me, allowing it to grow and develop as we grow and develop together both as individuals, and as one joined through love.  Particular desires I have will be merged with her desires; particular desires she has will be revealed and joined as she so chooses.  As moments of freedom find us, she will dictate the ways in which I will conduct myself, physically, mentally and spiritually, and I will strive always to achieve those directives she issues.  The privilege of negotiation will be granted in full as she allows, and will be available to some degree at a minimum.

 

The dominant spirit within her will thrive on the control surrendered in private times we share, and she will implement means and methods by which her dominance will be reflected at all times, through symbols, actions and words... upon merging and understanding our mutual desires, she will gradually seize greater amounts of control, with an eye to a future of full discretion, seeking input only as to the effect and implication of the control she holds over me.

 

The myriad intricacies and qualities of bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism, domination and submission shall be explored in concurrence with the development of the greater relationship, through regular discourse and in directed discourse, again evolving as the level of control evolves.  As a submissive, I will always be open and fully honest in all things, and specifically with my desires, dreams, feelings and emotions.  As a dominant, she will also be open and fully honest in all things, sharing her desires, dreams, feelings and emotions as her level of dominance allows.  The passage of time will reduce the amount of discrete discussion necessary, but it will always be there if I feel a necessity, and as she feels allowable.

 

Specific issues, such as fitness, endurance, appearance and conduct will be documented and reviewed as we progress together as Dominant and submissive, serving as a cooperative agreement; similarly, tangible and intangible issues regarding finance, family, goals and aspirations will be documented and reviewed together, as partners.  Through stories, pictures, lists and interaction, we will show each other initially what specific activities and delights might evolve... as time goes on, we will develop our own unique ways of continuing to share.

 

In the eyes of some, I may be topping from the bottom, by stressing that I have input and expression in the relationship; in the eyes of others, I may not be much of a man... these are not the people for me, and I do not seek your input.  I am looking for a woman who can understand and appreciate the delicate balance I need, and for whom that delicate balance is what she seeks -- or even better -- needs.  Finally, it is a relationship I seek, not an extended session -- and only through communication and true sharing can a relationship evolve -- whether vanilla or D/s.  I suppose in largely fictional venues, a more M/s relationship can be realized, but as I go through life, I realize that this is not something most people can truly engage in successfully.  Regardless, as I said at the outset, this is how submission works for me.  Now, to find someone who has her definition of domination so designed that I can be her one.


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caresjanes
 
 Age: 36
 Greensboro, NC, North Carolina