Especially important to me are intelligence, manners, and the ability to communicate one's thoughts and ideas in a concise and eloquent fashion. At the same time, emotional connection is paramount, even at the friendship level.
I have interests outside of BDSM and would be interested in knowing people who have interests other than BDSM as well.Good food, wine and conversation, is a start. For professional and personal reasons, I will ain from providing personal information,at this moment in time.but I would be happy to talk in more detail if you're interested.
If married attached in any way ..please pass on by.
If bisexual or younger than 53..please pass on by
IM a bbw if this doesnt suit..please pass on by...to another profile
Do not think that just because you are a Dominant person that I am to automatically bow down to you. Respect is earned both ways.
If we have a conversation or two doesn't mean that I will jump and meet you in a week's time. Safety is always FIRST AND FOREMOST!!!
I am a BBw....get over it
Can I just point out, the following is My opinion, No need for the hecklers thanks.
10 cold hard facts about submission:
- If the Dominant wants to collar you before meeting you, building with you, getting to really know you they are a control freak NOT dominant.
- submission is inspired not demanded, only the insecure demand it.
- Sending naked pictures of yourself to a so called Dom because he demands them is not submission it's feeding his collection of pictures to get off to.
- You choose to submit to One and one alone.
- The submissive holds the power in a D/s relationship but gives it freely to their Dominant.
- There is no place in this life for abuse, everything is consensual.
- A Dominant never ignores their submissive.
- A Dominant is always in control of their feelings at all times.
- Dominance and submission are states of mind not something that is turned on and off.
- A submissive is an equal and will always be treated with respect
Facts of a Dominant
1.Courtesy - They have politeness and good manners in the traditional sense of the word and will show this to all they communicate with whether via e mail or within chat rooms.
2.Respect They will always be respectful in their approaches, showing an appreciation of the other and being mindful of how their communication is perceived.
3.Honesty They will be totally honest in how they communicate, ask a question they will answer it in a detailed way, there will be nothing vague. They will tell you their thoughts when required.
4.Integrity They will be consistent in their interactions with you, you will always know where you stand. There is no hidden agenda.
5.Confident Do not confuse confidence with arrogance, they know and understand themselves in all aspects of their life. They will not be boastful but will give their opinions specially when asked.
6.Selfless They will want to know about you rather than telling you about themselves. They will have provided the majority of information for early communication on their profiles so have no need to talk about themselves unless you ask when they will be happy to provide the additional details.
7.Unassuming They do not make a big issue over things, their focus is on the girl not themselves. They have no need of causing or being part of any drama, they will state their opinion and qualify it where and when needed.
8.Knowledgeable I nearly wrote intelligent or educated but settled on knowledgeable as it is more fitting and easier for me to qualify. They understand what a submissive needs, understand the deeper cerebral aspects of D/s, understand it is not just about sex and certainly understand that it is the submissive that holds the power within a D/s relationship and that she chooses to give it freely.
9.Assertive There is a power in how they communicate, it holds the readers attention, makes them want to know more, piques the interest. It is this that gets them noticed, makes them stand out. Not the posturing, aggressive, crass and down right obscene ranting that some mistake for overt misguided displays of dominance.
10.Chivalrous (adj) (of a man or his behavior) courteous and gallant, especially towards women. They do challenge inappropriate behavior, make no apology for doing so and will always do so.
In short they are consummate gentlemen, this is first and foremost and their dominance is an enhancement to this, an important part of the greater whole person. They see their submissive as their most treasured possession, one to cherish and nurture, one to guide and allow to be the best they can be under their dominance. They do not just see the girl as she is but see how she will become. They see her as the yin to their yang.
They inspire submission
This is My opinion...no set routine or agenda a mere guideline for A/all to follow.