DomHak

I believe it was high time for a profile update. Glad I finally got around to that and the test for the first time ever. == Results from bdsmtest.org == 100% Dominant 100% Degrader 100% Rigger 100% Sadist 100% Master/Mistress 100% Primal (Hunter) 99% Owner 75% Daddy/Mommy 52% Experimentalist 47% Ageplayer 46% Voyeur 41% Vanilla 37% Exhibitionist 0% Non-monogamist 0% Switch

I've noticed that quote a few profiles have similar journal entries concerning the way they're messaged as a submissive or slave right off the bat. Something I've journaled about before bit in three years it hasn't changed. I know a lot of the time its annoying as can be, but if you look on the bright side, that only helps you distinguish a fake Dominant from an Lifestyle abuser right off the bat. Its a lot less dangerous than someone manipulative that knows what they're doing sending a message and seemingly having their affairs in order. My point is, when you get a message that starts off with "Hey slut", or "You have to call me Sir" just get a good chuckle out of it and block em. Try not to let it get to you. You're better than then, so take pride in it.

Profile update. After having put it off so long, my main profile has been updated. After two years now, it no longer says "I'm just now returning to Collarspace."

I've been asked a lot recently why my last submissive didn't work out. Well, she was growing tired of my obsession with Linkin Park lyrics, but in the end it doesn't even matter. Seriously though, I don't talk about those that aren't with me anymore out of respect for them and their privacy. I will tell anyone that asks though, that every submissive I've had has left on good terms, even though I cut ties at the end of the relationship. The past is the past and I like to leave it there.

Rudeness. It's unbearable, or am I wrong? It's one thing to look at the profile if someone that's messages you and decide not to respond. Gets the point across most of the time, and I understand that inboxes can easily be filled to capacity and there's just not the time to type out a "sorry/not interested" reply. But asking someone a question or opinion on an issue, then insulting them because they didn't tell you what you wanted to hear? Honestly who does that? Also, if I apologize to you, please do not take it as a sign of weakness, but respect. If I'm messaging you for the first time, then obviously you're not my submissive or slave, so I'm not going to treat you like one.

This may piss off a lot of the proclaimed Dominants on here, and once again I feel I may be saying something that has already been said before. But, in perusing the profiles, I've noticed a ton of submissives, slaves, littles, all very pissed off at the number of fake profiles and rude messages that they've received from "Dominants". And I'd like to set the record straight, or at least the record on my turn table (yay bad puns) You're going to be assaulted by frauds in a highly sexualized lifestyle. Occupational hazard, comes with the territory, etc. I wanted to possibly help anyone new that may happen across my profile with some helpful tips for avoiding the "no no people." 1) Please, do not litter your profile with provocative pictures of yourself, nor send them to any potential Dominants until you have fully submitted to them. A D/s relationship is still a relationship. It's supposed to be based on who each of you are, and your compatibilities. Not what you look like naked. I promise, a full body shot fully clothed from the front will be enough. 2) If you are going to send revealing photos, I would recommend waiting no less than 3 weeks. Nobody is gonna wait that long to see it if they aren't legitimately interested in you. 3) If they treat you like a submissive immediately, probably not a good sign. You're a person before you're a sub/slave, and every Dom, Master, Daddy, should acknowledge that. Who wants a sub that'll bow to anyone that calls themself a Dominant? This isn't going to apply to everyone, especially the experienced subs, slaves, littles, kajira, etc. But it's definitely something I'd recommend following for anyone that's new to the lifestyles, and that goes for Dominants too, just follow the above rules in reverse. Don't be a creep and ask for pictures. Don't disrespect someone because they're submissive and you're Dominant. Get to know them for who they are.