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Humor is the instinct for taking pain playfully. - Max Eastman

Young at heart, and always will be. Curious, playful, and on occasion unabashedly goofy. Friendly and outgoing, yet shy under certain circumstances. Flirtatious to a fault, and a die-hard romantic. Sensual, passionate, and insatiable.

I am a social being. I enjoy good conversation, meeting new people, and making new friends. I am fairly active in the local BDSM community, and highly enjoy attending lifestyle events, workshops, demos, discussion groups, munches, and more whenever my schedule allows.

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12/28/2012 2:35:25 PM

Someone recently told me they were afraid of me because my "interests" list had some of their hard limits on it.  Just because it's an interest, doesn't mean I won't respect a person's boundaries.  Consent is a must.


11/16/2012 10:45:02 AM

It's really too bad that the "interests" list on profiles won't let you indicate whether it's something you're interested in giving or receiving.  Definitely not Switch-friendly. /pout


10/11/2012 11:56:33 AM

"Humor is the instinct for taking pain playfully." - Max Eastman


7/9/2010 4:34:06 PM
The sadist in me is getting extremely restless... 

Too many ideas, and not enough time to do anything about any of them. *sigh*

6/28/2010 9:46:41 PM
So many people have needles listed as their "hard limit."

What a shame.

6/14/2008 2:06:36 PM
"What is SLAVERY?" she asked one day. "Does it mean cleaning and begging and having things that buzz inside you with stick-out handles?"

"Slavery isn't something you do," said the Master. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a Master loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become a slave."

"Does it hurt?" she asked.

"Sometimes," said the Master, for he was always truthful. "When you are a slave you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being collared," she asked, "or bit by bit?"

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Master. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are a slave, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are a slave you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."


OK, so maybe that's not quite how the story goes... but you have to admit there is at least some truth to it.

5/22/2008 11:45:34 PM
"Genuine surrender demands commitment, understanding, and the willingness to bare oneself as completely as possible. That means that the one to whom we surrender must be trustworthy, responsible, and that he or she not abuse the very sacred trust we are giving them. All of this, of course, takes time. This is why real surrender comes not in the moment, but in the long-term. It is not taken for granted, but given because it is earned."

- Jack Rinella, "Becoming A Slave"

5/14/2008 10:49:37 PM
My time on this site is VERY limited these days.  Ahhh, life... 'tis busy, but grand.

*smiles*

4/1/2008 10:16:04 AM
I've been out of town and gotten way behind on e-mail replies.  Thanks to those of you who are so patient while I'm getting caught up!

3/27/2008 10:14:15 PM

"Remember, Ownership is as much a consensual activity as slavery.  An Owner needs to earn trust and respect before gaining that priceless gift of surrender.  A slave also needs to earn that same level of trust and respect before expecting to have that gift accepted."

- Christina "slavette" Parker
The Path of Service - Guideposts for Excellence


3/21/2008 1:01:47 PM
Sometimes I shake my head at the number of local people on this site who just sit here and complain about how hard it is to meet other kinksters in the area.

You know what?  You ain't gonna find the majority of them sitting on the other end of an internet connection.  Seattle has a rich and vibrant kink-friendly culture, full of opportunities to explore and get involved, but you've got to take at least a small amount of initiative to find it.

Why, just in the month of March, the Wetspot alone has over 90 events on the calendar, including socials, meet-n-greets, play parties, dances, instructional workshops, discussion groups, support groups and more.  You don't have to be a member for a lot of them to attend, and some are even free... just show up and say hi!

Not your style?  Try a munch.. friendly people, good food (hopefully), and pretty low key.

Get to people at some of these events and who knows?  They might point you in the direction of other things going on in your area.

It really doesn't take much effort to find where and when these things happen...  Just a quick Google search, then shut down the computer and get out there, people!

3/21/2008 9:51:13 AM

Ahh, the ever-evolving profile.  I swear I revise a portion of the danged thing at least once a week.  One of these days I'll be content with what it says.


3/10/2008 4:44:49 PM
Seems like every time I turn around a new event is coming my way!  Right after KinkFest is BodyBound... a weekend full of 14 rope bondage workshops & classes featuring The Knotty Boys, Jim Duvall, Mark Yu, Coral Mallow, Lee Harrington, Otis, Lane and Freya.

