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Hetero Male Submissive, 48,  Phila SNJ, New Jersey
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 Submissive Male

 Phila SNJ 

 New Jersey

 5' 10"

 200 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Dominant Female

 Lives For:




 Flea Markets




 Horseback Riding

 Anal Play



 Orgasm Control

 Role Playing

 Board Games

 Card Games

 Online Chatrooms

 Science Fiction

 Web Surfing  (Expert)




 Female Supremacy


 Eighties Music

 New Wave


 Rock Music

 Auto Racing



 Amusement Parks

 Art Galleries

 Fine Dining

 Garage Sales


 Canes and Crops


 Corner Time

 Obedience Training


 Arcade Games

 Online Auctions

 Alternative Music

 Blue Grass

 Classical Music

 Country Music

 Folk Music



 Punk Rock Music





 Curious About:







 Horror Movies


 Hip Hop Music

 Hard Limits:



 Computer Expert

 Woodworking Expert

After a lot of thinking and some serious soul searching, Ive decided this profile is long overdue an update. Im going to leave my old profile at the end. I dont think theres anything wrong about it and maybe it will give some insight into my evolution.

Writing a profile is hard! How does one some up what theyre looking for - for the rest of their life - in a few paragraphs????

Here goes.

Buckle up!

I will hit the big 5-0 later this year. Ive been in and around this lifestyle for close to 15 years now. Sometimes more active than others. Long enough to know that this is real for me. Not some sort of fantasy. Not something I want to check off my list. Its a part of me.

On a daily basis, Im a pretty normal, white collar (I never where a shirt with a white collar actually) kind of guy. Im a well educated software engineer. My profession probably speaks quite a bit to how I think. I tend to be logical and tenacious. Im very good at taking big, insurmountable obstacles and breaking them down into small, manageable things.

I have too many interests to mention. I like mechanical things. I like making things. An evening might find me working with a 3D printer, fixing a motorcycle or building something in the workshop. My most serious endeavor though is probably music. I love most kinds of music. I play several instruments (poorly) and have an embarrassing, ever growing collection of musical gear. I think, at last count, my collection of guitars got somewhere north of 50. Then there are the keyboards and the, well the list goes on. I really, dearly love music and find creating it incredibly therapeutic.

I love to read. Theres not as much time for it as there once was but I can very easily escape into a good book.

I have a weakness for German expressionist painters. If youve ever heard of Franz Marc, you know what I mean.

I live by myself in Southern NJ. I have dogs. Theyre also very important to me. The number varies from time to time. I volunteer for a rescue and am a sucker for hard luck cases. I currently have two and that seems to be the number that works best.

I grew up in the sticks in PA and miss it. While Ive existed in various metropolis for decades, my heart lies in the woods. If it were practice, thats where Id live. Im much more of a mountains guy than a shore guy though I enjoy both.

I had a very mom and apple pie kind of upbringing and I think my values reflect that. Im honest, trustworthy and patriotic. Things like respect and being polite are second nature to me and have nothing to do with domination. I spent much of my adult life in the military. I really like being a knight in shining armor.

Im very hesitant to discuss much related to this lifestyle. Its not that I cant discuss it or that Im not willing. I just find that its often best to feel that out with a partner.

In broad strokes though, Im not the dungeon, slave type. Im much more attracted to dominant woman who are comfortable being dominant in their normal attire. Regardless, its the control taken by a dominant woman that gets to the deepest part of all this.

Id like to find someone who can be a friend and lover as much as anything else. Someone who can be as vulnerable to me as they would like me to be with them. Someone who knows she isnt always right - even if she always gets her way ).

Accountability is really big to me. I really, deeply desire someone who can inspire accountability. Someone who is willing to not try to dictate the minutia of life but take stock of it from time to time and react. I suspect you either understand what Im getting at or you dont.

Along the way to finding the woman I describe, Ive met tons of wonderful people. I know that this site and others like it can be discouraging but I promise you, there are people worth getting to know. I like to think Im one of them. Even if the intention is only to be friends.

I always go away when asked to. No questions asked. Life is too short to be pursue hopeless things.

Prior to August 2019

I consider myself a safe, sane, more or less well adjusted human being. Now it gets hard....I suppose Im a bit of a dichotomy. A mild mannered computer programmer by day and a masochistic, fiercely straight biker by night. I suppose Im a very educated redneck. Im just as happy discussing Shakespeare as I am rebuilding a motor. I find them both to be very therapeutic in their own ways. How many people do you know that double majored in German and Astrophysics and have had a pit pass at a Nascar race?I suppose I am a complex animal and like it that way. I am perfectly comfortable at a down and dirty biker bar or wearing a tuxedo to a special event. I think we all have duality to some degree. I just flaunt it.While I am by no means new to the ds scene, neither am I a lifelong patron. Sites like this have helped me begin to realize who I really am and the journey continues.I spend my days writing code and my nights slowly refurbishing my 100 year old house. As time and money permit, its slowly coming together. Im not one to play the field. Im far more interested in finding a soul mate with whom I will spend the rest of my days in cherished bliss. Im more than happy to get to know anyone though. Theres little I enjoy more than making new friends, even if a relationship is not likely.Drop me a line... )

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Journal Entries:
3/2/2018 12:26:23 PM
So I’m doing a physical therapy appointment. Just looking around the room and thinking about all the kinky was s these devices/machines/pieces of furnitire could be used. I’m guessing I’m not the first person to think about this in this room. No wonder they roll out the paper every time!

2/11/2018 1:46:05 AM
Massiv e car accident tonight. No one hurt but my beloved van is gone :( I loved that van. If I give a Domme a name and a number, could you..... No, just kidding. But god I loved that van and now find myself on roller skates for the time being - and I don’t know how to skate. No good can come from this. 

10/25/2017 10:41:45 AM
I found this in another member’s profile. I certainly couldn’t hav out it any better. 

A Veteran is someone who at one point in their life wrote a blank check payable to the United States of America (and our allies) for an amount up to and including, their life. That is beyond honor and there are way too many people in this country who no longer remember that fact. Copy and paste this to your journal if you are a Veteran,... know a Veteran, Love a Veteran, or Support the Troops! May God Bless Them All!!

5/9/2017 11:36:21 AM
Again, I need to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. I have now officially been diagnosed as a type 1 diabetic. This is good and bad news. No one wants to learn that they have type 1 diabetes but this explains why most of the treatment I've received over the last 20 years didn't work. I'm now in my second week with an insulin pump and so far, the numbers are encouraging. Getting used to having this thing attached all the time has been a little difficult but it's coming. 

Thanks to each and every one of you who have sent such kind, thoughtful messages!

1/6/2015 3:28:03 PM
I'm finally, more or less, back to normal! I can't begin to thank all of you for your kind thoughts during this miserable time. It truly made the past few weeks pass more quickly and comfortably than it would have otherwise. Happy New Year to you all. May 2015 bring nothing but your fondest dreams!

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