I'm looking forward to learning lots of new techniques, but after all that rope I'm sure it'll take me at least a week to come out of subspace.

2/29/2008 10:46:55 AM

Midori's here this weekend, KinkFest is coming up soon, and every couple of weeks between now and early summer I'll be out of town or friends & family will be in town visiting me.

Life is busy, but great!

2/19/2008 3:25:04 PM

"There is a strong power that can be gained through surrender. It is not a power that comes from manipulation or passive-aggressive control over another person. Instead, it is a peaceful, internal power that fills the heart and soul of the slave who recognizes the pleasure that quiet obedience gives to an Owner."


- Christina "slavette" Parker
"The Path of Service - Guideposts for Excellence"

1/31/2008 9:30:46 AM

I tried to make mention of this in my profile, but perhaps it will actually sink in if I say it here too.

I GET A LOT OF E-MAIL.  I also lead a very busy life.  If you send me an e-mail, and see that I've read it.... just because you don't get an immediate response doesn't mean I won't reply.

I might be able to come here to READ e-mail, but I DON'T have the luxury of time to type out replies to 5-20 messages a day.

I usually will send out a reply, even if it's just to say I'm not interested.  If it takes me a few days, or even a week to reply.... it may simply mean that I want to respond with a well thought out answer.

That being said... sending a second message within a few minutes or hours wondering why I haven't replied yet doesn't make you any more appealing.  In fact, it conveys an air of impatience and desperation, and tends to be a wee bit pathetic.

First (and second) impressions say a lot about who you are.

Just some food for thought...

1/26/2008 2:03:19 PM

It's interesting
how someone can enter your life
so quickly
make such a deep impact
and then just


disappear

even faster than they appeared.

1/24/2008 12:35:06 PM
"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others."

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

1/15/2008 4:51:49 PM

"It is one thing to own a woman, and it is another to have her within the bonds of an excellent mastery."

~Author Unknown~


12/30/2007 10:27:14 AM

Some luck lies in not getting what you thought you wanted but getting what you have, which once you have got it you may be smart enough to see is what you would have wanted had you known.


 - Garrison Keillor

12/29/2007 7:16:50 PM

I truly appreciate someone who loves to learn and pass on their knowledge.  Someone like this helps me grow as a person, challenges me to see things in different ways, and encourages me to experience things I may not have tried before.


12/19/2007 8:14:51 AM

Respect the woman,
Desire and use the slut,
Cherish the little girl,
And then,
You will have the mind, the heart, and the soul of a woman,
A true gift from God.


- author unknown

12/12/2007 6:28:55 PM

Owned


Just One is all it would take
one look
one word
one touch

To control this need, this desire to kneel
this body
this heart,
these thoughts

To give all that is in me, all that is of me
my spirit
my passion
my potential

To let go and be transparent
to be held
to be molded
to be consumed

Lack of patience keeps me struggling
Strength and will keep me moving

Just One is all it would take
To set free
To just "be"
To own me

- glidewynd 2007

12/2/2007 3:26:38 PM

I don’t top from the bottom.  I do, however, do my homework.  I read books and research online.  I attend workshops, demos and discussion groups.  I surround myself with a variety of people who know this lifestyle and live it (to one extent or another), and I learn from their experiences.

I ask questions, and I seek out the answers.  I admire people who do the same.  Everyone starts somewhere.

I'm not an expert by any means.  It’s interesting though, how so many that contact me suddenly lose interest when they find out I MIGHT actually know more than they do with regards to safety and techniques in different types of play.

I’m not about to let a person pick up a whip and start using it on me just because they think it’ll be cool, or that it will somehow make them more dominant by wielding such an instrument.

I have no problem getting to know someone who has less knowledge (or even experience, for that matter) in BDSM.  It can be fun to explore things together, and grow the D/s dynamic around that.

There’s nothing worse than a “Dominant” who feels inferior or intimidated by a submissive’s experience and knowledge.  I realize the majority I’m speaking of are fakes anyway, but come on people... if you’re gonna fake it, try not to be so pitiful and whiney.


11/27/2007 12:28:38 AM
More about me...

For lack of a better term, I am a "brat with a slave's heart".  What does this mean?

It means I'm fun-loving and witty, with a youthful spirit inside that refuses to grow up. 
Playfulness and sarcasm seem to be hard-wired into me, and sometimes it's tough to walk that fine line of sarcasm vs. unintentional disrespect.

In my heart of hearts though.. I ~do~ wish to submit and serve as completely as I possibly can. By far, the worst punishment I ever have and ever will experience is having my Dominant disappointed in me.. it eats at my soul, and I will do anything I can to avoid that.

My life is a journey of self-discovery in flux. I try to learn my lessons along the way, and not lose myself in the process.  Perhaps all I need is someone to guide me...


11/25/2007 8:44:24 PM

Colors of a Masochist

Red.
Blue.
Purple.

I needed them.
I begged each one to me,
and come they did.

Surfacing the hurt,
giving sight to pain within that demanded
such intense release.

Those beautiful colors,
they whisper to the tortured parts of my soul;
therapy from my self.

I smile
knowing they will whisper to me again tomorrow.
And I smile again… for whispers yet to come.


- glidewynd 2007

10/20/2007 9:30:30 AM
"If you wish to be a writer, write."

 - Epictetus

7/21/2007 2:58:32 PM
How long will the pain last? All the rest of your life. But the thing to remember is that not only the pain will last, but the blessed memories as well. Tears are proof of life. The more love, the more tears. If this be true, then how could we ever ask that the pain cease altogether. For then the memory of love would go with it. The pain of grief is the price we pay for love.

- Ginny Brancato

7/8/2007 4:54:22 PM
I found this on another website...

Things People Say Online... And What They Really Mean:

"You sound interesting. I'd really like to get to know you better"
"I want sex"

"You can trust me, we're friends now"
"I've wasted enough time listening to you rambling on about your boring and monotonous life. I want sex now"

"r u M or F"
"I'm really 13 and mom doesn't know I'm surfing the internet so late in my bedroom"

"Wanna fuck"?
"I'm really 13 and socially inept too"

"How old RU"?
as above.. and the same for any other stupid abbreviations the dimwitted use online as though real words were rationed

"On your knees slave"
"I'm a shoe salesman who's used to being ignored and I'd have no clue what to do next if anyone ever did take me seriously"

"I am your true Master"
"I wear a woolly cardigan and live at home with my mom and my pet gerbil Horace"

"Thats a spankable offence in this chatroom"
"I may as well see if the new girl's stupid enough to fall for it"

"Slaves must kneel on entering this chatroom and ask permission to leave"
"I have the mental age of a child of 10 and inhabit some weird sci-fi gorean fantasy"

"You'll find that I'm a firm but fair Dom"
"I'm totally boring and unimaginative"

"I'm a bit of a brat really.. ~giggle~"
"I'm the female counterpart of the "Firm but Fair" Dom. I have no imagination either"

"I don't have a picture I can send you"
"I'm not Susie the Submissive Sex-kitten .. I'm really Bearded Bob the computer nerd."

"I don't have a recent picture I can send you"
"I'm 20 years older and/or 100 pounds fatter than I told you... and I have a wooden leg"

"I'd like to send you my picture"
"I'm desperate for someone to talk to. I'll just dig out that picture of me when I was 10 years younger and/or 30lbs thinner".

"My wife's vanilla and fully understands my need to explore D/s in online chat"
"My wife thinks I'm playing Nintendo"

"My wife and I don't sleep together any more and I feel very lonely at times"
"My wife and I screw like rabbits, but having a sub online too makes me feel kinda cool"

"I'm divorced/separated"
"I'm cruising for sex online tonight because my wife's out at the shops"

"No-one I've played with online has ever made me cum like you do"
"I've shagged every guy in the chat-room"

"I'm using online chat to explore some of my sexual fantasies in safety"
"I've shagged every guy in the chat-room and given my computer mouse and the games joystick a good seeing too as well"

"I never truly gave my submission to anyone online until I met you Master"
"I spent so much time in the past submitting to strangers online that I have callouses on my knee-caps and I call the computer Sir"

"We seem to be a little lagged sweetheart"
"I'm a bit busy secretly talking to my other master and my lesbian girlfriend on ICQ"

"I just have to re-boot my computer"
"my wife/husband just walked in on me"

"I bet you've got a lovely voice. Can I phone you, just to talk for a moment"?
"Quick .. my wife's gone out and I want phone sex before she gets back"

"I will always honour the collar you gave me"
"I will take every opportunity I can to dishonour it and act like a total slut"

"Trust me. I will never betray you, Master"
"I will betray you in every way I can think of"

"I've been too busy with real-life to spend much time online recently"
"You bore me and I'm having cybersex every night with someone else these days anyway"

"I'll go straight to bed after we finish talking Master. Trust me, there is no-one but you, and there never will be. I love you."
"I will go straight to an orgy chatroom and have cybersex with my lesbian girlfriend, 15 strangers, oh...and maybe my other master"


6/15/2007 5:43:13 PM

Another good one from a friend:


"A Dominant's Creed"

Above all else he cherishes his submissive, in the knowledge that the gift she gives him is the greatest of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.

He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that he may control others. As a stern and demanding Dominant, he can cause his sub to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, he will then kiss the tears away, without ever stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put him before her career, or family, just to satisfy his own pleasure.

To win his submissive's mind, body and soul, he knows he must first win her trust. He will show his submissive humor, kindness, and warmth. He must also show her that his guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust his direction.

He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, he will fight for his ladies' honor. He proves to her that he is someone she can lean on, and depend on.

He is old-fashioned enough to be a bit of a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect his woman. Quick to point out the differences between them, he also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.

When it comes time to teach his submissive lessons of obedience, he is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from his student. Never does he use discipline without good reason. When he does, it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

He is a careful guide, with safety always his main concern. He knows how to use pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights.

He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of him grows, so will they.

He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to him out of the want of pleasing him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to him.

He is secure enough to laugh at himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit and soul with a little help from rope, paddle and blindfold. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love is the only binding that truly holds.


4/20/2007 7:40:27 PM
I found this in a friend's blog.. and agree with every word:

Submission is not about sex.

Submission is not something one can learn.

Submission is beauty.

It is a beauty that comes from the very soul of a submissive woman.

It is a breaking down of the walls built up in her lifetime, allowing the beautiful, sensual woman to come through.

Submission is not about sex, it is about sensuality.

It is about trust, communication, vulnerability, caring, and honesty.

It is about being the graceful, sensual, beautiful woman that resides within.

Submission is about knowing who you are, and what you want.

A submissive is not a weak person, but just the opposite.

She is strong. She is strong in herself, and in the knowledge of who she is.

She never submits out of weakness or desperation.

She submits out of strength, love, and trust.

Submission is freedom.

It is a letting go of one's self, knowing that the dominant is there to catch you if you falter.

It is about pushing to be the very best one can be, not only as a submissive, but as a woman, a person, a human being.

It is about learning, growing, and giving.

Please don't get me wrong. Submission is not about donning rose colored glasses, and the world is fine. Nothing worthwhile will ever come that easy. Submission is also about pain. There is no growth without pain, lest it be a temporary growth. There is no freedom without the inner struggle to let go.

There is no sensuality without breaking down the barriers that took years to put into place.

4/16/2007 9:02:03 AM

To be a real lover,
you must commit to and participate in a perpetual dance of intimacy with your partner.

You are a lover
when you realize that nothing that happens between you
will be insignificant,
that everything you say in the relationship
has the potential to cause your beloved joy or sorrow,
and everything you do,
will either strengthen your connection,
or weaken it.

When you have a lover in your life,
you are richly blessed.

He or she will share your days and your nights,
your bed and your burdens.

Your lover will see secret parts of you know one else sees.

He or she will touch places on your body that no one else touches.

Your lover will seek you out,
where you have been hiding,
and create a haven for you within safe, loving arms.

Your lover offers you an abundance of miracles every day.

Your lover has the power to delight you with their smile,
voice,
scent,
the way they move.

He has the power to banish your loneliness.

She has the power to turn the ordinary into sublime.


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Nicolesweet
 
 Age: 26
  California